₦airaland Forum

BBC wey lack credibility like tinubu, nobody takes them seriously.

Still available.

ebukal67x:
No foreign troops on Nigerian soil, not even for a day. We will handle it ourselves.

Like you've been handling your brothers from Chad and niger republic? Why do you have to wait this long for trump to notice, if you were handling it e for no reach this level.

Cockroaches don dey run helter skelter, I used to dislike trump so much until now, make Una come quick, save us from blood thirsty vampires and terrorists.

Available, lucky buyer!

Lol this film go make sense, I don buy popcorn, shey they love violence and never back down, we will see who cowers this time, e go sweet me die.

CrownedPhoenix:
So where did all the breasts go?

They take hormones, it shrinks when you stop taking hormones.

Can't you just go yourself, in this digital age where they're smartphones and text messages one nkwobi wants 100k to go collect list, as how naw.

Still up for sale

HelpeeDeck:
50k cash available

Even if they put am for 10 naira you go still price 5#.

DeepSight:
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Looks like you are an expert in this matter.
Well, tell us, do they taste better the older they are?

They actually do.

E go sweet die, this croc is not young at all.

Why are they always old

Kdon2:
Photo no dey?

Add more character

photo dey boss, Whatsapp me for more pics.

LeadMobile:
Where is the phone number

they keep taking it down, so here it is.

Device is extremely clean and all accessories intact, distress sale 70k.

To me talking stage is useless, I can't pinpoint any benefit other than constant billing from girls while at it, you're already doing favors but your consideration is still pending, I get discouraged about girls because of the talking stage cliche, but I've been single too long I craved meaningful connection so I get started with one girl, she's brilliant, intelligent, she ticks most of my boxes, we spent weeks planning this elaborate date, she picked a restaurant, what to wear, transport and all, I was very obliging cuz I am serious about girls once in a while, only for this girl to come out of nowhere and say they have test that week, just few days to our meeting, like she's the busiest person alive, all that time I should have used to make a few bucks gone, all that talking, investment and productive time wasted, I just got fed up, if it's left to me I'd eliminate talking stage entirely, you know what I want I know what you want let's just get to it if you're interested, don't waste my time on useless talking stage that might lead nowhere.

Is it possible to own a car then spread the payment over time? Or pay half the total price and spread the rest over time while using the car, Has anyone purchased a car this way? Tell me how to go about it

Kobojunkie:
These are not things people should pray about because reality is that over 25% of the population in Nigeria as is either experienced or are right as we speak experiencing something similar. 🥱😂🥱🥱🥱

I understand your confidence that you can do without. As I said, I don't know how old you are or your financial situation so it is not easy to suggest you leave at this time. For all I know I may be talking to a minor. All the same, just wanting you to realize that not the vast majority of those who left before they could stand are, many years later, still trying to find their footing. As of 2022, there were over 25 million homeless Nigeria. That number has since ballooned in the last 18 months and is likely to continue rising for the next couple of years. 🤔

Again, i am only trying to make certain you look at the big picture here as you make your next move.

I am an adult, but being homeless is something I am prepared to face if it's inevitable but like I said I was fending for myself and my mom in every way, the only difference is the rent, I think I can pay rent, I just have to find a not so expensive one.

Namaster:
First of all, your story needs more BACKGROUND.

Like what is the nature of the DISPUTE that fractured your family in such a way that MOST of your siblings took the side of your father, who sounds like a TERRIBLE person?

Next, be STRATEGIC before you leave.

Make plans on how to SUSTAIN yourself in light of the fact that you'd now be spending on your ACCOMODATION.

Plan in such a way that NOTHING brings you crawling back to your father in the future.

Live like an ORPHAN.

ANY father who lay ATOMIC curses on his own son like your father did to you is NOT worthy to be called a father.

He's DEAD to you!

Well what caused this whole issue is his personality, he use to come home drunk and beat her to stupor when I was little, and I just watched helplessly until I grew up and started standing up to him to a point we had an altercation and I almost did the same to him, he stopped supporting her financially and otherwise, he prefers taking care of his concubines and whatever he does with his money, but I made sure my mum didn't lack and that annoyed him more, he said I am challenging him by feeding my mom and clothing her and I'm acting like I'm her husband, he threatened to cut my siblings off of they do the same, so they obeyed and he had them in his grip but I kept defying him until my mum died, she was okay in the morning and suddenly died from a headache in the evening by 10pm even though I rushed her to the hospital and she was admitted for almost six hours before she died, when she died he rubbed my nose in it and said I should carry my cross that I'm her husband not him, that's story for another day, after the burial none of them talks to me anymore, it used to be me and my mom now it's just me, and they're all facing me, so it's just me against all of them now, and they completely iced me out.

2special:
how about your extended family

They are actually his step siblings, most of them are in foreign countries and they don't care about everyone in Nigeria, infact they never send anything home so I'm not familiar with them, as for my mother's side they're few surviving siblings, but they're not well to do, infact na them go expect you to help them with something, plus his siblings are not in good terms with him and the ones that are in good terms with him are scared of him.

SoftSport:
I'm really sorry you're going through all of this. From what you've shared, it's clear that your environment is deeply harmful, and wanting to leave makes complete sense. Protecting your peace and well-being should come first, especially when you're surrounded by hostility and negativity.

If you're planning to move, it’s important to approach it carefully. Try to save up as much as you can before leaving so you have something to fall back on. Think about where you’d like to go and choose a place where you see the most opportunities for growth. Finding a stable place to stay, even if it’s shared housing, will help you settle in smoothly.

Once you’ve left, focus on your goals. Building a new life is hard, but if you channel all your energy into your training and personal development, it’ll pay off in time. Surround yourself with people who genuinely care for you, even if they’re not blood relatives. Friends, mentors, and colleagues can become the supportive family you need right now.

As for your father and the toxic environment at home, it’s understandable that you want to cut ties. His negativity doesn’t define you or determine your future. Leaving could give you the mental space to focus on healing and proving to yourself that you can succeed. At the same time, it’s important to acknowledge the grief you’re feeling after losing your mum and being isolated by your family. Finding peace through faith, reflection, or even talking to someone you trust can help lighten that burden over time.

If you feel your father’s actions are spiritually or emotionally dangerous, take measures to protect yourself based on your beliefs. Stay grounded in what brings you strength and peace. By stepping away, you’re giving yourself the chance to grow in an environment that isn’t suffocating you. Every small step forward is progress, and over time, you’ll see how far you’ve come.

You deserve a life filled with peace, purpose, and success. Leaving might be the first step toward creating that for yourself.

thank you.

2special:
At least build the relationship with your siblings then

they were told to treat me with animosity or face fire, no one wants to face fire so they had to treat me with animosity.

Kobojunkie:
1. You have a free roof over your head, something that over 20 million Nigerians living in Nigeria cannot even boast of but your particular complaint is rather that no one pays attention to you?

2. Are you able to provide yourself shelter and everything else at this point? I am not certain how old you are but if you can hold off on wanting to move until you are well on your feet, then do so first before you decide to finally ghost your father for good. It will not help you at all to leave endangering your well-being in the process. Yes, your home does seem toxic but since it isn't physically dangerous, I see no reason for you to rush your move. Also, given the economic situation in the country, as well as widespread insecurity, try to get a place before you leave your home.

3. There is no such thing as diabolical action... All attacks are either physical, social, or emotional. And if you can focus on growing yourself, then you should direct much of your focus on that which matters.

First off, I don't care about his roof, I prefer sleeping in the streets to his roof whatever it is, second yes I was fending for myself and my mum and I still am, If you actually read my post it's not a cry of struggling to survive because he cut me off, it's about getting away from him and making sure he never sets his eyes on me again, so roof or no roof I don't care, I pray you don't meet someone this evil, because you'd be damaged for life.

chatinent:
Quack.
If you've not experienced such types of fathers, your best advice should be giving a deafening silence.
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The reason he's saying this is because he thinks life revolves around having a roof over your head, but at this point I don't care if I sleep under a bridge as long as I'm safe, my siblings who are backing him are afraid of loosing the roof over their heads, they're also scared of being cut off like he cut me off so they witness his injustice and keep mute, I'm the only one resisting him and that's why I'm an outsider, he will also stop paying their school fee if they stand up to him so I can't really blame them, and if you're his minion you must hate whoever he hates even if you don't have personal problems with the person, if you don't follow him to hate the person he will cut you off.

Verydarkhearted:
They always start with a touching story then end it with begging..

Maybe begging online is what you do with your life, I don't do that, so stop projecting your lifestyle onto others, I didn't ask anyone for a penny talk more of you.

Wealthoptulent:
Ti omo bati le da gbe inugbo, ati dete ki shey ogun.. (IF A KID IN NOT SCARED TO LIVE IN BUSH, LEPROSY IS NOT a DISEASE) sice u fending for ursef alone already, dont lose completely cut him off, its a WIN WIN tin... but first"ARE YOU DOING THE RIGHT THING?" did u WEDGE behind TRUTH when u THREW ur WEIGHT behind ur MUM? Marital matter no be wetin children delve into but only when u completey know, seen the TRUTH not HEARSAY or TALES read like night stories to bed

Right, it was fair to watch him torment a defenseless woman until she died, not like she ever cheated or stole, he's just a man who derives pleasure in maltreating women when he has concubines outside, say whatever you want I don't regret standing by my mom.

Deelaw:
Are you trying to rewrite the story of the prodigal son?

I know it's hard to believe but trust me the little I mentioned here is a slice of heaven compared to the full story, I live in denial myself because I don't understand this level of wickedness.

sulakishop:
Signs of maturity...
Try and be financially secured sha

Thanks, I'll learn skills while at it.

Gloriagee:
Is he your biological dad or step dad?

biological, he once told me that before I was born he hated me, I didn't understand how you could hate an unborn child so I asked my mom what he meant and she said her pregnancy with me was one of the most difficult times she experienced as they was so much challenge back then, he used to beat her up even though she was pregnant, until I grew up and he saw I'm now capable of beating him up as well so he stopped using her as a punching bag, so it didn't start today, but yes he's my biological dad.

chatinent:
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Since I can verily relate to your situation based on real life experience, I will advise you:

1. Work and save money as soon as possible and relocate. Peace of mind is life.

2. Such types of fathers cannot change, esp when they have recruits of supporters backing their [bad] actions so they don't know when to stop.

3. About the curses, it won't work if you don't want it to subdue you. How? Get up and work! Can you write? Can you create websites? Can you program or design? What can you do that people would need to buy your time to do? I could teach you how to make money online for free so you can start earning for yourself and build a good life.

4. I'm sorry for your mom's demise. It's okay to grief, but face the reality and don't run away from it.

5. The best way to revenge is to be successful.

I really appreciate your input. Yes I can design websites with website builders like elementor but that's just the limit of what I know, I don't have anything to fall back on, just the will to survive at all cost because they're waiting for me to die as well, I'd appreciate if you can teach me, I'm ready to learn whatever it is to support myself, thanks in advance.

We're our own enemies, the ripping is merciless now no one cares.