₦airaland Forum

ShoeGetSize:
Your standards are so low that after I read your thread, I felt the need to reply.

I have nothing against interracial marriage, but making light skin the most important criteria for a life partner says a lot about your low self esteem, lack of emotional and spiritual depth and self loathing.

I know marriages that have stood the test of time (30, 40 years of marriage and above) and some of these marriages are interracial, but the one thing that all these marriages had in common regardless of whether they were interracial or between members of the same race is that both husband and wife could easily communicate, laugh together, share together, trust each other, accommodate each other's faults etc.

Personally, from what I have read in your post, If I had to form an opinion about you, I would say that you are too shallow to venture into something as profoundly important as marriage.

lol everyone screaming low self esteem, since when did having preferences become low self esteem.

Luckysbab:


Why I find this extremely hilarious, I'm not even really sure.

It's funny I know but that's honestly how I feel

She brazenly told me "I have a 5yr old son", before she did I was crushing hard, then she told me she has a son today, I was taken aback for a while but much to my shock, I find her more attractive now? Instead of getting repulsed by the new information I want her more now, is it weird? Lol, I'm even thinking she can bring her son and live with me like we're family.

Please advise me.

Kobojunkie:
So you didn't use yourself again, abi? Seriously, make up your mind!

You think you're smart but you're not, I don't have the time to explain it for you, even if I did you wouldn't comprehend because you can't grab it even if I explained it to you, like a horse has better comprehension than you, I'd rather waste my time trying to fetch water with a basket.

Kobojunkie:
You used yourself who was raised by a father who treated his children differently along gender lines as a cased study to suggest that all Nigerian women must be like your own sisters? Brilliant not !

where did I suggest that? this is why you failed English in secondary school, someone this dumb how do you make it through your day?

Kobojunkie:
So because your father was a near-monster to you while he pampered your sisters mean all Nigerian parents raise their kids exactly as yours did and hence all Nigerian women are pampered and not worth engaging? Brilliant!

yen yen yen yen, na idiot you be, is that the reason? Abi you no read where I used myself as a case study, the topic is even about me, I used (I) not (we) you imbec!le.

Biglittlelois:
At least immortal.crown schooled you well.

lmao, his stupidity exhaust me, where the schooling, I merely let him continue rambling, it didn't change my view of Nigerian girls.

cocolacec:
He pampered your sisters so they dont turn to olpshos on campus.if your father didnot provide adequately for them other men will and be plucking their mangoes without your father's consent.

Yea does that mean we shouldn't be treated equally?

Mine is a very old version and it doesn't contain the cool cars I want, I need gta5 version 1.67 or something not far from it.

immortalcrown:
Don't be exhausted. Ride on in your inductive reasoning while I expose your myopia.

Lol you're exhausting, I'm not exhausted, you're exhausting, there's a difference, you no even go school, why I dey even waste my time.

immortalcrown:
Maybe this is true in the places you have been to. But it is a fat lie in my own part of the same Nigeria. The only thing about my own surrounding is that some girls are good and others are bad just as some boys in my surrounding are good and others are bad.

you exhaust me seriously, I haven't been this overwhelmed since I was born.

elipheleh:
1 in a thousand is not good enough. Loud this message until at least 50% of them become productive. Then that's a pass mark.

Other nations, it is very normal to see women working. It is expected of them as human adults.

Not here in Naija where it looks like a miracle to see a working woman

I've realized this witless man has no thinking faculty, save your breadth abeg.

immortalcrown:
This your claim proves you wrong in your post.

No it proves me right you're twisting everything to look good, it ain't working.

immortalcrown:
I said my married sisters support their husbands financially and the unmarried ones are raised with the same mindset. You said your sisters are not different. But you, in your post, claim no Nigerian girl supports her man financially. So, aren't your sisters Nigerians?

Because you're lying, you're not there with them so you're either spewing thrash to appear good or being lied to, I'm also doing whatever you're doing.

immortalcrown:
This your claim proves you wrong in your post.

You're being unrealistic naw, I'm following your lead.

immortalcrown:
You are obviously insane. You are gradually moving away from your own topic.

If you not insane, mention any country in which all the girls are good.

In Nigeria all the girls have the same mentality, all the new generation girls are not like our mothers, you're the ediot diverting, like I said your potato wussie behavior won't make them fall in love with you, they don't like weak men.

immortalcrown:
My married sisters assit their husbands in funding their homes. My single sisters are raised with the same way as the married ones. If you lack good sisters, weep but don't think other families are like yours.

lmao, yea keep telling yourself that too, my married sisters do the same.

immortalcrown:
Only a bad man like you will think that whoever disagrees with you does so for ladies' attention.

Yes I'm bad, you wey be good man shey your life sweet like otedola own, wuss.

immortalcrown:
You calling me "Idiot" in this logical conversation shows you are not better than the girls you term bad. A bad boy looking for a good girl.

All this your pussee arse predisposition won't make them like you either, they hate weak men, no one will give you free pussee too, if that's why you're being a simp please quit it.

immortalcrown:
Meaning that your sisters are all bad because your parents are Nigerians?

It's extremely possible, they believe husbands should take care of everything too, do your sisters split bills with their husband or take care of the house for their husband? Lie make amadioha strike you right now.

immortalcrown:
There are Jews and there are Gentiles in every multitude.

Not all Nigerian girls are bad and not all Nigerian men are good. Every country in the world has good people and bad people. Stop sounding as if some countries have only angels and saints as citizens. Stop sounding as if all Nigerian girls are bad.

If you want to marry from outside Nigeria, it is your choice. But don't give a silly excuse for it. To prove to you that what you said here is very silly, your post implies that all your sisters are bad because they are Nigerian girls. Your post also implies that your unborn daughters will be very bad because they will be Nigerian girls since their future father is a Nigerian.

My daughters can't be bad because their mom won't be a Nigerian girl to imbibe Nigerian mentality in them, stfu beetch.

All my life I have dated only one unicorn, I call her a unicorn because she exuded characteristics that aren't typical of our dearly beloved Nigerian girls, first, I never asked her out, I was a teenager in secondary school and her mum was my mum's best friend so we were friends, dating just happened, and we were together till I was 19, her mom died and she moved away, this girl is hardworking, brilliant, emotionally intelligent, clean, and has high intellect, I don't talk much but with her I come out of my shell, we have engaging conversations that you won't believe she's a Nigerian girl, even though we couldn't make the distance thing work we're still friends, I'm not insulting anyone btw, lastly she doesn't bill me, and when she get me things she doesn't consider if I have given her something earlier, I mean what kind of Nigerian girl would even ask you out to start with? Talkmore of the rest.

now men in Nigeria are brought up with standards that are entirely different from women, you're supposed to grow up with virtue and wait for a man to marry you? But it is totally different from a guy's upbringing, take me for example, I was compared to my mates since I was old enough to want something or have ambition, I was taught to stop being a weakling and be a man, and when I reached a certain age my parents started expecting me to take care of the family or make meaningful contributions, I was so uncomfortable and I moved out, and it didn't stop there, my mom started expecting me to look for someone and settle down, although it isn't as brazen as the other pressures I get from my parents, and this is all because I am a man born of an ambitious and tough father who never smiles because he doesn't do all this with my sisters, and I have tried to know why he's so tough with me and my only explanation is that's how he was raised, so they pass that tough upbringing to their male children and their male children pass it to their children and the circle never ends, imagine working your ass off everyday with stress and everything to fend for an entitled wife and your children and someone expect you to still manage to be smiling and being obsessed with a wife who doesn't do anything to aid your predicament.

I don't have room for emotional attachment because I don't have it good as my sisters who were pampered all their life, for instance when I was schooling my dad expected me to survive with the peanuts he gave me every once in a while and when I complained he will ask me to hustle and stop waiting for him for everything, when I needed to rent a self contain he forced me to get a roommate so we can split bills, I thought that's just how he is until my sisters got into the university and I started seeing the same father sending them money upon money and renting secure and high quality apartments for them, when I graduated he expected me to get a job and move out, point is, my life was hard from the beginning simply because I was a guy.

I hardly see my dad smile, although my mum is the opposite which is why I confide in her most times and through her I learnt how to be caring and respectful towards ladies, but I don't have the time or willpower to be as mushy as a typical Nigerian girl would want, and considering what I went through I'd expect a supportive and hardworking wife to ease the hard life I had, Nigerian girls can't offer me that, because all they do is wait for a man to go and work his arse off then come and marry them, and when you marry them they become another financial burden, she will add her family join and they'll suck you like leeches, she and her family will pull you from the left and your family will pull you from the right until they tear you apart, that's why they get fat and you the head of the house will remain slim, they'll blame childbirth for gaining weight like wtf?

why I go carry my hand buy burden for myself, I'd rather marry from a society where women don't feel entitled and that's not Nigeria, no offense but yes Nigerian women are very entitled despite the fact that they have nothing to offer than birth children and make you pay bills till you die.

Brandiebird:
She probably wouldn’t touch you using someone else’s hand!

You need a serious reality check! Social skills: lacking, education: lacking, plenty money: lacking, masculine traits: lacking, good looks: lacking! You said all this btw (going by your profile and threads).

All you have to offer is the basics in terms of the aforementioned qualities, plenty talks, and loyalty which are all feminine traits btw. Yet, you want a young, attractive, intelligent, well rounded, well spoken, and exposed young woman. These types of women want all the things you are lacking. People have been telling you this for x amount of pages, but you’re busy arguing and talking down to people. Argue with your keyboard because you’re delusional! 🤐

Lmao which insult pass this one, everything you type with all your life as if you wan pass out na ok he reply get a life bro, stop ejaculating on his thread, find something to do, na only jobless person go dey linger on nairaland all day.

Bluezy13:
And some good-looking girl somewhere took the initiative to collect a guy's phone number and started chatting and calling the guy up... making her intention known without wasting time.
The guy is myself and I respect her for going for what she wanted.

So OP, not all Nigerian girls.

You see? This also proved my point, you didn't think less of her because she asked u out.

All my life I have loved one thing about western women, when they feel something for you they admit it and most times brazenly tell you to your face that they like you, but Nigerian girls would rather die a thousand deaths than tell a guy how they feel, I have had girls who liked me so much but allowed me to friendzone them only for them to tell me later on when they're now comfortable talking to me as a friend that they gave me so many greenlights and I didn't get it, wasting what could've been an awesome relationship, and I'd ask them why didn't they save us time and stress by telling me how they feel, and Thier response never makes sense, am I supposed to be a mind reader of some kind cuz I'm not someone who can read greenlights, besides I'll value a girl who asked me out more than a girl I asked out, they believe asking a guy out is a taboo of some sorts and I think that's backwards, why would I take you for granted because you're brave enough to tell me how you feel and saved both of us some dilemma.

Sixfeetbelle:
You aren't entitled to sex in a relationship. That's the premise of hoarding. Thus, if you want it, you have to be in that relationship, but if you don't want it, you don't have to be in that relationship. Also, for such a relationship, you must part with something to get the sex. The value of what you part with depends on the endgame behind the hoarding.



Curious question: If you are not in that relationship, how does your last sentence work?

By this analogy you're saying transactional sex is normal, because if I have to let something go to get it, how are you different from hookup, girlfriend status has responsibilities that come with it, if I needed a buddy I'll get a buddy, if na fvck buddy e dey, what sets you aside from other girls is what you mean to me, you might have so many girls in your life but one of them is special, then that person you call special starts hoarding sex, to what end?

Sixfeetbelle:
I doubt your understand the psychology behind hoarding sex.

Whoever hoards sex from you will not relinquish it so easily without getting something tangible from you. It's a mind game.

Ask yourself this question: Why are you after her if you're not interested in the sex? Why do you give a fvck she's hoarding sex if you're not somehow invested in acquiring it? Now, when a man gets invested in acquiring something, he is likely to get swept off by things bigger than him. Before you know it, you've entangled yourself and you may end up losing a lot just to extricate yourself.

No, you got it all wrong, it's a fvcking relationship, sex is on the table, same as every other things a relationship entails, getting laid is a necessity, we all need it, if I am in a relationship I am supposed to get it, I don't go into a relationship to have sex, but when I am in one, I am entitled to everything that comes with it, imagine buying a car and removing the AC, it comes with the fvcking car, if you deny me that AC I am not buying the car without it, hope you understand now? You're hoarding it, I'm gonna get it elsewhere, when you're done hoarding it, I'll do everything to show you that hoarding it was counterproductive.

Sweetplum:
Lol. Your small pikin no know medicine you dey call am vegetables

Ghetto talk, whatever that means.

Kooldon:
The approach you used to bleep girl A, will not necessarily work on girl B. So hoarding of pu**y is determine by your approach towards a particular girl at a given time.
But truth be told, sex is overrated isnt sweet at all. Even Married Couples are now getting sex out of wedlock.
Rest and channel this energy to something productive

Exactly, the precious time and resources you'll waste because one stupid girl is being stupid, you can't get those back, now why would I invest time and effort on something like that, to what end? What is the bottomline?

Sweetplum:
I can't love you. But I can make you a simp

And how are you gonna do that? Lemme guess, pussy? Cuz there's nothing else, that's your only selling point.

Sweetplum:
mumu boy, it's just typo error naa. Chill

Lol I think you love me, not interested.

Sweetplum:
Hope your gf hoard it well. You need to becsex starved to restore yourl to factory settings

Learn to spell before you address me, mumu girl.