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LordLicifer:
Yes, you are right but she may not understand it how you meant. you wan show her say e no pain you say she no gree, correct! but she fit no see am like that.


In some societies it would be seen as harrasment

Lol, true, I'll just limit our interactions and let it fade over time.

nairalanda1:
The best way to stop paying ransom is to do it the italian way...freeze the accounts of kidnap victims, their loved ones and anyone linked to them as soon as kidnapping happens.

That way, it would make kidnapping harder...since nobody can pay. It worked very well in Italy, where the mafia used to earn lots from kidnapping...kidnapping went down drastically.

Also, maybe we should stop paying kidnappers. The more we pay them, the more kidnapping happens. Infact, kidnapping has gotten bad in NIgeria because people pay kidnappers. Danegeld.

I expect people would abuse me, and yes, I accept I am sounding insensitive. But at some point, we got to find a way to end this nonsense.And part of ending it is not encouraging kidnappers by paying them. Again, I know I am being an insensitive person, but I am tired of people being kidnapped all the time, and I have been hearing about kidnapping in naija for over 20 years. At some point, enough is enough.

P,S : And yes, the government is useless, and is not funding the police well. But unfortunately, we have had situations where government law enforcement tries to rescue kidnap victims, and the kidnappers kill the victim on sighting the police rescue team. That's how bad it is.

P.S 2. And voting a new government, while desirable, and needed , is not going to change things much. We got to change how our economy is run, and none of the politicans running for office have any solution other than borrowing more for their preferred welfare project. Not how they would actually generate jobs for all yesterday

You're right, but imagine if you were kidnapped by the blood thirsty type who have no patience and someone is proving stubborn and playing with ransom with your life on the line, won't this suggestion cost you your life? And will you like to be in a situation where you're being threatened with death and someone is playing with the ransom that can save you? How many people will pay the price for this useless bravado, they're solutions that can curb kidnapping without the threat to life, and the govt is capable of proffering them, one is scrap nysc it serves no purpose than endangering lives, second is to make every godamm line and gsm traceable, technology can triangulate calls using cell towers, another solution is amber alerts, Google how they work and see how effective it is, immediately kidnapping happens the area is cordoned off and all movements seize until they're found, lastly improve the military so they have the zeal to do thier jobs.

LordLicifer:
Op, i get your point. it can get akward because she might still believe you haven't taken No for an answer and to avoid you believing by still talking to her or she talking to you after she rejected you, would lead you to believe she might accept you one day or that she is playing hard to get, which some females do. Females are very confused and complicated beings. There have been cases where the same female who spits that she would never ever date me, would lying in my bed after a few months. and refuses to leave.


So to make it clear she probarbly would not want to speak to you ever again. Not that she hates you but to drive her feelings of not wanting you, across robustly in some cases.

Rejection is not a big deal, though it might be for some. yes, it would feel sad especially of you really liked the female. It's natural


I have been rejected more than a hundred times, i have also been accepted more than nearly 50 times. We as boys would be rejected many times that is how your confidence grows

Thats where she's wrong though, because inasmuch as those who don't know anything about me keep saying all sorts of thrash here, i never go back to such girls, like if she changes her mind now it won't work anymore because i don't feel same way anymore, talking to her still is because i have no ill feelings, if i had stopped talking to her ehen then e really pain me, for me to still keep talking to her it means I'm over it, she fit talk tomorrow say i became her enemy simply because she said no to me, and the way she'll paint and exaggerate it ehn I'll seem pathetic, so no, I'll keep talking to her, its just not same anymore thats all I'm saying.

Echika01:
In my whole life if I ask you out and you say No trust me you do not exist again Omo.....and if you give me your number and you waste time before replying chat Omo I go block you ASAP Omo....even if you dey form hard to get me I no send you ooooo Omo....if I ask for your number and you give excuses Omo I go pass you like Lx 470 Omo.....how person way no be virgin go dey stress you abobi nawa for you ooooo

Your name supposed be omo.

Deicide:
If she says no you move on. Her saying no or yes is her exercising her power. Your own power is the decision you make after she says no. Still being friends with her would just make you a mumu though 😅

Right, stop being friends with her and I'm that guy who can't take rejection, y'all just love talking not caring wether you make sense or not, you just dey contradict yourself.

Alot of wussies forming alpha males on this thread actually get angry when rejected, but online isn't a real place, make una dey live fake life, i didn't get angry i just felt awkward, how hard can English be.

Leemzyy:
Well that's cux you feel like a loser, try giving her money so just maybe she will consider you

So stop disturbing us with why you felt awkward when there's clearly a solution

They're thousands of posts on nl, i wonder if someone forced you here with a gun to your head, trying to be relevant, who called you naw? So how am i disturbing you? And what did i loose?

itzadorable333:
op I believe you'll love this one

of course i do, educated response that didn't abuse me, whats not to love.

dauntless15:
No matter how confident you are, getting rejected will affect that confidence, but take solace in the fact that even the best of us get rejected at times too, it doesn't make you less human or reduce whatever you are, take it as another experience and move on to the next, na why girls plenty be that, her reason for saying no might be something very insignificant but because you're overthinking it, it becomes a big deal, which indirectly affects your interactions with her, leave all those oversabi up there telling you you've got no game or you're gen z, maturity and game has nothing to do with women, and understanding the way they think or why they do what they do is an effort in futility, even the wisest men avoid trying to understand women, she said no, it happens, those ones with game get rejected alot too, just forget it happened and try someone else, you fit be someone's rejected conquest and be the icing on a cake to another person, thats how life works.

Thanks, maybe I'm really overthinking it, finally someone who gets it, simple question they're now saying all sorts of things like they know who i am, i guess they haven't been rejected before considering they've got so much game and they're not gen z.

itzadorable333:
Lol if you don't 'ask a girl out on a whim' as you claim, it means you are not naïve as it appears, but then one who is not naïve in affairs like this should not let emotions get the better of them when their requests get turned down. Besides, one who is experienced as you now claim, should know better than to approach a lady who'll turn them down.

You're misunderstanding everything unfortunately, what game do you keep talking about, I'm merely wondering why interacting with her can't be normal anymore no matter how hard i try, if i resented her or want her to say yes by force I'd be angry and cut her off na, i still interact with her, which means I harbored no ill feelings, unfortunately the way someone interprets something is directly as a result of his level of comprehension, because i dey talk A you dey talk B, and I can't change that overnight, maybe you should tell me your native language so i can translate it to that, maybe you'll grasp that one because this is exhausting.

itzadorable333:
hmm now how do you want to learn the game, if you decide to chase your teachers?

Lol who endorse am as my teacher? I only learn from people who are atleast intelligent, you can't teach me when you take gullible to a whole new level.

BigYash:
The matter dey tire me too. Na these jen Z mostly. They've got zero game. Their own na to throw money give girl. Wear baggy pant.

Welcome to Nigeria where old age is wisdom, foolish people grow old too you know, and i can tell you're an ancestor, all they know is wear skinny jeans and be stingy.

kiddaz:
My brother me I just dey taya for the sort of boys wey dem come dey born abi no man to bring dem up again as men? You can't have every girl. Even Jesus Christ many people still dey reject am till tomorrow. Girl no like you e dey pain you howww Must every girl like you? Na so dem dey start before you know he go press one smally neck cos she say she no do again. Which kind people dey raise these boys of today sef? As fine girls plenty full every where even some wey dem never touch still dey unexplored

No be all of us be narcissist bro, if you no understand English go learn, there's no resentment i said it in my post but English hard, why would i resort to violence, i just feel awkward talking to her after she said no, how is that same with whatever you're on about?

itzadorable333:
Lol how do you 'really care' for someone you know nothing or almost nothing about? By your reasoning, you 'really cared' for every girl you approached. If this is the case then yours is a case of naivety.

Lol and this is supposed to be embarrassing? Going by your analogy you've assumed I'm that guy who sees a girl on the street i just ask her out, before i ask you out we would've been friends for a while, I don't ask a girl out on a whim, is it abnormal to care about someone you've known to some extent? so you're naive for assuming that too.

Some fool did this in Australia and was run over, sadly this is Nigeria where religion is the third arm of govt.

itzadorable333:
That's normal but if that were the only case, you would feel at most indifferent to her answer given the understanding that one man's food is another's poison. But for her answer to affect you more than just a usual 'no' it means there's something more added to your desire for her to say 'yes'. In some cases, it could be 'sense of entitlement', in another case it could be 'fear of rejection', it could as well be another factor.

Or maybe i really cared, if someone is indifferent and shows no reaction to your rejection it means you're not really serious to him in the first place, you might just be another conquest, your interpretation is flawed.

itzadorable333:
If you don't resent her and yet nothing is the same anymore, maybe it's because you wanted her to say 'yes' and you assumed she should.

of course I wanted her to say yes, people don't take the big step of asking girls out if they don't hope for a yes.

Why is he fighting so hard to be reunited with his father, because of money i guess, at his age shouldn't he be bothered about his own legacy? I understand what it feels like to have a deadbeat as a dad, but in his case his father isn't a deadbeat, he has benefited immensely to be able to stand on his own, what about people whose fathers don't know they exist, no put me for talk abeg.

Why does it feel so awkward when you ask a girl out and she says no, even if you don't resent her nothing is the same anymore.

Lalami3232:
God is not partial, He did everything just to balance the system. Imagine everyone is rich, who will be your driver or cook? Who will want to be your security man or gardner? Most of us weren't born into riches but we're trying to carve out a name for ourselves so our children won't come out like you someday and make this kind of post. That rich family you are referring to, someone paid the price for that generational wealth. Now my question to you is, what are you doing for the sake of your generation?


What do I even know sef aside enlightening my fellow men nationwide with the good news of DNA test

who decides who gets to be cook or gardner, make una no dey defend nonsense abeg.

Thiefobi1:
Who invited him in the first place.

Incident of more than a year, you now choose a time close to election to campaign.

Took the cameras, wore party uniforms.

Obi is an hypocrite.

Next time obi should wear an helmet. Because gboko boys don't play.

They don't play but Fulani use them as legos to play, na here una get power, if una see Fulani courage will flee.

No worries, he'll soon be proud of you in za oza room with wetin you carry for front, I wonder if na senator for girls this man be.

I have realized being a gentleman around girls always backfires, all the men they refer to as intentional, allow them to always have their way, be a fool for them, let them push you around, pamper and do everything they ask for, you're a weak man to them, they tend to abuse you more, ever wonder why girls love going back to guys that treat them like sh!t? There's your answer, a girl said all sorts of things about me because she slept over and I didn't touch her, since then I became just a friend to her, and in my mind I was respectful and wanting her to give consent, I can never understand this gender, because the nonchalant and rude ones are the attractive ones they swarm like flies.

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