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Sixfeetbelle:
You aren't entitled to sex in a relationship. That's the premise of hoarding. Thus, if you want it, you have to be in that relationship, but if you don't want it, you don't have to be in that relationship. Also, for such a relationship, you must part with something to get the sex. The value of what you part with depends on the endgame behind the hoarding.



Curious question: If you are not in that relationship, how does your last sentence work?

By this analogy you're saying transactional sex is normal, because if I have to let something go to get it, how are you different from hookup, girlfriend status has responsibilities that come with it, if I needed a buddy I'll get a buddy, if na fvck buddy e dey, what sets you aside from other girls is what you mean to me, you might have so many girls in your life but one of them is special, then that person you call special starts hoarding sex, to what end?

Sixfeetbelle:
I doubt your understand the psychology behind hoarding sex.

Whoever hoards sex from you will not relinquish it so easily without getting something tangible from you. It's a mind game.

Ask yourself this question: Why are you after her if you're not interested in the sex? Why do you give a fvck she's hoarding sex if you're not somehow invested in acquiring it? Now, when a man gets invested in acquiring something, he is likely to get swept off by things bigger than him. Before you know it, you've entangled yourself and you may end up losing a lot just to extricate yourself.

No, you got it all wrong, it's a fvcking relationship, sex is on the table, same as every other things a relationship entails, getting laid is a necessity, we all need it, if I am in a relationship I am supposed to get it, I don't go into a relationship to have sex, but when I am in one, I am entitled to everything that comes with it, imagine buying a car and removing the AC, it comes with the fvcking car, if you deny me that AC I am not buying the car without it, hope you understand now? You're hoarding it, I'm gonna get it elsewhere, when you're done hoarding it, I'll do everything to show you that hoarding it was counterproductive.

Sweetplum:
Lol. Your small pikin no know medicine you dey call am vegetables

Ghetto talk, whatever that means.

Kooldon:
The approach you used to bleep girl A, will not necessarily work on girl B. So hoarding of pu**y is determine by your approach towards a particular girl at a given time.
But truth be told, sex is overrated isnt sweet at all. Even Married Couples are now getting sex out of wedlock.
Rest and channel this energy to something productive

Exactly, the precious time and resources you'll waste because one stupid girl is being stupid, you can't get those back, now why would I invest time and effort on something like that, to what end? What is the bottomline?

Sweetplum:
I can't love you. But I can make you a simp

And how are you gonna do that? Lemme guess, pussy? Cuz there's nothing else, that's your only selling point.

Sweetplum:
mumu boy, it's just typo error naa. Chill

Lol I think you love me, not interested.

Sweetplum:
Hope your gf hoard it well. You need to becsex starved to restore yourl to factory settings

Learn to spell before you address me, mumu girl.

Naira20:
No ...you are the confused one.
You read the wrong manual

I give up, you're exhausting.

Sweetplum:
Lol. Some are golden puss y naa. Come, I know your type that later SIMP 4 life. Those hoarding it v reason to do so just as fuel is being horded or sold for highest bidder now.

Dude, hoard ur pussy with me, I bounce the moment I get it, just to prove a point, that's how I am, I have a girlfriend I love, she didn't hoard it, and not hoarding it doesn't make me see her as cheap, it made me like her the more, because she's not about sex, protecting it like it's all she has to offer, people like you have only sex to offer that's why you think it's precious.

Naira20:
That's why you need to know what you don't know.
Most guys think life is about playing games
If you are disciplined and focused NO girl can manipulate you with sex.
You know what you want and you know the qualities you desire.
No real man is interested in indiscriminate sex to prove anything.

By the way, the topic is about hoarding sex.
A real man is a leader and must be smarter than the led.

You contradict yourself oga, you're mixing principled men with simps, but they're not the same.

Sweetplum:
you like sex gan o. May you not be BLLB (bose lo, lose bo). Cos na pussy born you and pussy fit kee you.

Pussy can't kill me, do you understand what's going on here? I'm telling you it's not worth hoarding, it's cheap, your sisters are doing hookup, why? You better pass them or your pussy is laced with gold, abeg find the simp you can manipulate, no be me, I'm too busy to give a sh!t.

Sweetplum:
Lol. You look like a SIMP

you have no idea what I look like, me I won't treat you like something precious after the sex, cuz at the end its still what it is, cheap sex.

Naira20:
Real men are not just about sex.
There are a lot of expectations from virtuous women other than the hole between their legs.
For me, Wisdom is the first thing I cherish in any woman.
This will add value to you, your business and your children.

So you value wisdom? I thought you're all about the precious sex real men should waste an eternity waiting for, hypocritical SIMPle man.

Naira20:
Real men detest cheap girls and are not defined by sex.
All this childish portrayal of men on Nairaland is silly.
That's why there's so much waste of time arguing with women.

Women by nature will love to submit to a correct man who is principled and knows what he's doing.
But making noise to assert your position shows something is wrong.

What is your definition of real, some stupidly docile zombie, who waits on a manipulative girl like a dotting mother with nothing going on in his life? Why would I waste years chasing something so cheap when I have alot of things to do with my life.

Ivimmanuel:
my friend go and marry. Born fine girls

Lmao wetin I wan born girls take do?

Sweetplum:
You stay. You wan leave make I tie your destiny like this?

I leave, When I win a conquest I move to something better, pussy is pussy, hoarding it won't make it taste better or look different, I'd leave, and I'll make sure I leave you wanting, I will consider how long I chased that nonsense you call precious and serve something equal.

Naira20:
Lie..
Real men value hard to get babes not girls whose legs open anyhow like Molue door.

Real men abi simps, abeg gettat, na this kind you fit die just to sniff pant.

Sweetplum:
Just replied one if your kind who threatened to come n rape me.
Men are the ones spoiling this world.
When you give birth to girls, tell them not to be stingy with sex.
Maybe you don't know in life that most times what's gotten cheaply isn't valued.
You want my puss y, you ll earn it via hard work. For now, lemme be stingy and responsible!

Yea continue with your assertions, whoever threatened to rape you is on his own journey because I'd never threaten a lady with rape, but lemme ask you, what happens after I earn it via hard work, assuming I did the hard work and I finally earned it, no be to move on to something better? Lmao

This is my response to a thread that made front page earlier, I'll just speak for myself instead of generalizing, I like girls that are bold and straightforward, I would value a girl who asked me out more than a girl I spent years trying to convince, she's advicing girls not to open Thier legs quickly because the man will leave after sex, sex doesn't keep anyone, your personality is the glue that'd make someone stay, if yours isn't magnetic no man will stay, if you deliberately deny me of sex for too long I'll dedicate my time into making sure I do everything to get that sex, and the moment I do, I'll discard you like nothing, why? Because you made me waste precious time and resources chasing something you believe is so precious, when I finally have what you're hoarding I'll discard you nonetheless, this is why those who form hard to get experience the most heart break, sometimes I be like, so na wetin she dey hoard all this while be this? It's not even worth it, so I'm likely to stay with someone who went into a relationship with everything, leapt with the hope that I'd catch her, and I would, but not when you have one foot out the door, not trusting me and hoarding sex, it won't make you more precious to me, I'll rather start seeing you like a game or sport, a conquest, something I must experience just to keep the trophy.

Blackdeewhy:
I met him through my uncle who stays in the US.
However, we are always on phone, either talking, chatting or facetiming, unless he's at work like at present.
Take it or not, I've always wanted to give birth to mixed race since my secondary school days.
Thank God for Grace and Merry Christmas to you all

Thanks for sharing, all the uncle's and Aunts I have over there are useless, so no luck on that front, but you're lucky, very lucky.

For Nigerians married or dating a foreigner with good intentions, not scamming, how did you meet him or her?

I always wanted biracial kids and a pretty Caucasian wife but I haven't been lucky finding someone from another race or country and I'm at that age(30s) where you have to get married like asap, tried social media and they all found it creepy, sometimes they read my text and don't reply, some block me instantly and to be honest I don't blame them due to our international reputation.

Don't talk about looks because I don't look bad and I have seen so many instances where those girls fall in love with guys that are nothing close to handsome, they're not like our naija babes, but getting one is the problem.

How did you land your remote job? Help people who have skills but no work, don't come here to show off your earnings if you're not ready to help others.

Mods front page pls

This is the payment proof he sent, odogwu pls don't do this.

Wealthpreach aka Joshuadavidodog aka Phantomplanet pay him his money, look at how greed made you loose a great informative thread of 13pages, you could have settled this amicably but you chosed to be dubious, think about your reputation sir.

ezeknov:
What's happening
What am I seeing? Wealth preach? Scamming?
I'm speechless.

Dauntless I don't really get you...im in the dark here cos I've chat with him a lot.

No hard feelings here but wait...

1. I would like to see the way he scammed you... Was is that you were not expecting an ebook and forwarded messages from him after you paid for his mentorship?
Pls explain in full pls...

2. Or you've deeper or past fraud experience with him

Dauntless has been banned, he was defrauded yet it's him nairaland is banning, he told me to post here on his behalf, the whole story was on his 13 page thread before he used his powers to make the thread disappear but dauntless screenshot everything before he did, talk about smartness if this oga has nothing to hide why did he delete his 13page thread? Then got dauntless banned so he will stay quiet and not complain, corruption everywhere.

meritadavize1:
That girl got married just last year December, since 2013 ooo, she was attacking spiritually, still sent people to pack my things, I lost everything in my house.. It was only my bed that remains... My business stop.... It was hell bro

Hmm, I have drafted a breakup message rn, still haven't sent it, I need to ponder over it before sending and damn the consequences.

meritadavize1:
Bro be very pray full,
My advice...
Start avoiding her on a low key, don't make it obvious oooo.... If not she will come for ur head... Try and making love with her, that's very important.... I was once in ur shoe, I lost everything

How did you get out of it? I'm thinking of moving away.

killmods:
You're a fool and there's nothing to ponder over. Nor go handle ur issues dey wait for Nairalanders...Uzwor

Ok, thank you wise one, imbec!Le.

killmods:
You don't even know what u have gotten into.. by the time ur eyes go clear this God u dey overlook u go find am from pillar to post but u won't see him. Some of us gats learn truth the hard way. Real life ain't no movie bro. Enjoy ur little cage for now. When it gets too small for u na u go begin get sense. I hope u still won't be as dumb as u are now

And you're supposed to be the not so dumb one? Fools see themselves as wise, ponder over that.

See them condemning him like they're better, at least he got close to the border, what have you done? Stay online all day and spill thrash, internet rats.

arthurwillia:
This your matter tire me

Now them never leave you
You are blaming your brokenness on an innocent girl
The days you were broke and you’ve not met this hirl. You didn’t know abi
Mtchew

Where did I imply that I was broke with your thick meathead that can't grasp anything?