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GboyegaD:
Manage her till the end of 3rd term which is another 3-4months. Before then, take your time to have a heart to heart discussion with her what your concerns are and how you would have to let her go back to her parents after this session since she is hell bent on living a life you are not comfortable with. If she doesn't change, send her back to her parents after the session before people ask you insulting questions should anything happen to her. Also, let her know you beat her because you sent her on errand and she was expected to return home and then seek permission before going to see her friends. This is needed so that the friends do not confuse her with the lies that you do not want her to enjoy the good things in sex is why you are restricting her.

Noted. Thanks.

waleyp:
You have done your own part, you can’t kill yourself na, just leave her to do whatever as per say you don try your best, inform her parents, it will be bad if she gets pregnant under your watch...

Noted.

waleyp:
You have done your own part, you can’t kill yourself na, just leave her to do whatever as per say you don try your best, inform her parents, it will be bad if she gets pregnant under your watch...

Noted. Thanks .

dingbang:
Las las you will soon have a pregnant maid under your own roof.


If she cannot obey you as her employer then she should be sent to live with the boyfriend who she is frolicking with.

I would rather send her home. She has been begging that she doesn't want to go. Still watching.

fastseo:
Just advice her and not because of that send her back.
Not necessarily flogging but advice and prayer and she will be fine.

okay. Been doing that. This evening hubby came back late and sent her and Hubby's nephew staying with us to buy something. She branched to her friend's place and when Hubby's nephew was telling her that they should hurry back, she was reluctant and he just came home my himself. The effrontery!

I have a 17 years old maid who would be 18 in June. She came when she was 12 and she is like family now. She is in SS1. My problem is her issues with boys. Always keeping boyfriends of which I discourage her big time. Had to ask her why she keeps them, she said because her classmates/ friends have boyfriends.

I have screamed and threatened but she will still keep. What am I doing wrong? Should I allow her just keep them? I teach her sex education though but she says she isn't sexually active. Today, I saw the picture she and the guy posted on facebook holding each other. I lost it today. I flogged and punished her. I'm I being too hard? How do I help her? We wanted to help her till university days but with these, we are scared and reconsidering sending her back after ss3.

How best do I handle this situation.

I have a 17 years old maid who would be 18 in June. She came when she was 12 and she is like family now. She is in SS1. My problem is her issues with boys. Always keeping boyfriends of which I discourage her big time. Had to ask her why she keeps them, she said because her classmates/ friends have boyfriends.

I have screamed and threatened but she will still keep. What am I doing wrong? Should I allow her just keep them? I teach her sex education though but she says she isn't sexually active. Today, I saw the picture she and the guy posted on facebook holding each other. I lost it today. I flogged and punished her. I'm I being too hard? How do I help her? We wanted to help her till university days but with these, we are scared and reconsidering sending her back after ss3.

How best do I handle this situation.

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House please help me look into this matter as its causing so much friction in my family. We are a family of five girls and a boy. The boy is the fourth meaning he has three elder sisters and two younger ones. They all live in Lagos.

I am the first, married and live with my family outside Lagos.

Now my dad died without a Will but had little money saved somewhere. After he died, his lawyer and this my brother tried so much to ensure the money came out. I must commend him on that. My mum is aged, 67 years. Not just aged, but sick as well. Now before my dad died, he had borrowed money from my mum worth a little above a million naira. She had to borrow the money from her coprative and she paid with interest for a year and six months.

Now this man wants us to refund her money back, this my brother has refused to give her back her money. This money was paid into my brother's account because he was used as next of kin. My mother has a building she began but had to abandon because of funds, he has agreed we finish it up for her from the funds which is fine with everybody but to give this woman her N1.5m is a challenge to him. I had suggested he gives her the money and then we ensure she uses most of it to finish her abandon project as she has roofed the house just minor finishing and digging of borehole. He still refused, saying my mum spends money carelessly and may begin dashing pastors money for prayers which in a way, he isn't wrong. My mum is like that. But this woman managed her home for over 30years with my dad and they never went begging. Besides it's her money, whats our business how she spends it? We can only advice.

I have a sister who works in one of the commercial banks in which my mum operates a current account, I suggested to him that if he has fears of her spending it carelessly, let's put it in that said account which she rarely uses cos of charges and ensure my sister supervises her spending cos Mum can't really do the stress of going to bank with cheque to start filling and waiting, my sister that works there can help her and see to it that she doesn't spend carelessly either in the completion of the project or in feeding. This brother of mine refused.

Luckily my father already built a house but they had been staying on rent cos the location of where they stay in Lagos is close to where my mum worked so she wanted to be done with pension documentation before going to my father's house of which she is done now.

Now there is no sofa in the house where they currently stay nor in my father's property and no television. This brother of mine had to say he would buy one miserable sofa of N30,000 for his mother. I had to beg him to buy sofa before he finally agreed and suggested one miserable sofa. This money is a little over N6m. To even buy television, he says why buy new one when we can repair the one with the technician and use(I had to agree for peace sakes).

Please is there an other definition of wickedness? How else do we go about this?

Lawyers please is it possible we change next of kin? Is it even possible for my mum to talk to the banks Sorry ibtc pension(they manged the funds till it was released) to move the funds away from him? I rarely delve in their matter because I am outside Lagos but my siblings had to call me to please intervene in this because they were tired of his domineering attitude.


Please advise me abeg.

Please are there pantakers in Lagos? Where please? I am looking at buying fairly used furnishes.

Please FAM. Are there pantakers in Lagos? Where one can buy used furniture's. Where can I locate one? Thanks.

Ranchhoddas:
Na wa o...

Notes you all. Thanks..

SAMBARRY:
Call a family meeting, sit all your kids down,including your in-laws son and the housemaid. Your husband doesn't have to be there when the meeting is on.ask the boy why he doesn't like your daughter or likes to play with her?

Threaten him that if he Cannot play with everybody he will have to go back to his house or you will buy Xmas cloth for everyone and exclude him since he is excluding your daughter. Trust me he will adjust


Biko no let any in-law pikin bring any negative vibes to your home by trying to separate the kids because na so them dey take start family quarrel. If you're not careful,in-laws or their kids have a way of bringing toxic energy and so you need to curb it immediately

Option 2 tell the mom of the boy that you don't like the way he's sidelining your kids and these kids used to play with each other before he came and if he can't play with all of them,please find another home for him


That 13 year old boy seems like a child to you but he's subtly bringing negative energy into your home, before you know it your daughter will start having self esteem issues,she will be like why does he not like me but he likes my brother or depression can set in.from there jealousy will start,from there sibling rivalry.do the needful IMMEDIATELY

You can also use passive aggression for him by buying toys or clothes for everyone including your house help and leaving him out of the equation or taking them for a trip and telling the mom to come and carry her son and if she asks why,tell her her son is trying to divide or create disunity among your kids and you don't want that.

If he notices you buy stuffs and exclude him,he will ask you and if he doesn't gave the boldness, he will send one of your kids and then you will tell him the reason

SAMBARRY:
Call a family meeting, sit all your kids down,including your in-laws son and the housemaid. Your husband doesn't have to be there when the meeting is on.ask the boy why he doesn't like your daughter or likes to play with her?

Threaten him that if he Cannot play with everybody he will have to go back to his house or you will buy Xmas cloth for everyone and exclude him since he is excluding your daughter. Trust me he will adjust


Biko no let any in-law pikin bring any negative vibes to your home by trying to separate the kids because na so them dey take start family quarrel. If you're not careful,in-laws or their kids have a way of bringing toxic energy and so you need to curb it immediately

Option 2 tell the mom of the boy that you don't like the way he's sidelining your kids and these kids used to play with each other before he came and if he can't play with all of them,please find another home for him


That 13 year old boy seems like a child to you but he's subtly bringing negative energy into your home, before you know it your daughter will start having self esteem issues,she will be like why does he not like me but he likes my brother or depression can set in.from there jealousy will start,from there sibling rivalry.do the needful IMMEDIATELY

You can also use passive aggression for him by buying toys or clothes for everyone including your house help and leaving him out of the equation or taking them for a trip and telling the mom to come and carry her son and if she asks why,tell her her son is trying to divide or create disunity among your kids and you don't want that.

If he notices you buy stuffs and exclude him,he will ask you and if he doesn't gave the boldness, he will send one of your kids and then you will tell him the reason

. Thanks a lot. I have called the meeting without hubby and ask him, he would say nothing. I would try out buying stuffs and leaving him behind and see how that works. Thanks a lot.

[quote author=babtoundey post=74421597][/quote].Na the freeing of mind be the real issue. How do I free my mind and be less self aware.

I am a woman in her thirties with two young children, a girl and a boy. I also have a maid who is a 17 years old girl. We have been living fine when hubby decided to bring his elder sister's son who is 13 years to stay with us.

Now his elder sister had this child out of wedlock and is still unmarried till now and doesn't really work as she has a little health challenge. The boy and his mum had been living with my mother in law( the boy's grand mum) and she has been catering for them until recently she retired and fell sick.

Besides, the boy was being over pampered and wasn't reading as nobody paid close attention to him. So with our meagrely income, we took him.

Issue now is, he doesn't understand that he is 13. He likes my son a lot and likes to be with him always but pushes my daughter away. I have talked and talked and talked. I don't want him separating them. He would take my son to the room and not bother with my daughter. If I ask him to do the dishes with my daughter, he would refuse, na with serious insistence before he agrees. I am concerned. I don't want to keep quiet and allow my daughter feel left out. I have spoken to my husband about it but he hasn't said anything on the issue. Please how do I handle this?

Again, when my children stroll to our bedroom to play, next thing he would want to join them, leaving my maid alone. This maid of mine has forgotten she is even a maid. It feels like she is my child and she acts that way, I don't want her to feel left out too as they are just four years apart. He isn't too young na that he would want to be jumping around our bedroom and be seeking cuddling like these young ages 7 and 5 kids of mine. Its eating me up. Right now my daughter is in the parlor and he and my son are in the room as I type.

KingOfAllIgbos:
Looking at her pictures, she embezzled the money.

Your money went into food for her.

Sorry my friend

Lol. No be lie. Thanks

andyanders:
I hope she was the one that explained her situation on how she was scammed by a man as you stated above? If yes, she could be deceived and scammed by someone online as she explained and promised to pay you but has no money with her. Try to get her through her phone and dig deep to know actually what went wrong. People fall victim to people unknowingly as faith plays on them. She could be a straight person but fall a victim to online scammers and become a victim of circumstance. How much was involved and have you taken steps to report to the bank where she has an account?With her account details, you can get her. Sorry for the situation.

. Yes she is the one but she doesn't pick calls and I am not her only victim. Her lies were too inconsistent. She claimed somebody duped her, but no evidence to show the transaction she did with the man. I am not her only victim, she blocked her WhatsApp group from commenters and has even left one of the groups. So her stories are difficult to believe. Thanks for your concern.

IfYouKnowYouKno:
HOPE YOU KNOW SCAMMERS CAN ALSO USE PEOPLE'S PICTURES AND NAME TO COMMIT FRAUD

. Yes but this isn't somebody's pictures. Its her exact picture. I had reported to her bank via my bank and checked pictures too. Same picture on all her social media pages, she even changes picture on WhatsApp so it's same person. Been on it for close to six months so I am super sure.

Those are the transferred I made and she acknowledged receipt but never delivered the goods.

pythonkid:
Throw more light on d story

she advertised on a group on Facebook of which she added her WhatsApp link. I joined and then followed for sometime, saw her goods. There was nothing she didn't advertised..so I ordered for footwear, I don't stay in Lagos. I played and after then its beens stories. At a point, she said she has sent it of which she didn't, she even gave me a fake logistics manager's number to be calling. When I began mounting pressure, she changed the setting of her group to admin only, thus nobody can comment on the group.

She claimed she didn't have a Facebook account but somehow I traced her page and her IG page. This transaction happened in September and the last I heard from her was in October. She isn't picking my calls anymore.

Her Instagram account, Facebook account.Pls ma don't be angry.

Below is the message she sent me when she was bursted and ever since then, no more from her.

I will refund u 30k.

Am tired of this whole issues, I must confess u are good and humble, I don't have money with me, u can ask boss lady she was the one that have been helping me know where I can get loan today, the one she connected me to said that my number is not accepted, I downloaded pay later they where offering me loan of 1500 as a beginner. Pls my blood temperature is going high, I don't want to die before my time.

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If only I have people to help me it would have been easiler, but am alone, I only have my poor parents and my little ones, no one can help me.
Pls all I need from u is time.

If only that wicked man didn't scam me of ur money it wouldn't be like this.

But anything life brings I take it.

If u want to arrest me fine u can, am tired of begging people for loan,

My debtors keep giving me reasons.

I sell online I don't have a shop that's why if I had a shop it wouldn't be like this, no husband, no children, no friends, no helper just struggling on my own.

Boss lady is a good lady and she really tried for me today.
If she had she would have lend me but she didn't.

Don't see me as a wicked person just understand.

That's the risk of buying online, if not I wouldn't have been scammed by that devil.

Pls I will refund u 30k.

Is in safe hands pls understand me am tired of lying and having sleepless night

[Her name is Sandra mbadugha but she is Sandra vera on Facebook. She claims she does drop shipping but once you pay her money, the stories began and the next thing she would block you from her WhatsApp group and stop picking your calls. 09065566055 is her number.

Account details. 3126219288. Ist bank.

Please people beware.

Chichaope:
Nice thread you've got here mate, wanted to start a thread on my sojourn here in germany but i might not be able to post regularly.School and work won't make me updatoe regularly

please start na. Most of us want to run out of this country and don't know where to go exactly. Your updates can help us decide too. Thanks.

This is the face of a scammer. Sandra mbadugha. She opened WhatsApp groups and claimed drop shipping but all she does is dupe people off their money. After payment then the stories begin. She has about four WhatsApp group. So beware people. Her account detail is. 3126219288. Ist bank. Sandra mbadugha. Those are her pictures.

Please what's the name of this her hair style? Like is it rough curls? How do I maintain it? Do I relax before I cut or cut and relax? Thank u

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