Eketem:
You have a teenage househelp be ready to put up with teenage behaviour. This is how teenagers behave.

That she is engaged as a child labourer doesn't make her any less a teenager with raging hormones.

When you have a teenager these are issues you will deal with, best to have the " talk" and teach them about Abstinence or if they want to have s3x protection.

Bringing in her mother's s3xual history was unnecessary because this is typical teenage behaviour.

That is the problem, you people who want to avoid hiring adult and professional helps and decide to go with children do not want to deal with emerging teenage issues. You expect the workers to be zombies without emotions or hormones.

Teenagers act out it is an age and a stage, I acted out but with proper information and counselling I turned out well.

Thanks for your contribution. I didn't bring up her mother's sexual history. That was her mum's sister and the whole essence was not the history, it's cos of the number the mother has to cater for. I don't even see her as a child labourer cos she is more like a family than that.If not, I probably would have beaten her without coming here to ask for help.

Secondly, I have had more than enough adult help. After one year, they either get married or look for higher pay. This is North, a 21 years old is good to go marriage wise.

lastly, I knew the family as an undergraduate way back so she came to us like a family friend not like a help. I just said we have a "fairly" good relationship which is even an understatement. She is free as in very free in my house. She has even apologized and wrote a long apology letter that she won't do it again. She brought it back from school. If we don't, she can asked to be taken back home.

So yes, she is a teenager and I don't expect her to act like zombie. I had taught her sex and she even opened up to me about her boyfriend and I cautioned her and am sure she has stopped. If we ain't close like that, she can't even open up to me like that. So please don't take it out of context.

pinkiberry:
dik dey hungry her too much. sit her down, talk to her about sex education then tell her if she must do it, she should use condom, to avoid stories that touches the heart. dont give her any birth control pills, it will mess her system up because she is roo young to start taking it.

I have talked to her about sex and I occasionally do. Telling her to use condom na giving her free hand ooo. she is just 15. I would keep talking sha. Thank you.

Emary:
Take her to a family planning clinic and have her counselled. If you can put her on a birth control method like the implant, it will save you a lot of headache. Get her involved in a youth group in church so she'll be more preoccupied.

This family matter thing seems quite extreme ooo. I have talked to her like a friend, mother and sister. She even told me when she kissed a boy and I cautioned and admonished her. So we have quite a good relationship. she stays in school till 4pm because she does lesson and we attend weekly activities together in church. Children's day is coming up and there is a programme in church and she and my children are all involved. so? what else? Na to pray oooo.

khalhokage:


Comprehension, her mum's sister is the on with kids from different men then she died leaving those kids in the care of her mum.

OP I don't know why you're even considering sending her back home because of this kind of matter, she's a teenager they always make bad choices, it's left to their Guardians and caretakers to set them straight, and this girl obviously isn't as bad as most house girls, she's not stealing from you or maltreating your kids or anything like that.

Don't send her back, discipline her and watch her closely, keep a strict watch on her movements, for example when you send her to go buy something, let her you're expecting her back in 5mins or something like that, just try to do the best by her.

Also that man should not have laid his hands on her, it's OK if he beats his child but he shouldn't have touched someone else's, it's your job as her Guardians to discipline her.

yes. she isn't bad. Doesn't steal or maltreat my children. I would talk and do more of talking. Beating can't do much at this stage. The man lost control really.

iamfroshsylver:
its one of those tins teenagers try to practise.we were once young.pls dnt send ha away.....do d best u can do to bring ha to order.if she is ur daughter u wont send ha away.

Hhhmmm! so true.

nnamdibig:
You said her mum had children from different men? Talk of births of same feather, like mother like daughter. She is 15, body still dey sweet her. If you can't have full control of her and monitor her at this stage, even your hubby is at risk.

Not her mum. Her mother's late sister and all the children stay with her mother now. Her mum has just 4.

Good morning my beautiful people. I am not really a regular poster on this platform, I would have been able to tell where exactly I posted the last on my house help. Can't remember if it's in sexuality section.

My househelp is 15 now. She came to us, when she was 12. we have a fairly good relationship. We relate quite well and she tells me stuffs. Yesterday I sent her to buy detergent on the next street and she stayed longer than necessary. I was wondering what was keeping her only for someone to come and call me and hubby that we should hurry down and see what has happened. Hubby was about eating, when we dashed out. We got there only to realize that she was with a boy in her friends house and the friend's father caught her and held she and the boy hostage until their parents come.

She said the boy isn't her boyfriend but here friend's boyfriend(I believe her) cos her Friend Lilian ran away on sighting her father. The man had flogged them (my help and the boy)nonsense and bastard before we came.

On interrogating them, they said they were playing, play fighting as they called it but the man say he saw him on top of her(not unclad, clothed) and the boy on sighting him ran into the wardrobe in the room.

Now, to cut the long story short, we decided we would take her back but the mother called and kept begging that we should forgive her., that presently, she has 9 mouth to cater for and she can't cope. The mum scolded her on phone and told her that anything that makes us bring her back that she would go and sell pure water in traffic and all

Her dad left her mum with four children and remmaried someone else so he practically abandoned them. The mum just goes about cleaning peoples houses. Her mum's sister who passed on a few months back, left her children in my help's mother's custody. four kids again whom their fathers have refused to come and claim. she had the kids for three different men and was with the fourth hubby when she passed on. So you can imagine the pain and hardship the woman has to face alone.

I tell my help regularly that no mother, no matter how poor wants to give out her child, favour, bend down and concentrate. This same house, she was caught in, I had warned her severally not to go there again. The children there are loosed. So am really tired. Hubby thinks we should give her one more chance but I think she has had enough chances. She herself doesn't want to go back home. She would apologise a million times only for her to do another one again.

If she stays, how in the world can I keep her in check? The last one happened a month before now, that was prior to when they had holidays. The principal of her school and vice principal, warned she and the boy involved and talked to them like her own. So I really don't know what else to do.

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delishpot:
My sister did it. She was past 6 weeks. The doctor gave her some contraction meds and asked her to return the following day. The next day he did scan and said she would have to go in for evacuation. So they did it.

Thank you delish. Was hoping I could just pass it out without the evacuation thing. I would just wrap my head around the obvious reality and hopefully God would see me through. Thanks for sharing.

No dear. I think its obstetrics scan that was done. The type you do on the stomach

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Best of luck dear. please did you submit just your cv or cv and cover letter?

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This guy needs rehab before it gets out of hand.

McCarlito:
Combination of her mother's clothes and her fathers shoes

You are wicked. looooool

ammyluv. well done. God bless you.

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Do you have any Abuja link. Volunteering position? Thanks

Am in Abuja. Any volunteering opportunities available? Even if it's for free. It's not a money thing for me, it's a passion thing esp. for sexually abused victims or any other.