WiredLeggings:
can't you guys get your money (the cash your Dad left and the rent money being paid by the tenants) from your Dad's Lawyers or do y'all just want to continue leaving everything with them? everything should be coming to y'all, the family. i'm sure something could be worked out. no?

luxy44:
Who is paying the rent of the apartment where your mum and siblings are living? If the rent is being paid from your dad's investment (property), how much is the rent??

NoToPile:
Sorry OP but it seems your culture favors your brother, I guess that's why he is the one that is being sent the proceeds of the rent.


He's selfish and feels you all should follow his idea simply because he is the only son, he has this thinking that whatever he says should be final and sadly he's backed by tradition but that doesn't mean he should lack respect for his mum and siblings and also empathy.

Does Igbo tradition say that the mother can't take proceeds out of your late fathers investments? I see no reason why lawywrs can't send the money directly to her or even to your sister in school. Let him go and work nau.

Some people are naturally wicked, they just hide under culture to justify their wickedness, if not how will a son not even give his mother out of proceeds from their inheritance.

I doubt there's anything you can do, you guys should manage to take care of your mum and sis. Let him eat the rent.


Are you people taking any steps to get the cash in bank?

sisisioge:


You quoted the wrong person. I knew it, you just have to be. Don't worry, all will be well. I am not throwing jabs, just pointing out the obvious.

Executors here means those in charge of handling his Estate. While agreed execution here means what you guys agreed to do with it.

Let's just pray that you and the rest of the willing siblings will be blessed with the means to see her through...she's almost there. Good afternoon.

Afam4eva:

What a preposterous assumption.

heykims:
It's unfortunate But Haba! This wound I'm seeing doesn't qualify one as battling to live.. People like spicing stories

sammysunny88:
You don't have to mind what some people may say about your post because some are just here for nothing sake rather than to say whatever that come into their mouth. So about your case, have ever had a child before or just trying to have one? You have had three miscarriage and that is so unfortunate and painful but the question now is that, what have you been doing about the reoccurring miscarriage? Have you ever find out the causes of the miscarriage? There other problem that cause miscarriage and consistent miscarriage is one of the signs of infertility. Can we talk about this? I can be of help to you because in this case, there are many factors to put into consideration. Just check my profile and get my number from there and add me on whatsapp because there other question that need to ask you and the above question I asked, you don't need to answer here to avoid unnecessary comment.

thorpido:
Like baby124 said,how people marry who they can't talk to and who won't listen to them or take their advice baffles me too.That's the place for courtship.

Op,your husband is arrogant and full of pride.He may think he is being the head of the home acting that way but he is not being a good leader.

Hope to get a job that will keep you busy but try to work on the relationship between you.Reach out as much as you can but don't force it so you don't get frustrated.

Pray without ceasing that God should touch his heart.I hope you both have a spiritual foundation .

Acidosis:
Did you marry your uncle's mate, ma'am?

Blissquare:
2 kids and no job yet? The bitter truth is u wld always be miserable with him. It is too late to put ur foot down. When u start work, he wld lure u to spend ur money in his own way and still not appreciate u. Don't be deceived that he can change. Chose one, live in misery but appear happy outside or appear sad but live in happiness all by urself. Only an independent woman can have a say.

izzou:


That,my dear is not a godly Christian marriage

A man who is always expecting an apology, never accepts his wrongs and always want to show he is in charge by cutting he short when he speaks,is and arrogant and prideful man

Jesus never admonished us to be that way.


@OP, You just have to keep praying for a job. From your writeup,you still love him. Just pray for a job so you can breathe a little fresh air

baby124:
How people marry people they cannot talk to baffles me. If you acted like someone that depends on him to make all decisions without your input before marriage, then you have no choice than to continue. You have to leave him to make a very big mistake before he will ever come to his senses. Sadly. When he makes mistakes, don't cover his lapses. Let him deal with it himself. Next time before he makes a decision he will ask your opinion so as not to be on his own if yawa gas.

Prognose:


This right here.

I know your type. Sorry to say but you're a nag. You may not notice it but its true. The problem with nags is even if you're right, you have so irritated the man with your talking that he goes ahead to do the wrong thing just to make a point.

Solution? I think its a habit that cant be stopped. He's enduring your behaviour just as you're enduring his 'always right' and 'straight to the point' way of doing things. You both will have to sit yourselves down, probably with a mediator so that he cant order you to shut up, and really let your feelings out. And really listen to each other. This will help a lot knowing how each other feels. He sounds impatient and insensitive.

It may look like waste of money but trust me, it will help a lot if u get counsellor's couple therapy.

dingbang:
3 miscarriages..... Who did you offend biko