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TheKingIsHere:
You wont what?

Why are you finding it difficult to complete a statement on this.

Seriously, it is obvious you ladies here are supporting female rapists and this is getting me worried.

No ,I will not award custody to such a mother.


Now back to the determinant issh.incase you forgot my question,

you are a judge and a case of custody battle of an only child who is a girl comes before you , both parents are financially capable , using likely sexual molestation by a parent as the determinant , which parent will you award custody to? Mother or father?

Where determinant stands for " ground for, common factor, reason for,a factor which affects the outcome of something ".

TheKingIsHere:
Which man are you talking about? You see how you tried so hard in dodging my question.

This is the question i asked;


Abi, if you are the judge, will you still give the mother who enjoys sucking her child's penis custody?

Answer this, then we can now progress to your determinant issh question

No ,I won't.

Now back to you , on the "determinant issh" .

TheKingIsHere:
I answered your question.

So answer mine, then we can go to the determinant issh

No ,I will not award a child to such a man .

Now back to the "determinant issh" ,I would like to have your answer.

TheKingIsHere:
Madam judge, I have answered your question in the first bolded.

You on the other hand have not yet answered the question in the second bolded.

So tell us make we know

No you answered my question before my explanation on what "determinant " means

Now that you know what determinant means, it gives a new meaning to the question, except you are still sticking to your answer in that case there would be no need to continue this conversation.

TheKingIsHere:
You are the lacks massive comprehension..

All you are bothered about is to see the answer that the custody should be given to the mother, without taking it into consideration the situation on ground.

You are saying a country where men rape their daughters as if you don't know that women also rape their male children like this case we have here.

If male children that were raped by women cases were to be taken seriously in this country, na you go fear the numbers of victims and culprits.

You think women don't commit evil vices as men do? I pity you

Mr judge you never answer my question o.

TheKingIsHere:
You are the one being slow.

If a man is accused of raping his daughter, the child will be given custody to the mother..

Same case as one when a mother caught sucking her child's penis, the custody will be given to the father.

Abi, if you are the judge, will you still give the mother who enjoys sucking her child's penis custody?

Tell us, make we know.

No ,I said using sexual molestation by a parent as the determinant , ok seems that is where you lack the comprehension. Now a determinant of a case is like " a common factor, a reason , a ground for something , etc " .


So when I said determinant ,I didn't mean that the man was already accused, I meant in a country where men now rape their own daughters will you readily award custody to a man when other factors such as financial capability is equal?

TheKingIsHere:
If the sexual molestation was carried out by the mother, you think the judge will hand the child over to her? Same goes for the father?

So you think a Judge will just hand over a child to either mother or father without checking their track record for crimes and other vices?

Madam, you are ignorant abeg.

lol ,you are just slow.

Are you not the judge here ,I am asking you a question . Geez .


Or you don't understand English .

If you are a judge ,with the upsurge in the case of men raping their own daughters which person will you award custody to? It it too much for you to comprehend my question? Or you are feinging ignorance?

TheKingIsHere:
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When ties are severed?

You have just showed how ignorant you are.

You think when ties are severed all women are 100% angels in taking care of the child? Have you not seen cases where mothers throw their children into wells or pits?

Why do you think that the law in the US still ensures that the father takes financial responsibility even after ties are severed?

Why do you think the law over there still ensures that the parent (either male or female) who lost custody can still visit their children?

I don't have time to be schooling ignorant and irresponsible people on NL[/s].

you are a judge and a case of custody battle of an only child who is a girl comes before you , both parents are financially capable , using sexual molestation by a parent as the determinant , which parent will you award custody to? Mother or father?

TheKingIsHere:
And I gave you the answer.

A child is safer with both parents playing their roles.

I have seen mothers who maltreat their children because the father isn't there or because the father didn't do what he needed to do, same way I have seen a father maltreat the children because the woman isn't there or didn't do what she needed to do.

Both parties have roles to play in protecting the children.

lol ,you keep beating about the bush.

When ties are severed ,all this your grammar of both parents protecting the child will disappear. You know what ,I don't think you are ready to answer my question with a direct answer so I will leave you to battle with your conscience.

BluntTheApostle:
Why do some men rape? Well, it is a question that does not have a straightforward answer because there are different types of rapes based on the motives of the rapists.

For example, there is a type of rape called anger rape. A man may rape a woman who has humiliated him the past. For example, a man woos a woman but she humiliates him in front of his friends or she humiliates him in public. He may rape her (not for the pleasure that sex gives) but to humiliate her. The motive here is not sexual pleasure, but to humiliate the victim.

Another type of rape is power assertive rape. This is the most common one in organizations and schools. For example, a lecturer threatens to fail a student if she doesn't go to bed with him. Or a boss threatens to sack his secretary if she doesn't go to bed with him. Women bosses and lecturers are capable of this too. Another example is when an armed robber rapes a woman. The armed robber has a gun and that makes him powerful. Maybe without a gun, no one will even want to look at him, let alone go to bed with him. So, he uses his power (the gun) to force himself on his powerless victim.

Then, there is the most popular one, which is cognitive and attitudinal biases. When a man buys Mr Biggs fried rice and chicken for a woman, he immediately begins to expect her to go to bed with him. Failure to agree, he rapes her and even justifies it. Another example is a husband and wife. The husband thinks he can force himself on his wife if she does not want sex at that time. He thinks it is his legal right to force himself into his wife. But according to the law, that is also rape. But socio-cultural beliefs does not agree so men are brought up to believe that they can have sex with their wives even if she says no. Another common example is boyfriend-girlfriend relationship where the boy believes that because he is in a relationship with a girl, then she is mandated to open her legs when he demands sex.

Note: I used men mostly in my examples. But women are capable of all these types of rapes too.

where do you add the ritualist looking for virgins and cultists for gang initiation?

Anyway , it was a broad explanation. But I will disagree that women are capable of all the types of rape you mentioned.

TheKingIsHere:
I am glad you are now seeing my point..

A child is safer with both parents taking responsibility because both have a huge role to play in the children's protection...as the father can end up raping his daughter, a mother can also end up doing same.

Also, mother's should not cover up a rapist father, likewise fathers should not cover up rapist mothers..

a simple answer is all I need o. Lol .


Interms of sexual molestation by a parent, who is a child safer with in the course of a separation or divorce . Mother or father ?.

TheKingIsHere:
Women raise children financially when the father is not there or is highly irresponsible. Same as we have cases of men that have successfully raised their children without the mother.

So, what I am basically saying is that no woman should bare the full financial burden of the house when married to a responsible, higher earning husband.. she can only support if she wants..same way as no man should be bare the full burden of raising the children as he is meant to be a support to the woman in doing this

No woman will happily carry the full financial burden when married to a responsible man who is working, and earning more than her..

Or will you be happy to do such?

Only a person suffering from self hatred will be happy. But that's not the bone of contention here.

In terms of sexual molestation by a parent ,in your honest opinion,who do you think a child is safer with?

BluntTheApostle:
I was not the one you directed the question at.

My argument is that you didn't word your post adequately.

Why are some men still raping is better. Rather than typing Why are men still raping

well since you took interest in my comment,you might as well provide an answer.

BluntTheApostle:
Your father is a man. Hope you have not forgotten that?

Second, women rape too.

Third, not all rape allegations are true. Contrary to the belief that children can't lie, children can actually lie about sexual abuse. And they do this mostly to get attention.

bla bla bla ,so fvcking what if my father is a man, I am a woman ,that all that matters .

You still have not answered my question ,if women are cheap,why are men still raping?

You men should hold a man to man meeting and get back to me with an answer.

TheKingIsHere:
You see the way you edited out the part where I said

"If she looses custody, at least she should visit and check on them to ensure no evil has befallen them"

It is obvious you have an evil heart and an irresponsible mindset.

A man is not created to look after the children (both male or female) totally.. They will end up struggling while doing so. That's what I have been telling you.

Same way a woman is not created to totally carry the financial burden of the house. She can support the husband financially if she wants while the man can support the woman with the children and not full responsibility of looking after the children.

You have just shown how irresponsible you are as a woman/mother (if one) and also a female rapist apologist

evil has befallen them ? Even by their own fathers ? So who checks up on children with their divorced mothers to make sure evil has not befallen them? I thought men were better protectors?

Women have raised their kids alone , in all aspects including financially , so your argument makes no sense .

TheKingIsHere:
I said that divorced women if they loose custody of the children should also check on the children regularly...that's what responsible mother's should do. A responsible mother won't abandon and totally forget her children.

But it is obvious that you are not responsible and also a female rapist apologist if not a rapist sef.

No wonder someone here tagged you as one earlier on

any divorced woman who decided to leave the children in the hands of the man is not a caring mother. those are your own words .


Seems you know that men are more predatory even to their own blood . Hence your statement ,if you like twist it to sokoto and kafachan.


I was mentioned because the guilty are hurt at being called out . A hit dog will holla, they have been hit with the truth . Rapists and their apologist will always be bitter to see people rally round and offer emotional support for their victims.

TheKingIsHere:
Something that was posted on this very thread some minutes ago?

You think if more women that rape male children gets the needed attention, that it won't run into million cases?

It is obvious you want to argue blindly and support female rapists.

says someone who was just clamouring for divorced women not to leave their children in the care of their fathers. You don't even trust your own kind

TheKingIsHere:
It is obvious you are a female rapist apologist...

You think women don't rape their male children abi? A guy just recently posted here (although he was trying to defend female rapists just like you) that most mother's play with a males child pennis. Is that not rape?

beer parlour gists . A guy posted ,I heard , someone said ,bla bla bla.


I have over 20 cases of fathers preying on their own daughters in my clipboard.

TheKingIsHere:
So divorced women don't prey on their male children abi?

Also, any divorced woman who decided to leave the children in the hands of the man is not a caring mother.

Stop defending rapists.

I know you are saying the bolded just for the sake of argument Sha.


Oh ,so why can't a woman leave a children in the care of their father? I thought the child is the fathers own too ,the fact that you can't even trust your fellow man to take care of their children shows how little faith you have in your own kind.

OLDESTWARRIBOY:
Any Rape case na dem tey dey see you o, why not start organisation for the victims na ehh sister


In DJ khaled's voice Another one.
Okay o, shey u dn curse am, the curse go follow am no fear. All these boys na Idiots o, with the way Toto cheap for easter & west, dem still dey fool their linage o.

thats is what worries me, women are cheap women are cheap we keep hearing it every day ,so why are men still raping? . I need an answer please,why are men still raping?

TheKingIsHere:
You're just a typical female rapist apologist.

Is it not the mother's duty to check the child often? Is it not her duty to report the man immediately she catches him raping the daughter?

Most mother's will still be protecting the evil father.

**Spits**

divorced men , widowers have been known to prey on their daughters ,so who will do the reporting? .


Why not just hold the perpetrator responsible, instead of this blame shifting ?

I think you should first spit at a father that find his daughter attractive to have sex with .

One thing I know , mothers teach your children to speak out , and let them know you are ready to protect them even from their own fathers.

TheKingIsHere:
You think women don't pretend on their own male children? Lol

Like I said, most children are not in the hands of the men, they are mostly with the women...it is in few cases that the father start raping the daughter as a result of the mother's carelessness..

But the question is, who monitors the mother, aunties, female house helps and nannies that rape innocent male children daily? No one...that's why they get away with their crimes.

I had a relation that told me how she took her male child to the salon...as she removed his diapers, see how all the women there were looking at his penni's and playing with it.

It happen years ago when we didn't know...now we know better that any woman that does this is a rapist.

the bolded is all I need to know. Typical rapist apologist statement. Na man man , of course one way or the other ,the perpetrator has to be excused.


So in order words ,you are saying ,


Mothers rape their sons just as men rape their daughters . Let's be clear in that first .

TheKingIsHere:
How many babies are in the care of men when compared to women?

How many children are in the man's care when compared to women?

The numbers of women that rape male infants and children are far more than the total numbers of men rape cases.

Most women carry out their evil crime on children and infants because they cannot talk or speak out hence the female rapists get away easily...that's why you think men are more ...


Men on the other hand become a suspect when with a female child that isn't his... nobody puts eyes on a woman that is with a male child that isn't hers, that's why you hear men speak up when they are much older that their aunty or house help raped them when they were young...

And most times the men still get castigated for speaking up. You start hearing people saying, didn't you enjoy it, or are you not a man..etc

That's why you think men are more in numbers which is not true. Men's rape case are more pronounced, that's the difference

The bolded is the reason we should all be concerned ,how many women have molested their own sons ? But men on the other hand don't mind preying on their own daughters left in their care ,like wtf!.

Na wah o

TheKingIsHere:
Women are the biggest rapists.

They rape male infants and male children far more and because these children don't know what is happening or don't know what to do, the female rapists mostly escape after their evil deeds..

Male rapist on the other hand get caught and exposed easily as a man has nothing to do with a female child that isn't his or when the man rapes a mature lady, she can easily voice out.

Matured men that get raped by women on the other hand cannot voice out, especially in Nigeria, because of stigma.

People like you will start saying, is he not a man... didn't he enjoy it..etc...

Hence, most female rapists easily get away with their evil crimes than their male counter part

Men rape babies , teenagers , adult , grandmothers , great grand mothers, and even rape little boys and men ,and you are still in doubt who the biggest rapsists are .


If it's only the number of asses of little boys that has been torn in this country in the name of almajiri school ,I think that makes up for the number .

Justbehave:
Conclusion. Rape has no gender. Finish. Forget the excuse.

sure it doesn't ,I never disputed that fact ,but men in general subconsciously support rape by finding excuse for the perpetrator just to protect their bro code. Simple.

Justbehave:
Same way the lady in question attributed her actions to konji.

I am less concerned about what the perpetrator says ,but what others say about it.


The comments is what we are talking about.Men are so good at making comments like "olosho is cheap, which kind konji be that, bla bla bla " .

Justbehave:
Are you now putting the blame on the male baby for having an erection? Why do you ladies hate taking responsibilities for your actions? Why always blaming men?.

I never did put a blame of a child ,that will be low of me.


But on the other hand guys will likely blame this on konji if the reversed was the case ,you see the point?

Justbehave:
I didn't. The good thing is that you ladies can now accept that both genders are guilty of rape.

still doesn't change the fact the men support rape to protect their idiotic bro code . Men are the reason rape culture has and is still flourishing in Nigeria.

Aizen123:
thanks but still i can't let someone else take my father's sweat... Will surely follow them with wisdom and probably involve village elders if need arises even the youths have told me that they are behind me if it turns out they are planning something evil

the elders that know your uncles more than they know you? Gone are the days village elders were known to be unbiased.


Also if it's the norm in your tribe for uncles to share their late brothers properties, then you are fighting a lost battle.

Justbehave:
Lol.

you know in your church mind that you just lied sha.