₦airaland Forum

GeneralKoko:
Who said ashawo is for socially akward men??
Some people are just too busy to be chasing y'all upandan . Some hav life goals and chasing y'all will distract them. So they rather pay to have that pussy y'all are feeling big for

Furthermore, there are different levels of prostitution from the sugar daddy to ashawo beer parlor na the same hustle . I don't really blame them Sha

Same way you can't do that is same way they wouldn't if they had another source of income or a choice . I noticed most of those prostitutes are ashamed of their jobs . Although they've helped to reduce sexual assaults in the society .

more like some people are too weak for relationships ,like they always say , cheating is easy why not try being faithful . .


Another saying goes this, "marriage is hard work".


And also for the goals chasing, I am yet to see the old money affluent ones with real wealth talk that way , go figure.


The truth is it's just easy to Chuck penis ,pour and come out. There is something fundamentally wrong with a man who just Chuck penis pour and go,ask a therapist


And I will like to point out that the bolded is absolutely false as this generation has the highest rate of perverted men who even impregnate their own daughters . Rape has never been this so much in the increase,even old grandmothers are not spared.

I am jealous of their hair

Justice for sale!

Rgade:
It came from a pained heart tho

I understand your pain. Funny enough if it was a white man still ruling us ,we will be shouting apartheid.i heard they sold Nigeria to China already.

Rgade:
Hmm... I don't know about lucrative,but I honestly can't stay in the same city with buhari.

,this got me cracked up

It's depends on the type of home you have ,if na like mama sikiru wey born 5 children wey she ,her husband and her five children dey stay for one room for face me I slap you compound ... .

Like I always say, to each his own. But let me co-sign with the OP and remind everyone that life is not a competition.

GalPissetzky:
you will be next butchered victim. mark my words. i know how stinking pussy hoes like u always end

is that how your sister died ,my condolences

GalPissetzky:
na jack hammer and spanner dem go use tear your toto till u bleed to death be that

bla bla bla , you should focus more on the family curse hovering in your family. So no single lady for your family don marry well to do man,curses from your ancestors serious, I can break the generational curse troubling your family for you if you want

GalPissetzky:
your death will be aired on bbc.

I for say your sister will be next but una entire generation of women na machanic and carpenter dem dey marry ,so no need.

GalPissetzky:
my mother is smeling toto bitchh

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The ones here rape and impregnate their daughters while the ones abroad kill their wives.na wah o

Wait till native doctors start asking for albino turtle for sacrifice

Abeg who don pay to get federal government job, how did it go, cos na only people wey dem scam full my area o.

krushdripper:
I expected you'd have gone for the divorcee since they're better in your own book. You just shot yourself in the leg.

seems you just want to argue. There is no point in staying in marriage laden with burden,if road nor let person pass ,you pass am back ,so how does that relate to your question

You told me "why marry in the first place if you will run because of burden" and I answered that being divorced is better than being unmarried. Please stop twisting my words so you can have something to argue on .

Let me start saving.

krushdripper:
Who'd you rather be with? A rich man whose a divorcee or a rich man who hasn't gotten married?

Of course a rich man who hasn't gotten married. shuo.

Which kind wahala be this na?

kingreign:

SMH!

nor let your head go break from shaking it too much Sha.

abbey621:
You see no evidence but your mom and since your mom represents the majority of Nigerian women I guess it is good enough for you, no stats, no scholarly references but your mom?....This is exactly why I don't argue with Nigerians especially Nairalanders, I have had more substantial conversations with a cat than the average Nairalander.....Ignorance is bliss tho, so ENJOY�������

bla bla bla , scholarly reference, lol,you must be a clown, even your population has no scholarly reference . Go to cencus board and get scholarly reference and by the way being the clown you are I think your cat will understand your language more

krushdripper:
I can't agree with you that a divorcee is seen by the major society as better than one who hasn't attempted marriage.

well that's your own.In my book it is .

krushdripper:
A divorcee is not a label one should be proud about though that's what you'll become when 'you pass am come back'. Marriage is not a must, if you nurture imaginations of things going wrong and you later divorcing, why marry in the first place? Your idea would inevitably come to play without your conscious effort.

Divorcee is better than never been married. Just so you know know. , so it e better to pass am come back.

krushdripper:
I'm speaking on the ones who even decide to marry at all and are not already made before they do that.

lol, the door to walk out is now wider and easier, nor be do or die affair. If the road nor let you pass go front ,you pass am come back.

authority2006:
In some households where the husbands don't have enough or just being irresponsible.

and how many homes have enough in Nigeria ?

OVB123:
Village people! village people!! village people!!! God will judge u people. Look at how beautiful this lady is and u people decided to take her life, there is God oooh.

if you were observant you would have noticed what is on her hand before accusing people in the village

krushdripper:
That's what the average young ladies are inviting to thier future marriage status. More burden on the way.

That's for the ones who still decide to marry the average Nigerian man.

Chimpretty:
depends on the man a woman is married to.

the average Nigerian man has that mentality.

Chimpretty:
Am actually a woman but i know the societal pressures on men, i have brothers and husband so i know.

And I know the societal pressures on women with dead beat husbands.


A man and a woman both share the financial responsibility but the woman is still expected to stick to the duties of the traditional African woman of both the nuturer and care giver. It's now more work and burden for the modern woman.

Ellasure:
either dead beat or full fledged father. both have their roles in your life whether you like it or not.

when you are young and with overflowing energy you tend to go on your strength. where is the roles of your makers in your thinking and actions. when there is no relevance of God in your life then there will be no roles for any man.

there is a saying that a person that has relieved God of his responsibilities in his life has lost everything. in short the person is living on borrowed time. if you have not studied your father and mother as a book what lies ahead of you is confusion. look at USA and Europe today, they are just hanging on blessings of their forefathers. the people living in those territories are not contributing anything tangible anymore. only demonstrations and importing virtually all their needs from China. To open your eyes further, most of these territories are ruled by woman superiority, self opinionated women sponsored by rich men. the sponsors definitely have a selfish and wicked expected end. something not beneficial to the general populace.

the family is one unit of a country and what you see in the family will be reflected in such country. Nigeria is not immune. I hope you are not pursuing a path that will not lead you to your expected end.

look at the animal kingdom, males dominate and are loved. even authorities issues from the leading male and all of them support the leadership. the bible say if you are lacking wisdom go to the ants and other animal kingdom.

you don't come into the world with your power someone is in control. not you.

the bolded ,so let me guess Nigeria is hanging on the curses of our forefathers, I mean the one who liked sacrificing humans to their gods to cure cholera so much abi?

abbey621:
I'm sorry to say but you're typing jargon! Men poor diet? Who cooks their food? Are the women eating differently from what they cooked? Tell me you're joking?

Statistically speaking most women run the home financially? I DARE YOU TO FIND ONE FACTUAL BASED EVIDENCE TO SUPPORT YOUR STATEMENT? I'm not even going to argue with you, just go North and see how men with 2 or more wives are living, then come back here and tell me how the women are the ones supporting those men financially....LMAO!

Finally I am talking about demands, you are talking about labor, two different things. Back then it was not the norm for a man to buy his wife a car, not the norm for children to attend private schools, not the norm to take care of one or all of your wife's siblings.

Demands back then drastically differs from the expectations today. This is why more marriages crash today than in the past. Greed, demands and oversabi are things leading the modern man to quickly demise, a man that provides financially but is still called useless father sounds reasonable to you? This is what the OP was getting at, he called his father useless because all he did was provide financially�������.

it will be jargons to a nagging airhead

Lol , so in your mind financial responsibility is the reason why marriages of today crash , another joker.


Now let me remind you that men make up a higher percent of people who patronise road side food sellers, buka and beer parlours. Men also make up a higher percentage of agbo and bruntashi customers . Go figure.


I have one factual evidence, and that is my mother, I don't need to go far to look from evidence . She runs the home financially, oh that mother of mine ,such a hard-working multitasking human.



So let me ask who made it a norm to buy your wife a car and send your children to private schools? ,you put uncessary pressure on yourself to compete with your mates and come on nairaland to whine . There are people who have not bought their wives a car and who's children attend public schools just so you know. If you made these things a norm due to your environment ,then that's on you bro , again stop nagging, it's irritating.

abbey621:
No they didn't! Thank God my grandfather is still alive, his stories of how things worked back then drastically differs from today. Whether you spin it left or right, there's no denying that we live in a more demanding world, peole want more and more, greed has replaced love and envy has replaced compassion. Women contribute but statistically speaking in 9ja, most households are still heavily dependent on the man. This is why the lifespan of the average 9ja man is way lower of that of the woman.

let me correct you there, the life span of the Nigerian man is lower largely due to life style and diet .


Most men are not only irresponsible to their children but themselves too, eating rubbish,even to take drugs when they are sick na wahala,unlike women who know when they are sick ,no dinner for the entire house hold cos according to husband it's her duty to cook for him in sickness or in health .


And let me also correct you that statistically speaking most women run the home financially, Nigerian women know how to massage the ego of their husbands alot,I know someone who still gives her entire salary to her jobless husband ( his neighbors think he is a self employed business man) .


And lastly,how things worked back then doesn't change the work load, or you think it's easy to go to the farm? , if you think so,then you should go back to the village where life still looks like the scenerio your grandpa described to you.

abbey621:
You made sense until the last part, men of nowadays are not seen as men until they send huge money on wedding, owns a car and buys a car for wifey, working towards owning a house, a job that makes at least 150k per month. In the old days , men could survive in their huts and live off the farm. Times are changing and we must not ignore men who are still able to provide for their family. Even if that's all that they do, they should still be appreciated because only those who have lost their fathers can truly appreciate the void it leaves, even a bad father is missed!

So you think men of old didn't do all that ? The value of a hut and cowries of their time is just the same as your naira now , again stop whining, geez! modern men are something else. Even now that women still contribute to the financial upkeep una still dey complain. .


And no bad Fathers are not missed,their demise is a relief.