₦airaland Forum

cococandy:
Obviously, they offer us protection from their fellow men.

They are so close. So close to realizing that they are the problem . But they run face-first smack into the point and still somehow miss it entirely.
I’ve never seen such a phenomenon in my life

Like Why would we need protection if y’all behaved yourselves?

And even though they say that, it’s not even true. How many of them call out abusive men? How many prioritize building a society where women don’t have to hide pepper spray in their purses? How many speak up against violence towards women instead of justifying it? I could go on and on. Many may not actively participate in creating unsafe spaces for women but they tolerate the ones who do. And attack the women who confront the dangerous ones. So they are protecting no one.

Protection indeed.

They deliberately created a world that’s unsafe for women and in return we have to submit to them so that they can protect us from the problems they cause.

They call it "bro code". .

pocohantas:
In addition to that, they want us to join army and die at battlefronts for the problem they caused. We should also feel bad that they make up the higher percentage in prisons.

See the one Putin wants to put the whole world inside. By next week they would be asking us why women didn’t join NATO to help fight Russia. Heheheheehe

Someday this would make sense. Until then, cheers to male logic.

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Someone once said if women run the world there won't be wars just a bunch of countries not talking to each other . .

But now these penls people want to turn the world upside down with their egos .

BENCHOKCONSULT:
90% of Nigerian female bosses are toxic, domineering and wicked. ThankGod you walked away

I have had the same with male bosses as well.


Let's also add sexual harassment to the sheet of male bosses.

I worked for a popular man one time that used to deck the GM blows , infact e dey slap people anyhow . My own na sexual harassment make me run till date they still owe one month salary plus allowances.

TechTack:
You get bad mouth/finger

lol

Lordcassy:
Like the Muslim holy book said .

WOMEN, LEFT TO THEIR OWN DEVICES WILL SELF DESTRUCT...

like bobrisky

Romanoff:
Women will stay with a cheating man as long as he has money.

All the "I'm staying for the kids", na wash.

Even Beyonce , Ciara, janet Jackson , were all cheated on.


Our so called virtuous grandmas of old were all cheated on .


From mechanic ,to wheelbarrow pusher,to business man to politicians all cheat ,it has nothing to do with wealth .

Women choose to say based on their perogative ,some choose to leave.If you were really a woman ,you would know.

emmnprince:
He never said Nigerian women are not smart. He meant they are smart, but not very smart!

well, his mother and your mother are not very smart .

Midas01:
You deserve a statue for this statement.

ah! Let's call rochas .

DKM123:
Oil dey your head!

Thanks.

flokii:
It's wrong to send the man of the house on errands and wifey duties.. nothing stops the wife from going to the market to get food items to prepare food for her family if not laziness and pride.
We know how most go to do cleaning as single girls, do chores, wash clothes and even warm bed of guys they are dating only to change after marriage. Don't start what you can't finish biko, if you won't cook and clean later on in marriage, then why do it as spinster?

lol they dynamics of the Western culture we copied doesn't have a problem with that infact when Nigerian men marry white women ,they have no problem adjusting but for some reasons doing same here will invoke the wrath of his ancestors .

If you as man sits a woman down and asks her what she will bring which translates to bills ,she too has to negotiating power to share chores for you.

perambulator:
No real man survives or wants financial income from a woman. For me, when a man says what do you bring to the table, he means what female qualities do you have. Are you a supportive woman, are you a home maker? are you a woman that will give a man peace, are you capable of having children and raising them properly, are you the kind of woman that will help a man acheive his potential or the type that will drag aman down with drama? are you the kind of woman that a man is proud to call his wife etc etc

Yes there may be times when things are tough and a wife may need to support her husband financially but it is a "loan" so to speak. No man enters a relationship looking for financial support from a woman...at least no real man expects to live of a woman!!!

With this your comment,they are coming for you. My hand nor dey o

theForth:
Omo people dey this world o!!

Year to year all they do is argue about the other gender being useless. If men or women stress you much, why not just ignore them all through your existence on earth.

Don't you guys think about your lives or how you wanna progress or something?

Nawa!!

the family is the fabric of society ,like it or not the home dynamics is very important regardless of how rich or accomplished you are.

Biglittlelois:
Lmao becos you are who

The guts of some dingos here sha

On a faceless forum

lol leave that one. Some people are better left to their delusion grandeur.

osazsky:
only a devil will not assist his wife with house chores cuz he is bringing 50k a month for feeding and bills

But many men do it. And that's the reality . When women talk they are quickly tagged feminists.

flokii:
@OP If tables were turned and a man comes to approach you saying he has support and companionship to offer you.. would you accept to date him?
Women should stop making noise and appreciate the men struggling to keep the home and foot the bills.. Instead work on yourself and make yourself useful financially to the upkeep of the home and to support your man

many women today share bills with their husbands but the gesture is not reciprocated. Of you want to copy the western culture copy it to the last letter.

Ask a Nigerian man to go and buy food stuff and come and cook, if he doesn't summon your ancestors for a family meeting ,his people wills say you have turned him to woman wrapper. But they western culture we copied ,men go grocery shopping ,cook and clean.


Since we don't want the traditional setting anymore ale we dey readjust to fit into the new century. The working woman go out and faces the same work hazard and stress just like men, so why does she have to share bills and men only come and sit whit the tv or go and chillax without any input nor support.?

flokii:
@OP If tables were turned and a man comes to approach you saying he has support and companionship to offer you.. would you accept to date him?
Women should stop making noise and appreciate the men struggling to keep the home and foot the bills.. Instead work on yourself and make yourself useful financially to the upkeep of the home and to support your man

many women today share bills with their husbands but the gesture is not reciprocated. Of you want to copy the western culture copy it to the last letter.

Ask a Nigerian man to go and buy food stuff and come and cook, if he doesn't summon your ancestors for a family meeting ,his people wills say you have turned him to woman wrapper. But they western culture we copied ,men go grocery shopping ,cook and clean.

CumOnHer:
Yet women queue on the line to lavish the proceeds of such vices and readily available to hawk their dignity for a bite of the cherry.

Even men are on the queue now o. Na male prostitutes even full Lagos pass now sef. So no it's not only women hawking their dignity even your gender have joined . .Their own even worse cos them dey offer "unconventional hole".


But no one wants to have that conversation.

GRIMMJOE:
I don't have time for all these, so good luck with your hunt for equality.

You don't need to have time for it,it's a valid question,if you are generalising ,then include your mother as well. Or should I say that your mother is dull doesn't mean you should lump us together with her?

GRIMMJOE:
Money is more than enough

If it wasn't, you women won't lie down on your back like an animal to be penetrated.

Same way your dad penetrated your mother like an animal?.

CumOnHer:
Women are always free to walk out of the door but our authority remain with us. She either live single for the rest of her life or come back under the authority.

K

CumOnHer:
Very confused, she just confirmed that they are truly leeches.

Coming from a gender only known as fraudsters ,drug pushers and ritual killers and terrorists to the international community.

GRIMMJOE:
Our dear Op is confuse. You can't really blame our Nigerian women, they are not very smart.

starting with your dull mother I guess?

CumOnHer:
Woman, you can choose to remain single & lonely all in the cold just because you want to live independent of a man's authority. But the sad reality you can never run away from is the fact that the larger society itself is under the authority of men and women are a component unit of the society

Yet the wailing won't stop? Lol I know of four divorce cases,all within 5 years of marriage ,infact one was just two days old and it was the women who initiated the divorce .


Like I said , the door to exit is wider,and more women are choosing to walk out than bear the burden to keep it together. For how long do you think a woman will be your "submissive" under your authority? She might pretend to get the ring and maybe one or two kids .

IMEI:
women alone being responsible for keeping the home together makes no sense. Marriage consists of a husband and wife, maybe you need a re-evaluation of your views on marriage

As far as i know, marriage has never been compulsory, either religiously or traditionally, so women choosing not to marry isn't a new concept

I should tell men to step up? How about everyone hold themselves accountable. You hold yourselves accountable and men do same

If not for Western influence, we'd still be in the dark ages? who 'civilised' the West? What makes you think you needed Western help in the first place? I n this same sophisticated West, people are debating if genders exist, all it takes for a man to be a woman is to declare so and you think all is wrong with African society?

Are you aware that in traditional African societies, women have ruled empires? Some of those women have inspired some iconic TV characters that are famous in the West? Google the inspiration for Xena warrior princess

African women have always been considered the backbone of African society, Africa gave you the very same Leadership on a platter of gold that feminism seeks for Western women today

Be a Western inspired feminist all you want, just don't deride Africa to justify it

P.S

I don't hate the West, just questioning the foundations you base your views on

a western inspired feminist was the same one that stopped the killing of twins ,that same one is the reason I was allowed go to school is the same reason many tribes are doing away

bluefilm:
This is nonsense.

Absolute thrash.

Nonsense

with fgm even though some coconut heads still practice it and a lot more.


African women have always been considered backbone ,yet they were the most sort after for human sacrifice, maltreated as widows, denied inheritance , not allowed to have an education and lots more , so much for being regarded as the backbone .


I just don't want to assume you are implying that Africa civilized the west with the bolded sha . Thst will be like showing someone the way and not knowing the way to take yourself

CumOnHer:
We are all mere mortals, however in every systems or structures, there is an hierarchy.
In a home/ relationship, a man is at the top of the hierarchy.

Well go search for the lady who will be under your authority. Good luck with that.


I am only glad women of this generation are shedding religious and traditional shackles that held them down to miserable marriages and stuck with misogynists.

GRIMMJOE:
So now tell us, what else do you expect a man to offer other than money.

If he wants a woman to share his bills he should be ready to share her own. He will go to to market ,shop for food stuff of the house, take care and bathe the kids ,clean the house and cook

This is what western men who introduced bills sharing do, so if we must copy and deviate from the traditional setting we must copy everything.

If a woman is in the kitchen ,the man should be tending to the kids not feeling indifferent with remote in his hands.

Funny enough when Nigerian men marry white Ladies they adjust ,so na black women nor deserve better thing , because na only suffer head we Sabi abi?

CumOnHer:
Are you speaking on behalf of the rebellious women (feminists) or you're one of them.

So not regarding a mere mortal like a master means feminism? .

Well done Mr authoritarian ,awon constituted authority . Go and look for someone's daughter to keep under authority because dem hand over her placenta give you the day dem born her.

IMEI:
First of all, the irresponsibility goes both ways. For a marriage to fail, there must be a breakdown of the fabric i.e the center will no longer hold. This can be putdown to a severing of the bond between the spouses

By saying what you said in your first paragraph, you've admitted women are largely responsible for the breakdown of relationships today

Many of you women look down on your mothers as weak women and look upon your fathers as villains. This mindset only makes you toxic and unable to keep relationships

You're indirectly justifying women's culpability in destroying relationships by hinting that men have traditionally been awful to women, hence, the need to push back against men

Feminism and redpill are two sides of the same coin, neither empower, rather they both delude

As for your second paragraph, religions and traditions aren't being abandoned, rather, they're being replaced by Western religions and traditions...there's nothing happening now that hasn't been a mainstay in Western countries, but unfortunately, Nigerians aren't well read enough to know it's devastating effects on those same societies, neither are they willing to learn

Before you gloat, read up on previous civilisations, the first step to the destruction of any civilisation is the erosion of societal values and the West is no exception to that rule

Read up on the fast decline of Western power and influence globally. Unfortunately, before we realise this, we'd have done irreparable damage to ourselves

The center can no longer home because the ones bestowed with the responsibility of bearing the burden to keep a home together have seen that it's not feasible. Even the bible gave that responsibility to women alone " a virtuous woman keeps her home" and have let men off the hook so easily.

Even traditions have not spared women either ,now that this generation have breathing space and have the perogative to either shoulder that burden or not and not coerced by religion or traditions it's a problem. How about you tell men to step up ? No? That will be breaking the bro code? .

Africa lost it's self after colonisation , everything about you is western influence.Save for western influence we would have still been in the dark ages. If the status quo was favourable it won't need change same way traditional like killing of twins and other barbaric cultures needed to be changed.


And yes I will gloat about it, if not for western influence I probably won't have had an education or even have to privilege to be on this forum. If for nothing I am grateful for the people that stood their grounds for the girl child to be allowed to have an education .

InfinityFabric:
Let's be honest, when you meet a man that ain't shit, you'll acquiesce.

I get it, you're angry because the ones you want are not coming way.
I just hope it's not the case of "you're getting older and can't attract them anymore".

oh I see it's even one of those people sef.


I dey wait for una since ,the evening newspaper chanters.they have arrived.

InfinityFabric:
Madam, these are top on the list.


Ma'am this is for wussies.

You think I want a WIFE (not girlfriend,we don't do that here) who will tirelessly fade away just to earn minimum wage ? I'll just pay her instead.

You made valid points, even tho u seem angry but that doesn't take away your points.

Angry?

Lol nah, this is my calm face ,if i was angry the nuisances who were testing my patience earlier derailing my thread would have gotten it from me.

Ocholu:
I am totally not sure.

K

CumOnHer:
The reason the society is in disarray is because more women are refusing to stay under the authority of men. And that's the agenda of today's women -to compete with men.

Lol. ,"Authority " "under" ,such choice of words. Well I am glad they don't have to be under authority. No mere mortal is a lord and savior just cos they dangle a penls.