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koolaid87:
Borrow him your wife, girlfriend or Mom

Nonsense

eyinjuege:
She said she is stressed and cannot go through similar stress she went through in the past.
She cannot do the labour freely because it's not free as you've assumed. It's both a physical and mental engagement to host a party.
Nobody knows what kind of stress she went through, how she coped and even overcame the aftermath from the previous party.
Why is that flying over you people's heads? She says she cannot host a party (especially when she was just informed a week or 2 prior) because it is too STRESSFUL for her.
Why do you take that as inconsequential? , Something not to be reckoned with?
That's her husband and he's never said they had issues prior or that his wife is wicked or whatever, or that she is richer or poorer than he is.
She has told him her reason and you and the OP have refused to accept it, because you believe it's not tenable.
But it is to her, and that's most important. Na she get her body, and na she know where the shoe pinches since she's wearing it. Don't compare yourself to her or to anyone else because our health and situations are different.
She hasn't asked him not to bring people to come and do the cooking, serving and clearing up afterwards, so he should get an alternative arrangement if the party must be done.

eyinjuege:
She said she is stressed and cannot go through similar stress she went through in the past.
She cannot do the labour freely because it's not free as you've assumed. It's both a physical and mental engagement to host a party.
Nobody knows what kind of stress she went through, how she coped and even overcame the aftermath from the previous party.
Why is that flying over you people's heads? She says she cannot host a party (especially when she was just informed a week or 2 prior) because it is too STRESSFUL for her.
Why do you take that as inconsequential? , Something not to be reckoned with?
That's her husband and he's never said they had issues prior or that his wife is wicked or whatever, or that she is richer or poorer than he is.
She has told him her reason and you and the OP have refused to accept it, because you believe it's not tenable.
But it is to her, and that's most important. Na she get her body, and na she know where the shoe pinches since she's wearing it. Don't compare yourself to her or to anyone else because our health and situations are different.
She hasn't asked him not to bring people to come and do the cooking, serving and clearing up afterwards, so he should get an alternative arrangement if the party must be done.

Nephilim:
it's not a must he cook for them. If he doesn't have money should he go and borrow just to satisfy them on one meal.

koolaid87:
You're the lost one

How about he cooperate with his wife by choosing a less stressful meal like snacks.

Must he make his wife passed through stress just to satisfy some church members?

He's talking about her cooking the soup only. What about the cleaning??

At Op, no stress your relationship because of church GATHERING. If they can't pie and Pepsi, then it ain't worth it.

You're already stressing about one gathering and you're putting the stress on her

eyinjuege:
I wonder why many are trying to trivialise the stress the wife says ahe cannot face cooking for 20 people.
Are you her? Is she you? Is you she?
Her excuse is legitimate and shouldn't be trivilaised and swept under the rug of marriage/love.
I would advice OP to get a cheaper caterer to come and just cook, while he buys the foodstuff. Ask your wife what she is willing to contribute to help make it a success- her time if she could help with buying the foodstuff and staying with the caterer to help with the cooking.
You cannot force a grown adult to be what she is not. Why do you want to force her to go through the stress she has said loud and clear that she cannot cope with? If she breaks down physically or mentally over this, las las you will go and drop her with her parents to sort it out.
Please learn to listen, hear and understand other people's view points especially your spouse.
OP, you admitted the last time was stressful for her despite being pregnant. Now she has a child/toddler to also look after which is equally stressful on it's own especially with a lot of crowd about the house. If she has said she can't cope, then look for an alternative arrangement. You could equally ask her for her own suggestions about the matter.

Nephilim:
why not buy bread and share with your members, with fish and drink! It's not compulsory you cook for them. Don't stress yourself on what's not important.

RuddyFusion:
I read and watched the video also....is American not Trump nation?

RuddyFusion:
Trump Nation

Commonsense99:

Why not denounce Islam totally and have his freedom and peace of mind? This is 2020 for God's sake, peeps should stop allowing themselves to be emotionally blackmailed by some 12th century backward religion.
If that their Prophet was alive today , he still would have been a racist against Nigerians.. And here some are prepared to kill for his sake.

donbachi:
negleting his region and their kingmakers where other candidates will emerge..u forgot dat,the southwest have more political ties with the north than east.yes.u know dat.

TheGodlessGod:
Orji kalu pocket isn't that deep enough to be president, he's still a baby compare to the grandmasters of looters in nigeria..

Someone that can't even develope his state abia can't win election in Nigeria.

How much can he bring out during election?? He's not even richer than wike, Atiku also wants to be a president(that one dollar long die)

donbachi:
Instead of consulting and harmonizing with his people that have the ticket zoned to..he ran to the north..forgotten dat,he must first win the heart of his people first and the north will have no other choice than vote for him.

GeneralMarshall:
These men are just disgracing Nigeria. Why can't they return home. Is it by force to be in Ghana?

Lipscomb:
So to you now kalu will become president ? Wishful
Thinking Please under which party don't tell me under APC Because dude have no say there. Do you know what he went through before he could get ordinary chief whip? He should thank Bola Ahmed Tinubu for the position he occupied.

Nobody know kalu in the north except rogues that collecting his money.

Golan007:
It is a socialist scheme.

BotherMleeper:
You do realize none of them is president, right?

You do recall Chuck and Nancy impeached Trump right?

You do know they've pushed countless bills the senate majority leader Mitch is sitting on, right?

You do realize the poor response to the pandemic, the economic collapse, the police brutality, the racism, the global shunning of America, the broken alliances, the pullout from the climate accord and pushback at WHO, NATO, WTO, the current toxic atmosphere of divisions and white supremacy, the protests and riots are all happening under Trump's watch, right?

t2luv1:
You quoting WSJ is rich in itself. That is a conservative newspaper own by the same man that owns FOX news. A WASP newspaper knows CATHOLICS inner working right !!!!. Look if anti-abortion is your thing more power to you. In real life it is all about TRIBAL. A terrorist to some people is a freedom fighter to some people.

Golan007:
What are the palliatives cheques signed by Trump if not socialism?

DexterousOne:
All you have typed is not true

The Republicans are on course to lose the Senate
And even the presidency

Trump MAY still save himself

But Corey Gardner
Mcsally
And Susan Collins are already goners

We have a competitive race in WV too
Georgia is up for grabs (after stacey abrams performance, I'm sure the democrats will grab at least one seat...
And the list goes on

NC is in play as well

The dems will clinch at least 51 seats
At least

And Democrats dont hate America

Thay regurgitated crap you hear from trump has stuck in your mouth

t2luv1:
I am just giving you facts i ain't worry about what some Catholic Priest decided to do. Like we say in Nigeria a man might be a corrupt politician but if he's from my tribe I will still vote for the devil I know over an imaginary Angel.

t2luv1:
When Obama ran he didn't picked Biden because he liked him. Nope he picked him because he was CATHOLIC. It's all Tribal people.

Former Vice President Joseph Biden, who is a Roman Catholic, recently stopped on the campaign trail to attend Sunday Mass at a church in Florence, South Carolina. But the pastor, Robert Morey, refused to give him communion. ... Confession is necessary before returning to communion.

t2luv1:
You just typed the magic word WARNING !!!!. Now like me break it down for you. Nigeria is not the only place where politics is tribal, it is the same in this Land of the free, Home of the Brave we call call USA.

Biden is Catholic so there goes Pennsylvania which Trump won by mere 44K votes
Kamala husband is Jewish there goes Florida which Trump won last time by mere 0.5% and in those Blacks voters that hated Hillary, That 0.5% disappear quickly.
Increase black votes in the City of Detroit by mere 8K and there goes MIchigan

Are you getting my drift. I am a system Analyst in real life I make my living looking at realities not some imaginary things. If I am laying down odds right now Biden has 65% chance of winning and Trump 35%. If I am Trump I don't like that odds.

BotherMleeper:
Trump was an obvious white supremacist reaction to Obama. The GOP and its racist followers hated the fact that a blackman was president, hence McConnell and his gang of racists frustrated Obama at every turn.

They knew Trump was bad news, but they wanted to "own the libtards" by deliberately electing a known racist. Trouble is, they thought Trump was an easily-controllable buffoon, and he proved them all wrong because his base is the strongest ever seen. So the McConnells and Grahams and Jordans and Gaetz have to kowtow or lose their support.

The GOP does not care about global politics or democracy or equality. They only care about their guns and wealthy friends and influence.

Ps: I've added to my earlier post you quoted.