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Qatar2022:
Oh e pain you? Next time don't comment with sentiment

Pain me ke?
You're the one licking your wounds young man.

stagger:
Complete bullcrap.

Keep crying.

Paramount01:
You are trying, but you would have been better if you are attending a Bible believing church regularly.

There's no such thing as bible believing church. Church is on the heart and not a blocks of building.

achimendy:
Na the kind thing wey una like.


Rubbish.

Rubbish!

Qatar2022:
Don't fear or listen to this idiot

Your mother right?

Chai!

35k!

Akabuking:
if it's with someone like me, see you in court then

If it's someone like me,you'd never be alive to see the court.

MrFly:
very soon u will be in her shoes ok? Divorce no dey tire una

I will never be depressed like your mother.

WorldRichest:
She will not any any child, in fact, the one with her will be taken away if the guy can prove that the ex wife is mentally unstable, that's what Femi Fani Kayode proved against that bleached Olosho who had triplets for him. So stop talking through your anus

Idiot! FEMI Oloriburuku kayode can only pull such in a bastardized banana Republic. Stop 'spitting' through your ballz

Story!
Government dey investigate themselves?

Singhabele:
To be honest if I know this us ur plan I will eliminate you long b4 u start harboring such thoughts cis I know u want to use the kids to extort the man.

Extort a man earning 55k salary
I rather pity him

FreeIgboho:
I saw a story like this on Brekete family. The man was constantly beating his wife then finally left her with their 5 children. Well, he became a big pastor with fancy car and pretty new wife and came and took the first daughter. The wife and kids remained in poverty

Few eat their cake and have it.
But so many eventually regrets especially at old age.

laivwire:
Not if he has an equally good lawyer. There are numerous ways to discredit the mother from taking custody of the kids.

They are still kids. Again, she is not mentally challenged.

festacman:
Looks like scatter gun approach at the moment. There is so much lack of direction in governance.

6 months after swearing in, so many travels with large delegation NO clear economic plan to revitalize the ailing economy. Huge disappointment.

You don't support blindly.I like you for that atleast.

FreeIgboho:
But she’ll settle at her own terms and if she doesn’t settle she’s fine with that too. Point is, she is free -liberated from the ridiculous expectations and impositions of society!

That is what I'm most certain of.

Kingrshd3:
This is what Pit Obi should have done when he was around similar age instead of finding difficult times or problems with any new policies tilumbuubu took for the development of the country..

Oga rest!

FreeIgboho:
She doesn’t! She’s a WISE, LIBERATED girl. Suffering has made her wise. She’s LIBERATED, which is very hard to attain!

Hmm...Well, I dont think she is entirely liberated in the real sense, deep down she wish to settle. But the past keep reminding her not to.

FreeIgboho:
Like Joseph having to be sold by his brothers. Sometimes you have to be put through suffering to reach your potential.

If only life happens like this. Usually what would happen is, the woman and her offsprings would die in poverty, while the man becomes one big time politician or perm sec or such!

Exactly!

Although it seems to end well,but the mental issues still remain. My friend don't value marriage at all.She just don't think she needs it.

DaddyRochie1642:
Hope this is not superstory

Nope its not.

As the topic implies, this is a true life story.

Although my knowledge of this family started around when I was 19 years old.

I will call this friend of mine Sarah, the first child and daughter of her father. This true life story appears sad, and in my quiet times, especially recently, I'm beginning to feel sympathetic to both sides of the coin.

A few days ago, around 6 am, Sarah called me, and our conversation went like this;

Me: Babe, how far, this one you dey call by this time?
Sarah:I'm going to drop my papa at the park.
Me: for what na? Person wey just enter town yesterday? You for allow the man rest small...

Sarah: no be for my house, I don drop am, pay him transport, and still give am 5k to hold the body for the road.

Me: Babe, I dont support this one, in less than 24 hours your dad dey the Road for like 12 hours.

Sarah: That one no concern me, no be me invite am come.

A day earlier her father had called her from their previous location, he must have gotten there only to find out his 'ex-wife' had moved out. He decided to call Sarah, and she picked up, accommodated him for the night and bundled him back to the next available bus to Makurdi.

Truth be told, the ex-wife no longer lived in the slum he visited. She is now in a duplex, paid for by his first son. Let's call him David. David is in Europe and through one of my kinsmen, had secured a 3-bedroom duplex for his mom. His father is not aware of this.

Those children suffered men!

Big Mama, Sarah's mom was abandoned by her husband when Sarah was just 12 years old. The same year, Sarah was brutally raped by a neighbour because of 20 naira, while her mother was bedridden in the hospital after child evacuation. The father left while she was pregnant with the 5th child. Sarah would hawk all manner of foodstuffs to put food on the table. When she doesn't sell, she sells her body for peanuts to buy pepper and oil to make even the cheapest dried akro soup.

Her father had remarried and stopped caring about their welfare, a federal government worker in a good money-spinning ministry. He got transferred to another state and started a new life.

When I knew Sarah, she already had a child, a small saloon and four more mouths to feed. She would work in the morning and at night she would visit lounges. Life was hard, and so cigarettes and drinks became her god.Sarah till date is a chimney and she does so even in the presence of my husband, he no longer minds.

One cold night a couple of years ago, after we shared drinks at my place. She narrated how she and her siblings suffered.

" Sis, say my brother travel abroad, no be my power,na say God don look us say we don too suffer. David go gather wound for his body, from one Lebanese and Indian company to another, na so machine go dey cut cut his body. So so blue ink full him body"

I watched with tears how she broke down completely, spilling her wine all over my tiles.

"Sis, na 20 naira e take to lose my virginity, 20 naira!"

", My father...Wetin' we do am?!"

Two years ago and some months , she got a huge break. She called me to follow her to Transcorp Hilton and made me promise that I 'behave' myself.

We met this man, well groomed. We were half into the conversation when she looked at me with a forced smile, and said to me
" Sis, this is the man that raped me"

The spring rolls in my mouth turned into vinegar, my heart began to pound, and I could only see everyone but the man blurry. I eventually kept my cool but was silent the whole evening even as the man apologised profusely. My baby was beginning to cry, and I took the opportunity to leave their table because I was feeling sick and nauseated.

In less than 6 months after that encounter, he had secured a bigger and well-equipped saloon for her and had given her enough to travel out to buy hair.

Let's talk about David. David suffered oooo. I remembered one time I was going through her old pics and saw a younger version of David, sickly with his tummy protruded.

" My sister, na poison. My father come one day,, carry am go makurdi, na so person call my mother say make she come do carry her pikin before them kill am.My mother enters Moto, and as she stops for Keffi, she stand for Road dey beg for Moto wey go carry her reach makurdi, no money na. We carry am waka from one church to another before God just save that boy. "

I looked at the picture again and gently dropped it, still overwhelmed with internal grief. The first time I saw David in person after he graduated from the University ( he sponsored himself with the help of his sisters), I asked in bewilderment,

" So na this boy your father abandoned?"

Standing before me was a young man, fair, built and with a height I reckoned would be above 6. In inches. No wonder white women couldn't get off him as soon as he landed in Europe. He got married to one and life in that family changed in a flash. I enjoyed it for I got a cut from my father's kinsman when he bought a property.

Their father is no longer with the second wife, as she left him after three kids. He married a third and is now a retired pensioner.

Last night, while shopping together, Sarah was laughing and I asked, " Babe why you dey laugh"?

" When my father comes to my house, him dey ask me why I leave one bedroom go enter 3 bedrooms with my son. I tell am palee, this house no be rent o, na my house be this o."

" So wetin' him come talk?" I inquired.

"Wetin' him one talk again? Shebi waist pain wey my mama dey go through na say he left her when she was in her twenties. The woman has not seen Preek 4ck till today, because she carries church for the head. Woman wey him marry when she dey 17 years."

I choose to use the word ex-wife, but they never really divorced because the bride price paid is still binding. The fact that this woman who has suffered so much will soon be a mother-in-law to a German BMW Engineer in a few days is overwhelming. I wasn't surprised their last girl will end well, she's always looking like something out of foreign red carpets all the time. Like David, she is tall slim, surprisingly Conservative and intelligent.

Palee will be coming again to grace the marriage of one of the daughters he abandoned. Can't imagine his regret when he sleeps in a well-furnished duplex, away from the slum where he abandoned his children and wife many years ago, only to find out the first son from his loins bought that for his mother.

E go to pain am.

But one thing is certain or I think I noticed, David and Sarah still bear the hurt. The other kids have moved on, and don't mind being in their father's life.

StPete:
You're one very nasty b.itch and I am happy I struck a nerve because I am very sure you are like the OP if not worse. You sit all day at home pressing phone and waiting for one hardworking man to come feed you. You will learn and learn in a very terrible way soonest

You're ab idiot!
A man that can't take care of one child is no man at all.Even aboki who sells sweet and chewing gum still take care of 8 children

Good riddance.

These pastors always use present Nigerian predicaments to flourish.

For those who wish to participate, you don't have to go to Ogun, why not save the financial stress and watch on TV or online


Nigerian poor Christians with sufferhead mentality.

I hardly go to church, I strive to raise painful sacrifices. Sometimes I close my account and gift people in dire need. That's my way of worshipping God.

caandi:
wow … I see
Abundance
I see the reason why you’re tired of them
Eating one thing for a long time wld get one tired

It gets worst, you begin to throw up at the smell sometimes

caandi:
fish and pork is a good alternative
Smoked, fresh, ice….
Inbtw are you in naija that you’re having them in excess??

Yea, my family have a poultry farm.
My in law have a poultry farm as well,very big.Also, a big distributor of feeds.

My friend also have,including my long time neighbour, so its just too much.

I also rare as well, but mostly turkey.

My husband has goat farm.


I don't like pork,but I love seafood. Unfortunately, its very very expensive in Abuja and you mostly get frozen ones ,and I hate frozen foods.

Ask4bigneyo:
Ogun State

Far far from me.Hmmm

Kobojunkie:
You need to get the backstory to this story before you continue abeg! Check OP'S previous threads.

Gone through it.
What does the wife need now? After all na she open yansh for a 55k salary earner, still abandoned the children join? Wasn't she aware he was a low-income earner before accepting his spermatozoans?

Tor!

Prospertochu:
She abandoned them with me because I wasn't financially buoyant .

Oooh!

That's bad. Unfortunately, she will get the kids because they are still too small.

But who the hell leaves a marriage that produces triplet?You don't abandon such rare miracle, but I will never understand why people do somethings you know.

adanonso:
Am currently at Nnewi. Anambra State

Awww!
You're way to farrrr from me

Yes!
Of she gets a very good lawyer,especially those hot head human rights/family lawyers, she gets ALL the kids. You will have visitation rights and will be paying for their upkeep.

If I'm in her shoes, my lawyer would have handed me those kids since.