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shortgun:
You are a weak man, women hate weak men.
Them never born any woman well that will enter my house and detect how I'll run my home.
Men like you are the reason we have alot of spoilt girls all over.
Any man that dates any of my exes will be thankful to me for the way I groomed them.

Until you become the man and take charge of your home you will continue to whine n suffer

You think you are smart, but your reasoning is shallow and misaligned.

Understand things well before you comment.

Things like this are quite common in Nigeria.

Some people just hate the sight of progress even if it is very small, they start hating you and looking for ways to harm you.

Something similar happened to my sister's project but it was the workers who were sabotaging her efforts.

Obiworld2020:
pls tell me more about it, am interested.

If you love yourself don't do forex.

Maybe na hunger

Listen to me very well, IGNORE HIM AND HIS LETTER! That's all. Again, I tell you, IGNORE HIM! He can't do jack!! Just be sure you're not spiritually lame, so he doesn't jazs you if he's an alfa or diabolical in some way.

If he comes to make noise in your house, ignore him again and again and again. If he constitutes a nuisance, tell him you don't have the money to move yet. If he touches anywhere in your home, removes a window pane or padlocks anywhere, take a picture of the place first, report to the police about burglary and your suspect (the landlord), then get their permission to enter.

If he tries nonsense again, warn him you'll have him arrested. Listen to me. The property at this moment is yours, not his. He has handed it to you in lieu of money. That's what is called rent. If he trespasses the property he rented to you, he has trespassed your right. No one can eat his cake (rent money) and still have it. The property can only revert to him when your money expires, and even then he should get a legal document (eviction notice from the court) if he cannot be patient for you to leave peacefully and at your convenient time.

Stop being afraid of any landlord. The property he rented to you is yours at the moment! Quit notice is his own pocket. Don't tell him anything, when he's tired he'll go and get eviction notice from the court. Don't teach him what to do. The court will call you. You go honour the call and tell them you don't have money to relocate at this moment. The court will ask you how long you think you can get money to leave. Tell them 8 months. Then in 6 months or less, you leave. Never give the Shylock a hint of your moves. Keep him in the dark!

That's the rubbish they do now. They'll start backdating quit notice in order to escape the 6 months requirements. Just ignore him! Last last, he will humble and negotiate with you. You can submit the trash and weightless paper of no consequence he called quit notice to a lawyer though. But don't pay too much attention to him. It's in the past they used to intimidate people with OPC, everyone knows their right now!!!

MODIFIED: Most of the guys telling you 6 months is not free are shylock landlords like yours or their children. Rent default is not a criminal offence, it falls under civil law. He can only take you to court, and he cannot do jack again. If you don't have money, you don't have money. Tell him to give you time. That's all. If he breaks part of your home or padlocks it, that's under criminal law and you can get him arrested. The power is with you as long as there's an existing relationship between you as landlord and tenant.

You think you're smart. Ignorance can make people talk BS sometimes.

Fred166:
You talking out of the lane.

We're discussing sports, you're here talking about alcohol.

You have said it already that you don't watch football. Simple!

What's my business if you drink alcohol or not.

He's on point. That is called analogy and what you're doing is appealing to logic.

Respect people's choices whether they make sense to you or not.

mariahAngel:
Another thing about them is that they're usually very touchy.

You're not making sense. Everybody cannot like the same thing and because you know little about something doesn't make one stupid.

Learn to respect people's lifestyle and choices.

Lollittaa:
Those of you lambasting him,
Would you rather prefer they stay in an abusive marriage and end up like Osinachi Nwachukwu or that they dissolve the marriage and if they are lucky to find love again, to get married?
I notice how men are the ones grumbling in this thread. BRATISLAVA you see am ba?

The issue is not about whether you cannot divorce your spouse. It is about whether or not a divorced person can remarry.

einsteine:
You are telling people to check it out. Why not state it here since you are an all knowing blogger?

I am telling those arguing blindly to check it out.

I remember you Mr ITK. I schooled you the other day about not being a hateful, cynical critic, Mr. "Extremely stressful"

Seems you are here today for revenge.

Be careful bro, I go show you shege you if you want to play dirty.

tete7000:
What is marital unfaithfulness that is not adultery? And how do you reconcile yourself with this:

“Any man who divorces his wife and marries another woman commits adultery; and the man who marries a divorced woman commits adultery."
Luke 16:18

Oga there is google for research, check out difference between marital unfaithfulness and adultery.

chingydaboss:
My brother, just to Correct you, Jesus said a person can only separate from his/her spouse on the basis of adultery, such a person would remain single and not marry again.. There is a difference between Seperation and Divorce. Jesus never supported divorce in the Bible. As a matter of fact, God hate’s divorce…

Who ever separates should never get married. It is boldly written in the Bible

Actually he said on the basis of marital unfaithfulness which when loosely interpreted means infidelity.

Adultery is a form of infidelity bit not sufficient for divorce.

Fiscus105:
See urself and see ur life.

god of men that impose heavy loads on sheep and make the way to heaven, appears to be unpassable.

I see myself well. Thank God I am not a clergyman so as you assumed I am one that makes you an ......

I guess we both know your problem is beyond poor understanding.

OscarDboss:
Unfaithful and adultery is the same thing na
You dey disgrace your family for here oo
Adultery falls under it

Marital unfaithfulness also called infidelity is different from adultery.

You just disgraced your school, your family and all your friends with your ignorance.

Adultery falls under it so that means they are the same and this still makes sense to you?

Adultery alone may not suffice for a divorce (both in law and in church) but infidelity is sufficient grounds for divorce.

Fiscus105:
If u are a lady, u married to a man and in the next Sunday after wedding, he instructed you that , henceforth you should stop going to church and that two of u will start worshipping "God of stone"

Will u stop being a Christian?

If u keep going to church and start beating u, will u continuing in abuse marriage?

Now, if u run away after several blows in ur face, will you not remarry and have children?



This type of circumstance and more complicated ones are happening to people all over the world, learn how not to be myopic in ur decisions because ur own situation is blissful.

Speak for yourself and leave my situation out of your mouth.

It is the doctrine we are talking not man's failure in being faithful to his vows.

Mr myopic personified.

EIeyigidigan:
go and read that Bible verse again and stop misleading yourself

You are the one who is misleading yourself.

Research about the meaning of marital unfaithfulness and adultery before you talk about being misled.

Viktoro1:
So marital unfaithfulness and adultery is not same ?

No they are not.

Jesus was clear about what he meant.

Divorced people can only remarry based on marital unfaithfulness which is not adultery or on the death of your spouse.

donaldking100:
It still surprises me that after all the hardship & suffering in Africa, we still lose matches to all these ajebota countries in under 20.
Small children we suppose use red eyes bully.
With the kind thing wey i don see for this naija, i still don't believe that any of my age-mates in a white country would be able to beat me up in a fight.

You dey underate these oyibo.

The rise of MMA gyms and kickboxing academies is producing many bad ass teenage fighters.

If you jam the wrong one your eye go clear.

James Ibori once said, we have bad leaders because of bad followers.

That explains so much.

Bobmarie:
He has a way with words but his writing has no structure. All he needs to do is learn it and he will be a good writer.

You could also offer him tips on how he can learn it or more especially show him what the structure could look like with one or more examples - If you want him to know.

einsteine:
Oh well, maybe you guys share the same profile of neuro divergence. I am sure if you surveyed 10 readers, 7-8 would find his line of reasoning tough to follow.

This kind of writing would score extremely low marks in any language assessment test.

Probably you share some similarities with cold hearted, cynical critics.

Whether he scores low on whatever assessment you call it, I am quite sure dude is testing the waters.

Criticize with helpful tips not harsh statements like extremely stressful.

That sounds hateful especially as you didn't specify ways he could improve on it.

By the way, are you the entire 7-8 readers? What if you're wrong?

Bobmarie:
I just commented this. It seems he was rightly sacked because his knowledge of his co workers personal profiles is very alarming.

Even if he was told, the memory retention is scary. Almost like he intends to do something with their details.

I read a comment in the first page commending his writing. That gave me a laugh!

I have an uncle with a photographic memory that can tell you details of discussions he had with people over 30 years ago.

Some people are like sponge that retain a lot of information and even if he is an aspiring novelist, the guy is on his way to a destination.

We can critique all we want but as far as I know, his writing is good.

einsteine:
Poor writing.

Their ethnicities and alma matters are not relevant to the discourse.

The write-up lacks structure and coherence and at the end of the day, it is extremely stressful to understand the essence of your narrative.

I disagree.

I understand the essence of his narrative and it was not extremely stressful for me.

Mystery2020:
"They finally employed you. I hope you have a strong shoe", she said. I did not understand what the teller meant.

I had spent about a quarter in this new generation bank, I was ridiculed, insulted and bullied by the head teller and cash officer who is a Unilag graduate, the branch manager (BM) who once accused me of stealing, and my new supervisor who just got back from maternity leave.

This new supervisor, Fatima, was a curvy ebony naturalised Hausa-Fulani woman. One day, she asked if I have a lover. Then told me to come along with her for a drink. She wanted to take me out after the naming ceremony of the head teller's new baby, but I refused to attend. The following week, she began telling other staff members that I am stubborn. This was the genesis of my problem with her.

A lot of flirting used to happen in that place. Only two of the women out of eight were spared; one Yorubanised Hausa woman and maybe the CSM. Even the CSM gave me flirty looks several times. One of the tellers once called me gay. Asking if I don't have erections.

A new girl was hired. She was an introvert like me, but from Enugu state and a graduate of ESUT. Coincidentally, one of the Yoruba staff and a Business Administration graduate of OOU served in her village. This young lady, an Anglican, can be mistaken as the daughter of the Nollywood and Yoruba language actress popularly known as Lanre Hassan.

She made it known to management that she prefer to be in operations. However, she was brought to marketing. She said they told her point blank at head office HR that all employees in our cadre must first work as a marketer regardless of their qualifications. She had no choice but to accept the offer, so I decided to help her adjust and settle down.

The BM is a Catholic, who once forgot to attend Ash Wednesday mass despite always wearing a rosary. He is the temperamental type who takes first impression seriously. He is the first child of his family, and was often tasked with carrying the ladder up and down the streets of Nnewi for NITEL technicians when they're trying to fix the family's landline. His first car, a Honda "baby boy" Accord was stolen at gun point.

The BM, owns a shell company with address in Lekki where proceeds from dubious deals are laundered. Some of these proceeds he shared among the operations staff headed by one pretty lady; a charismatic Catholic & graduate of Ekpoma. I was told by a teller that this lady (CSM) once approached the manager to give her and the boys 'something'. This teller lives in a 'selfcon' in Surulere, which he inherited from his grandmother.

They tested me withing my first week of resumption. They sent me to a customer; a Micro Finance bank in Ikeja, with a t-fare double the required amount. When I returned, I wanted to return the balance but they all ignored me. They sent me to the MFB again the following day. I simply used the balance from the previous day. I thought I did the right thing, not knowing that they only wanted to know whether I came to Lagos to "count bridge". A question the 'Surulere' teller eventually asked me rhetorically.

They lied to me that I can not request for a t-fare lower than what I got previously again, because they will be queried by internal control. A lady in the customer care unit who attended FGGC Calabar, tried to ginger me not to answer them, but I gave in and continued to accept the bogus t-fare. Months later, the OOU graduate told me to stop behaving like a saint, that even my then supervisor who is married to an Mbaise woman collects double of that figure.

Just before the ESUT lady resumed, the manager withdrew the branch car from me, then gave me a target to open 80 accounts, sell 40 cards/POS, and mobilise ₦40 million, all within a month among other tasks. He was also using me as his P.A. and 'man Friday' for his exportation business & family Charity.

The manager refused to give the ESUT girl targets. He played a smart one by asking her, "Do you know what your target is"? She answered "no". While walking away & pointing to me, the manager said to her, "Ask him". I responded like an imbëcile; 80 accounts, 40 cards/POS, ₦40million monthly. To add salt to injury, the branch car was made available to her most times.

She was given tasks that will make her develop faster as a banker. While I was left to roam about the streets of Lagos on foot like a lunatic, who is possessed by a legion of vagabond spirits recently rendered homeless by D.K. Olukoya of MFM. Three months later, our mate in another branch told me he never go on errands without their branch car, and that he even took driving lessons with it. Na dis kind people fit the industry. Lol.

This new girl almost made the same 'first impression' blunders I made that earned me the title of "the laziest staff the manager as ever seen". I was there for her at every step, mentoring her and teaching her how to deal with them (other staff members). I will defend her in her absence whenever they speak ill of her, and always advise her on how to correct these bad impressions. I never knew that I myself had become the topic of their gossips. They gossip me even with cleaners, drivers and security men.

There was a day I came late due to an accident in which my knees were bruised. They were still in the morning meeting when I got there. The BM queried "why are you just coming? who died?". "I will make this place unbearable for you if you don't sit up".

Then the scheming against me began to heat up. She joined them to gossip me. There was a time I caught three of them by the elbow; Fatima, ESUT girl and CSM. The Ambrose Ali lady (CSM) quickly lied that the manager was asking of me. I knew she was lying but just had to leave the room. I was thinking the ESUT girl will gist me later. I am still waiting for the gist as I type this föölish epistle.

Then ESUT girl started mocking me codedly. "You are going again?" She will ask with a sadistic smile whenever I am about leaving for marketing.

For six months they tried to destroy me psychologically. I will save what they did for later. My mates in V.I., Apapa, Nnamdi Azikiwe, and somewhere else in Lagos Island which I won't mention got similar toxic treatments, but with different flavours.

Their breakthrough came during an arranged MPR meeting where I was thoroughly mocked by all the staff. The BM even called me a slowpoke. ESUT girl laughed at their insults to my dismay. Then the manager noticed my mood has changed, & sensed the opportunity to go in for the kill. Stand up!", he shouted at me, I refused. They all shouted, stand up! even the ESUT girl. Then the head teller said in Yoruba, what the hell is wrong with this boy?" That got me really pissed off. I scanned the room, my previous supervisor was biting his lips and smiling slightly. The manager snapped his fingers at me, making the impression of 'I will deal with you'.

The CSM called me for a chat, she pretended as if she cared. But her opening statement gave her away. "What you did was very rude", referring to the MPR incident. She wasn't present. Her, the first teller who asked me if I have a strong shoe, the FGGC Calabar lady, and one other teller, a man from Kwara, left the room to attend to a matter before the attack happened.

She kept going round in circles, asking stupid questions like do I have problems convincing people to open accounts? Asking me if anyone in the branch offended me. Asking me to tell her what they did wrong so that they can avoid such mistakes in the future. I was now convinced it was an exit interview. I got to know they planned the whole thing a couple of months before.

By 12 noon I got a one-page query for insubordination and two other offences; the third was a serious one. He copied the HR Business Partner who was a graduate of English Language, and 2 other executives. I won't be surprised if he did a Blind Carbon copy to the entire banking group. I replied in three lines. Business partner said I should report to a particular HR staff on Friday of that week.

On Monday, I reported to head office, HR staff has gone on leave. It was another HR officer who attended to me. A short lady, she covered her ID card so I didn't see her name. She asked, "What did you do to them that made them write all those things against you?" I did not do anything, I replied. "And they wrote all those things", she said. "They can not all be bad people", she continued. She said I showed too much anger in my reply to the query. She then went on to give me a lecture on anger management. I kept looking like mumu.

Worried about my calmness, she asked me what the problem was. I told her I have become addicted to painkillers. She asked what my future career plan is, and I told her. Of course it was not banking. She said there are more mad people in that particular sector. She said they will get back to me.

My system password was about to expire the week of the incident, but I didn't reset it. I came around Tuesday morning to know my fate, nothing.

On Wednesday, BM showed me a letter from HR Business Partner dated Tuesday, indicating that I was done. "This is what I have been telling you", he said. He asked me to login and send my handover note but I told him I can't. He was trying hard to hold his laugh.

A month later, I was getting strange calls from unknown numbers. Maybe they wanted to know if I have committed suicide. By the grace of God I am gainfully employed.

You will make a lot of money as a novelist.

JooEeL:
That is why they first sold you the concept of a god you never see or hear. Not once in your entire existence!

The reason is to keep you masses in the slavery you are in!

Benue governor is there telling Nigerians to arise, or you did not hear him? A sitting governor making such statement and u cant see the danger everyone is in? I was just laughing when he was telling nigerians to arise. In my mind, I was like this man doesn't know that nigerians are just a mass of dunces that have no will of their own. Even docile donkeys are better than them. Misery will always triumph over d black man because his brain hasn't evolved.

They are just religio-brainwashed dumbos!

I have been seeing your comments about Nigerians being docile, maybe they need an awakening to stop being docile.

Something like patitos gang but on social media.

It can be a one man journey initially but will gather momentum with time.

I am of the view that people should know they can live far better lives than they have rather than continue to thank God for the crumbs they are getting.

ChemicalReaction:
What if she dies in your house?

How people invite strangers to their home and feel comfortable beats my imagination.

Na God dey save person sha.

This is one question I ask myself. A perfectly healthy person can die at anytime, how would you explain yourself.

jkuvira:
'A judge with low IQ' ��.
One of the reasons we have law is so we do not overcompensate or undercompensate for a crime we are charged for/ have committed. And the judges follow this law, even at times when they know a punishment is too small or big, they follow the punishment proscribed in the law. If you have a good lawyer, you'll come out a free man, on probationary terms.

Judge with low IQ is hypothetical.

In the US maybe, but in Nigeria except for technicality, you will do jail time if there is evidence.

Best case it would be treated as manslaughter.

Massiveglory:
What he did is bad but if he has a good lawyer, he can win in court.

Story. Only a judge with low IQ will acquit a murderer with hard evidence to prove it.

As long as his brother was unarmed and not a threat to him, with the evidence found, he can't escape justice even if he hires all the SANs in Nigeria.

Deprofessional:
Thanks nairalands.

For a start, I bought 3,000USD at 620 per dollar cash.

This is about N1,860,000.00. I plan to hold that for now.

Truly, Naira is falling very fast. No wonder our politicians no longer steal in Naira. They do that in dollars.

Money speculation is as risky as forex or football betting.

This is not wise. You should have bought land instead and hold for 5 to 7 years. Lagos and Abuja population is growing really fast.

If Tomorrow Nigeria now starts exporting more than importing, your dollar will lose value against naira.

bjdon:
The only reason 30 people will come and rob in Wuse2, is becasue they have full confidence they will not be confronted by the law enforcement. Just like the Kuje Prison attack, this all points clearly to collusion between law enforcement and the bandits. Nigerians need to wake up and ARM THEMSELVES. If a fulani herdsmen can have an AK 47 to protect his cows, than why would i not have a gun to protect my familly? The late great Gani was reported to have said "IT IS ILLEGAL TO OBEY THE LAW IN A LAWELESS SOCIETY'

Bros once you get your gun from Legal source, please show me the way.

ThisisIkemefuna:
Hi
What POS machine did you buy and please can you point me to reliable POS machine dealer in Lagos?

Kudi. It is now known as nomba and I am based in Abuja not Lagos.

The POS and Akara stand you talked about both work.

I make more than 40k monthly from my wife's shop with a POS machine I bought for 25k and 80k capital I started with.

My wife does the POS thing for me from her shop and she is always busy with her shop sometimes sending POS customers to other places.

One of my wife's customers fries Akara and the woman buys two bags of beans per week minus millet and maize that she also sells.

The Akara woman makes at least 50k profit per week and she can still expand.