Romance › Re: When You Win Lottery And Your Girlfriend Shouts "We Have Won" by lanicky(f): 9:41am On Jan 14, 2016 |
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Romance › Re: Advice For Cheats And Their Partners. by lanicky(op): 9:38am On Jan 14, 2016 |
joseph1832: On the contrary my simple-minded friend, you're the one who don't know what you're talking, because if you did, you would have added all the people you quoted, to give your thread substance, but did you add it? Nope, it only took my intervention before you could even add it, and here you are saying, I don't know what I'm saying. Like I earlier said, how do you people pass exam in school.
Just so you know, the people you quoted are professionals in their field of study and they've actually carried out research about this subject, so I ask you, are you a professional? What is your academic qualification? Is it related to the matter being discussed here? What and what research have you conducted? And how and how is the research you conducted carried out? Which method of research did you use?, and what is the conclusion you arrived at?
So my dear, posting different links here doesn't mean you conducted any research, and here you are saying you know what you're talking about Wetin you know? Like I said, are you an expert in the field of divorce/marriage/family and how it affects a child's psyche?
Please and please, refrain from saying things you know little or nothing about.
Imagine dis pikin, becos you read online article makes you an expert. Una no go kill person for this romance section. LOL. Like I've said earlier... I do research before creating a thread. I don't just open a thread, because I want to. I don't need to write 7 paragraphs of advice on infidelity before YOU understand. Many people don't have the time to read a whole page of whatever you decide to type even if it's meaningful. It's not my fault that you find it difficult to understand.  I created this topic to help people overcome infidelity. I've achieved my aim already. So there's no point arguing further.  Age doesn't matter when talking about family issues, experience matters. You wey dey talk sef, how old are you?  Do have a nice day dear.  |
Romance › Re: When You Win Lottery And Your Girlfriend Shouts "We Have Won" by lanicky(f): 9:14am On Jan 14, 2016 |
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Romance › Re: When You Win Lottery And Your Girlfriend Shouts "We Have Won" by lanicky(f): 8:57am On Jan 14, 2016 |
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Romance › Re: Before You Bullshit Your Woman Or Wife, Look At This Picture! by lanicky(f): 8:50am On Jan 14, 2016 |
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Romance › Re: What Helps You Relieve Stress{pick Only 3} by lanicky(f): 8:48am On Jan 14, 2016 |
Music  Massage Fighting.  |
Romance › Re: When You Win Lottery And Your Girlfriend Shouts "We Have Won" by lanicky(f): 8:46am On Jan 14, 2016 |
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Romance › Re: When You Win Lottery And Your Girlfriend Shouts "We Have Won" by lanicky(f): 8:38am On Jan 14, 2016 |
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Romance › Re: When You Win Lottery And Your Girlfriend Shouts "We Have Won" by lanicky(f): 8:23am On Jan 14, 2016 |
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Family › Re: Why This Oyinbo Married A Nigerian Lady by lanicky(f): 8:15am On Jan 14, 2016 |
DavidEsq: Not exactly; its Urhobo babes that rock! Read the comment again. All the Urhobo babes in the house, put your twos up!!!!! *In Phyno's voice* Yeah!!!!!!!!! Yoruba girl's rock.  |
Family › Re: Why This Oyinbo Married A Nigerian Lady by lanicky(f): 8:14am On Jan 14, 2016 |
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Romance › Re: Advice For Cheats And Their Partners. by lanicky(op): 8:10am On Jan 14, 2016 |
joseph1832: OMG! How do you people even pass exams in school? Who is talking about satisfaction? Or even creating a counter thread? This seem to be the norm is this section, where personal opinions are taken as facts and shoved down our throats for all of us to swallow. Good riddance.
What you wrote up there is clearly just you expressing what you've heard and you coming here to say it as fact! Which its not! You said 70%, then said if not 70 then its 50%, this only show you are not sure of what you're saying. If you had done a proper research, you wouldn't have that, because your research finding will do the talking for you.
Using your opinion as fact without proper evidence to back up your claim is tantamount to you showing everybody that you don't know what you're saying, thus, your thread is a fallacy!. Wake up dear, listen to news, ask people around you, search the web and you'll get almost same result. Okay I said 70% before, I was quite sure of that based on my experience, but when I gave it a thought again I said 50% or 70%. I said that, because I've not traveled around the world to ask every children. You were talking about doing researches on this particular topic..Lol I think you need to visit... www.daily beast.com and www.book.Google.com to see how wrong you are. In this case of infidelity, Adult children of cheaters often struggles with trust issues of their own. When children find out about an affair, it's not just the cheating, but how parents deal with crisis that can have the most profound effect on their children's future relationship. Says sex and family therapist..Dr David LustermanAccording to Lois Braverman the president of Ackerman institute for the family, "Infidelity's impact depends heavily in the parent- child dynamic established after the affair." Children who are made confidants by the betrayer, or the one's left to comfort the betrayed, tend to struggle with anger the most. Also...Ana Nogales said "young women tend to suffer more when their fathers are caught cheating" Pls do your own researches well before you counter people's opinion on a thread.  Thanks. [size=20pt]I know what I'm saying, you don't.[/size]  |
Romance › Re: Advice For Cheats And Their Partners. by lanicky(op): 7:01am On Jan 14, 2016 |
joseph1832: You still fail to even grasp what I'm saying, that this is clearly your opinion and it lack proper evidence.
You said 70%, now you're saying if not 70%, then its 50%. My question still remain, how did you arrive at that 70%. You said you've spoken to a lot of people who were divorced or product of divorce, tell me, where did this "a lot of people come from?" What's their tribe, religious, academic and financial background?
Like I said earlier, this thread of yours is opinionated, and lacks merit. If you've spoken to a lot of people and they said what you typed above, I too have spoken to a lot of people and they said the opposite of what you said, and so did obontami, allnaijablogger etc.
Everybody coming with their personal opinion based on what they've heard doesn't make it a standard fact!. So please, kindly remove that 70% or 50% you put up there, cos that is the basic proof that YOU DON'T KNOW WHAT YOU ARE SAYING.
And good morning to you too. If you're not satisfied with what I wrote up there, kindly create a counter thread. Thanks. |
Romance › Re: A Guy Wrote, I Have Nothing To Do With Poor And Broke Ladies, Ladies Attack by lanicky(f): 6:44am On Jan 14, 2016 |
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Romance › Re: Answer This Question With All Sincerity! photos by lanicky(f): 6:42am On Jan 14, 2016 |
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Family › Re: Why This Oyinbo Married A Nigerian Lady by lanicky(f): 6:40am On Jan 14, 2016 |
sonofananimal: only to secure VISA!
that's what you people are good at! apart from that nothing much about NAIJA GIRLS. Your monicker explains it all. Yh...nothing much about Naija Girls, but there's absolutely nothing at all about Jungle guys. |
Family › Re: Why This Oyinbo Married A Nigerian Lady by lanicky(f): 6:37am On Jan 14, 2016 |
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Family › Re: Why This Oyinbo Married A Nigerian Lady by lanicky(f): 6:37am On Jan 14, 2016 |
henryhemon: You think just being a Nigerian girl makes you rock? You go join sense add me and make a good life out of it not by selling your body. Explain the boldened part pls  |
Romance › Re: Advice For Cheats And Their Partners. by lanicky(op): 4:00am On Jan 14, 2016 |
ronald4ever: Lanicky, number one rule for a cheater is to dump their ass. Every other is secondary and not worth deliberating on.   |
Romance › Re: Advice For Cheats And Their Partners. by lanicky(op): 3:59am On Jan 14, 2016 |
TrapLORD: Cheaters over to you!  
Lanicky you quoted me twice. Yes, I did.  The other thread is in total mess. |
Romance › Re: Advice For Cheats And Their Partners. by lanicky(op): 3:58am On Jan 14, 2016*. Modified: 9:55am On Jan 14, 2016 |
joseph1832: How do you know 70% of children will not forgive their parent if they know they cheated? Kindly provide proof and evidence to ascertain your claim, cos I believe you must have done a research for you to arrive at this conclusion.
You should know majority of Nigerians aren't honest with themselves, in fact, they see themselves as primus interparas, thus, this gives them the belief that they can do whatever they want and go scud free.
Yet another opinionated post devoid of facts and proof of evidence. Honestly, you guys who come up with all this bullsh1t post should just learn to state it clearly that your post is just base on your personal opinion. Stop coming here and saying this and that and attributing and believing your opinion are facts!.
Thank you very much, thank you very much!!!.
Good riddance!. Good morning sir. Well if not 70% then it's 50% I'm quite sure of that. If we're to open a thread on this, you'll know I'm right. I've had the opportunity to speak with lotta people who are product of divorce or bad marriage. Sometimes, when I create a thread, I talk out of experience and what I have seen nd heard. Some children grow with grudges against their father or mother, because they were there when everything happened. It's easy to forgive, but very difficult to forget. |
Romance › Re: Advice For Cheats And Their Partners. by lanicky(op): 3:47am On Jan 14, 2016 |
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Romance › Advice For Cheats And Their Partners. by lanicky(op): 7:01pm On Jan 13, 2016*. Modified: 8:02am On Apr 30, 2016 |
OK, I'm here again with my wahala. Make una no vex o. Lol. If you've ever been cheated on, you know the way pain and anguish that accompanies it. The feelings of rejection and helplessness are almost unbearable, but rest assured there is help to the situation. To cheats: 1) Think of your children: Do you think they will forgive you if they find out about what you've been doing? 70% of children find it difficult to forgive their cheating parent. Think ahead to what court might think of you as q parent. You may think your partner won't fight you on custody, but people change when they get into divorce court. 2) Be honest with yourself: Do you think you have nothing to hide while trying move forward. Sometimes the past do hunt the future. If you can't stop on your own, get professional help. If you know you're not willing to stop the shameful act and you don't care about your partner, you'll let him/her go.  3) ASSESS YOUR COMMITMENT LEVEL AND ACCEPT YOUR RESPONSIBILITIES: Are you committed enough to your partner in order to do the work necessary so as to repair the relationship? Have decency to tell your partner in all honesty and candour that you own your choices. And that you're the one who ran the relationship off into the ditch. Do whatever it takes to earn your partner's trust again. In conclusion: You have to pray, because your problem might not be ordinary.  Now, to the partner: Try to forgive: Forgiveness is a choice. It doesn't mean what your partner did right. Try to figure things out with your partner, set new rules and try to be understanding and accommodating. If you have a doubt he/she would dissapoint again.....and you know you won't be able to handle the pain and dissapointment. Let go nd move on. It's better to let go than continue to live in anger, thereby subjecting your partner eternal mystery. Finally, Do not blame yourself : the fact that your Partnerl cheated on you doesn't mean you're not beautiful or handsome enough. Know that you have nothing to do with your partner innapropriate, self destructive choice to turn from you to some one else. Thanks. Cc: lalasticlala Alienstar Obiorathesubtle TrapLordTrapLord Chisco82 |
Romance › Re: . by lanicky(op): 6:44pm On Jan 13, 2016 |
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Romance › . by lanicky(op): 6:17pm On Jan 13, 2016*. Modified: 6:48am On Jan 14, 2016 |
OK, I'm here again with my wahala. Make una no vex o. Lol.
I've created another thread
Pls move to the new thread.
Thanks. |
Family › Re: Why This Oyinbo Married A Nigerian Lady by lanicky(f): 6:08pm On Jan 13, 2016 |
Nigerian girls rock!  |
Family › Re: When An American Child Prays For Her African Dad by lanicky(f): 6:04pm On Jan 13, 2016 |
Hilarious  |
Romance › Re: A Guy Wrote, I Have Nothing To Do With Poor And Broke Ladies, Ladies Attack by lanicky(f): 5:40pm On Jan 13, 2016 |
Eveezy: am gud too. u look lovely btw Thanks  You look good too. |
Romance › Re: A Guy Wrote, I Have Nothing To Do With Poor And Broke Ladies, Ladies Attack by lanicky(f): 5:39pm On Jan 13, 2016 |
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Romance › Re: A Guy Wrote, I Have Nothing To Do With Poor And Broke Ladies, Ladies Attack by lanicky(f): 5:20pm On Jan 13, 2016 |
Eveezy: Hi lanicky, how u? I'm good. You? |
Romance › Re: Answer This Question With All Sincerity! photos by lanicky(f): 4:32pm On Jan 13, 2016 |
See qwesshion  Na to remove all the teeth  I'll get new set of plastic teeth later. It can't happen though...it can't.  |