@ Poster
I can't really comprehend how women see things. I maybe wrong though. In the first place, why do you have to tell a third party what you and your husband to be earn. women just love to talk. However, I'm not telling off your concerns but these are things you can only discover yourself by discussing and studying your man with sometime and not telling everybody you earn times three more than your man..... kapish

kenny987:

The point is, no probative value can be attached to it because it is not recognised by the law. That is the position of the highest court of the land beyond which no appeal can lie.

Ma'am,
Though, I'm not in the Legal profession but you just made my day with your concise and simple explanation.
Question: Did you study Law in Nigeria? Because you sound like somebody that knows

@ eddyland How do I put my TV on Input mode

YoungExec:
Well, you all have shared ur experiences. Now let me talk from the other point of view.
Two things are constant:
1. Often times, we criticize the staff we find most valuable not because we hate them but becuse we expect better from them.
2. We invest time and resources into moulding them up. Often times we hire them as fresh inexperienced graduates and start brushing.
The problem a lot of people have is that they do not bring an air of professionalism to their jobs. They get too familiar or subservient to their bosses. Hence when you want to leave, the boss takes it personal. Sometimes too personal.
You may not realize it but the corporate space is not that big. Every boss knows another boss, who knows a boss that knows your new boss. An employer who feels slighted, who feels they invested a lot in you only for you to abandon them will track you. You will not know but trust me, it happens and sometimes, you may pay big time.
So bottom line is, I cannot employ you into my small company, see potential in you, groom and invest resources in you only for you to take it all and run to Shell or Chevron. That hurts. What happens is as you leave, you close the door of opportunity for the next person coming in to fill your position as I may not want to invest same.
Our HR dept keeps serious tabs on our staff and often let you go long before you decide to leave. How do we do so?
We have what we call the Base staff and the Echelon staff.
Base staff are dispensable, they are the muscles. Easily replaced. The moment a base submits a notice of resignation we do not hesitate to let you go.
Echelon staff on the other hand are the brains. They are the core. They posses full administrative and decision making powers. Without them, we will be out of business.
However, to ensure that we do not lose echelon staff:
1. We make it extremely attractive (Profit percentage pay, expense accounts, globe trotting, housing etc)
2. We make it extremely difficult to attain (high promotion review standards, acceleration for exceptional performance)
3. We make them stakeholders (they get stock options, full executive powers)
So far, it has worked and we have very low staff turnover simply because everyone sees the perks of being an echelon and aspires to attain it so they are willing to endure a lot of stuff until they get there.
My 2 cents.

You are absolutely right.
I was working with a Coy. I was well equipped and given a car plus other working tools but the money was not too good. I gathered experience under intense pressure from a female Boss. She's sound and knows the Job with a great drive. She has a problem of unprofessional conduct like insulting her subordinates and attacking there persons. Though she has a slight preference for me among colleagues probably because I put in my best and work out my butt.
God answered my prayers and I got another Job that pays 3 times more. Prior to then, I was at the verge of closing a government deal on behalf of the company. My Boss insisted I close the deal before I leave and I agreed. Luckily for me two days later the deal was brokered and signed. Therefore, I stuck to my initial plan of two weeks notice. When it was time to go she was mad and told me to stay another two weeks but I turned her down because I was tired of been abused and I had to move on.
She gave me a shocker when my new employers went for a background check in my previous company. HR contacted her and she wrote my new employers that I never resigned plus I'm still working with them. I was highly embarrassed and my new appointment suspended.
Anyway God fought for me. My new employers called me back. While she lost her Job though for something else

Lesson: No matter what, always leave on a good and cordial note

@Ireneony

I've gone through most of your post.

You too like public attention. Are there no real guys in your world.... aside social media

Kath5kouture:
My name na Katherine. kouture na couture! 5 na number I like! Any other tin?

Ma'am I can't clearly place what you mean by being less attractive. But for me, I think less attractive and more attractive is relative.

But I know most ladies want taller men, good sense of humour, Intelligent, good dress sense, confidence and to top it up financially stable. For some ladies, these qualities makes a man more attractive.

While for some other ladies, what makes a man more attractive is just the height, good facial appearance, nice dentition, nice colour of eyes and six packs (fine boy). With all these qualities, the guy here may lack some qualities mentioned from previous paragraph.

My point is what may be attractive to Miss A may be less attractive to Miss B and vice-visa. In all something must attract. All these I believe form qualities of attractiveness which may be relative.

Babe something got to attract you guys now.

awhales:
He should visit any major distribution outlet in his place of residence and ask for the sales rep. I will recommend Nigeria breweries sha... goodluck and all the best

Good response. Need to know why you are recommending Nigeria Breweries or it's preference to Guinness.

lmao @ Chienyego nigerian men to day stupidity.

On most cases before women are married, day to day they are more stupid.
But it's been transferred to the man after marriage. By then men do more stupid things.

Though not a constant. .

DivideUs:

Rent cheaper in the north Abeg share what you are smoking, simple Google search will get you numbers for estate agents, try that and you will find out that rent in kaduna north is about catching up with abuja, try it and get back

Bro that's the truth. Rents are averagely cheaper in Northern part of Kaduna as compared to Southern part. My colleague was transferred there and that was the first class experience plus I spent my last annual leave there. Though I was born and grew up in Kd but I'm not more there.

It wasn't like that before, it's because of continuous drift by most Christians from the Northern part to Southern part due to insistent ethno religious Catastrophe eating the City.

Furthermore, Christians are realigning to the South because there are more victims on their side.

To crown it all, From my perspective, the Kaduna I know and grew up from is long gone. It's looks kind of divided. If you ask me, I will say Kaduna is leaving on past glory.

Ibnsultan:
Rubbish. There is Nothing like s/N kaduna city. And if its for the North & south kaduna state its made up of muslims n Christians folks who are developing their local economy& infrastructure. For the Neglect we are all suffering from the poor leadership since 1999.
Am from southern Kaduna

DivideUs:


Bro, I don't even understand what you saying. There is Kaduna South LGA and Kaduna North LGA (All in the state Capital).
The fact that you are from where you said you are from does not distort fact.
The Topic of discussion is North/South divide in KD which is very obvious.


Rent cheaper in the north Abeg share what you are smoking, simple Google search will get you numbers for estate agents, try that and you will find out that rent in kaduna north is about catching up with abuja, try it and get back

Bro that's the truth. Rents are averagely cheaper in Northern part of Kaduna as compared to Southern part. My colleague was transferred there and that was his first class experience plus I spent my last annual leave there. Though I was born and grew up in Kd but I'm not more there.

It wasn't like that before, it's because of continuous drift by most Christians from the Northern part to Southern part due to insistent ethno religious Catastrophe eating the City.

Furthermore, Christians are realigning to the South because there are more victims on their side.

To crown it all, From my perspective, the Kaduna I know and grew up from is long gone. It's looks kind of divided. If you ask me, I will say Kaduna is leaving on past glory.

NB. You don't need to insult anyone before driving home your points.

marieolae: thnks

Very beautiful, I must say.

I'd love to know you...add me...my bbm pin 7A43C2D7

MsPat: Mr Lanre80..i do not appreciate insults from anyone. I was tryin to make a point and that is, guys shud not always expect benefits for being nice.
So take ur retarded mentality elswhere...PERV!!!

Lol @ perv. . Ma'am I was just pointing what you are insinuating. Maybe or maybe not you are like this, I don't know. From biblical saying by their words we shall know them.
And stop shying from topic of discussion 'Friend zoning'. If and if a guy wants something from a lady.. You women always know. If such a woman continue to receive favors from the guy and give nothing. That is where the problem lies.

You see, I can help or be nice to a lady with no strings attached. provided I see the need and it is within my pocket, no hitch. And same thing goes if it is a guy.

However, I don't easily get trapped in the friend zone when I was still in the game because I know my onion. How the girl wan do am.

popobaba:

walahi I wan buy u beer...

Thanks bro.. She may or may not necessarily be what her message is depicting. But I just simply pointed out the obvious from her statements.

MsPat: SMH for ur poor man mentality! Aka-gum....abeg shift make breeze blow me!

Summary of what Mspat is saying: For her legs to open, you will pay... Not just pay but good money.

Woman, I'm sorry for you because you are suffering from oloshoish otherwise known as prostitution. .. capish. Just remember.. life is brief

Good day nairalanders...
Anyone here with an idea of the package for a sales officer... in FMNPLC
Need to knw pls

pc guru: When i see a fine babe, the first thing that comes to my mind is the Halo theory, how she can be percieved as a smart person just because of her beauty, then i start to think of all the open doors that will be opened to her based on her looks, then my minds dives into more complex thoughts about such industries that give such opportunities based on looks. After that i start to study her to see if she,s smart and if she is, then such babe will pose a danger to other people. After being satisfied with my analysis, i then start to stare at her boobs. True story

My thought also bro

@ Op
All has been said. I read through your post and followed statements, and i found out that your case is just like mine. Talking about admission, assigments, pockect money, money for hairdo etc all these i provided. But she left with same excuse admidst all plea from me, families and friends. In my own case i think she gave five months but left after only two months. Later, I got to know she was dating a guy from her place(~he has a job, a car etc). But then i had this strenght within me that i will make it. Two months after she left me, i got a good paying job with an official car, laptop, phone etc. But do you know what happened to my ex? Her new man left her. Though we're still friends, It's been two years, she still searching while i'm married to a more beautiful woman who also has a well paying job.
pls be cheerful and hold onto God. He will surely come to your rescue.e

The problem with Nigeria is that we forget easily. Before The court convicted the police pension boss and a few others, the Senate invited him and his fellow thieves but were all left off the hook and told to go. This same Police pension boss was later convicted in the court. Shame on the Nigeria Senate.
If Maina was found wanting of misappropiation in the course of investiging Police pension, he should be equally punished. But Maina indicted some police officials including the convicted Police pension boss. But the senate never saw anything wrong with these people when they were invited for stealing 23 billion. Intead, they are running after 119 million allegedly cornered by Maina in the course of investigating Police pension funds. I think the senate are being mischievous.

I beg to differ. What is the offence of Maina who is just pension task boss and does not have access to pension funds but to double check adequate disbtribution by pension fund managers. The law makers are just nothing but shameless thieves. I believe the truth will come out one day. Maina unfolded the corruption in the police pension in which many other top politians are inolved. That was why d guy pleaded guilty and got soft landing with the help of other political thieves.

There is no doubt that ACN is performing but at thesame time amassing wealth for Tinubu.
My problem is that Lagos state is making lots of money from TAXATION. Then why make Education(LASU) so expensive. For God sake, is education not suppose to be one of the major responsibility of Goverment ie Making it available & affordable for it's people. ACN is misbahaving because PDP has failed.
ACN should be more pro Masses. That is what Goverance is all about.

I doubt this story. A civilian will slap an officer and most probably a captain, i bet his sorry ass will bring out blisters from drilling

snoopy:
I more than maximise its potentials, I study architecture and hence do A LOT of CG that involves 3D renderings and animations for myself and for corporate individuals and firms as well...I've figured if u really want a good rig, the best bet is to customise, that way u get to choose the things u want inside cuz you can never get the perfect rig in the market, if ur processor is good, ur graphics card my be crap, or u have a good graphics card and processor but crappy ram size

When i saw your system configurations, what came to my mind was CG ans 3D graphics. I bet you must be enjoying that system.

@Fellis, u sure got a good system. Big girl

@ Snoopy, an engine u got there. I hope u are maxmising it's potentials cos ur system can do wonders

@ fellis. Bad girl. as in thinking he's a big boy b4.
laptop rating~ Regardless of brands, we should be talking about RAM, processor speed, hard disk size & others which depends on what you are using it for.

@poster sorry 4 d embarasment doc.
u see d man on duty is only following instruction. Militaries are tot 2 follow instructions 2 d letter especially wen on duty. D instruction may b whites are not 2 enter d barrack 4 wat eva reason.Wether d white is nigerian is irrelevant because of instruction. While on duty they must avoid bridge of such instruction. In context he may kill 2 avoid violation of d instruction. He's not expected to contact d cso for a standing instruction which may look incompetent

@op I can assure u that she won't marry u but u can both catch fun. If she decides 2 marry u, u and her has 2 run far from her family or north generally cos they may kill u or both of u.
WARNING: If both of u are in d north, then desist from this relationhp to keep ur life. But u can survive it in ABJ but not all parts of ABJ.
Ques. ARE READY 2 GO WITH THESE CHALLENGES, IF YES CARRY ON.

The major problem ravaging Nigeria is corruption against all d resources that are more than enough 2 move Nig 4ward.
Buhari is about d best option in trashing corruption.
Nevertheless, winning election in Nig takes more than d core north. What Buhari is 4getting is that he also needs south coax support. When Buhari makes utterrances as such, mobs harassing INEC chair in d name of supporting him, Mobs killing 4 loosing election.
If Buhari must get coax support from south, he must condemn such acts

@ those of calling Mark a dumb ass. I think u don't knw what u re saying. I prefer u call them thief & looters of treasury or are ur parents smarter than mark.
senate presido i wish u quick recovery

@ivoice247 & d rest. Fashola is a visionary leader who see ahead. I was born in kaduna to muslim family.My nysc in zamfara,i've lived in sokoto n kano n now Lag. Some public schs there force girls 2 wear hijab regardless of ur religion. U see b4 now it wasnt like dat, now wen religious activities are not controlled in public life, people take it to d extreme which brought north 2 where they re 2day. Religion must b seperated frm governance 2 move forward.This is d major problem killing nothern nig

i am in kad presently & i have visited d crime scene, how pathetic. I saw human body parts in pieces scattered on the ground. It happened on saudana crescent by junction road. Eye witnesses say the vehicle carryiny d explovises did not get to it's destination but exploded on the road.

@op i fink it's all youthful exorbitance. d younger, d better~so do men fink n Bleep around them. i also met a pretty girl(& a 4 cgpa pointer)who we attended same school together n where members of same club. To b frank she use to b arrogant n a snub. i was tripping n toasting her, but she kept on bouncing me even while other girls flock around me. she has changed, so polite n respectful.I asked her boss how far?He said she is a no go area 4 me cos she's lookg 4 husband. + she's paying attentn 2 me

i've been in dis kind of scenario b4.Ma virgin gf was d churchy type.when we started dating,she said no pre-marital sex n i neva objected cos i really liked her.Anytym she comes 2 ma place we play since i'm no stone.Though afta enjoying it she wud warn me n come again. 1 day d play got off limit n i almost enta her ireland but stop ma self, i was so aplogetic. she just kept saying i'm a fool. i got anoda chance n i busted dat thng.She was mad n left.Afta a while she came back.They always do.

@freecocoa

I'm feeling you seriously.
Nevertheless, All tribes and ethnic groups have their own problems. Which means majority of yorubas are associated with cowardice ( but not all)
Majority of Ibos are associated with armed robbery (not all), and so on

Less i forget, stop stereotyping, Probably, you never can tell. You may be getting married to a yoruba.