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My people,lets call a spade a spade. Women are FORBIDDEN to have extra marital affairs.

Look at this situation. A marriage of 18months. The wife is a 31 year old beautiful woman,childless. Six months into the marriage,the husband starts coming late from work and from outings and starts giving all sorts of excuses.Starts acting funny and all. Sex became a big issue,the woman never complained. Sex only happened when she initiates it. If she doesn't, he doesn't bother.

Now she's worried because she wants to have children and the husband thinks she is putting pressure on him.

The truth is that sexless marriages are a big deal in our society so i really do not judge people. If you do not give your spouse the required attention,someone else will dangle the carrot at them. It is now left for them to accept or not. God help us all.

OP,please do not tell your husband abut your affair. The truth is bitter but the society is not fair to women. I am not trying to justify what you both did to each other but when the whole thing comes out in the open,you, my friend will be on the losing end. No one will opennly condemn your husband's actions. But you will be called every unprintable name in the book.

If i were you i'd do everything humanly possible to mend fences with him. Since he has told you about his own misdeeds,just accept it and  let it go. But bear in mind that it doesn't mean he won't repeat it. Afterall he is a man. But you,my friend should personally work to restore your dignity. What you did might be wrong but who are we to judge you. Just confess to your CREATOR cos he is the only one who can trully forgive you without rubbing it in your face at every opportunity.

We are all humans and are prone to mistakes.

I met a guy like that sometime ago. His wasnt just mouth odour,but also has BAD body odour.
What did i do?
I ran and never looked back.He still asks me what he did wrong up till today but i keep telling himits better he doesnt know.
I just cant get myself to tell him the the truth because it`ll just kill his ego.

@ Somebody
I totally agree with you. I think this Slaykay guy is just too full of himself.Like you rightly said,he could come to nigeria and find out that ht cant just fit in cos he just doesnt know how to.Imagine comparing us Nigerian BANKERS to America big shot Asset Managers.Maybe hes just a janitor in the firm and he happens to know a little about pple working there.

SHIO!!!!!!!!!!

@Coolisaac

I feel you jare.For the first time i totally disagree with so many of my fellow Nairalanders.Maybe we should try clarifying issues befor posting replies. Haba!

Marrying u simply means getting married while you still have age on your side.Abi?Oga poster?

eeewwww!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Abeg,
Dis kamura guy is just a sisi jare.

If you notice all his threads,its either one of his girlfriends are doing one thing or the other to him.

Com`on man,you need to be the man in your relationships.

I wouldnt date someone like you,i swear.

I love it when a man is the MAN in a relationship.

Owerri gurl for real.

Allcorrect, whats up.

Am going to meet my guys parents for the first time this xmas in PH.I have spoke to his mum several times and hes really ecstatic that am coming to spend the holidays with her and husband.Am kind of nervous sha,but i know it will be wonderful and My guy wants to show me around town PH and also his home town.Am really looking forward to it.In fact am taking a leave from work so that i can really enjoy myself without thinking of work,

I have read all that our compatriot,slaykay07 has said and i just cant help but laugh.
Who knows who this guy really is. He may be one of those guys who spend all day on the internet hoping to maga one mugu. And am sure hes an educated one jugding from all the grammar hes blowing.

Well,am speaking for all the Nigerian bankers in ther house.We are PROUD to be NIGERIAN BANKERS and we know what we are doing. If given better opportunities, the sky will be just our stepping stone.

The stress much, but like one nairalander said,the pay is good.

Think Banking,Think Oceanic.

My pple,
Have you ever heard of a leopard ever changing its spots.The poster could be one of those chicks who men date just for sex and she mistakenly gets pregnant. If not i think the husband deserves to be respected no matter what.

She is just a slut for all i care. She purposely faked her illness so that she and her stupid brother in-law coud have their way.Its the husband i actually pity,to think that he actually has a wife at home.A dog will always be a dog.

She was a slut before she got married and she will always be one.Am very sure that her brother in-law isnt the first person,maybe her boss,all her male collegues,her neighbours have all banged her.

Ashewo osi.

I don't normally comment on threads like this, but i guess it's high time that Nigerian bank workers should stop deceiving themselves as bankers. It is so annoying that customer service, compliance, marketing department, cashier, , trusteeship, broker, asset manager, custodian, even gatemen etc all call themselves BANKERS in Nigeria; so far they work in a bank. Please wake up to reality, you guys are not banker but going bonkers, you're just bank workers.

It's just very painful when you see graduates with high level of intelligence, going around misusing words. I came across someone last december who works in transfer calling herself a banker[/color]


So,
Oga Slakay.Who is a banker?

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Yes Uche.I will marry you,if you are TDH(tall dark and handsome) +rich.

Back to the topic,
I really dont think you are asking for too much,monisoola.but if you ask me i thing you should really consider the religion part of your relationship before anything else.Who know if your guy had already thot about and has suddenly become indecisive concerning your marriage plans.I think you guys should really talk about it before making any firm commitments.There are so many things that love cannot sort and one of them is religion.

Now this is the the kind of thread i like contributing to not the amebo threads that we are all used to.

I can see that oceanic bank is the bank of the moment on the thread.

I`m a staff of oceanic and i also bank with GT and intercontinental,and believe me the story is all the same.banking is made difficult by the customers themelves.Every customer wants the be treated like hes the only customer of the bank.A customer service officer has to deal with more than one person at the same time.At the end of the day,the officer is confused,the customer is pissed off.

Its an interesting job,if you know that you are doing,but its also risky cos of the material involved (money).If anything goes wrong,its either the staff is on his way out of the job (or the industry) Or you are heavily fined.
So when next you walk into any bank,just appreciate what they are doing cos its not BEANS at all.

@ Poster
I understand completely what you mean.Although i think you are being childish about it.

I am currently seeing someone am not attracted to sexually.Hes fine and all that.Its not that
hes rich,but hes very comfortable.We both work in the same bank but diff branches.He nice and gentle and treats me with with all the respect .But the fact remains that i cant get myself to get intimate with him.

I know how it feels.Whether we like it or not,theres more to marriage than what we all think.Sex is as important as any other thing.If you marry someone you are not sexually attracted to cos it will backfire later in the marrige.If at least in the first few weeks and the fire isnt burning yet,theres possibility that you are just going to stay with the guy out of pity(and self pity).

Some guys should be kept as mere friends.Try taking your mind out of him and start seeing him as just an ordinary friend,you wil definitely feel better.[b][/b]Dont marry a guy you can`t express yourself with,sexually.

OMIGOSH!!!!!!
How romantic.
The guy love you `die`.

Hi
About that party,its not a bad idea sha. I reside and work in Lagos and a party would be just nice.
Please someone should keep me contacted when a date and venue is deceided on.

See i just dey look all of una.nairalanders.always quick to pass comments.Anyway,thats what we are all here for.
So keep on posting.

@ifugo ife
Thanks.I appreciate your concern.But i can tell you am very real and am always myself.That i cant really say of most Nairalanders.

Ok.Fred,nice to meet you.I just wanted to meet someone real,cos all i see on this site are a lot of pple who feel thir opinions are the best.

I want to meet a really good and down to earth Igbo guy.No playa-haters pls,and pls dont send any reply if you dont have anything decent to write.

I can marry my agemate if we are both in our 30s.Being 27,its not really wise to marry my agemate because a 27yrs old woman is definitely more matured than a 27 yrs old man.So the older the intending young couple,the better.Abi what do y`all think?