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Fibonacci88:
Comrade lower ur voice. Na women like sex pass just dat we guys always loud our own feeling. If ur babe doesn't make sexual advances to u for 3 days it's either she's getting it elsewhere or doesn't find u attractive.

Since women like sex that much and it's biological, I see no reason why men should rave like mad dogs when his wife cheat. Men always advocate for women's forgiveness when it happens because y'all blame it on sex drive. Since women have higher sex drive, apply the same forgiveness when your wife gives the pussy to another man.

RAGGA40:
Real men that will be your personal slaves right, i'm not in support of what that foolish op did.

I don't mean for any gender to be enslaved to another. As long as she is coming to see you and you requested for it, then courtesy demands you foot her tfare. If a man comes to see me, I always give him transport back because courtesy demands it. They always reject it but I offered at least. Same way it goes for dating. Whoever asked for the date pays be it a female or male.
Anyway, I always advice against traveling or going to see someone you met online especially when it is a different state. Security for Nigeria isn't present. No man is worth the risk of leaving my state for him when I have never met him before.

They will complain that Nigerian women are just beauty with nothing to offer. They will still see a lady who isn't too beautiful but is ready to foot her bills or carry her weight and they will treat her like trash.

Having standards reduces easy access to useless men.
Your married sister will meet her waterloo, how funny it will be when it's a lady like that will set her marriage in disarray.

Women, know your worth and add tax on it. It will scare useless boys away (redpillers and misogynistic idiots) and attract only real men. What would make a lady travel all the way down with her money to see an impoverished boy? Even with his transport fare, don't do it.

BigBashiru:
Men do not chase women for being women.... they only chase sex they can get from the woman. If its a relationship - both people chase themselves and agree to date themselves....

Also men chase women in an equal number as women chase men.... women are just more coded with their chasing so they aren't called ashewo....dassal

Also women love sex just as much as men... they just coded in how they pursue it....

You don't need to chase a woman for sex. That's y there are women that can be paid for that. If you don't like women , then don't bother going for companionship or a relationship, buy sex and go. It isn't hard. A prostitute has already itemized herself to be sold as a sex object. My problem is believing and trying to make all women into objects to be owned.

Women love sex as men do but that doesn't mean that they lose self control or start begging or worse still invest time and money just to get it. Why is that? Cause there is easy supply from men and that makes the demand of sex from women less.

Nyascobar1414:
hahahahaaa....
I'm attracted to the opposite sex, thats normal.. But Ion have anything to do with them IF am not ready to marry...
I have also turn down many girls, so it a win win.. When I turn them down, they now claim like they hate me... Ladies value mens attention, that why they post all those naked stinky pussy on media... Just that you have been able to see niggas that beg and chase the other gender...
Me, Ion do that, instead they chase me, which I hate it, cos they will look desperate and weak..
Let me tell you, most men dont love women for sex... That why you see men after marrying the so called wife, especially after pregnancy, they leave her and go for the next hot girl..
So, most men beg ladies for sex disguising it as love...

Thats why some real niggas after sex they will hate you.. Cos that what they wanted. Not love...

Not all men chase or beg ladies..
Its only weak, pussy ass niggas..

When I just remember that any beautiful girl that I fancy is just like another human(girl that menstruate, pussy still has bacteria, smells).. Its likewise a turnoff for me..

Every part of your body has bacteria so it makes no sense. And just because women chase you doesn't change the fact that most men chase women than women chase men.

Nyascobar1414:
But most of Y'all women are living under the pay check of men..
If men leave women alone, women will starve and die.. Just go to a university and see how married men sponsor this young girls..

I just take girls like normal beings, but I'm really surprised as some men hold them at high esteem..
When I was a lil kid I thought ladies were different set of beings,as in they dint defecate,urinate and so on.. But when I grew up and with the knowledge of biology I knew that women also excrete, even menstruate..and all those filthy stuffs.. I was kinda piss off...
Just that I look beyond lust that why I take women as normal beings.. And Ion fornicate, so why the Bleep should I value women...
I dont..
Women make men submit to them cos of sex.. But I've overcomed sex and lust, so no shii with me and women..
Only when I need kids I can house a female and endure all those filthy stuffs that come with them..
And note, I ain't gay, women turn me on, not men. But I still suppressed libido, grace though.

So because women do the filthy toilet duties men do, you were pissed off. You are talking like women created themselves. So immature and delusional.

Women don't control men with sex. Men allow themselves to be controlled with sex. No one is begging you guys to approach ladies. In short, I'm irritated by the number of men that approach me daily. Not all ladies want male attention and the ones that do don't even meet the men to give them attention, men give them on their own accord.

You said women will starve if left alone, then leave us. Let us be the one approaching you guys then. Because with all the bashing that women are useless and only for the money, men are still ready to fund a girl's lifestyle and not just fund but beg the lady to even be in his life. I'm talking from experience. Most men than women go after the opposite gender.

You don't care about us so why are you worried that we are going to be hungry? If men left women alone and relationships were not seen as poverty alleviation scheme, then women would be forced to work.

And you said you were attracted to women, it's funny. How can you be attracted to a gender that you see as inferior, a gender you disrespect and hate? Make it make sense. Women who hate men follow the gender they like.

It's still your gender that will approach a lady and be scorned when she refuses to be with you. It's your gender that can't take no for an answer and is ready to put money just to make the other gender appreciate them. It's your gender that would still come online to insult women just because she didn't love you. Go with the superior gender and leave the inferior gender that has so much weakness.

Akinola100:
Please people, I beseech you to not listen to her. People like her only mislead people and when something eventually go awry, they are no where to be found. Be a human being. Full grown adults should be able to differentiate right from wrong. No one will force you to not wear what shouldn't be revealed, just know that your body is sacred, and as such should be carried with dignity.

Says the gender that doesn't respect their body. A man can't control his urges so he tells the woman to control what he sees so he can control himself. Make it make sense.

SonOfEl:
Nonsensical feminist junk.

If you encourage nudity, you are encouraging lawlessness. Insecure lots wanting to be like men even to their own shame.

Are you a man? Do you want go bare chested in public like men? Copy copy..... Please go ahead...

21st century my foot.... In actual sense, we are going back to stone ages where nudity began. Are you evolving or devolving?

Nobody supports rape, but if you keep aggravating a man's hormones by being nude in public...good luck to you...

A shark becomes wild once it perceives blood, that is it's nature regardless of what you do or think. Every healthy man has that innate desire to copulate when he sees a grown lady's unclothedness, he only tries to walk away from it so as not to be seen as been unrefined and unbridled.

So in other words, men are animals that can't control themselves. This whiny ejaculating gender sef

Dreytonisback:
There's never an excuse for rape
If you're tempted then approach her nicely , if she agrees cool, and if she doesn't just walk away at least u tried.

I wonder how a sane person will forcefully slide his di.ck inside a woman's vagin.a without her permission and still have the guts to moan
Penalty for rape should be instant death .

And if you don't understand the pain and heartbreak that comes with rape , I'll give you an instance

"IMAGINE SOMEONE FVCKING YOUR WIFE/GIRLFRIEND RIGHT IN YOUR PRESENCE ALL BC THEY'VE GOT A GUN AND YOUR WIFE IS CRYING AND MOANING TO THE HARDCORE"

Lights up my kpoli in peace

So the only reason you are triggered is because you wouldn't want it to happen to your wife? A wife isn't a property

ekusigo:
Sorry ooooo
Although rape is the worst crime against women and the above view is the logical conditioning from the western world.

Please, separate chronic/crude mental perverts from the kind rape you envisage with the above picture.

I had a relative that was always dressing like this in my hood back in the days.
She became a target for all he-goats (in human form) but for the Strongman she had in an older relative. He was constantly told that they were just tolerating her provocative dressing because of him but he should talk to his 16year old sister.

It took counseling from my brother who she looked up to for the desired change.

The western world and Africa are two entirely different places, the probability of being caught and brought to justice in Nigeria is low. Contrary, in the western world this is the reason why some innocent people aren't criminals yet.

Please, all my sisters cover yourselves well. It ain't a hundred � guarantee but it can help.

If you are a logical person, you would know there is no separation between who rapes a young scantily dressed lady and who rapes children? If a man can rape a scantily dressed woman, he would also rape a scantily dressed child, he would also rape a scantily dressed old woman, he would even rape a goat because they are naked everytime.

SonOfEl:
Point of correction, a woman does not have the right to dress the way she wants. This is because of the nature of her body. Both common sense and spirituality says that.

By nature a woman's body anatomy is designed to trigger sexual interest from the man even if she isnt in the mood. Simple human physiology explains that.

Am i justifying rape? Hell No! But why harass a man mentally and psychologically when you know by nature he is driven to show sexual interest when he sees a woman's unclothedness?

What of children and covered ladies that are raped? Who is responsible for this ? Any man that is ready to harass a lady just because of her choice of clothing is a demon and deserves to be castrated.

heniford2:
you can wear pants and bra and move to slum areas alone too and say its men fault, Rape is bad but i have come to understand that 70% of Rape cases are caused by female

So children that are raped is caused by the children?
Let me ask you a question? If a man begins to flaunt his wealth and he is beaten and robbed? Would you say it was his fault? If a woman kills you because she was cheated on like the story that was on front page, will you say it is the man's fault for cheating?
Men would perpetuate the act and still blame women for what they perpetuated.

Don't you "alpha males" get tired of dealing with a weak gender? I mean, you guys see women as shit and thrash. Go for your gender.
This stupid notion of wooing a lady with love and of course money (it's obvious you never told her she was going to be a Bleep mate) and then sleeping with her and leaving her is so childish and if that's what you use to pat yourself at the back as an alpha male, then stupidity is the least of your titles.
When a topic is brought up that a lady used you and dumped you with the promise of love even though you were her cash cow, how many of you dogs will huff and puff?

I have met guys that had money, who are ready to throw peanuts at ladies just to keep them and yet I stood by a guy who had nothing. I am a student, I have dreams, needs that couldn't be met by him but I stuck with him anyway. I never asked for anything, not a dime but out of the little I had, I gave. Not just money, my time, my efforts, my care. And what did I gain, nothing. It taught me lessons but I still don't see all men are useless. Most of the men on NL are but the ones I meet are not. You don't see me trying to write topics on how much I hate and detest them. If you have to, you probably don't.
Talmabout how women should be ready to offer money and all in a marriage and yet is not allowed to live just like you just because you have a prick, if she does that, what would you have to offer apart from your money as well? STDs, not doing duties and taking care of the kids? Please.

If I earn as much as any man that wants to marry me (I know I will) and bring money into that marriage as much as he will, I won't do any chores nor will I carry the pregnancy of our children. The moment he cheats on me, the marriage becomes an open one. If he files for divorce, I will take the kids from him and make him miserable. Since men want equal contribution on their part.

BigBashiru:
Only young girls are approached and that's just because of nature that's all....

Same way girls like guys with money... its all nature.

Nothing personal

And it's nature that makes men shame, disrespect and abuse women online. And not only young girls are approached. I won't even argue with you on that.

Tosin9119:
May God bless you abundantly for this write up. They claim women have weaknesses like natural smelling vagina, smelling menstruation and so on, yet, they won't let them be and start dating their fellow men. They keep coming to this forum wailing about how women are cheating on them, demanding money from them, being rude to their siblings and parents, how useless their girlfriends and wives are, but, they are still going after them as if women are the air they breathe.
if women are useless and wicked like some men on this forum are claiming, then, leave women alone and start going after your fellow men. It's as simple as A, B, C

Thank you oh. The number of men that approach an average Nigerian lady that is supposed to be "useless" is baffling. Married men, broke men, men with money, all of them. Then, when she rejects them, they would feel bad. Tell them you have someone else, they would be saying it doesn't matter. Accept and cheat on them with another man that says the same thing, they would want to die. With the way men can't take cheating, I'm sure that's why they don't menstruate and give birth. They won't be able to handle it.
Funny that these same men that claim a Nigerian girl is materialistic and a gold digger just because a richer man approaches them and they accept are still the ones that go about sowing their seeds like dogs. They cheat for no reason and even lose money in the process but shame women for cheating on them for money. Like if the said money is offered to them, they would reject.

Nyascobar1414:
With all women weaknesses they still gad pride.. Y'all menstruate,the blood smells, naturally pussy smells..
So I really wonder why some niggas hold you at high esteem..
Only that you've come across weaklings disguising as real men..
Pity SIMPletons.

If men can leave women alone, then the percent of stories on this forum of women being useless would reduce. "Women are this, women are that" online. "I am a redpiller, women are inferior to me", it's even stupid to be dragging superiority with a "weak gender". Be an alpha male and leave weak females. Mate with your fellow superior gender and have peace of mind. Build an home with a man like you who earns as you do, will contribute like you will and won't be removing dirty blood monthly, who hasn't been damaged by a large number of dicks.
That is the real redpiller, not the broken hearted boys looking for women's loyalty and affection (something you all lack yourself), who come online to wail about how useless women are and how they should be treated like shit. Don't be a simp, start fucking men like you, I mean y'all are the strong gender.

Nyascobar1414:
Then stay single in peace!
Is that difficult?

I'm not the gender that pursues the other gender and still come online to cry about everything they do.

Nyascobar1414:
on a normal setting.. He is the man, he makes the rule and the woman obeys, if she is not willing she GTFO

So because he has prick, he should be obeyed. He isn't ready to provide but he wants to be obeyed. Omo, the stupidity of men on this forum is so rich that I can use it to fund a slay queen's lifestyle.

tunjilana:
They cant get domestic help...besides they will still need it regardless. House work can be outsourced but finance cant

Who will pay? If he is given a duty and he can't meet up, he would pay for that chore to be done by an help.
I don't even see any problem with the list, Nigeria isn't going well at all and couples need to put head to support each other financially. I'm just referring to the way he decided their future on his own. If the tables were reversed and she gives him chores to do unfailingly (I'm not saying once in a year support that men usually do), what would be his response or even your response?

jditimiya:
Any man that needs a happy home much and shall help his wife to do the house chores because that will even help the woman to be more productive and make the home a place for all to live in.

Help. I didn't say help. Since he gave her bills to sort without her input, he would be given chores to do as the woman see fit. This is when it is partnership in op's case.

zedegit:
Like I said what he requested is like a woman suggesting having a time table for intimacy: twice a week(Friday and Sunday by 10pm)

How will like a woman to suggest you cooking always during weekends?

Yes a woman should assist but not like this. Let him ask her instead of imposing it on her.

That #80k for your information is nothing in this present economy talkless of removing from it.

Some of his demands are ridiculous. It shows autocracy.

My point exactly. A man like him won't want to be assigned house duties. If he can be comfortable with the chores she would assign to him without his input, then there is no problem.
Funny he wants partnership for his list that he created alone for their future. Really funny.

[quote author=bigpicture001 post=109048153][/quote]Based on what you wrote, it seems your ex didn't leave you just based on just this budget. It might have been your past behaviors with this topping the bottle.
I won't say I'm a feminist but one thing I have always hammered on is equality. There is no problem with you wanting to share bills but bear in mind that you are not getting married to yourself. It's not just your home, it's the both of you home. In everything, wisdom is key.
The first thing you should have done is making that list together. You seem to be someone who feels your opinions and ideas are superior to her's hence the reason you decided to sit down alone and make a list of both your futures. It's really funny you did it alone, I mean, this is coming from a guy who wants equal or at least, almost equal contribution. She was supposed to be a life partner so you should have sat down together for the list.

Secondly, with this list, it won't be a problem when you are comfortable with designated house chores for you. It shouldn't be a problem if she gives you say for instance, the duty of cleaning the house and taking the kids to school while she does everything else. Bear in mind that you will clean after yourself and wash your clothes. And after birthing the children, provision for her to get her body back in terms of money should be like an equal answer to her carrying a child for nine months and going through excruciating pains to birth it out. I mean, it's both your children. Since you want partnership, why should she be the only one in the business of losing just to bring forth a child? If you see no problem with this, then you are not a selfish person after all.

I shake my head at the generation of youth we have today. Shameful, if you ask me. Most women don't want to provide and also don't want to take care of the home and the kids. Most men want to be relieved of the burden of providing but also don't want to help out in house chores and childcare.
If everyone relegates their duties to the others, who then will do it?

I also saw your comment that you are scared of going for a lady with higher income because of how her attitude might be. Money makes one proud. It takes grace and humility to submit to anyone that earns as much or higher than you do. The lack of money was what made women of the past docile. These days, with women making it for themselves without the need to depend on a man, that respect you crave as the head of house would be hard to get. I for one will not bow or submit to a man just because he is a man if I earn a lot.
You may have lost this relationship but use it to reflect on what I said. If house chores were easy, it won't be an occupation that pays. If you can equally take in any chore given to you, then your list would make more sense. Also, if you find a woman with higher income, take the lack of submission if there is as a cup of tea that comes with it.

The op is a narcissistic hypocrite who thinks he is too good even though he has lived nothing short of an irresponsible life.
"I can't wife her, I had party with her and her friend, she is not worthy to be my better half"
You yourself is not worthy of being someone's husband. Your virgin or pure wife needs a pure man as well, not a man who is able to have sex simultaneously with two women.
If your manner of explanation was different, I would have supported you because I don't stand for paternity fraud and all but your constant use of derogatory terms shows :
1. You are not over her
2. You are angry she dumped you instead
3. You can't believe someone else loved her as you have decided to be the judge of her life.

Your fight for paternity is not from a place of a father fighting for his child, it is from a place of an immature almost- reaching- his- middle- age- man who has deep rooted hatred for women hence sees them as expendable tools, so when this lady does this to you and still sees someone who values her, it burns you.

I pray your quest doesn't bring shame and trouble to both you and the girl's family. And a piece of advice, let love shine through your heart. Your redpill tendencies and hatred for women would make bad parenting for your supposed child.
Let he who has no sin cast the first stone, ciao.

whirlwind7:
All right, hotshot.
Since you already got your mind made up that you must, as a matter of life and death, confirm if that child is a product of some of the wild oats you spilled in your adventure laden life, why are you disturbing the cyber space?
By all means, go ahead and barge into her marriage and demand for a paternal test, and leave everyone else the fvck alone.

You don't need any advice. You were only seeking anonymous validations for yet another adventure you are itching to embark on. Godspeed, and happy hunting.

In the event it goes awry, of course no one would feel sorry for your ass.
This is abso-fvckin-lutely unbelievable.

Like, exactly. He only needs validations to carry on. The funny thing is when things go awry, he might open a new thread with a new account to still seek pity and wound licks.

T0T0fucker:
all guys can't be like your boyfriend who flush their offsprings at any given time.

am a different kind of breed .. the only time I flush is when I use condom.

we just friends with benefits, nothing serious.... talking about love is far from it.

like this a girl I did thr3esome with her friend in her presence.

common..... since the child is a circumstance, if it's mine.. am ready to accept my mistake.


but letting another man take my biological child as his I can't allow that.

your boyfriend can allow that with you.... but me I can't.

once again I give no hoot about her, it's that offspring I want to know if its mine or not.

You brought your problem to the public for opinions but because it differs from what you want to hear, you mirror your life on mine. You are a narcissist with serious personality problems. And when you finally prove she is your child, I hope you be a responsible father. My only concern is to that lady who made a mistake sleeping with you, holier than thou hoe.

OhiOfIhima:
You call that rubbish bcoz you don't know the value of kids, if you're, you should fight to get what belong to you.

It really appalling, now her marriage is more valued that her wayward life.. You deserve Buhari in 10 years to come.

If we look at it critically, this guy is only after the child because she is with someone else. He might not be in love with her but the shock of a lady doing that to him. He speaks like a narcissist. If the said lady had told him of this child during the time of their relationship, he might have flung money to her for the flushing of the baby.

OhiOfIhima:
You can imagine the rubbish, every actions have equal reaction. The man should not let the matter die. Let him seek for legal mean to tackle the issue.

. If he takes it to court, he would lose it. No judge would give a child to a father that is single and had no plans of shapening his life to be responsible.

QuickStandard:
Useless generation, all they think of is Men.
Whereas they have nothing to offer a man in a relationship or marriage other than sex and children.
Looking for men to hook, still they will be the first to call men scum. Spits

What do men have to offer apart from money?

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When she took in, were you going to marry her? If no, then you are no worse than a murderer.
Also because someone aborted doesn't mean he or she is a bad person. Things happen.
You who is ready to say a secret you might not have been privileged to know if not for circumstances should also bear in mind that you are no clean yourself. I'm sure if you wanted that child, she might have not aborted it.
Are you even saying you haven't made mistakes in your life? Imagine someone coming out to tell your wife to be the sins of your past.
You said she dated two people before you which means her body count might be three before she met this man that wants to marry her. For you to slut shame her, let me ask you another question, how many girls have you bedded? If this said lady didn't give you sex during the time of your relationship, would you have accepted it ?
Before you remove speck of dust from your neighbor's eye, clean out the log of wood in yours.

Starzo:
Hunger and poverty don really finish your life to the extent say u nor fit construct two sentences without mentioning the two words.

Same way you mentioned hunger and poverty before any other words.

Starzo:
stop sharing your problems to the world

You're not the only starving leech in Nigeria

I'm not the one who is so quick to insult and pour frustrations on a stranger. Bros go chop and stop losing your civility over someone's comment. You will be fine.