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 Jobs/Vacancies › Re: My Job Hunting Experience At Beloxxi. by lavylilly: 7:21pm On Feb 19 |
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| Family › Re: Moms Love Is Overrated by lavylilly(op): 3:33pm On Feb 18 |
I don’t think a father’s love is surface level. It’s just expressed differently. A mother’s love often feels emotionally close — she notices your moods, your stress, your everyday struggles. She asks questions. She checks in. She nurtures. It’s intimate and immediate. A father’s love can look more structured, more formal — sometimes even distant. But many times, that “surface” appearance is actually protection, responsibility, and pressure carried quietly. Mom may sit with you in the struggle. Dad may be fighting battles you don’t even see so you can struggle safely. Mom connects emotionally. Dad often connects through provision, correction, discipline, and sacrifice. The difference isn’t depth. It’s expression. Some fathers didn’t learn how to verbalize love. Some grew up believing love is shown through action, not conversation. So instead of “How are you feeling?” you might get “Have you eaten?” or “Are you focused?” That doesn’t mean it’s shallow. It just means it speaks another language. And truthfully, when a father opens up emotionally, you realize the depth was always there — it was just guarded. Both loves matter. One may feel warmer. The other may feel firmer. But both can run deep. Love800: 3 Likes 1 Share |
| Family › How I Cope With Everything Happening In Nigeria? by lavylilly(op): 3:33pm On Feb 18 |
My Escape Passport When NEPA strikes and electricity vanishes like my salary on the 25th, I turn to movies. Nollywood especially. Because nothing heals national frustration like: A village prince that went to London and came back with a British accent that sounds like he swallowed hot yam. A wicked auntie whose only hobby is “I will not let this girl rest.” A pastor that can see your entire destiny because you sneezed twice. I watch and forget: Fuel price? Dollar rate? Internet tariff? Suddenly my biggest problem becomes: “Will Chioma discover that the baby is actually the houseboy’s?” Netflix is therapy. Nollywood is spiritual deliverance. MUSIC – Emotional Regulation Department When the economy squeezes me like toothpaste at the end of the month, I plug in my earphones. Enter: Burna Boy telling me I’m a “giant.” Asake shouting something motivational I don’t fully understand but I accept by faith. Wizkid whispering peace into my stressed soul. Sometimes I dance aggressively in my room like I’m protesting inflation personally. The landlord might increase rent. But can he increase vibes? No. Music turns hardship into choreography. SILENCE – Because If I Talk, I Might Cry Sometimes, I just sit. No phone. No news. No Twitter. Because if I open social media, I will see: “Breaking: Something has increased again.” “Breaking: Something else has increased.” “Breaking: Your hope has also increased… in price.” So I choose silence. I stare at the ceiling like I’m calculating the GDP of my own life. It’s peaceful until my brain says: “Bro… how far that savings?” Then I immediately move to the next coping mechanism. FRIENDS – Group Therapy Without License Friends are essential infrastructure in Nigeria. You call them and say: “Guy… things are hard.” And they reply: “Hard? My brother, this is granite.” We don’t solve problems. We laugh at them. Someone will say: “If Nigeria was a person, we would have sent her to rehab.” Another one: “This country builds character whether you applied for the course or not.” We laugh until the pain reduces to 720p quality. Friendship in Nigeria is not optional. It is government-approved therapy. SLEEP – Temporary Relocation Sleep is my visa to a better Nigeria. When everything overwhelms me, I just say: “Let me go and reboot.” Because while sleeping: No bills. No traffic. No “urgent 2k.” No generator noise (in my dreams we have constant light). Sleep is not laziness. Sleep is strategic withdrawal. Sometimes I wake up and the problem is still there. But at least I rested before round 2. FOOD – Final Weapon Now let’s be honest. Nothing stabilizes Nigerian emotions like food. Jollof rice? National antidepressant. Suya? Emergency mood stabilizer. Pounded yam? Spiritual grounding exercise. You can be broke… but if someone says: “Come chop.” All economic theories pause. Food reminds me: No matter what is happening… at least seasoning still works. Nigerian Coping Formula 🇳🇬 Movies distract me. Music empowers me. Silence protects me. Friends strengthen me. Sleep resets me. Food restores me. Nigeria may test my patience… But my coping game? Elite. Because if we can survive here and still laugh loudly… We are not ordinary citizens. We are emotionally fortified warriors with rhythm and appetite. 💀🔥 3 Likes 1 Share |
| Family › Re: Moms Love Is Overrated by lavylilly(op): 3:31pm On Feb 18 |
otipoju:But your mom ask you the same question and you would ask why |
| Family › Re: I Became A Lesbian After I Caught My Husband Sleeping With My Nanny by lavylilly: 3:29pm On Feb 18 |
shepherd316:1 Corinthians 7:2: Promotes sexual purity. Encourages legitimate marriage. Does not explicitly outlaw polygyny. If it were a salvation issue: Jesus would have condemned it directly. The apostles would have labeled it sin. A clear command would exist. Instead, Scripture regulates it but never forbids it. That said — the New Testament clearly promotes the monogamous ideal as the safest, most stable expression of marriage. So the stronger argument is: Monogamy is presented as the Christian norm. Polygyny is not explicitly called a salvation sin. |
| Family › Re: Kindness Never Dies. It Multiplies by lavylilly(op): 3:27pm On Feb 18 |
Amen. Thank you so much. I am grateful. Emmy000seun: |
| Education › Re: WAEC Releases 2025 CB-WASSCE Second Series Results by lavylilly: 8:48am On Feb 18 |
See how a teacher killed the dream of a student donleo92: 1 Like |
| Family › Re: I Became A Lesbian After I Caught My Husband Sleeping With My Nanny by lavylilly: 8:43am On Feb 18 |
Throughout the Old Testament, several key figures practiced polygyny (one man, multiple wives), and it was not directly condemned. 🔹 Abraham Had Sarah and Hagar (Genesis 16) God still called him blessed and made covenant with him. 🔹 Jacob Had Leah and Rachel, plus their maidservants (Genesis 29–30) The 12 tribes of Israel came from this arrangement. 🔹 David Had multiple wives (2 Samuel 5:13) Described as “a man after God’s own heart.” 🔹 Solomon Had many wives and concubines (1 Kings 11) His downfall was idolatry, not the number of wives itself. The Law of Moses regulated polygyny rather than banning it (Exodus 21:10). The argument here: If it were inherently sinful, God would have forbidden it explicitly. 📖 In the New Testament: Church leaders were instructed to be “husband of one wife” (1 Timothy 3:2). But this requirement was specifically for overseers/bishops — not explicitly for all men. Some argue this implies monogamy was ideal for church leadership, but not necessarily mandated universally. Some argue that men separate sex from emotional bonding more easily. Women often bond more through intimacy. Therefore, male plural relationships are more “naturally aligned” with male psychology. This argument says monogamy is a social structure for stability, not necessarily a biological default for men. 38 Likes 2 Shares |
| Family › Moms Love Is Overrated by lavylilly(op): 8:42am On Feb 18 |
Moms love is overrated. From DM My dad and I were very close when I was growing up. He later suffered from prostate cancer, and during that time, I stayed with him in the hospital as much as I could. I helped in every way I knew how. Watching him fight for his life was painful, and we were constantly struggling to raise money for his treatment. |
| Romance › Re: What's The ONE Thing You Learnt About Women That Every Man Should Know by lavylilly(op): 8:21am On Feb 18 |
judatech: 1 Like |
| Family › Kindness Never Dies. It Multiplies by lavylilly(op): 8:12am On Feb 18 |
We had a tenant who lived in our house for many years. By the seventh year, my dad called him aside and asked a simple but powerful question: “What are your plans for yourself and your family?” The man explained that he had bought a piece of land two years earlier. He had managed to lay the foundation, but since then, nothing had moved. Life, responsibilities, and finances had stalled the dream. My dad looked at him and said something that changed everything. He told him he wouldn’t be paying rent anymore — not until he finished building his house. The man immediately prostrated. He was overwhelmed. He couldn’t believe what he had just heard. But my dad stopped him and said: “Don’t thank me. You’re not staying here for free. This is not comfort — it’s a push. Finish your house.” Three years later, he moved into his completed home. What makes this even more powerful is that nobody in the family knew. Not the children. Not anyone. Only my dad and mum. So how did I find out? 😂 At his housewarming ceremony, the man shared it publicly as a testimony. That’s how we all heard the story. It has been 13 years now. And I can say this with full confidence — my parents’ kindness is paying off. We, their children, encounter mercy wherever we go. Favor follows us in rooms we didn’t even pray to enter. Kindness never dies. It multiplies. And sometimes, it returns through your children. 1 Like 1 Share |
| Health › Re: Unstable Young Lady Found Acting Wild In Ikate, Lagos – Public Help Needed by lavylilly: 3:57pm On Feb 13 |
josielewa:FACT! The level of drugs abuse in the island is alarming. 4 Likes |
| Romance › What's The ONE Thing You Learnt About Women That Every Man Should Know by lavylilly(op): 11:48am On Feb 13 |
Men be honest, what's the ONE thing you learnt about women that every man should know by age 25 |
| Romance › Title: Love Vs Invoice – A Nigerian Case Study by lavylilly(op): 3:09pm On Feb 12 |
Title: Love vs Invoice – A Nigerian Case Study 💔💸 There are two types of men in this life: 1. The “My Love” 2. The “Kindly Make Payment” Let me explain. When She Loves You ❤️ You wake up at 11:47am. Her text: “Good morning my king 😍 Did you sleep well? I sent you 5k for breakfast. Don’t stress.” You didn’t ask. You didn’t hint. You didn’t even wake up early. Suddenly: Uber? She orders it. Food? She has a “discount code.” Data? “I had extra, I shared with you.” Birthday? Surprise party. You sneeze once? She Googles hospitals. You say, “I’m broke.” She says, “We are not broke. We are just between blessings.” ✨ You could say you want to start snail farming in Antarctica and she’ll say: “I believe in you.” Everything is free. Even peace of mind. When She Does NOT Love You 💀 You text: “Good morning.” She replies 6 hours later: “?” You say: “Can I see you?” She says: “Transport?” You say: “It’s just 15 minutes away.” She says: “Fuel is not smiling.” You send 3k. She says: “That’s just going. What about coming back?” You send another 3k. She says: “Hair is not free.” You blink. Invoice drops. The Billing Breakdown 📄 Item Amount Transport 3,000 Return Transport 3,000 Hair 8,000 Nails 6,500 “I’m Hungry” 5,000 Emotional Damage Pending Total: Your destiny savings account. When she loves you: You can wear one jean for 3 weeks. She says, “It’s vintage.” When she doesn’t: You wear Gucci. She says, “You look stressed.” When she loves you: You say, “I’m coming.” She says, “Be safe ❤️” When she doesn’t: You say, “I’m coming.” She says, “Coming with what?” One guy tested it. He stopped sending money. She stopped sending replies. Scientific confirmation: If she loves you, everything is free. If she doesn’t, everything is a fee. 💯 Moral of the story: Don’t argue with billing systems. Just confirm if you’re a boyfriend… or a subscription plan. The end 😂 1 Like 1 Share |
| Education › Re: Mabel Makun Transforms UNILAG’s Toilet Into World Class Restroom (Video) by lavylilly: 11:14am On Feb 11 |
meobizy:A year ke ? 3 months everything don scatter. 1 Like |
| European Football (EPL, UEFA, La Liga) › Re: West Ham Vs Manchester United (1 - 1) On 10th February 2026 by lavylilly: 9:33am On Feb 11 |
prinsam30:First, substitutions are never as simple as “he was playing badly.” A coach sees physical data, tactical balance, pressing triggers, and opposition adjustments — not just what is visible on the ball. On Mboumo: Even if he was quiet, wide players often stay on because of defensive structure and transition balance. If he delivered the cross for the equaliser, that shows why managers sometimes keep trust in a player — one decisive moment can change a game. Coaches think in probabilities, not emotions. On Cunha being subbed: That decision likely had tactical reasoning. Maybe the coach wanted: More physical presence in the box A different pressing profile Or to protect Cunha physically Sesko and Zirkzee on the bench? It’s not always about who is “better.” It’s about: Match tempo Opponent defensive line height Space behind vs space between lines Sometimes introducing two attacking profiles at once can destabilize your midfield structure. If the team was already struggling in build-up, adding more attackers without fixing progression could worsen control. Now, about the slow build-up with Martínez. Controlled build-up from the back is not meant to entertain — it’s meant to: Attract pressure Create overloads Manipulate the press However, if the tempo is too slow and there’s no vertical threat, it becomes sterile possession. That’s not a philosophy issue — that’s an execution issue. The ball circulation must provoke movement. If it doesn’t, it looks boring and predictable. The real question isn’t “why didn’t he sub earlier?” The real question is: Was the midfield offering progressive angles? Were the full-backs providing width and depth? Were there third-man runs? Was the tempo varied or flat? Football at elite level is about structure first, individuals second. Emotional reactions are natural as fans. But coaching decisions are layered — fitness, tactical data, opponent shape, long-term squad management. Criticism is fair. But it must be tactical, not emotional. 2 Likes |
| Jobs/Vacancies › Re: My Job Hunting Experience At Beloxxi. by lavylilly: 11:38am On Feb 09 |
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| Jobs/Vacancies › Re: My Funny Experience With An Organization by lavylilly: 8:58pm On Feb 04 |
Where's the bolded in the write up? SixSeven: |
| Family › Hit Me With The Hardest Truth You Had To Accept As A Man by lavylilly(op): 12:45am On Jan 28 |
Man to man, Bro to bro Hit me with the hardest truth you had to accept as a man |
| Career › Re: The Many Hurdles Of Remote Workers In Nigeria by lavylilly: 5:51am On Jan 27 |
emperor4love:YouTube or send a DM to @queenble on telegram. |
| Career › Re: The Many Hurdles Of Remote Workers In Nigeria by lavylilly: 10:00am On Jan 26 |
emperor4love:Not really |
| Career › Re: The Many Hurdles Of Remote Workers In Nigeria by lavylilly: 5:50pm On Jan 22 |
emperor4love:AI automation |
| Jobs/Vacancies › Re: My Job Hunting Experience At Beloxxi. by lavylilly: 4:15pm On Jan 22 |
The Accounting Version of This Struggle A young accountant earning ₦120,000–₦180,000 monthly in Lagos—especially those working in audit firms or mid-sized companies in places like Ikeja, Victoria Island, or Lekki—while living in areas like Ogudu, Ikorodu, or Alagbado faces the same arithmetic problem. Transport alone can easily swallow ₦40,000–₦60,000 monthly, even with hybrid work. Feeding (home + office), data, and basic utilities can take another ₦60,000–₦80,000. Before the month ends, ₦110,000–₦130,000 is already gone—and this is without touching: Professional clothing Exam fees (ICAN/ACCA) Study materials Medical needs Family responsibilities Emergencies (which Lagos never fails to provide) What’s left? Usually ₦20,000–₦30,000, if anything at all. Sometimes the month ends in overdraft, borrowing, or quiet family support. Professional Costs Make It Worse Accounting, like law, has hidden professional expenses: ICAN/ACCA exam fees and annual subscriptions Mandatory trainings and conferences Corporate dressing (you can’t show up to an audit in a worn shirt) Transport to client sites (often unpaid or poorly reimbursed) A decent corporate wardrobe can cost ₦150,000–₦250,000. For someone saving ₦20k monthly, that’s almost a year—assuming life doesn’t interrupt (it always does). The Entry-Level Salary Trap Just like law firms, many accounting firms still pay: ₦80,000–₦100,000 (some even less, with “experience” as compensation) At that level, basic survival costs already exceed income. So the young accountant is forced to: Depend on parents or siblings Skip meals or health care Delay professional exams Quietly burn out while “gaining experience” And we all pretend this is normal. The Structural Problem (Same as Law) Too many young professionals chasing limited roles Firms underpricing services to win clients Clients delaying payments or squeezing fees “Exposure” and “learning” used to justify low pay But here’s the uncomfortable truth: When trained professionals cannot meet basic living needs, quality drops, ethics weaken, and long-term commitment disappears. People cut corners. Talented people leave. The profession loses respect—slowly, quietly. The Big Question (For Accounting Too) Do current pay levels for accountants in Lagos realistically match the cost of living in Lagos? If not: A. How long can this model survive? B. Who will still be practicing in 10–15 years? What kind of professionals are we unintentionally creating? For Accountants Who Escaped This Phase “Like a Boss” 👀 The ones who made it out usually did one or more of these: Specialized early (tax, data, energy, forensic, systems, advisory) Moved from pure audit to commercial or advisory roles Took remote or foreign-linked accounting work Built side income (consulting, bookkeeping for SMEs, training) Left traditional firms faster than expected Treated ICAN/ACCA not as the destination, but as leverage They didn’t just “endure”—they repositioned. This is not entitlement. It’s not complaining. It’s basic economics. A profession cannot remain respected when its entry-level professionals are financially exhausted, emotionally drained, and barely surviving. Law has this problem. Accounting has it too. And until we talk about it honestly, young professionals will keep suffering in silence—while pretending everything is fine. 4 Likes 3 Shares |
| Romance › Men Coming In by lavylilly(op): 4:10pm On Jan 22 |
Rule no 1. As a man work on yourself (never stop this) 2. Have an abundance mindset 3. State your desires but don’t chase 4. Never force vibe or beg for love 5. Women know what they want, they either communicate in words or actions (attitude) 6. If she want you, she will make it easy for you. 7. Leave the table when respect and value is taking away. 8. Always watch out for the signs 9. Be you while you work on yourself (don’t loose yourself for any woman) 10. Pray for the right woman that will love you beyond what you’re bringing to the table while bringing out the best in you. #Selah 1 Like |
| Career › Re: The Hard Truth About Lawyer Pay In Lagos: Is The System Broken? by lavylilly: 4:08pm On Jan 22 |
I am happy this coming to light not to mention the way this chambers uses people like tomorrow no dey. 8 Likes |
| Career › Re: The Many Hurdles Of Remote Workers In Nigeria by lavylilly: 4:07pm On Jan 22 |
tpain121:A friend makes than in Nigeria monthly |
| Politics › Re: ‘Barking Dogs’, Ogun Governor Abiodun Slams Those Criticising Him Over Bad Roads by lavylilly: 9:26am On Jan 22 |
Alliswell248:Are you okay? Why invite someone for criticizing a gov for a bad road 1 Like |
| Politics › Re: ‘Barking Dogs’, Ogun Governor Abiodun Slams Those Criticising Him Over Bad Roads by lavylilly: 9:19am On Jan 22 |
Nigeria is gone. Asking for accountability is now a crime 101 Likes 3 Shares |
| Career › Re: The Many Hurdles Of Remote Workers In Nigeria by lavylilly: 9:18am On Jan 22 |
lazkizz:Baba enter street do conductor work to pay your rent 1 Like |
| Career › Re: The Many Hurdles Of Remote Workers In Nigeria by lavylilly: 9:16am On Jan 22 |
emperor4love:DM queenble on telegram |
