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Investment › Re: Nigerian Stock Exchange Market Pick Alerts by lavylilly: 3:02pm On Mar 05

deathwing:
Finally done with my steady accumulation of Custodian. Cost basis N68. Now we pray for the market to do its thing in the years to come.

June 2026, it would do 10-15%

Investment › Re: Nigerian Stock Exchange Market Pick Alerts by lavylilly: 3:01pm On Mar 05

mikeapollo:
Folks, who has been able to buy FTGINSURE recently e.g. within this week?
My brokers says it is still very scare and almost unavailable (the thing has gained 500% and I have missed buying it)

it's available na

Sports › Re: Nigeria Female National Teams' Thread by lavylilly: 2:57pm On Mar 05

oloriooko:
Why are our northern girls so scarce to see in football? It's a shameful and sad thing, even in sports generally and I believe there are bunch of talents among them

The reason is the northern here mentality up north at 16 they start prepping your for marriage.

Politics › Re: Yesiro Karamo Dies Before Inauguration As Lagos APC Exco Member by lavylilly: 2:54pm On Mar 05

Politics is a very diabolic and dirty game.

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Politics › Re: President Tinubu Approves Six Major Road Projects Across Nigeria by lavylilly: 2:42pm On Mar 05

Wickedfact:
During GEJ's tenure, they were selling awarded projects here on Nairaland.

Companies were formed for receiving contracts and upfront payments after which they sell the contract to another company to chase the remaining payments. Those ones would now settle government officials, settle communities and pocket the rest. Meanwhile, the project would be marked as completed.

Omo! You sabi the game very well.

Family › Re: I Became A Lesbian After I Caught My Husband Sleeping With My Nanny by lavylilly: 2:44pm On Mar 01

It’s true those women were part of the story — and that’s actually the point.

Their lives weren’t highlighted as examples to copy, but as evidence of something deeper: that God works through imperfect people, messy situations, and broken pasts.

Rahab wasn’t celebrated for prostitution — she was honoured for faith and courage.

Tamar’s story wasn’t praised for deception — it exposed injustice and desperation in a system that failed her.

Rebekah’s manipulation brought consequences that fractured her family for years.

And the Samaritan woman wasn’t affirmed in her lifestyle — her encounter with Jesus marked a turning point that led to transformation, not continuation.

The thread running through all these stories isn’t “live however you like.”

It’s:

Grace can reach anyone. Redemption is possible. Broken beginnings don’t disqualify you from a meaningful future.

So the takeaway isn’t that women (or anyone) should imitate the dysfunction — it’s that no past puts someone beyond purpose when there’s honesty, growth, and change.

bukatyne:
Rahab was a prostitute, Tamar slept with her father-n-law, Rebekah connived with her son to deceive her husband etc. They were all in the genealogy of Christ.

Then we have the Samarithan woman who had five husbands and a lover who later became an evangelist.

Perhaps, we women should follow these examples also.

Agriculture › Re: 5 Key Lessons Every Nigerian Farmer Should Know Before Planting Season by lavylilly: 4:26pm On Feb 28

This is solid advice — no doubt. But the reality for many Nigerian farmers is a bit more complex than just planning well and thinking like an agribusiness owner.

Sometimes, it’s not lack of planning that hurts farmers — it’s unpredictability.

You can plan perfectly…

✔️ Study the market
✔️ Choose the right crop
✔️ Budget carefully
✔️ Buy quality inputs

…and still face:

– Sudden fuel price hikes that affect transport
– Unstable market prices at harvest
– Rainfall that doesn’t follow expected patterns
– Middlemen who crash prices overnight
– Government policies that shift without warning

So while strategy matters, resilience matters just as much.

Many farmers are not failing because they don’t think like business owners — they’re navigating an environment where:

Planning meets uncertainty
Preparation meets volatility
Effort meets systemic challenges

Yes, smart farming starts on paper.

But successful farming in Nigeria also requires:

Adaptability
Strong local networks
Access to timely market info
Community collaboration

Because sometimes the difference between profit and loss isn’t just the farmer’s decision — it’s the ecosystem they operate in.

Farming here is not just agriculture.

It’s strategy + survival.

And the farmers who win are not only the best planners…
They are the best adjusters.

🌾

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Romance › Rules For Men by lavylilly(op): 4:01pm On Feb 28

1. Never go back to the woman who cheated.

2. Never let a woman disrespect you.

3. Never shake a hand sitting down.

4. Never go broke to impress others.

5. Never eat the last piece of something you didn't buy.

6. Always have the ambition to be better.

7. Protect who is behind you, and respect who is beside you.

9. Don't beg for a relationship.

10. Work out at least 4x a week.

11. If you are not invited, don't ask to go.

12. Always carry cash.

13. Dress well no matter what the occasion.

14. Listen, nod, and most of all make eye contact.

15. Find multiple ways to make money.

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Politics › Re: Celebration In Etche, Rivers As Aba Power Connects Them To Power by lavylilly: 9:15pm On Feb 23

Achor1111:
I stayed 1wk during the yuletide in Aba, light no blink.

This is 2 months, it hasn't blinked.

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Properties › Re: Have You Ever Bought "Problem Land"? What Red Flags Did You Overlook? by lavylilly: 8:59pm On Feb 23

free2ryhme:
go your village buy land you will get rest of mind

Even for village people wey their papa no farm for the land they claim say, na the land wey their papa farm to build on it.

Travel › Re: Bees Invade Commercial Bus In Lagos Island, Causing Temporary Panic by lavylilly: 11:07pm On Feb 22

I get what you’re trying to say. It can be frustrating when it feels like some people reject science outright.

Not everyone who believes in spiritual or traditional explanations is “anti-science.” Many people grow up in environments where cultural beliefs, religion, and lived experiences shape how they interpret events. When something unusual happens — especially in a place like Lagos Island where chaos is already normal — people naturally fall back on the framework they understand best.

Science isn’t just about knowing facts; it’s about exposure, education, and trust. If someone hasn’t been exposed to scientific explanations in a practical, relatable way, their mind won’t automatically “tune” there. It’s not always stubbornness — sometimes it’s background.

And honestly, even highly educated people mix logic with belief. Humans are emotional before we are rational.

Instead of labeling people as superstitious or fetish, it often works better to:

Explain calmly

Use relatable examples

Respect their perspective

Then introduce the scientific angle

People are more open when they don’t feel attacked.

At the end of the day, understanding grows through conversation, not confrontation.

descartes400:
But superstitious and fetish people's mind are not tune to science...

Travel › Re: Bees Invade Commercial Bus In Lagos Island, Causing Temporary Panic by lavylilly: 11:06pm On Feb 22

Omoawoke:
Something about supernatural phenomenon, it would always have a natural process to explain it…

I am not saying you aren’t correct but if you study the laws of this earth and your ancestors, you will know they can invoke things beyond the physical you have always known..
There’s a reason the world billionaires and western leaders were doing some occultic stuffs - Epstein file

If supernatural forces want are on attack on someone, the person that day would make wrong decisions, face unfortunate events that would be explained with natural theories lol
Same way if the right energy locate someone, the coincidences would look like the person was just lucky

I get where you’re coming from. Truly.

There are things that happen in life that feel too aligned or too chaotic to just be random. When someone keeps making terrible decisions in one day, or when everything just seems to fall into place perfectly, it’s normal to wonder if there’s something deeper at play.

But here’s a grounded way to look at it.

First, human beings are meaning-seeking creatures. When events cluster together — good or bad — our brains naturally look for patterns. That doesn’t mean the experience isn’t powerful. It just means our psychology plays a huge role in how we interpret it.

For example:

When someone is stressed, tired, or emotionally unsettled, they’re statistically more likely to make poor decisions.

One bad decision can trigger a chain reaction of consequences.

On the flip side, confidence and emotional stability improve judgment, which creates better outcomes — which then look like “luck.”

That chain reaction can feel supernatural, but it often has very human roots.

About ancestors and invocation — historically, many cultures believed in spiritual causation for events. That doesn’t automatically make it false, but it also doesn’t make it proof. Before modern medicine, diseases were attributed to spirits. Now we understand bacteria and viruses. The experience felt supernatural at the time because the natural mechanism wasn’t known yet.

Regarding billionaires and occult rumors — power structures have always been surrounded by secrecy, symbolism, and conspiracy theories. But secrecy doesn’t automatically equal supernatural control. Sometimes it’s just human corruption, influence networks, and psychology at scale.

Now here’s something important:

Believing that unseen forces control your bad days can reduce your sense of agency. Believing that your “energy” determines outcomes can sometimes ignore practical factors like preparation, skill, timing, and social systems.

There is something real about mindset though:

Your beliefs affect your perception.

Your perception affects your decisions.

Your decisions affect your results.

That’s powerful — and it’s natural, not mystical.

And I’m not dismissing spirituality. Many people find meaning, structure, and discipline through it. But there’s a difference between spiritual interpretation and assuming invisible forces override cause and effect.

Sometimes what looks like attack is exhaustion. Sometimes what looks like blessing is preparation meeting opportunity. Sometimes what looks like coincidence is probability playing out.

Life can feel mystical because we don’t see all the variables.

It’s okay to believe in the spiritual dimension of life — just don’t give away your responsibility or critical thinking in the process.

That balance is where real power sits.

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Travel › Re: Bees Invade Commercial Bus In Lagos Island, Causing Temporary Panic by lavylilly: 5:04pm On Feb 22

First, I have worked as a bee keeper. I understand how they behave in farms, forests, and even very urban places. You’d be surprised how many colonies live comfortably in cities like Lagos Island — inside ceilings, abandoned buildings, drainage gaps, signboards, and rooftops. Bees don’t care whether it’s a village or Victoria Island. If there’s nectar, shelter, and warmth, they’ll thrive.

Urban areas actually have:

Flowering ornamental plants

Fruit trees in compounds

Open waste bins with sugary residues

Water sources from leaking pipes or gutters

That’s paradise for a colony.

Now, about “not everything has a scientific explanation” — I respectfully disagree.

When bees suddenly swarm, attack, or appear in numbers, there are usually clear triggers:

A disturbed hive

Loud vibration (generators, drilling, heavy traffic)

Heat stress

Someone unknowingly blocking their entrance

Scent triggers (perfume, sweat, alcohol, dark clothing)

A colony splitting (swarming season)

Bees are defensive, not spiritual. They are reacting, not targeting.

I’ve personally removed colonies from:

Busy city hotels

Apartment balconies

Government offices

Market stalls

All in crowded areas.

When people don’t understand bee behavior, it feels mysterious. But from someone who handles them with bare hands and a smoker daily — there’s always a reason.

Urban doesn’t mean unnatural. Crowded doesn’t mean impossible. And unexplained doesn’t mean supernatural.

Bees follow instinct, pheromones, and environmental cues — not geography.

youngestgrad:
Bro this happened in a very urban area (Lagos island) not some sparse populated rural village. Not everything in life has a scientific explanation to it.

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European Football (EPL, UEFA, La Liga) › Re: Nottingham Forest Vs Liverpool (0 - 1) On 22nd February 2026 by lavylilly: 5:00pm On Feb 22

wiseone28:
it stands

3 points Liverpool.

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Family › Re: How I Cope With Everything Happening In Nigeria? by lavylilly(op): 5:00pm On Feb 22

DeltaBachelor:
Wow. Very interesting way to put it. Sounds funny but very true. Nice one OP. You did well

Thank you. I am glad you enjoyed it.

Family › Re: How I Cope With Everything Happening In Nigeria? by lavylilly(op): 4:59pm On Feb 22

Readers are leader. Keep it up

Love800:
Yea. Everyone has their coping mechanisms though. Just give me books and i will be out in space, floating around Jupiter and Mars! Lol.

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European Football (EPL, UEFA, La Liga) › Re: Nottingham Forest Vs Liverpool (0 - 1) On 22nd February 2026 by lavylilly: 4:57pm On Feb 22

VAR checking

Travel › Re: Bees Invade Commercial Bus In Lagos Island, Causing Temporary Panic by lavylilly: 4:53pm On Feb 22

1. When a colony becomes overcrowded, the queen leaves with thousands of worker bees to form a new colony. This is called swarming.
During this process:
Bees temporarily gather on any surface nearby — tree branches, walls, cars, buses.
They rest there while scout bees search for a permanent hive location.
The cluster can stay for minutes or several hours.
👉 A parked or slow-moving commercial bus would be a perfect temporary landing spot.

2. The Bus Had a Strong Smell That Attracted Them
Bees are highly sensitive to scent. They can be attracted by:
- Sweet drinks spilled inside (Fanta, Coke, malt)
- Perfumes or body sprays
- Food residue
- Honey-like smells
- Bright floral designs on the bus
In busy areas like Lagos Island, buses often carry all kinds of scents.

In short, A migrating colony temporarily resting — not an attack.

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European Football (EPL, UEFA, La Liga) › Re: Nottingham Forest Vs Liverpool (0 - 1) On 22nd February 2026 by lavylilly: 4:52pm On Feb 22

AirBere:
17:30....5:30 Naija time!

Thank you.

Family › Re: Hit Me With The Hardest Truth You Had To Accept As A Man by lavylilly(op): 4:28pm On Feb 22

ibechris:
Thoughts,I mean good thinking is the beginning of wealth creation.

European Football (EPL, UEFA, La Liga) › Re: Nottingham Forest Vs Liverpool (0 - 1) On 22nd February 2026 by lavylilly: 4:20pm On Feb 22

AirBere:
Make them no draw abeg. I need that L 🙏

Please when is arsenal match

Career › Re: The Many Hurdles Of Remote Workers In Nigeria by lavylilly: 2:31pm On Feb 22

emperor4love:
I tried tracking that queenble on telegram to no avail and it interest me to know more about a.i automation and step to build career on it

She's there or join
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Jobs/Vacancies › Re: My Funny Experience With An Organization by lavylilly: 4:51pm On Feb 20

illicit:
I will leave before closing....

No time to check time.

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Family › Re: Moms Love Is Overrated by lavylilly(op): 4:49pm On Feb 20

Love800:
Astonishing.

Nice one.

I appreciate.

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Jobs/Vacancies › Re: My Job Hunting Experience At Beloxxi. by lavylilly: 7:21pm On Feb 19

Greatdand007:
Thanks sir which one do you suggest I can learn now that is very lucrative

Tech

Family › Re: Moms Love Is Overrated by lavylilly(op): 3:33pm On Feb 18

I don’t think a father’s love is surface level. It’s just expressed differently.

A mother’s love often feels emotionally close — she notices your moods, your stress, your everyday struggles. She asks questions. She checks in. She nurtures. It’s intimate and immediate.

A father’s love can look more structured, more formal — sometimes even distant. But many times, that “surface” appearance is actually protection, responsibility, and pressure carried quietly.

Mom may sit with you in the struggle.
Dad may be fighting battles you don’t even see so you can struggle safely.

Mom connects emotionally.
Dad often connects through provision, correction, discipline, and sacrifice.

The difference isn’t depth.
It’s expression.

Some fathers didn’t learn how to verbalize love. Some grew up believing love is shown through action, not conversation. So instead of “How are you feeling?” you might get “Have you eaten?” or “Are you focused?”

That doesn’t mean it’s shallow.
It just means it speaks another language.

And truthfully, when a father opens up emotionally, you realize the depth was always there — it was just guarded.

Both loves matter.
One may feel warmer.
The other may feel firmer.
But both can run deep.

Love800:
Father's love is just on surface level and formal.
Mom's love penetrate deeper, she understands your everyday grinding and being on G-levels with you.

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Family › How I Cope With Everything Happening In Nigeria? by lavylilly(op): 3:33pm On Feb 18

My Escape Passport

When NEPA strikes and electricity vanishes like my salary on the 25th, I turn to movies.

Nollywood especially. Because nothing heals national frustration like:

A village prince that went to London and came back with a British accent that sounds like he swallowed hot yam.

A wicked auntie whose only hobby is “I will not let this girl rest.”

A pastor that can see your entire destiny because you sneezed twice.

I watch and forget:

Fuel price?
Dollar rate?
Internet tariff?

Suddenly my biggest problem becomes:
“Will Chioma discover that the baby is actually the houseboy’s?”

Netflix is therapy. Nollywood is spiritual deliverance.

MUSIC – Emotional Regulation Department

When the economy squeezes me like toothpaste at the end of the month, I plug in my earphones.

Enter:

Burna Boy telling me I’m a “giant.”

Asake shouting something motivational I don’t fully understand but I accept by faith.

Wizkid whispering peace into my stressed soul.

Sometimes I dance aggressively in my room like I’m protesting inflation personally.

The landlord might increase rent.
But can he increase vibes?

No.

Music turns hardship into choreography.

SILENCE – Because If I Talk, I Might Cry

Sometimes, I just sit.

No phone.
No news.
No Twitter.

Because if I open social media, I will see:

“Breaking: Something has increased again.”

“Breaking: Something else has increased.”

“Breaking: Your hope has also increased… in price.”

So I choose silence.

I stare at the ceiling like I’m calculating the GDP of my own life.

It’s peaceful until my brain says:
“Bro… how far that savings?”

Then I immediately move to the next coping mechanism.

FRIENDS – Group Therapy Without License

Friends are essential infrastructure in Nigeria.

You call them and say:
“Guy… things are hard.”

And they reply:
“Hard? My brother, this is granite.”

We don’t solve problems.
We laugh at them.

Someone will say:
“If Nigeria was a person, we would have sent her to rehab.”

Another one:
“This country builds character whether you applied for the course or not.”

We laugh until the pain reduces to 720p quality.

Friendship in Nigeria is not optional. It is government-approved therapy.

SLEEP – Temporary Relocation

Sleep is my visa to a better Nigeria.

When everything overwhelms me, I just say:
“Let me go and reboot.”

Because while sleeping:

No bills.

No traffic.

No “urgent 2k.”

No generator noise (in my dreams we have constant light).

Sleep is not laziness.
Sleep is strategic withdrawal.

Sometimes I wake up and the problem is still there.

But at least I rested before round 2.

FOOD – Final Weapon

Now let’s be honest.

Nothing stabilizes Nigerian emotions like food.

Jollof rice? National antidepressant.
Suya? Emergency mood stabilizer.
Pounded yam? Spiritual grounding exercise.

You can be broke… but if someone says:
“Come chop.”

All economic theories pause.

Food reminds me:
No matter what is happening… at least seasoning still works.

Nigerian Coping Formula 🇳🇬

Movies distract me.
Music empowers me.
Silence protects me.
Friends strengthen me.
Sleep resets me.
Food restores me.

Nigeria may test my patience…

But my coping game?
Elite.

Because if we can survive here and still laugh loudly…

We are not ordinary citizens.
We are emotionally fortified warriors with rhythm and appetite. 💀🔥

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Family › Re: Moms Love Is Overrated by lavylilly(op): 3:31pm On Feb 18

otipoju:
Mom can do this too. Fathers as well.

That you stood by him also helped as well.

I was rebellious as a teenager but once I got on campus and started showing my dad a lot of respect for just being my father, that man could do ANYTHING for me.

I wish he was here now because he is probably the only human being on earth that can tell me to sit down and I won't ask why because I trust his wisdom and good intent and guidance.

A Father who knows his duty , can be relied upon.

But your mom ask you the same question and you would ask why

Family › Re: I Became A Lesbian After I Caught My Husband Sleeping With My Nanny by lavylilly: 3:29pm On Feb 18

shepherd316:
Have you not read that verse in the new testament that says" 1st corinthian 7:2 Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband.l". There are many laws in the old testament that are no longer valid for the insurance of your soul

1 Corinthians 7:2:
Promotes sexual purity.
Encourages legitimate marriage.
Does not explicitly outlaw polygyny.
If it were a salvation issue:
Jesus would have condemned it directly.
The apostles would have labeled it sin.
A clear command would exist.
Instead, Scripture regulates it but never forbids it.
That said — the New Testament clearly promotes the monogamous ideal as the safest, most stable expression of marriage.
So the stronger argument is:
Monogamy is presented as the Christian norm.
Polygyny is not explicitly called a salvation sin.

Family › Re: Kindness Never Dies. It Multiplies by lavylilly(op): 3:27pm On Feb 18

Amen. Thank you so much. I am grateful.

Emmy000seun:
Your dad is a rare genre 💯💯💯..may God bless him and his descendant abundantly..that's gift that attached spiritual blessing.. because it was done to the man in secrecy and respect 💯💯.. the man will b glad bcuz nobody knows he is not paying for rent, his self esteem is not drag in d muld...not those dat bring it to social media 👌..even for you d kids not knowing about it kudos to your dad...may God's favour never ceased in his home..Amen

Education › Re: WAEC Releases 2025 CB-WASSCE Second Series Results by lavylilly: 8:48am On Feb 18

See how a teacher killed the dream of a student

donleo92:
Waec oooooh!!!

It's actually like yesterday!!! Year 2010, only commercial student that wrote geography in my set and had an A.

Read that subject like mad and loved it.

Was fascinated about my environment and the world at large.

Actually wanted doing sciences but my chemistry teacher then, was not dedicated, just focused on the girls in the class and the fast learners.

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Family › Re: I Became A Lesbian After I Caught My Husband Sleeping With My Nanny by lavylilly: 8:43am On Feb 18

Throughout the Old Testament, several key figures practiced polygyny (one man, multiple wives), and it was not directly condemned.
🔹 Abraham
Had Sarah and Hagar (Genesis 16)
God still called him blessed and made covenant with him.
🔹 Jacob
Had Leah and Rachel, plus their maidservants (Genesis 29–30)
The 12 tribes of Israel came from this arrangement.
🔹 David
Had multiple wives (2 Samuel 5:13)
Described as “a man after God’s own heart.”
🔹 Solomon
Had many wives and concubines (1 Kings 11)
His downfall was idolatry, not the number of wives itself.
The Law of Moses regulated polygyny rather than banning it (Exodus 21:10).
The argument here: If it were inherently sinful, God would have forbidden it explicitly.

📖 In the New Testament:
Church leaders were instructed to be “husband of one wife” (1 Timothy 3:2).
But this requirement was specifically for overseers/bishops — not explicitly for all men.
Some argue this implies monogamy was ideal for church leadership, but not necessarily mandated universally.

Some argue that men separate sex from emotional bonding more easily.
Women often bond more through intimacy.
Therefore, male plural relationships are more “naturally aligned” with male psychology.
This argument says monogamy is a social structure for stability, not necessarily a biological default for men.

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