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Family › Moms Love Is Overrated by lavylilly(op): 8:42am On Feb 18
Moms love is overrated. From DM
My dad and I were very close when I was growing up. He later suffered from prostate cancer, and during that time, I stayed with him in the hospital as much as I could. I helped in every way I knew how. Watching him fight for his life was painful, and we were constantly struggling to raise money for his treatment.

In the process of trying to find money, I made a terrible mistake. I chose an illegal path and got arrested. While I was in custody, my dad sold his only piece of land to pay for my bail.

The day the payment was made, he was too weak to come himself because he was receiving blood due to his blood pressure. So he gave the money to my mom to go and pay for my release. After she paid, they told her I would be released the next day.

My mom called my dad and told him the news. He said, “Thank God.”
Moments after he hung up the phone… he passed away.

The next day, I was released, only to come home and hear that my father had died while receiving blood.

He used his last strength to save me.
And I didn’t even get the chance to say goodbye.
Romance › Re: What's The ONE Thing You Learnt About Women That Every Man Should Know by lavylilly(op): 8:21am On Feb 18
shocked
judatech:
I ONLY have this to say
Family › Kindness Never Dies. It Multiplies by lavylilly(op): 8:12am On Feb 18
We had a tenant who lived in our house for many years. By the seventh year, my dad called him aside and asked a simple but powerful question:

“What are your plans for yourself and your family?”

The man explained that he had bought a piece of land two years earlier. He had managed to lay the foundation, but since then, nothing had moved. Life, responsibilities, and finances had stalled the dream.

My dad looked at him and said something that changed everything.

He told him he wouldn’t be paying rent anymore — not until he finished building his house.

The man immediately prostrated. He was overwhelmed. He couldn’t believe what he had just heard.

But my dad stopped him and said:

“Don’t thank me. You’re not staying here for free. This is not comfort — it’s a push. Finish your house.”

Three years later, he moved into his completed home.

What makes this even more powerful is that nobody in the family knew. Not the children. Not anyone. Only my dad and mum.

So how did I find out? 😂

At his housewarming ceremony, the man shared it publicly as a testimony. That’s how we all heard the story.

It has been 13 years now.

And I can say this with full confidence — my parents’ kindness is paying off. We, their children, encounter mercy wherever we go. Favor follows us in rooms we didn’t even pray to enter.

Kindness never dies. It multiplies. And sometimes, it returns through your children.
Health › Re: Unstable Young Lady Found Acting Wild In Ikate, Lagos – Public Help Needed by lavylilly: 3:57pm On Feb 13
josielewa:
I can bet she is under the influence of drugs. All this lekki baddies, the way they take drugs ehn, even pablo escobar dey fear
FACT! The level of drugs abuse in the island is alarming.
Romance › What's The ONE Thing You Learnt About Women That Every Man Should Know by lavylilly(op): 11:48am On Feb 13
Men be honest, what's the ONE thing you learnt about women that every man should know by age 25
Romance › Title: Love Vs Invoice – A Nigerian Case Study by lavylilly(op): 3:09pm On Feb 12
Title: Love vs Invoice – A Nigerian Case Study 💔💸

There are two types of men in this life:

1. The “My Love”
2. The “Kindly Make Payment”

Let me explain.


When She Loves You ❤️

You wake up at 11:47am.

Her text: “Good morning my king 😍 Did you sleep well? I sent you 5k for breakfast. Don’t stress.”

You didn’t ask.
You didn’t hint.
You didn’t even wake up early.

Suddenly:

Uber? She orders it.

Food? She has a “discount code.”

Data? “I had extra, I shared with you.”

Birthday? Surprise party.

You sneeze once? She Googles hospitals.

You say, “I’m broke.”

She says, “We are not broke. We are just between blessings.” ✨

You could say you want to start snail farming in Antarctica and she’ll say: “I believe in you.”

Everything is free. Even peace of mind.

When She Does NOT Love You 💀

You text: “Good morning.”

She replies 6 hours later: “?”

You say: “Can I see you?”

She says: “Transport?”

You say: “It’s just 15 minutes away.”

She says: “Fuel is not smiling.”

You send 3k.

She says: “That’s just going. What about coming back?”

You send another 3k.

She says: “Hair is not free.”

You blink. Invoice drops.

The Billing Breakdown 📄

Item Amount

Transport 3,000
Return Transport 3,000
Hair 8,000
Nails 6,500
“I’m Hungry” 5,000
Emotional Damage Pending

Total: Your destiny savings account.

When she loves you: You can wear one jean for 3 weeks.
She says, “It’s vintage.”

When she doesn’t: You wear Gucci.
She says, “You look stressed.”

When she loves you: You say, “I’m coming.”
She says, “Be safe ❤️”

When she doesn’t: You say, “I’m coming.”
She says, “Coming with what?”

One guy tested it.

He stopped sending money.

She stopped sending replies.

Scientific confirmation:
If she loves you, everything is free.
If she doesn’t, everything is a fee. 💯

Moral of the story:
Don’t argue with billing systems.
Just confirm if you’re a boyfriend…
or a subscription plan.

The end 😂
Education › Re: Mabel Makun Transforms UNILAG’s Toilet Into World Class Restroom (Video) by lavylilly: 11:14am On Feb 11
meobizy:
The woman is advertising her business. The toilet is too luxurious. It’s like a club or spa’s type. A male hostel requires the type in pubs; a trough-style urinal where seven students can stand side-by-side while peeing. Those are super easy to clean and disinfect. Lack of maintenance will destroy this unit in a year or less.
A year ke ? 3 months everything don scatter.
European Football (EPL, UEFA, La Liga) › Re: West Ham Vs Manchester United (1 - 1) On 10th February 2026 by lavylilly: 9:33am On Feb 11
prinsam30:
Aswear Carrick cost us this match mboumo was playing badly , u left him and sub off Cunha, bring in sescko and zirkzee we arly u left them on the bench, forget say mboumo gave that cross for equaliser, Carrick needs to learn from this. And that as low pace football from back with Martinez is absolutely rubbish, very boring game
First, substitutions are never as simple as “he was playing badly.” A coach sees physical data, tactical balance, pressing triggers, and opposition adjustments — not just what is visible on the ball.

On Mboumo:
Even if he was quiet, wide players often stay on because of defensive structure and transition balance. If he delivered the cross for the equaliser, that shows why managers sometimes keep trust in a player — one decisive moment can change a game. Coaches think in probabilities, not emotions.

On Cunha being subbed:
That decision likely had tactical reasoning. Maybe the coach wanted:

More physical presence in the box

A different pressing profile

Or to protect Cunha physically


Sesko and Zirkzee on the bench? It’s not always about who is “better.” It’s about:

Match tempo

Opponent defensive line height

Space behind vs space between lines


Sometimes introducing two attacking profiles at once can destabilize your midfield structure. If the team was already struggling in build-up, adding more attackers without fixing progression could worsen control.

Now, about the slow build-up with Martínez.

Controlled build-up from the back is not meant to entertain — it’s meant to:

Attract pressure

Create overloads

Manipulate the press


However, if the tempo is too slow and there’s no vertical threat, it becomes sterile possession. That’s not a philosophy issue — that’s an execution issue. The ball circulation must provoke movement. If it doesn’t, it looks boring and predictable.

The real question isn’t “why didn’t he sub earlier?”
The real question is:

Was the midfield offering progressive angles?

Were the full-backs providing width and depth?

Were there third-man runs?

Was the tempo varied or flat?


Football at elite level is about structure first, individuals second.

Emotional reactions are natural as fans. But coaching decisions are layered — fitness, tactical data, opponent shape, long-term squad management.

Criticism is fair. But it must be tactical, not emotional.
Jobs/Vacancies › Re: My Job Hunting Experience At Beloxxi. by lavylilly: 11:38am On Feb 09
angry
emeraldo56:
Make research on what you want to learn and pick the one that suit you
Jobs/Vacancies › Re: My Funny Experience With An Organization by lavylilly: 8:58pm On Feb 04
Where's the bolded in the write up?
SixSeven:
It's not this, it's that. No soul. No vibes. Just words. Empty words. grin

If you don't have it, you can't fake it till you make it. They told them go school, dem say school na scam, now they thought with AI, it's a shortcut to the process. Intelligence can never be artificial
Family › Hit Me With The Hardest Truth You Had To Accept As A Man by lavylilly(op): 12:45am On Jan 28
Man to man,
Bro to bro
Hit me with the hardest truth you had to accept as a man
Career › Re: The Many Hurdles Of Remote Workers In Nigeria by lavylilly: 5:51am On Jan 27
emperor4love:
so how do one go about this
YouTube or send a DM to @queenble on telegram.
Career › Re: The Many Hurdles Of Remote Workers In Nigeria by lavylilly: 10:00am On Jan 26
emperor4love:
must one be conversant with programming to know about this niche
Not really
Career › Re: The Many Hurdles Of Remote Workers In Nigeria by lavylilly: 5:50pm On Jan 22
emperor4love:
which niche do pay u guys dis
AI automation
Jobs/Vacancies › Re: My Job Hunting Experience At Beloxxi. by lavylilly: 4:15pm On Jan 22
The Accounting Version of This Struggle

A young accountant earning ₦120,000–₦180,000 monthly in Lagos—especially those working in audit firms or mid-sized companies in places like Ikeja, Victoria Island, or Lekki—while living in areas like Ogudu, Ikorodu, or Alagbado faces the same arithmetic problem.

Transport alone can easily swallow ₦40,000–₦60,000 monthly, even with hybrid work. Feeding (home + office), data, and basic utilities can take another ₦60,000–₦80,000.

Before the month ends, ₦110,000–₦130,000 is already gone—and this is without touching:

Professional clothing

Exam fees (ICAN/ACCA)

Study materials

Medical needs

Family responsibilities

Emergencies (which Lagos never fails to provide)


What’s left?
Usually ₦20,000–₦30,000, if anything at all. Sometimes the month ends in overdraft, borrowing, or quiet family support.

Professional Costs Make It Worse

Accounting, like law, has hidden professional expenses:

ICAN/ACCA exam fees and annual subscriptions

Mandatory trainings and conferences

Corporate dressing (you can’t show up to an audit in a worn shirt)

Transport to client sites (often unpaid or poorly reimbursed)

A decent corporate wardrobe can cost ₦150,000–₦250,000.
For someone saving ₦20k monthly, that’s almost a year—assuming life doesn’t interrupt (it always does).

The Entry-Level Salary Trap

Just like law firms, many accounting firms still pay:

₦80,000–₦100,000 (some even less, with “experience” as compensation)


At that level, basic survival costs already exceed income.

So the young accountant is forced to:

Depend on parents or siblings

Skip meals or health care

Delay professional exams

Quietly burn out while “gaining experience”

And we all pretend this is normal.

The Structural Problem (Same as Law)

Too many young professionals chasing limited roles

Firms underpricing services to win clients

Clients delaying payments or squeezing fees

“Exposure” and “learning” used to justify low pay

But here’s the uncomfortable truth: When trained professionals cannot meet basic living needs,
quality drops, ethics weaken, and long-term commitment disappears.

People cut corners.
Talented people leave.
The profession loses respect—slowly, quietly.

The Big Question (For Accounting Too)

Do current pay levels for accountants in Lagos realistically match the cost of living in Lagos?

If not:

A. How long can this model survive?

B. Who will still be practicing in 10–15 years?

What kind of professionals are we unintentionally creating?


For Accountants Who Escaped This Phase “Like a Boss” 👀

The ones who made it out usually did one or more of these:

Specialized early (tax, data, energy, forensic, systems, advisory)

Moved from pure audit to commercial or advisory roles

Took remote or foreign-linked accounting work

Built side income (consulting, bookkeeping for SMEs, training)

Left traditional firms faster than expected

Treated ICAN/ACCA not as the destination, but as leverage

They didn’t just “endure”—they repositioned.


This is not entitlement. It’s not complaining. It’s basic economics.

A profession cannot remain respected when its entry-level professionals are financially exhausted, emotionally drained, and barely surviving.

Law has this problem. Accounting has it too.

And until we talk about it honestly, young professionals will keep suffering in silence—while pretending everything is fine.
Romance › Men Coming In by lavylilly(op): 4:10pm On Jan 22
Rule no 1. As a man work on yourself (never stop this)
2. Have an abundance mindset
3. State your desires but don’t chase
4. Never force vibe or beg for love
5. Women know what they want, they either communicate in words or actions (attitude)
6. If she want you, she will make it easy for you.
7. Leave the table when respect and value is taking away.
8. Always watch out for the signs
9. Be you while you work on yourself (don’t loose yourself for any woman)
10. Pray for the right woman that will love you beyond what you’re bringing to the table while bringing out the best in you. #Selah
Career › Re: The Hard Truth About Lawyer Pay In Lagos: Is The System Broken? by lavylilly: 4:08pm On Jan 22
I am happy this coming to light not to mention the way this chambers uses people like tomorrow no dey.
Career › Re: The Many Hurdles Of Remote Workers In Nigeria by lavylilly: 4:07pm On Jan 22
tpain121:
That’s about $1600USD.

What happened to 2.4m monthly?
A friend makes than in Nigeria monthly
Politics › Re: ‘Barking Dogs’, Ogun Governor Abiodun Slams Those Criticising Him Over Bad Roads by lavylilly: 9:26am On Jan 22
Alliswell248:
I

Yes Nigeria is gone for you.
For me I would prosper in the land.

You would get sense by force.
Are you okay? Why invite someone for criticizing a gov for a bad road
Politics › Re: ‘Barking Dogs’, Ogun Governor Abiodun Slams Those Criticising Him Over Bad Roads by lavylilly: 9:19am On Jan 22
Nigeria is gone. Asking for accountability is now a crime
Career › Re: The Many Hurdles Of Remote Workers In Nigeria by lavylilly: 9:18am On Jan 22
lazkizz:
Bro pls put me on , my rent will be due by February 3 , and i dont have any means to pay.

I will be gratefulif you could teach me any onlineskillsni can use to earn money.
Baba enter street do conductor work to pay your rent
Career › Re: The Many Hurdles Of Remote Workers In Nigeria by lavylilly: 9:16am On Jan 22
emperor4love:
okay thanks but any insight were one can get this remote job apart from all this freelance site
DM queenble on telegram
Career › Re: The Many Hurdles Of Remote Workers In Nigeria by lavylilly: 9:13am On Jan 22
Babatundehy:
I had mtn and Airtel routers, when I used the Airtel router I always got the unlimited monthly plan, the daily 10gb never let me access some websites and even blocked some apps from connecting, made calls to the customer care but wasn't fixed so i quit Airtel, mtn 5g was better, (i live not too far from a uni so that is a +), but when it rained or was really cloudy, or during the day, i got terrible speeds.
My wife got lucky and also started working remotely, Elon musk pushed out the starlink mini and made it affordable so I got it, I was paying about 20k a month with those routers, so my wife, myself and another person in the next building who always streams pay the monthly subscription, the worst speed I ever got with starlink was 89mbps.
if you are around people who use lots of data and want good speeds, you can come together to get starlink and then you guys just pay up the sub, good speed is guaranteed and even a small inexpensive power station can power it for days (40 watts+-), this is good for gig workers who are constantly hunting, the burden of payment won't be much, and youll always be connected.
Mini starlink is how much and what's the monthly subscription
Career › Re: The Many Hurdles Of Remote Workers In Nigeria by lavylilly: 9:12am On Jan 22
tpain121:
Get starlink. I thought remote workers make a lot of money.

One person up there said he has made over 100k dollars within 2 years.
2.4m monthly is how much again in $
Career › Re: The Many Hurdles Of Remote Workers In Nigeria by lavylilly: 9:10am On Jan 22
emperor4love:
Some this are not there problem but to get remote job is the real deal
DM queenble on telegram she runs na remote channel.
Career › Re: The Many Hurdles Of Remote Workers In Nigeria by lavylilly: 9:09am On Jan 22
Flangelo12:
Tunde, have you washed the plate?

grin
Local notifications grin
Career › Re: The Many Hurdles Of Remote Workers In Nigeria by lavylilly: 9:08am On Jan 22
olumided:
Please how can I get remote job. I am experienced using php and currently learning Java.
Send a DM to Queenble on telegram
Career › Re: The Many Hurdles Of Remote Workers In Nigeria by lavylilly: 9:06am On Jan 22
Amanah8:
I'm looking for one seriously
Send a DM to @Queenblebon telegram.
Politics › Re: NAFDAC Begins Enforcement Of Sachet, Small-bottle Alcohol Ban by lavylilly: 9:00am On Jan 22
sheedy407:
NAFDAC is so daft.

To be sold to people above 18 years of age is clearly written on all pack sizes of these drinks.
Enforcement is what NAFDAC cant do and they are calling for a ban?

So if road accident kill person, you go close the road down or inform FRSC to fix and install speed breakers?

If dem ban sachet drink,do well as banning cigar also
They cannot infact never ban cigarettes
Politics › Re: NAFDAC Begins Enforcement Of Sachet, Small-bottle Alcohol Ban by lavylilly: 8:59am On Jan 22
Story for the gods, something I saw yesterday and today mtchew

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