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CareerRe: Am I A Failure At 30 by lavylilly: 4:33am On Jan 11, 2025
I'm so sorry to hear that you're going through a tough time. It takes a lot of courage to share your struggles, and I appreciate your trust.

Firstly, please know that you're not alone. Many people face similar challenges, and it's okay to feel overwhelmed. It's essential to acknowledge that your feelings are valid and that it's okay to ask for help.

Here are some thoughts that might help:

1. You are more than your current situation: Your worth and identity extend beyond your financial stability, educational background, or career achievements. You are a unique individual with strengths, talents, and experiences that are valuable.
2. It's never too late to start anew: Whether it's going back to school, learning a new skill, or job hunting, you can start exploring new opportunities. It might be scary, but it's a chance to rediscover yourself and your passions.
3. Depression is treatable: It's essential to acknowledge that depression is a serious condition that requires professional help. Consider reaching out to a mental health professional or a trusted adult for support.
4. Your family might be more understanding than you think: It's possible that your family is worried about you and wants to support you. Consider having an open and honest conversation with them about your struggles.
5. Celebrate small wins: Instead of focusing on the big picture, try celebrating small achievements. This could be as simple as completing a task, learning something new, or having a good conversation with someone.

Some actionable steps you could take:

1. Reach out to a mental health professional: They can help you develop coping strategies and provide support.
2. Explore local resources: Look into community centers, libraries, or online platforms that offer free or low-cost resources for education, skill-building, and job hunting.
3. Connect with others: Join online forums, social media groups such JOBZONENG on telegram or local meetups to connect with people who might be going through similar experiences.
4. Take small steps towards your goals: Break down your goals into smaller, manageable tasks. This will help you build momentum and confidence.

Remember, you are not alone, and there is hope for a better future. Keep in mind that it's okay to take things one step at a time, and don't hesitate to reach out for support when you need it.

What do you think might be the first step you could take towards feeling more positive and in control?
Davenro:
Good evening fam. Compliments of the season. Please i need your views and opinions regarding what's going on in my life. This week has been terrible, even at some point i thought of ending it all. Am 30 years now, a two time school dropout, very broke , no tangible achievement in my life. I have done alot of hustles with the hope and expectation that everything w change but things are getting more worse. Am currently confused, even while the desire to go back to school is still burning within me, am equally thinking about learning a skill or thinking about job hunting. For many years, I can't ever appear to my family just because of the shame, no certificate to show, financially stability zero, infact am depressed.
Jobs/VacanciesRe: Accountant by lavylilly: 4:45pm On Jan 10, 2025
mecuries:
tax and budget, auditing, reconciliation of all banking and petty cash accounts, payroll and if that wasn't enough, "Complete other duties as assigned by the school management", was added to it. I wonder what the salary scale would look like because the highlighted are meant for different people, not just one individual
150k
Jobs/VacanciesRe: Are You Jobless? Sell Yourself by lavylilly: 10:01am On Jan 10, 2025
OyinKris:
Any job vacancy for a graduate in ikorodu?
I don't want teaching
I'm experienced in the following positions
Secretary
Office assistant
Customer care
Receptionist
Check Gberigbe
FamilyMarried men: What's That One Thing You Learnt In Your Marriage by lavylilly(op): 4:55pm On Jan 06, 2025
Married Men: What's that one thing you learnt in your marriage and wish you have known before marriage!
Jobs/VacanciesRe: Please, I Need A Remote Job by lavylilly: 12:35pm On Jan 06, 2025
Nnamdipapa:
I am giving remote jobs, starting with a staff and expanding to 5 staff in the next 2 months. I will be going through standard recruitment processes like indeed and Job.ng as I will be screening hundreds of people.
locked in already.
Jobs/VacanciesRe: China's Overqualified Youth Taking Jobs As Drivers, Labourers And Film Extras by lavylilly: 12:32pm On Jan 06, 2025
unbiasedTruth:
This is the downside of over education
I predict that this will happen in Nigeria in 40-50 years.


Right now, every shop attendant/driver/security has O level in Nigeria unlike before when it was enough for a secretarial/clerk job. Almost everyone now has a HND/B.Sc and in 15 years time, B.Sc will be basic requirement for shop attendant/driver/security.

In 40-50 years, it will be the turn of Masters degree.
it's happening already my Uber driver is a graduate of accounting with 2nd class upper
Jobs/VacanciesRe: Please, I Need A Remote Job by lavylilly: 11:45am On Jan 06, 2025
Ariana247:
Thanks. I’m on there but I barely see remote job pertaining my field.
What field?
PoliticsRe: Nigerians Doubt Fresh Predictions Over 2024 Failed Prophecies by lavylilly: 6:54pm On Jan 05, 2025
We are currently hiring Cooks for a new online restaurant in Apo, Abuja. Please if you’re interested send a message to the WhatsApp number. 09166304108
TravelRe: 9 African Countries To Benefit As Thailand Launches E-visa Application System by lavylilly: 4:17pm On Jan 05, 2025
grin
Jobs/VacanciesRe: Job Vacancy - Urgently Needed by lavylilly: 5:24am On Jan 05, 2025
Cavchi:
Please am looking for a job in Abuja
09125351252
join JobZoneNG on telegram
Jobs/VacanciesRe: At 31yrs : Should I Pursue Nursing For A Fresh Start? by lavylilly: 5:21am On Jan 05, 2025
Thank you for sharing your story with me. I can sense the confusion, overwhelm, and vulnerability in your message. I'm here to offer you honest thoughts and advice, and I hope it helps.

Firstly, congratulations on taking the first step towards pursuing your goal of studying Nursing by sitting for NECO. That takes courage, especially without a science background.

Now, let's address the elephant in the room: your motivation for studying Nursing. You mentioned it's mainly for relocating abroad. While that's a valid reason, it's essential to consider whether Nursing is a career you're genuinely passionate about. Ask yourself:

- Are you interested in the healthcare field and willing to put in the hard work required to become a nurse?
- Or is Nursing just a means to an end (relocating abroad)?

If it's the latter, you might want to reconsider your motivations. Nursing is a demanding profession that requires dedication, empathy, and a strong work ethic. If your heart isn't in it, you might struggle to stay motivated and perform well in your studies and future career.

Assuming you're still interested in pursuing Nursing, here are some pros and cons to consider:

Pros:

- Nursing is a respected and in-demand profession globally.
- It can provide a sense of fulfillment and purpose.
- With your existing academic background, you might bring a unique perspective to the field.

Cons:

- Nursing requires intense academic and clinical training, which can be challenging without a science background.
- The program might be longer than usual due to your non-science background.
- You'll need to invest significant time, money, and effort into your studies.

Considering your current situation, here are some suggestions:

1. Take a step back and reassess your motivations: Reflect on why you want to study Nursing. Is it genuinely because you're interested in the field, or is it solely for relocation purposes? Be honest with yourself.
2. Explore alternative options for relocation: If relocating abroad is your primary goal, consider other options that might not require a significant career change, such as:
- Looking into visa programs or work opportunities in your current field (Media Studies).
- Exploring other countries with less stringent requirements for relocation.
3. Weigh the financial implications: With 4.8 million Naira in savings, you have a decent financial cushion. However, consider the additional costs associated with pursuing Nursing, such as tuition fees, living expenses, and potential relocation costs.
4. Seek guidance and support: Talk to professionals in the Nursing field, academic advisors, or a therapist to help you navigate your thoughts and feelings. Sharing your concerns with someone who can offer objective guidance can be incredibly helpful.
5. Prioritize your mental health: Don't underestimate the impact of depression on your well-being. Make sure to take care of yourself, engage in activities that bring you joy, and seek professional help if needed.

Remember, it's okay to take your time and re-evaluate your goals. Your happiness and well-being are essential, and there's no rush to make a decision.

Keep in mind that I'm not a career counselor or a mental health professional. If you're struggling with depression or need personalized advice, please seek help from qualified experts.

You got this, and I'm rooting for you!
MercySpeak:
Dear Nairalanders, please share your honest thoughts and advice.

I will officially turn 31 this September. I hold a B.A. and M.A. in Media Studies, and I currently work as a part-time lecturer while managing some side hustles.

Last year, I sat for NECO to write science subjects with the aim of studying Nursing mainly for the purpose of relocating abroad (I won’t lie).

Note: I don't have science background. Can I make it through with Nursing if I proceed?

Right now, I have savings of about 4.8 million Naira, but I’m feeling confused and overwhelmed. Should I proceed with pursuing Nursing? I’ll admit, I’m battling depression over this.

Your advice will mean a lot to me. Thank you!
CareerRe: I Need Advice On A Skill To Learn In 2025 by lavylilly: 5:08am On Jan 05, 2025
Fragrance1:
I'm having the same taught as well.
I think tech will be good
Please, anyone in Lagos that can teach tech both physically and online should quote me.
Thanks.
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FamilyRe: What's That One Thing You Learnt In Your Marriage by lavylilly(op): 5:06am On Jan 05, 2025
undecided
Fiscus105:
Don't ever trust your husband with secret?


I guess you married a devil incarnate, may God see you through.

Anyway,that's ur personal experience sha, you are a type who will married and still have opposite bedtime, that she normally share her secret with
EducationRe: Word Used By Nigerians But Not Found In The Dictionary? by lavylilly(op): 2:20pm On Jan 04, 2025
grin
Ademolu2002:
Knacking
Kpekus
Blokos
FamilyRe: What's That One Thing You Learnt In Your Marriage by lavylilly(op): 2:20pm On Jan 04, 2025
undecided
tanigororo:
Many Woman are the Architect of their marital problems...
FamilyRe: What's That One Thing You Learnt In Your Marriage by lavylilly(op): 2:19pm On Jan 04, 2025
kiss
gerizzim:
I learnt to be intentional and deliberate in what should happen in the home.
if you leave things on autopilot in your home, the aircraft go crash.

we most times put women at high pedestal before marrying them. when she starts living with you in the home that is when it wil dawn on you that most of them behave like children. Kids need guidance . So your wife.
FamilyRe: Nairaland Christmas ⛄ Giveaway 2024 Edition by lavylilly: 8:13pm On Dec 28, 2024
Thermythorpe:
@ everyone,
D giveaway I plead for is a job..

Please,no amount of money you can give dat I won't exhaust.

I seek a better/job opportunity in Ologuneru,Ibadan.

Can reach me 08065485520
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FamilyWhat's That One Thing You Learnt In Your Marriage by lavylilly(op): 8:09pm On Dec 28, 2024
Married Women: What's that one thing you learnt in your marriage and wish you have known before marriage

Me: Your husband will always be that stranger you met on day one. Don't ever trust him with any secret oh!
InvestmentRe: Crypto Currency Investors Thread by lavylilly: 7:37pm On Dec 28, 2024
Trading Plan

Your trading plan should always include these three fundamental principles:

WHERE
Define the zone of interest for entering a trade.
This could be a significant level, a graphical pattern, a round number, or any other key area.
You shouldn't open a trade "somewhere in the air," right?

WHAT
Identify the factors you want to see in the zone of interest before opening a trade.
For example:
- False breakout
- Stop-loss sweep
- Breakdown of order book liquidity

WHEN
Determine the specific market conditions that will trigger your decision to press the buy (long) or sell (short) button.
This is your reason for entering the trade.

Always focus on these three points when creating your trading plan.
EducationRe: Word Used By Nigerians But Not Found In The Dictionary? by lavylilly(op): 4:05pm On Dec 28, 2024
grin
SamuraiXXX:
Fixed!
Jobs/VacanciesRe: A Letter To Unemployed People by lavylilly: 12:55pm On Dec 28, 2024
cry
fixzycode:
For those who are willing to become self taught programmers, your journey begins at
codefixzy.com
Stop procrastinating and start something today.
You will forever be grateful to this simple advice.
Jobs/VacanciesRe: If You Don't Have A Plan To Japa, THINK AGAIN!!! by lavylilly: 12:54pm On Dec 28, 2024
huh
RomanceRe: Is There Any Reason For This? by lavylilly: 12:53pm On Dec 28, 2024
grin
Truvelisback:
The Devil u know is better than the Angel u don't know.
Jobs/VacanciesRe: How Much Does Filmhouse Cinema Pay It's Team Members by lavylilly: 11:15am On Dec 28, 2024
Dannyhonda:
How about now?
90k
EducationWord Used By Nigerians But Not Found In The Dictionary? by lavylilly(op): 11:13am On Dec 28, 2024
Let me go incasity

Let just do this in case of incasity.
Nairaland GeneralHo Has 2024 Been For You? by lavylilly(op): 9:09am On Dec 28, 2024
2024 has been quite an eventful year! It was marked by historic elections, with over 60 countries holding polls, and saw significant changes in global leadership. Donald Trump was re-elected as President of the United States, while Mexico elected its first female president, Claudia Sheinbaum.

The year also witnessed its share of natural disasters, including Hurricane Helene and severe flooding in Spain. Furthermore, the Russia-Ukraine War continued, and the Israel-Hamas conflict escalated.

On a more positive note, 2024 saw several groundbreaking achievements in science and technology. NASA's Ingenuity helicopter completed its 72nd and final flight on Mars, and Google unveiled a revolutionary quantum chip that can perform 33.3 trillion years of calculations in just 1 nanosecond.

The world of entertainment also had its moments, with Taylor Swift wrapping up her record-breaking world tour and Beyoncé becoming the most nominated artist in Grammy history . The year also saw the release of several critically acclaimed films, including "Oppenheimer," which won several Oscars.

Overall, 2024 has been a year of significant events, milestones, and achievements across various fields.
CareerRe: Jobs City by lavylilly(op): 9:08am On Dec 28, 2024
There's a vacancy in a food processing organization the heart of Lagos
1. Security
2. Social Media intern (corp members are encouraged to apply)
3. Quality Assurance Officer (Bsc/HND)
4. 2 General workers minimum qualifications SSCE
5. Accountant
You must have at least minimum of 3 years experience with the exception of No 4.

Kindly send your CV to Manager Mr Adesina 08166318828

Please resumption is immediate.
Accommodation available with 24/7 light.
RomanceRe: What Part Of The Wedding Do You Think Is Unnecessary? by lavylilly(op): 7:32pm On Dec 27, 2024
undecided
tete7000:
We're they there when they were toasting themselves doing lovy-lovy?

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