Jewessgratitud3:
I suffer severe menstrual cramps and it's really taking a tow on me. Like I no longer look forward to having my menses because of the pain and discomfort that comes with it.

The only thing that stops the cramps is felvin but it makes the flow three times heavier than normal to the point that I'll start feeling dizzy. The last one scared me cos after taking felvin, on the second day I was changing diaper every 5 mins. (Yes I use diaper cos pad no longer holds my flow. ) At a point I stood up and it's as if the whole blood in my system gushed out and I nearly passed out. So I said I wasn't going to use felvin again.

Now, I didn't use felvin this time and the flow is normal but I've been crying from pain since yesterday. It's like labor pain and im tempted to take felvin but when I remember what happened the last time, I'll ditch the idea.

Please what can I use to stop the pain that will not increase the flow? Please help with remedies that work.

Op, get naproxen.

You will beg to gift me a house in Banana Island.😃

It even reduces your flow. If it is heavy it makes it light and from 5 days it can even be 3 days.

The only thing you need to do is to make sure you take it 2 days before your period till you are done. You won't complain any longer.


I know you must have gotten a lot of suggestions but do this first and see the Lord is good 👍

nairalanda1:


Unfortunately, we are a patriachial society, which means in any relationship, the man is supposed to be of higher status, educationally and financially, than the woman. Preferably both.

Then there is the massive class difference.

I effing wish it wasn't so., but here we are. Even if she says yes to a relationship with him, the relations on her side will ask her if she is ment.

Even most men love younger women. It is a subconscious need to be older than your woman age wise and that need must permeates every other aspect which includes the financial aspect.

Why do you think it is always said the man is the head? Anyone who is the head of a company is expected to have more experience and training., same with romantic relationships.

It is how life is and I don't know why some people here are saying it is unfair. If you are the Head, normally the onus is on you to be better in almost all ramifications.

I am even surprised most nairalander who would castigate older ladies are overlooking the age and telling him to go ahead based on sentiment. If he had said he was an engineer and he is in love with an older lady most people here telling him to go ahead would have told him to abort mission and get younger girls. That is because men deep down feel they have to be the older one but these same men suddenly are pretending like it is a crime that people are advising the poster to level up in other areas if he wants to be her husband.

Dennisochampa:
......
Question bro....
If your elder sister brings a 24 yrs old cleaner colleague of hers home for marriage.....
A guy she's clearly older than.... Will u, as a loving brother support her decision??

Thank you! I already asked this question before seeing you already asked.
Don't mind them.

garriAndsugar:

He will definitely upgrade himself before thinking of marriage

So you would advise your sister of marriageable age to wait to put her life on hold and wait for a younger guy to grow up
Financially
Emotionally
Mentally etc
Knowing fully well age is not on her side and the young guy tomorrow may come to nairaland land and be advised to go for a younger lady.

Very funny

spinna:
Forget it..and don't be naive..you a cleaner, are in 'love' with a bank staff.

You have no rapport or friendship with her yet you are already in love

No be love be that

Build yourself ..if you plan to further your study do so

If you want to shoot your shot with banker lady go for friendship first..be her gee.. Have good banter ..cracking jokes with her and leave it at that until you have finished school..then if the friendship is still in place you can try to upgrade it to dating since you are now on same mental and education level

To have friends , you need to be friendly.. but be careful of making bad friends because they can easily wreck your life

But being socially awkward is a no..a man must be confident in every situation.

I advice you to go to school .you can gi for a banking related field in the higher institutions..meanwhile start learning about it now .being in the bank as a cleaner you can still become a bank MD if you work hard and believe in yourself


Foggerrabout love with the girl but try if you guys can be office buddies i.e strictly friends ..do not pressure her in any way or you will lose the job

Build yourself ..become more outgoing..know the Lord now in your youth..be involved in your church units and evangelism where you can build up your self confidence and speaking skills

Its well with you

Of course, he is not in love with the lady. He is just lusting at her beauty. If she was hawking under the hot sun, you think he would notice her?

All of you advising the poster to go ahead, if the banker was your sister, what advice would you give her?

Kingosytex:


Sure. I had to highlight it because many are trying to justify their whorish and hoeish attitude by trying to make it seem like being chaste is the problem.
Of course, I would go for a virgin with good character than an olosho with good character. What is even good in the character of someone jumping from bed to bed?

Wow! Your last sentence. Are you a virgin?

gabbasin:
Please don't do it, sex shouldn't be a yardstick for a lasting marriage, you can hardly come by ladies with these attributes of your wife, you may regret this decision you are about to make, If it's about sex I will recommend you have a side chick that will fill that gap. Let's face reality, having a side chick isn't a crime, they are there to fill a gap like this.

Yes, you are right, the same way with having a side-cock, right? when a woman finds herself in the same predicament as OP. married to men with low libido, one-minute man, etc. It isn't a crime too and those guys are there to fill a gap too, right?

Hope you know they are women like these men who have the same huge appetite for sex with high libido just like this man.
Hope when they come here and nag like he is doing now you all advising him to cheat and keep his marriage will also advise them to get side-cocks.

Some are married to one-minute men.
Some are married to me men with micro-penis
Some men have low sex drive hope you all advise that he gets side chicks and will also advise those women to get side-cocks. Side cocks are everywhere now hope to know. Or you will tell them to suffer in the marriage or advise them to divorce when they could just have sex on the side and keep their marriages the same way you are advising this poster

seyi072000:
This is very simple, tell her you will need to marry another wife since she can't satisfy you sexually.

Sexual avoidance in a marriage is very great sin in the eyes of God and man. If you know you don't like sex it is better you remain single.

There is nothing wrong in marrying more than one wife. Islam support it, traditional believers support it even in the Bible, there is no part or scripture that explains you should not marry more than one wife. The idea of marrying one wife is a western idea, infuse into Christianity and that is what is killing us.

Please take a second wife, if she wants to leave the marriage because of that, let her go. Ensure you don't cheat in the process. There is no love without sacrifice. Your wife don't love you enough to give you her whole self.

Don't not cheat, I repeat, don't cheat.

Why must the sacrifice comes from the wife? Can't he sacrifice too and reduce the duration and number of times he Santa sex from 5 times a week to 2 times?

etzvictor:
I know from personal experience how painful it is as man to be denied sex by your wife. Their excuses are untenable and it doesn't even seems to bother them that they may end up driving their husbands outside.

But, I don't think it will be a wise decision to divorce her. Just consider your children. Imagine the psychology impact it could have on them. You are hurt, I know, it has been going on for years, I know, but then, think twice before you act.

She is not denying him sex! They have sex enough for a human being
She is just not giving in to his high demand for sex for 5times a week and 20-25 times a month with a duration of 2 hours.

Some of these men lack tolerance and are extremely selfish. They think marriage is about having everything. They don't want to compromise. A woman may tick all their boxes or have 9 qualities out of 10 qualities they seek but it is that one she does averagely though not perfectly that they will nag about. I am sure he is not even perfect and she has areas she is managing him too-areas that are extremely important to her as well.

Imagine poster not being able to adjust and have sex twice a week? na wa
He says he wants to divorce his wife because of his high libido when it is his wife who is supposed to divorce him.

Kobojunkie:
Very stupid rubbish post by your person. The same Paul you lot quote also indicates that you sin against your body when you link it to a prostitute. But here you advise Op to become a male prostitute in marriage to his wife so his wife sins against her body by remaining joined to him. Your churchians are some of the looniest in the bunch out there.

E no tire you!

Are these the same men here who insult women every day and accuse them of loose morals? Hypocrites!

kenny1911:
Bros, you should be very careful on the decision you want to make. It’s obvious you are just tired with no reason. Yes, sex in marriage is very important but should not be a ground for devoice. Let me give a brief of similar experience that happened to me. I have been married for over 16yrs now and my marriage was going in the area of sex until about 3yrs ago when my sex drive for my wife died. I didn’t have sexual intercourse with my wife for over 2yrs because of my dead feelings. I and my wife tried everything to no avail. She was so worried if there is a spell on me because she knew the man she married in terms of the other room. She was so frustrated that, she has to be doing fastings and prayers on her husband. Sometimes, I will achieve slight erection and I will immediately try to initiate sex with her. Immediately it’s time to drive in, my p.nis will just go flat. With this, so many things were running through the mind of my wife. To be candid, it was a trying period in my family and my wife really endured. If my wife wanted to take your route, she would have divorced me but with God we are fine and all is going on well. I wrote all these just to tell you that, sometimes in marriage, the sexual urge will not be there for a long duration. At this point, you just have to endure and encourage, it’s not that she doesn’t love you but that urge is dead. I’m sure she will be fine again. From your write up, you have a goood woman as wife, please divorce should not be an option for now. Also, consider your children

Thank God your wife did not bring your marital issue to Nairaland when all that happened. The majority of Nairalanders' Men would have advised her to get a side-cock. Or is it only the men who are advised to get side-chicks when they lack sex from their wives for just a few seconds while the woman is expected to be starved for two years?

Kobojunkie:
Stop trying to blackmail OP by mentioning a God he did not see fit to mention in his entire OP abeg!

OP has checked out of the relationship a long time and even has a plan for his future that does not include the woman. Why do you think that forcing them to remain attached is the way of God? Una get heart at all? That woman has spent 13 years of her precious life catering to a man that has yet to develop deeper feelings beyond the needs of his dick for her. Why would you want to punish her for continuing in such a loveless situation for crying out loud? The children? Do you think Children enjoy having their parents live together as though strangers?

He should divorce her. It would shock him. Correct wife material- if everything he wrote about her is true. Another man with a normal libido will snag her.
I don't know why people make divorce look like a punishment.
If he divorces her, he frees her. He is doing her a favour.

NoToPile:



4-5 times a week 2 rounds is too much, too much no wonder she says you want want to kill her.


I doubt there's any woman married for 13 years with children who will not complain having sex 4-5 times a week morning and night (two rounds each) that will not complain. Even younger couples too will complain. This is the truth except we want to deceive ourselves.

You will need to adjust your appetite, sir.

Thank you! Very wicked man.
I saw 5 times I fear. Who knows maybe he reduced it to 5times sef so we won't bash him it could have been everyday.
I am even feeling sorry for his wife.
He should hit the gym and use up his excessive energy there.
I hardly get upset when I read stories but this one vexed me I logged in immediately.
The funniest part he doesn't even know he is the one with the issue.
What an appetite.

One more thing, all these people telling you to get a sidekick do not like you at all. Your father who advised you not to cheat you think he does not have sense? Or do you think anyone here loves you more than him?

Some are even saying while at it you should be careful of Stis. Don't make me laugh.
It is like as you are prospering you don't like it? You want to invite demonic spirits into your marriage through sexual immorality. Most of these side chicks are fortified. You call yourself a devout Muslim yet still think sex is physical. You can lose and exchange your glory and all your projects will crumble. The challenges, and spiritual battle you will welcome into your life you is not important as long as your insatiable desire for sex is fulfilled, right?

You think it is everyone's destiny and the divine part that is the same. Who knows maybe your father has been told some spiritual things about you and your future hence his advice.

Do you know the disease you can have even with protection? Or do you think condom prevents everything? Google is your friend Biko
Hope you know your penis is just one amongst the many other penis in the queue waiting to be defiled?

The small money you are using to do projects is "sharking" you or you think side chicks do not have bills or you intend to give them a stipend.

You don't deserve your wife. Sexually active guys should always go for their kind and leave those virgin ladies alone. Marry women who are sex freaks.

You can't compromise and want to have sex whenever you want in marriage. You think your marriage revolves around your*****
If we check now I am sure there are things about you too your wife has been complaining about for 10 years and you haven't changed or are you spotless? Divorce her and let her marry someone better who won't kill her with sex.

ADURA123:


If she will change I am ready to take her back in my heart the way it use to be, but right now I don't even feel like I am living with someone at home, I just fell I am accommodating her pending when the all my plans is out in public..but she has a up till next month to prove she can stay.
How can you not meet your wife 4-5 times a week and someone is telling me to be calm, all I do now is eat, play with my phone and sleep...I stay in Gwarinpa I know where to go and have girls for free, even kubwa is not far from me, I dey AbJ for almost 20yrs now so I am not new here...but thanks alot

Hainest!!! Oga

5 times a week? 😳
Are you a lion? I was just reading and scrolling until I got to this part and I decided to log in and comment. 5times a week for the past 10 years and you don't think you are the problem? Divorce her and remarry and believe it even the next one will run away because of too much sex. Are you addicted to sex or you don't have a hobby to distract you? Maybe you should turn one of your rooms into a mini gym and exhaust your energy because you need it. Chai!!

Everyone feels this way, (attracted to people other than their partner) both men and women inclusive. But some men as always will always want to make it a distinct nature peculiar only to themselves just to caress their frail ego. This group of weak-willed men will not leave it at attraction or admiration but take it a step further by indulging in sin. Shamelessly Exposing their genitals spreading it wide to be desecrated, defiled and polluted by every being they come across that looks like a woman. Very filthy beings.

You are not the finest man there is, nor are you the freshest man alive, you are not the most intelligent, richest, or one with the unmatchable sense of humour any woman can find, you are not the....... whatever quality you can decide to fill in the blank space yet you think you are the most desirable man your woman should pine for till the end of time.
You expect her to understand why your organ will rise for another but can not fathom why hers would follow suit, maybe because to you, she is not human? Just like you she doesn't have blood running through her veins or maybe she is blind she doesn't see hotter guys that make her private dry up at the mere sight of you when she steps out of the house.
Do you think she doesn't get tired of the same ole you, same sex styles, same looks, Do you think you don't bore her? Why do you think most of them start giving some of you excuses to avoid sex with you after marriage or do you think they still find you attractive compared to what is out there?

There is always someone hotter, smarter etc than you but fear of God, contentment and self-control and self-respect for their bodies are what is holding people back.

You chant "All men cheat but women shouldn't" yet you cannot cheat alone without the involvement of women so how delusional can you get? except you are cheating with a man of course.

These women you and your fellow men cheat with are other men's wives, fiancees, or girlfriends who may be your women as well at the end of the day (as theirs was your plaything too at some point) since you all cannot do without cheating you all keep recycling.

Besides most of these women belong to men who just like you feel they are the only ones who have the monopoly to cheat so what the fuss is all about?

Since you believe all men do cheats then it is safe to say, the majority of you here 70 per cent of your women are cheating as well after all it takes two to tango(both men and women) Can you now see the folly in that sick statement of yours?

Or in your eyes, your own woman is a saint and it is other people's women that are cheating with all the men in the world?

shineeye1:



It is the fault of modern society, men and women alike. The westernized societies have kicked good character and godliness to the dustbins. The average young girl in today's society is a confirmed harlot, a certified graduate of the schools of hookups and runs. Their clients are of course your brothers, uncles and fathers who help to ravish them. Westernized societies have proudly exchanged virtue and godliness for Cash. Today's religion has even worsened and compounded the already deplorable condition. We have so spoilt ourselves, there is nothing good left to choose from. Having corrupted all ladies of this generation, every young man today settles for any harlot as a wife. How far in life can you go with a harlot? . Marriages crumble everywhere like pack of cards. We are reaping what we sowed. We cannot get more. We must settle for the less that we subscribed for. Broken marriages are the order of the day. But that is just the beginning of the woes of a wayward generation. Soon, there will be no more marriages. The few women still lucky to have wombs would pray to become baby mamas, as more men increasingly find the futility and folly of marrying practical harlots. The lucky women with wombs left will pray to find willing baby papas after foolproof tests are concluded. Una go hear when! Generation of adulterers and adulteresses, broods of vipers who reject the pure and peaceful ways of their forebears and despise the admonitions of God. Woe unto you...

Are you minding them? They lack self-control and engage in sexual immorality with ruthless abandon yet they shamelessly complain. Never taking responsibility for their actions and that of their fellow partakers
Like! It is not rocket science.
Curb and flee from premarital and extramarital sex and see how most of these problems you all rant about on here about men and women become non-existent.

blacksam01:
in the last 2 month in my quest to get a wife... I encountered 7 single moms all working and beautiful...i was alarmed at the rate of the singlemomship..

many of them i deduced followed money of guyz and got stuck. For many also, it was supposed to b a good marriage but the guyz fell out of love.funny enough, all claimed to be properly married before....

so i ask, as this rising status continue in our society who among the male or female are reallyi fueling the Epidemic

I am happy you asked this question, even though it disgusts me because it is a hypocritical question except you were only talking about widows or divorcees.

A guy, few years back was asking me for a relationship and I told him point blank, NO SEX.
He was shocked like fornication was his birthright. He was also infuriated and said, "I can never date a lady and not have sex with her". While he was trying to confuse me to give in to fornication, God so good, a lady not more than 21 years old walked by carrying her baby. Mind you the lady was not married.

He looked at her with disgust and shook his head. He said to me, "see this one already a baby mama, what has this life turned to". I laughed at his stupidity and I told him right there, "but it is the same thing you were clamouring(fornication) for a while ago that she engaged in and got her pregnant. If she had closed her legs she wouldn't be in that situation except she aborts like some do" He kept quiet and I walked out on him.


When God told you all to avoid sexual sin you would try to act like you are smarter than him. Who is complaining now?! If the ladies tell you no sex, how many of you will agree?

If you are different and don't engage in fornication then apologies.

David275:
One or two of the documents depending on the NIMC you want to visit

Thanks David.🤗

Adeleyeibrahim:

Ask d agent for your appointment slip, if u have it, take it to the immigration office you chose for capturing, tell them you miss your appointment.

Thanks a lot.🤗
God bless you.

Sikay19:

Normally, I shouldn’t have responded to this matter because this thread is meant to support DIY/self applications. However, I will point out some irregularities in this post:

1) One does not need to reschedule talk more of paying for it Yes, you heard me right. In any case of of missing your scheduled date of capturing appointment. All you need to do to go at any convenient day after your capturing date (though you can no go before the scheduled date but you can go after the date). The officer who obtained money from her for date rescheduling is dubious and should be made to pay for this unscrupulous act.

2) NIN Validation should be sorted out at NIMC Unless your sister had been using this for other official verification that then you can be sure if the NIN is validated. To confirm the validation. I will advise that she should visit the NIMC office to validate the NIN or can as well contact the NIMC via their various media (Facebook/Twitter/Email/Phone). This is not enough to leave your sister hanging. I think the officer is up to something.

3) Advise your sister to demand refund It is obvious that your sister is being played. Asking for refund is not to recover the money from him but this demand will actually put him in check. And if it does not give in to this, Advise your sister to make a complaint about this unscrupulous officer to the Servicom department at the passport office.

Thanks a lot.🤗
God bless you.

P.S.: didn't mean to derail the thread.

lilachiever:


Na Team DIY full here. We don't want to get involved in issues of people "wey get leg"

🤗✌

Guys help reason this matter, please.

My sister and her friend wanted to renew their passport for the second time. They were given a date close to Election Day so she called the immigration guy she paid to and rescheduled.

He told them he had fixed another date in two weeks. When it was a day to that day she called the guy and told him they were coming over the next day for capturing he told them not to come and he told her he fixed a date in three weeks and not two weeks.

She felt he lied because she heard him say they should come in two weeks and not three weeks anyways she waited one week more and called him again that they would be on their way the next day but he said they shouldn't come, that their NINs were not validated

They told him it was validated and he said they should call him back and then he told them to come in the following week again. When they called him and told him they were on their way he said the immigration officer was not around and had not come back from the election(the second one) because he travelled to his hometown.

They started getting confused but because they had known him for 10 years they waited and called again and he started insisting that their NINs were not validated(which is not true)

They told him it was and he insisted they give him their NIN reference number(whatever that was)

The whole situation seems suspicious because the guy had refused to give them a capture date till now.

If their Nin were not validated in the first instance why did they get a capturing date at the start(before they rescheduled)only for him to start giving them stories?

A lot happened during these situations. Sometimes they will call and the guy will refuse to pick up his phone and when he does he would tell them he is busy eventually he came up with the NIn issue.

Please guys do someone need to take one of these documents indicated for age rectification to NIMC or all of them?

Primary school certificate
Waec
International passport
driver's license
The document listed were many so was wondering if one of them was okay

Thanks.

pansophist:


I think that for a woman to say that she has lots of male options, then it must be that all her male options are comparable in status, but this is not mostly the case.

As an analogy, a Nigerian passport can go to many countries, but all the countries combined are not up to one useful country, for example, Canada. So tell me, does a Nigerian have options?

So the same thing applies to women thinking they have options. No, you don't. What you have is a bunch of simps that a hundred of them are not up to one Davido in net-worth. It's about the quality of suitors, not quantity.

The simple truth (or bitter truth to you since many of you women live in delusion), is that most of you will settle with average men. Not because there is anything wrong with average, but because women overvalue themselves.

We live in a time where being an average man is the new abnormal, and women are prime victims of this reality they've created, where they crave top-tier men, but don't want polygamy. It's mathematically impossible.

And while you're feeling fly because you create, impose and break the rules as you feel fit when dealing with your loyal simps, real men, the one that you truly wants, who have options, and have their masculine energy intact, will not abide by it.

You will have to come to face the fact that if you do not measure up to their expectations, there are truckloads of younger, beautiful, richer, and feminine women waiting to not only snatch him away from you but beat you to stupor if you messed up. There is no sisterhood when a high-value man is in the picture

Ever heard of a man snatching another man's wife? Don't the word "wife snatcher" sound strange? Men don't snatch wives. We fit borrow her from her man and have fun, but men always return her back. But your fellow women will snatch him clean. Even using juju turn you into a mad woman. I repeat, no sisterhood when a high-value man is in the picture simply because men are assets for women, but women are responsibilities to men.

Even worse, such top-tier men can have more than one wife or concubines in non-polygamous societies. Then you come to understand that women may win the battle, but in the main war, a man will always win, if he is a real man. Maybe then you can be humble, cut off your arrogance, and see that you're also disposable to the men you desire.

Lots of you women feel fly not because there is anything special about you, but because a bigger idiot (usually a man, a foolish man who pays for his oppression) is in the background bankrolling you, fueling your narcissism. Making you unrealistic and living in a perpetual state of delusion.

I use to think men don't snatch wives until I heard a story that broke my heart.
This wicked man himself called the radio station and said he was dating his wife in her husband's house. I think it was "Charles B on sharing life issues" on the Radio.

He was asked why he did that, he said he always knew she was his wife but he just did not meet her on time to marry her. They asked where the woman is, he said she is in his house and that he eventually married her. I was shocked. They asked him how it happened he said she left the man and they got married and now have kids.


Another one recently came for advice to divorce her husband. She was told to focus on her husband and kids that the grass is not greener on the other side she refused she said the man she is seeing is ready to love her and her kids. Later she brought feedback that she has left for the man.

People are snatching wives but I think it happens discreetly.
Except for one who said he is being troubled that a guy approached him face-to-face and told him, "Please I love your wife".

I am happy you made that comment so I can get to advise people to be careful. Humans are humans irrespective of gender. If you have a man or woman with great qualities you admire rest assured others are admiring them too and wish they had met them first. If you have eyes to savour their good looks then know this, others are not blind. The disciplined, loyal and God-fearing ones would overlook but the ones without self-control would make a move.

yeyebrity:


You are so on point and I agree with this. These men think all ladies are the same and would just jump at any marriage offer. I have female friends who are in their late 30's and are still picky. There are others who don't care and are ready to settle for less. In the end, it all boils down to own's taste in men.

The woman in that video is probably chasing clout and trying to grow her page. Any woman of marriage that wants to get married can get married in a jiffy but the question is, who will she be getting married to?

You are right! Most older ladies are not yet married not because men are not asking them out but because the guys asking them out is not their spec. And it is hypocritical of these same men to mock them because these same men would never go after a lady who is not his spec in the first place.

I think it is a good thing they are true to themselves because I have read that some women claim to despise their husbands. These women settled due to societal pressure and sadly the mere sight of their husband now disgust them.

Most men should be glad about this because these women are saving them from a lifetime of misery but instead, they disparage these women, mock them and call them evening newspapers. This makes me wonder if they would rather marry a woman who can't stand the mere sight of them or starve them of intimacy because their touch recoils them or just let her be single in peace and not mock her.

I said it yesterday and I would say it again people should hold out for their spec and not settle because, in the end, the one they settled for might be the one to bear the brunt of their dissatisfaction.

kkins25:


Kobojunkie, speaking of the devil 😂😂..

@Op, I don't understand "as much as i want,". Because, Unless na oloshi you keep for house, I've never seen any marriage where the man gets sex as much as he wants. High libido women are veey rare😁.
Anyway, like somebody has said, your wife puna not not be receiving any stimulus. Continuing to restrain your self will drive you mad one day.. So, better talk to her about alternatives. Hopefully your duties as "provider" are been met?

The way he even said it,"AS MUCH AS I WANT", made me realise he doesn't even know what marriage entails. Except you are living with a human intimacy gadget then you can never have sex as much as you want. You are living with and married to a human being with her own preferences, moods, temperament, lifestyle, likes, dislikes, career, hobbies and traits and you say you want to have sex as much as you want. You must be kidding. You think she will be at your beck and call whenever you demand for it. Think again. Marriage is about compromise. You will compromise from the very first day till you have kids till you both become grand parents and feeble. If you are going with the expectations of being pleased and catered to 24/7 kindly have a rethink.

matthewkotin41:
This is the disadvantage of no sex till marriage rule. You just have to adjust.

They had sex before marriage. He said it. Now I hope you all see fornication guarantees nothing. A lot of women will give you different styles turn like snakes in bed just to make you wife them then after marriage they become relaxed and don't care anymore

Though the poster case is a bit different but I have read about men complaining about how their wives changed sexually after marriage and could barely keep up in bed.

Viltron:
It's a hard life for you bro. You saw it but chose her good side over the sexual satisfaction.

Sex is very important in marriage and you'll have to endure or cheat on her because she won't change now.

I dated a lady who almost ruined my sex life. She'll sleep in my house for months but won't let me touch her. Sex did not move her, I had to quit

Cheating is not an option. They are in it for better for...
Marriage is not a bed of roses and neither is it child's play. That is why everyone must not ignore their most important quality in a partner for other lesser qualities.


If you like dark skin ladies don't marry a light-skinned lady because she can cook well than the dark skin lady. Instead, marry your dark-skinned lady for peace's sake and get a cook or chef.
If you like slay queens who don't know more than social media please don't marry a bookworm or that geek or nerd. Instead, marry your slay queen and when you have kids get them special tutors and send them to good schools incase you are scared she won't be able to help with their homework.

If big buttocks are your spec marry her and don't marry a fat bum lady because she is a good cook. Pick your big buttock in peace and order food outside or step into the kitchen and cook yourself. You have to sacrifice one for the other. Stop trying to change people. Even you there are a lot of things about your personality or looks that need change but you can never change.

Don't ever overlook your most important quality that you seek in a partner.

Kobojunkie:
So it is also OK if the wife eventually decides to cheat on him as well for reasons of her own?

They don't know both genders will always have 1001 reasons to cheat in relationships and marriage and it won't even be sex-related like the Op's case.

They think they can have it all in one person. Even you if your wife comes here now I am sure there is more than one thing about you that worries her.