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popcykaylah:
Why you dey respond to this liability of a being. If her father was responsible enough and he took good care of her she wouldn't be here looking for a man to feast on ,her level of entitlement is like a parasite. I can never date a woman with such orientation

The poster liability only needs to ask how liabilities to rich men are treated.

Lessons123:
May God reveal such liabilities to us with this mentality

We wealthy men detest such liabilities

popcykaylah:
Why you dey respond to this liability of a being. If her father was responsible enough and he took good care of her she wouldn't be here looking for a man to feast on ,her level of entitlement is like a parasite. I can never date a woman with such orientation

May God reveal such liabilities to us with this mentality

If I get to marry this type of poster with my made wealth you will be my servant and I will treat you like trash as you brought nothing to the table. You are no less than my house help and not a partner. Of course I will meet your needs and you will be my slave with no regard.

My wife comes from Imo state and I observed they can do anything at all for papers.

Early in the marriage when I was upcoming my wife's brother asked me if I can allow my wife marry their relative in Germany so that she can get papers and then pick me up later.

This was the worst thing I've ever heard from my inlaws, consequently any transaction involving any one abroad my wife will jump at the man no matter the look, type or shape anything abroad is a sparkle in her eyes.

Also observed her family supports this boldly.

Dear Nairalanders
Please is this how Imo State people are?

I will search and get a Marraige counselor for Marraige therapy like you said. Great advise, I really appreciate.

Mindlog:
I believe you can easily afford marriage therapy sessions with a professional, so you and your wife go see one.

Please I need your mature advice.

My wife denies me of sex regularly and I have to beg for it. When she is in a good mood and I fund her account she would give me for that day and the rest days or weeks is begging for it. Mouth Action has been once since 2 years.

I am a multi millionaire by God's grace and on the way to be a billionaire very soon but chose to be faithful to my wife as I feel there is a spiritual Christian sacred bond with my wealth relating to my marriage been sacred without fornication--hence I would have happily satisfied my self with another woman as I can afford any woman in any currency.

I can't give details on this bond but the truth is I think some women have gone as far as to charm their husband's to make him loose everything financially if he cheats, I am certain of this in my own Marraige, please I won't give details on this further but will summarize that I know I have lost it all at one point because of this and when I remained faithful and prayed to God my wealth came back in multiples.

Please advice me on what to do as I am very starved and feel she knows the bond she set me up hence derives pleasure in starving me severely as I have now resulted to maturation.

Also note from my previous post the business I opened for my wife with over 30m I was shocked to visit the place after renewal of rent worth millions then decided to visit when she said she needed more money and realized the place was empty. I mean she either siphoned the money sold all the goods and has not given any explanation, I could have fainted but comforted my self that at least money is not my problem for now.

Dear Nairalanders,

Sequel to my thread about me investing over 30 million in my wife and she is ungrateful https://www.nairaland.com/6756674/wife-ungrateful.

Yesterday I asked her I wanted to check her phone and she started to delete some email messages and when I asked her to show me as it was still in the thrash yet to be fully deleted she tried to jump off the balcony of the two storey building.

I called my parents as she said she wanted to jump off and commit suicide, she said if I leave the balcony for her to use her phone she would not commit suicide.


We managed to drag her back and then she asked that she wants to be alone in her room and speak to her dad, we allowed her as we knew she was going to delete the email.

Nairalanders please what do you think she is up to please, bear in mind that I also observed she records our conversations when we have issues but that had been settled. I am still in the Marraige but sincerely I am shocked, this her move was really extremely sinister. Please advise me on my next steps, though I have started some already.

We are in the same shoes that makes two of us. I have realized that every Marraige has its own issues. But we all have to manage. My wife was also the most peaceful woman in courtship till after some years in marriage and if I had seen these attitudes I would have not made this mistake. @oladiddy just tolerate the best you can and as advised try and get another self contained apartment close to your home to work leave in the morning and return back home after work from the apartment note you must do everything not to allow her make you loose your job.

Rtk5:
Men you need to hussle and if possible avoid marriage. The worst thing that can ever happen to a man is going broke.

Please I am not trying to poison anybody's heart. It is good to fall in love and marry the right partner. I tell you most solemnly, until things get bad, you will never know the real attitude of your partner.

I remember when I lost my job and things became so bad that I planned to kill my self on a certain day, what stopped me from committing suicide was I fell into a deep sleep that I didn't wake up till the next day at around 8am. On waking up i relaized that God did something to me that i couldn't explain till today and the thought of suicide vanished.

Back to my topic, there was a day during my times of trial and hardship that my wife told me she wanted to go and visit her male friend in his house, I stopped her by saying why will a married woman do that and you even have the guts to tell me. It ended in a fight, anytime we have any slight quarrel, she will pack her things and leave to her mum's place and the family always support her actions without knowing from me what happened.

There was a time when our child was just barely few months old, i left the house for an interview, i trecked about 3km to the venue, she left him at home and went to only God knows where, only for her to call me that she has left the house and my son for me, that i should get home before he wakes up from sleep, i couldn't wait for the interview to get to my turn, i begged a random person on the road and he gave me #1,000 that was after i begged more than ten different people with other refusing to answer me not to talk of helping. I ran home and thank God i met him just waking up. I took him back to the interview and a kind lady helped me with him until it got to my turn and i finished and went back home.

In the night at about 7pm while i was preparing to bath him, she entered the house and carried him to bath him, i didn't utter a word and i forgave her.

Guys, you need to see how thin i became during those trials, no single food to eat. I became a shadow of myself, i became so shy of walking in public because of how frustrated i became. I have many experiences but i rest my case here.

The sad reality right now is that we are still married, while the good is that things have improved 10times better than it has ever been but i've placed her where she belongs. The only thing stopping me from divorce is what people will say and my image. Do you know that honestly she hasn't learnt her lessons as she is still a problem to me, always nagging and i don't have peace in my own house.

Right now i'm on the process of divorce and i'm building resistance to whatever people will say.

This is a fact almost all wives do this, just pray to remain on top and try to never go down, I experienced this as well, my wife was the first to mock me when I was down but I bounced back and 100% higher in two months.

Davido would make a good impact as President though young but better than our present rulers and proved to be wise with the 1m challenge. Let's give this generation a chance I feel he will get massive support from our youths. What are your views.

Kobojunkie:
Rather that lump all issues as one, believing your wife is to blame for them all, start taking responsibility for the parts you played in creating them.

See each individual problem for what it is and begin tackling them each making sure to take everyone along with you.

I agree I as well have a bit of a temper sometimes when frustrated.

Rubbiish:
Lol the bold is funny
Sign contract on top wetin? To pay electricity & grocery bill? This girl too funny lol

No one knows tomorrow and where our kids will find themselves that is why I don't complain too much about her siblings moving in. But the issue is she does not appreciate all I have done and we quarrel regularly.

mariahAngel:
Are you afraid of your wife and her family?
What about your own siblings?

It seems your wife’s family have hijacked your home.
Tell your brother-in-law it is time to leave your house since he already has a job.

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She has almost 10 younger siblings most in school my siblings are few and older and all engaged in jobs.

teeste:
Let her go back to her teaching job. The more you invested in a woman, the more the regrets. That money could have been used for a life insurance for your children. Women don't deserve this treatment you guys are giving them. That gender wasn't created to give, so putting so much in their custody is a wrong move!

I've realised this already but closing the business is not so simple after all the investments.

mariahAngel:
Are you afraid of your wife and her family?
What about your own siblings?

It seems your wife’s family have hijacked your home.
Tell your brother-in-law it is time to leave your house since he already has a job.

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I don't want to break my home like I said earlier I have strong moral values and a strong Christian and somehow believe favour from God comes from living right, peace, kindness and not divorce, cheating etc. I try to live righteous.

Justbehave:
Well,you are a man and you should know how to handle such a woman by yourself. The way I might handle the issue if i'm in your shoes,you might not have the guts to do same.
Na your life. If you want to die young you know what to do and if you want to live long,you still know what to do.In all,be wise as a serpent.

What do you advise please

Lessons123:
Please mature advise.

I do not want to think divorce or cheat on her as I have strong moral values against cheating.

kestolove95:
Mumu man

Please mature advise.

greenie77:
Another tales by moonlight!

Created an account today to tell the story of how he set up a business for his wife which has gulped over 30 million naira and has failed.

"My dad had to sell his house in lekki and is in the process of buying a house in Ajah because he needed only 10m to complete his house in the village which I could have easily provided if it wasn't for my indebtedness through my wife"......Who sells prime property in Lekki because he needed to complete a village house?

Pensioners who have homes in lekki have no source of income apart from the only property they acquired while in service. And as they grow older must relocate to the village or country home.

Kobojunkie:
1. Stop feeling guilty over your Dad's issue.... the moment you left home to live with your own family, your father's plans became your father's plans and not yours. You now have bigger fish to fry of your own.... your family. It is brutal but the truth.

2. You say your brother-in-law lives with you, but you never mentioned how old he is and if he pays rent to live with you. What exactly do you feel disrespected by him for?

3. Does your sister-in-law also live with you? What is the quarrel about her?

4. As for your wife, you want her to be grateful, can you please be more specific as to what it is your quarrel with her is?

. My brother in law does not pay rent I agreed to help as he was coming for NYSC in Lagos and now he has spent two years in my house despite also having a good job for an entry level guy.

I have a wife and blessed with a daughter, I earn extremely high and I am in a debt of over 2m monthly as a result of paying for a loan monthly to set up a business for my wife which has gulped over 30m and still a failure though this is the second failure of business opened.

I decided to open the business as we both agreed she should resign as her salary as a teacher was the same salary with one of our two maids.

The issue is despite doing very well financially, my wife always gives me issues and there doesn't seem to be any love apart from me being her daily ATM.

There was actually a phase when I had challenges financially and she was the only person to mock me.

I need your advice as the quarrels are becoming too constant and the severe quarrels are majorly related to my brother in laws and sister in laws. Mind you my brother in law has been living with us and disrespects me and she defends him. Also before the marriage she was a very humble and tolerating lady until the business was opened. Sometimes I feel guilty as my dad had to sell his house in lekki and is in the process of buying a house in Ajah because he needed only 10m to complete his house in the village, which I could have easily provided if it wasn't for my indebtedness through my wife.

Mature advise please.