Kobojunkie:
Rather that lump all issues as one, believing your wife is to blame for them all, start taking responsibility for the parts you played in creating them.

See each individual problem for what it is and begin tackling them each making sure to take everyone along with you.

I agree I as well have a bit of a temper sometimes when frustrated.

Kobojunkie:
1. Stop feeling guilty over your Dad's issue.... the moment you left home to live with your own family, your father's plans became your father's plans and not yours. You now have bigger fish to fry of your own.... your family. It is brutal but the truth.

2. You say your brother-in-law lives with you, but you never mentioned how old he is and if he pays rent to live with you. What exactly do you feel disrespected by him for?

3. Does your sister-in-law also live with you? What is the quarrel about her?

4. As for your wife, you want her to be grateful, can you please be more specific as to what it is your quarrel with her is?

This is absolutely Nonsense.....

Lessons123:
No one knows tomorrow and where our kids will find themselves that is why I don't complain too much about her siblings moving in. But the issue is she does not appreciate all I have done and we quarrel regularly.

What do you mean by she does not appreciate all you have done? Do you expect her to see you as a Messiah of some sort or what?
Unless you explain what exactly the core of this is, there is no way of properly stating my opinion on this..

MPESA:
This is absolutely Nonsense.....

Asking him questions to better understand his quarrel is nonsense?

Lessons123:
I agree I as well have a bit of a temper sometimes when frustrated.

You have to working on not lettjng your emotions rule over you even in this.

Justbehave:
SMH

I dey shame for the man you quoted.

greenie77:


Wife's teaching salary is same as the salary with one of their two maids. his has put in 30million into his wife's failed businesses, his father sold Lekki property becauae he needed to complete his village house, wife's brother who is working is living in his house and being disrespectful .....you realized it is a fake story after giving your mature advice!

Hahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahaha

Wetin we for do na?
We go shaa give benefit of the doubt abi?

Get another person to manage the business, let your wife go back to teaching job, tell brother in law to get his own apartment.


But before this, come home one day with a bitter face and forge a story of how you lost everything.... the person to manage the business will be serving as a debtor who took over the business because you couldn't service a loan.Hide all this from your wife.Limit every extravagant expenses and let's see if the whole house won't calm down

Your wife is a failure and a parasite.If u dnt wat to die young,divorce her.

There is nothing like matured advice here....u r so weak as a man...ur wife is a total liability.

Lessons123:
Please mature advise.

Wat if she is cheating on u?....

Lessons123:
I do not want to think divorce or cheat on her as I have strong moral values against cheating.

Lessons123:
I have a wife and blessed with a daughter, I earn extremely high and I am in a debt of of over 2m monthly as a result of paying for a loan monthly to set up a business for my wife which has gulped over 30m and still a failure though this is the second failure of business opened. I decided to open the business as we both agreed she should resign as her salary as a teacher was the same salary with one of our two maids. The issue is despite doing very well financially my wife always gives me issues and there doesn't seem to be any love apart from me being her daily ATM. There was actually a phase when I had challenges financially and she was the only person to mock me. I need your advise as the quarrels are becoming too constant and the severe quarrels are majorly related to my brother in laws and sister in laws. Mind you my brother in law has been living with us and disrespects me and she defends him. Also before the marriage she was a very humble and tolerating lady until the business was opened. Sometimes I feel guilty as my dad had to sell his house in lekki and is in the process of buying a house in Ajah because he needed only 10m to complete his house in the village, which I could have easily provided if it wasn't for my indebtedness through my wife. Mature advise please.

You married a fine girl while she married your money. Deal with. Just pray u dont lose that ur job or business

EmptyGarden:
All women have this extreme sense of entitlement after marriage.

Not all. His wife is obviously a spoilt person and i can bet my balls that she'll abandon him if money finish

AutoChick4U:
Not all. His wife is obviously a spoilt person and i can bet my balls that she'll abandon him if money finish

Invalid bet... Which balls?

Lessons123:
Please mature advise.

She was humble at first which was simply pretense and unfortunately u fell for it. You need to man up, kick d brother out and dont tolerate nonsense. With all this stress, u may not clock 50 unfortunately

EmptyGarden:

Invalid bet... Which balls?

Imaginary balls na

Angelacruz:
Your wife is a failure and a parasite.If u dnt wat to die young,divorce her.

Remember he asked her to quit her salary job. Everyone aint cut out for business but her disrespect no just make sense. Rich husband wey people dey pray for fa

AutoChick4U:
Imaginary balls na

No worry, your leg don come outside.

Kobojunkie:
1. Stop feeling guilty over your Dad's issue.... the moment you left home to live with your own family, your father's plans became your father's plans and not yours. You now have bigger fish to fry of your own.... your family. It is brutal but the truth.

2. You say your brother-in-law lives with you, but you never mentioned how old he is and if he pays rent to live with you. What exactly do you feel disrespected by him for?

3. Does your sister-in-law also live with you? What is the quarrel about her?

4. As for your wife, you want her to be grateful, can you please be more specific as to what it is your quarrel with her is?

I’m not sure about OP, but your questions are the exact type I would hear and not dignify with a response.

EmptyGarden:

No worry, your leg don come outside.

What legs? Oh you took d statement like it is? Nawa for nigerian educational system

Lessons123:
She has almost 10 younger siblings most in school my siblings are few and older and all engaged in jobs.

Since the one who lives with you makes some money, maybe not enough for him to move out, why not have him contribute his share to the bills to help lessen the financial burden you are here complaining about? It may not be a lot but a little goes a long way.

CrystalSpark:


I’m not sure about OP, but your questions are the exact type I would hear and not dignify with a response.

She is trying to sound smart but ended up being stupid. Lol

Your brother in-law disrespecting you in your house. Oga you the provoke me. Show him the way out. As for your wife, it was money that made her your wife.

Kobojunkie:
1. Stop feeling guilty over your Dad's issue.... the moment you left home to live with your own family, your father's plans became your father's plans and not yours. You now have bigger fish to fry of your own.... your family. It is brutal but the truth.

2. You say your brother-in-law lives with you, but you never mentioned how old he is and if he pays rent to live with you. What exactly do you feel disrespected by him for?

3. Does your sister-in-law also live with you? What is the quarrel about her?

4. As for your wife, you want her to be grateful, can you please be more specific as to what it is your quarrel with her is?

Useless counsel

mariahAngel:


Are you afraid of your wife and her family?
What about your own siblings?

It seems your wife’s family have hijacked your home.
Tell your brother-in-law it is time to leave your house since he already has a job.

Modified: FAKE STORY!!!
Lessons123 left the thread...

You concluded it is a Fake story how ?

This was how I uploaded a true life story of how I was scammed and one FBI wannabe lady was shouting it is fake it is fake !


If you have no solid evidence of how true or false a story is, don’t go about nullifying it.

Lessons123:
Pensioners who have homes in lekki have no source of income apart from the only property they acquired while in service. And as they grow older must relocate to the village or country home.

Don't they collect pension?

Don't they earn rents from that property in Lekki?

Xilsbridalhouse:

You concluded it is Fake story how ?

This was how I uploaded a true life story of how I was scammed and one FBI wannabe lady was shouting it is fake it is fake !


If you have no solid evidence of how true or false a story is, don’t go about nullifying it.

Most times, mischievous people create new accounts just to post controversial hate inducing stories (especially towards women).

At first, they'd engage contributors for a short while, then before you know it, they're nowhere to be seen to answer questions.
Before you know it, it turns into a war of ugly words between males and females, next thing you, it hits front-page.
That's why!

Did you create yours with an old account or a new one? It determines the authenticity of the story.

mariahAngel:


Most times, people will create new accounts to post controversial hate inducing stories (especially towards women).
At first, they'd engage contributors, then before you know it, they're nowhere to be seen to answer questions.
Next thing you know, it turns into a war of ugly words between males and females, before you know it, it hits front-page.

That's why!

I don’t think that’s enough reason to outline that his story is fake. If I wanted to express myself online knowing many people know me physically here, I’d go create a new moniker and yes I probably won’t reply mentions, just skim through, pick the best advice and move on.

Any yes, that account becomes dormant.

From his story, He might not be %100 true but definitely %95 and for the other guy that quoted you, of course there are people who can afford such lifestyle (You don’t think everyone in Nigeria is poor, common!) and they are here also on NL, the few ones just try to show off stylishly.

You can't blame your wife for your financial recklessness.