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@tboy1

pls can you you get in touch with me at lidbb2@yahoo.com .

I would like to talk to you.

The Lord of the Rings
The Sound of Music
A Streetcar named Desire
The Godfather
Oceans 11

bridget007:
@lidbbd2, No offence taken, indeed you were right. Its hard though when in love, you try to highlight any good in the person while minimising the bad in the hope that things will be better. In a way though I don't regret it because i know I gave the marriage my all and did it for the right reasons. I just regret that his behaviour robs my son of a proper family, I don't feel sorry for myself, but i do for my son.

@ bridget
I understand how you feel,and you are spot on.In love you try to emphasize on the other person's good,and minimise the bad.
its good to know you have a clear conscience since you gave it your all.
Don't feel sorry for your son,it was not your fault.You did everything a person in your shoes would have done.
And it is not a crime to fall in love.
I really do wish you the best,and hope things gets better.

@ poster

I'm sorry if i sound mean, i really am not,but i do not think you should be surprised at all what is happening.

I remember you putting a post some months ago just before you married this guy,and I REMEMBER WARNING YOU that all he was after was the british papers. (i think then you said something about him not using his student visa to study and it would soon expire bla bla bla)and i clearly remember warning you more than once that you are just being used to get papers.

So i really do not know why you should be shocked and disappointed at whats going on.

Like i said then in that post,and i will say it again,once he gets his papers,he will toss you away ruthlessly.

Pls bridget,i really am not being mean or unsympathetic,but you were warned about the high possibility of this happening.

The super eagles definately have the potential to qualify,but if recent history is anything to go by,i'd probably expect to be disappointed.
In 2002,our eagles inspite of all their talent were at a crucial stage FIVE points adrift of leaders liberia,and had to depend on a weaker Ghanian side to help them beat liberia in order for us to qualify.
You would think our boys will learn from that, but No!They repeated the same thing in 2006,and the talented eagles lost out in a qualification race in a group that our team B should easily qualify from.
Now that we are grouped against Tunisia,do you think tunisia will be shaking at the thought of meeting us?Or do you think Mozambique and Kenya are not inspired by Angola's acheivements and also want to qualify for the world cup?
For me,i will just sit down and be watching.I'm too young to develop hypertension.

kemisuga:
To me Nairaland has been a wonderful site to visit:

* I get right and wrong information.
* Nairaland makes me smile, laugh out loud and hiss.
* Makes me meet useful and useless guys.
* Has been keeping my company when bored.
* It makes me happy when am sad.
* etcetera.

I have not regretted being a member, what are your views

i agree with you completely.
change the guys to people.

Brash!:
Nothing apart from the fact that i know a girl on nairaland called KEMI-SUGA and she doesnt joke when it comes to [b]COCK and DIC.K theories!![/b]

i'd like to know more about kemi's theories

i guess i can.
it depends on sevaral factors,
but if i'm satisfied,yes i can marry my agemate.
i know of 3 marraiges that have lasted decades,and the couple are older than each other by just months.

Good for you.Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.
We are all beautiful in the eyes of the Lord.

sistawoman:
i tried not to call again but just did.

he picked the call this time but would not speak to me.  I just spoke into a silent phone and asked that he please break the silence with me, come home and allow us to work this out.  I reminded him of our wedding day and i could hear him crying.  I apoligized for the nasty voicemails and texts and lying to him and not trusting that he could understand the truth.

I love him with all my heart and I am hoping and praying that God softens his heart long enough for him to come home.  At least let me lay eyes on him this day before i close mine.

I miss my husband and I love him so much.  I can't believe this is happening to me.

at last.i'm glad peace is now on the horizon.i'm happy for you.
take a lesson from this incident.at least you are able to understand a few more things about him.
it seems you have a slightly immature "cry baby" on your hands though.

sistawoman:
How exactly should i do that since he took the truck and the kids are here at home?

you're going to have to find a way to see him face to face ,maybe you should take a cab and take the kids along with you if they can't stay at a friends place for a few hours.
if you really want to end this,you'll have to make a physical move.Texts and phonecalls are only aggravating the situation.

sistawoman:
The nasty messages were this am at 730am before i left for work.  My tone softened as the day went on.

My last message was very soft but it will be my last message.  I called at 630pm to hold out the olive branch but accept it or not he has to make the choice and live with that decison.  If his pride/ego is too big to work out this small thing then it is better that he stay at his apartment and make another appointment for a divorce lawyer.

A simple issue of lying because of your kids has turned into involving a divorce lawyer!!??&&?
this raises so many more questions than awnsers.
you are simply not helping things with your attitude.all this ultimatum and threats will only make things worse.
if you really want to hold out an olive branch,i will advise you to swallow your pride and go to where he is staying and talk things over with him.

sistawoman:
I have tried to make the peace, maybe too late, I left him a very nasty voicemail this morning and sent him several nasty text messages.  But on the flip side of that he should know me by now and know that when i blow up i really blow up.

I just called again, for the last time, asked that he please call or come home after the children go to bed so that we can talk.

I held out the olive branch lets see if he takes it and comes home.  I will not tolerate too much of him staying away from home.  i am not sure where my breaking point is.   But I will just keep busy with work, caring for my babies and sleep.  As long as i don't find myself idle i will be fine and wont pick up the phone to call him.

I miss him and love him dearly and really can't believe this thing has gone on this long.  I am going to wait a few more days before i bring Amos in to mediate.

You are just making everything worse with the nasty messages you are sending to him.Is this part of the olive branch you held out??
men dont really like those kind of behaviour.
i dont even know how you managed to allow things to degenerate into this state.
you are obviously not doing things right.I advise you should change tactics.
i've told you before.you better dont let this minor quibble turn into something major.

KarmaMod:
Lmao tpia, who knows anymore. I'm still crossing my fingers in regards to that

Speak for yourself and let the others do the same.

Ease up on the attitude.
My comments were directed to the poster.
Why are you getting worked up?

KarmaMod:
libdd, go calm down jo. It's like you don't even understand what happened

mesmya:

I understand what happened.I'm giving my opinion on how a man would interprete it.(at least most men)

@ poster

you are totally at fault here.why did you have to play hanky panky?
it might had been better if you told him beforehand you couldn't go on with the appointment rather than cancel it and then lie.
i dont really blame him.your lying and subsequent sarcasm has set up a chain reaction in your husbands head.
who knows?now that you lie,you may start cheating.
by your sarcasm,you disrespected him and showed you dont really recognise his authority (thats what most men will think).
you should have simply said the truth beforehand.see what your lying has caused.
what happened to the openness that you ladies love preaching?
i think you have a bit of explaining and begging to do.
and you better sort this out cos if it causes a bigger friction in your relationship,you wont like the outcome.

P.S: you better dont let him know you keep in touch with your ex.