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@poster
why u dey look for validation?
if u get issues with your self-esteem,and u come dey look for people make dem tell you say u fine;thats too bad.
appreciate urself as u dey.
nobody dey perfect.
even if u ugly pass ugly,girl wey go like you go like you,and if u fine pass handsome,girl wey no go like you no go like you.
focus on ur personality instead.na there the real coolness dey.

@ poster
in accepting money from a man who rapes his wife,your friend has succeded in destroying the marraige.
the trust has completely been betrayed.
look at the scenario;
someone rapes ur wife,ur wife tells you,naturally you became angry,then the "raper" uses money to beg you.you collect the money (which is bad enough),and worse of all,you refuse to tell ur wife.
that is really terrible,and i honestly feel there is little anyone can do.
your friend really messed up big time.he must be a very greedy man.he no excuse for his actions.
that kind of man can sell his family if the price is right.
infact,he should be left alone to suffer the consequences of his action.
if my friend did that to his wife,i do not think i will go and beg anybody.

i no know why the man go wait till him marry before he talk that kin thing.
the man is a bad selfish and useless man.
there is nothing new under the sun.nothing dey happen now wey never happen before.
as soon as the man don discover say he dey malfunction,he suppose raise alarm to senior family members say
"e gba mi o.Ko le dide"
"ko mu ina rara"
quick quick,olori ebi go gather awon "baba ati iya agba".
by the time dem bombard the man agbo,agunmu,ajesara,etc.,the blood go redirect do where him prick dey
one time the thing go wake up dey charge always.

no trick the lady into marraige b4 the man talk.that one bad no be small.

@ all una contributors including poster
na wetin i dey talk be dat.
dem say prevention is better than cure.
if una wan date,make una date properly include everything so all this impotence and frigidity issue go come to light before una marry.
if d man dey impotent,d lady go know quick qiuck begin plan how she go take run.
divorce no easy like dat.remember say na africa we be.family go dey try to patch patch things.
if u r in a relationship,make love and know your sexual compatibility whether una fit each other for bed or not.
imagine dating person for 2 or 3 yrs,then una marry.then u discover say he dey impotent,or she dey frigid,or his d*ck is not big enough for you
then u go start to dey carry eye for outside,begin cause chain of problems wey una for avoid in the begining.

if u be man wey impotent,go meet "awon agba" make dem cure you with agbo etc b4 u attempt a relationship,else u go just dey frustrated at the end of the day.na your problem,so go solve am.
no put wahala for the lady head.

no wahala bros,
na my opinion be that o.

@ nonso3k
thrusting a woman is something else.
the fact that you slept with her easily does not necessarily mean she can't be trusted.
it also doesn't necessarily mean she is a slut or prostitute.
i've already said the possible reasons she may have done that.
thats what i'm trying to say.dont jugde her based on only that.
you too cannot be trusted if you actually slept with her.
it means you can't control yourself.

@ nonso3k
we men have started again o!
now she is a slut becos she allowed you f*ck her,even though she didn't ask you for a kobo.
what about you that dropped your pants to f*ck herwhat do we call you?
why didn't you stop her and tell her to let both of you get to know each other better first?
obviously,in your view,what is normal for the goose is unacceptable for the gender.
they have sexual feelings too,just like we men.
cut the lady some slack.

@ princess k
how're u doing?
remember me??

@poster
its either of several things,

1) she is very loose.
2)she is not loose,but hasn't had sex for a long time and you happened to be the "chosen" one to help releive her of her sexual tension.
3)her boyfriend cheated on her and she wants to revenge
4)she has been dumped by a man and she wants to proove to herself she can still sexually captivate a man.
5)she is in her Hot period,and u happened to light a sexual fire in her,setting all her hormones ablaze.
etc etc etc

it doesn't mean she is a prostitute or a bad girl.
afterall,she didn't collect any money fron you

it depends on the woman.
some women can loosen up after just a tablespoon of alcohol,while others can drink 2 big stout and their sense will still be correct.

@poster
na so marraige dey hungry you
how you go dey talk marraige with person wey u never see before.
una just talk for phone exchange pictures and u don fall in love begin talk marraige.
flowrate dey high well well when una dey talk for phone.maybe na dat one intoxicate you.
u bypass relationship talk just jump straight to marraige!!!!
this one get as e be o.
i go advise you make you cool down,come reactivate your oblangata.
meet am first a few times,then decide whether na person wey u fit have relationship with.
if she meet ur criteria,then be her boyfriend for some time see if she be wife material,
if she pass level 2,then start to dey think of marraige.
make u chill o, marraige no easy like u dey think.

@ bridget007
it seems you've got it all sorted out.
all we can do is to give our opinions on your issue.its left for you to either take it or leave it.
i'll be keeping my fingers crossed for you.

@ michelin89
Thank you.

@ busy_body
i know that nigerian men dont have problems with getting involved with foreign ladies with children for other men.
marrying them however,is a completely different issue.
i repeat and stand by my opinion that it is RARE for a nigerian family to encourage their young son to marry a significantly older woman from another continent and who has children for another man unless they want something from her.
the fact that she has a baby for him doesn't really make the lady acceptable.
most families will accept the baby,and still encourage their son to marry a younger nigerian lady.such instances are common.
i'm sure u know what i'm talking about.

@ manmustwac

nice one, i like it.congrats  

@ wendyrao

i dont think i fully understand your question,but relationships are assesed on a case by case basis.
based on the the information the poster has given here and in previous posts,i believe there is a high probability she is just been used to get a passport.
ofcourse,i could be wrong,
but our culture and soceity is such that most families discourage their "sons" to marry even a slightly older woman not to talk of a foreign lady older by 7 yrs AND HAS 4 KIDS from another man.
i know a few nigerian ladies in their twenties that cant pin a man down just cos they have a child for another man.
the man's family will certainly be nice to bridget007, until he gets the passport.then things will change, for the worse.
wendy,this doesn't mean it will apply to all foreign ladies.
IT IS VERY POSSIBLE FOR A NIGERIAN MAN TO GENUINELY LOVE AND MARRY A WHITE LADY.IT HAPPENS VERY OFTEN,AND THE MAN'S FAMILY WILL LOVE HER.
as i said,these things are on a case by case basis.
i dont know details about your situation.I only know about bridget007's.,and i've given my opinion based on her case.

i remember u were the one that put up the post about his student visa expiring soon and may want to marry cos he's not sure they'll renew it cos he's not regular student bla bla bla,
i still stand by what i say.
he's probably just using u.
when he gets what he wants (the passport),he toss u off and go for a younger nigerian lady.
dont worry about whether things will change or not if u marry.
i beleive u r just a stepping stone to acheive a goal.
its almost impossible for a nigerian family to encourage their young 30 yr old son in marrying a 37 yr old foregner with 4 kids UNLESS THEY WANT SOMETHING FROM HER.
goodluck.

, still "roadtesting".will let u know as soon as i find the one.
so far i've tested 2 and a half.

@ princess k
thank you very much.
u be real princess.

@ princess k

i happy say i pass round one.
how i go take see the picture?

@ poster

they dont ask men out on dates becos na una go be d same people wey go turn round say them be sluts.
if dem gree quick quick for guy,we go say dem easy,
if dem no gree quick qiuck,we go say shakara too much asy dem hard.
we go complain say make dem dey open up,
if dem open up,na we go start to yab then again say dem cheap tarts,
i agree with dem,
make d men ask dem out if dem wan them.