Paternity fraud is a very evil act

Congratulations

Theundertaker:
I know right, I can relate. I am single to stupor and I know the reason is cause I don’t mingle. If a girl doesn’t come close to me, u can never see me chasing girls. Very depressing especially with my high libido

lol , Na God go help us

kalu61:


I don't know how to explain it but l am attracted to intelligent girls who gives me good run for logical analysis or differ in opinion with logical reasons.

I understand .

kalu61:
I don't do girl friend stuff.

l hope whoever l will marry will not this part of me and she can cope with it, it all fine.

I find it engaging with female friends who are intellectually engaging than those asking me what l prepared or have eaten.

she won’t cope with it in the beginning tho. What’s wrong with someone asking you what u hv eaten ? It’s a sign of care , that doesn’t mean she isn’t intellectually engaging, okay u want someone who would be talking about books all days but careless about ur well-being?

Being single as an introvert is very depressing , cause u know ur problem , which is networking , u don’t go out, even if u do ones in a blue moon because u are a naturally shy person u can’t go alone, u need friends around but of course if u want to met a potential partner, all YouTube Channels advices u learn how to go out alone , this phone generation is the worst cause ur phone is a enough company that b4 u know it the day is gone and u are home all day. Online dating is scary cause there r a lot of liars, and the men expect you to do the traveling *eyesrolled* and I’m like” what if u are a kidnapper?” . Of course they are ready to send u ur Tfare but I’m i ready to risk my life ? Not at all .

What do u all think ?

kalu61:
l don't ignore calls whatsoever but calling others is what l find extremely difficult even my mum.

l reply chat and text immediately

try do better , ur mum might understand but ur girlfriend won’t , lol

Zzor:
A hungry man is an angry man, we have a lot of angry men on this forum and you can easily tell what their problems are

lol

Scholar94:
It's being a while here . There are so much going on here but I was particularly caught up by the argument on whether Introvert like Phone calls or not.

Phone calls itself are not what introverts hate rather it is the reasons for making or receiving the calls. As an introvert, I only make calls when it is very important or urgent. I'll prefer to talk to you via chat or messages if it it is not a really an urgent conversation. However, I am not in the habit of not picking people's calls. In fact I don't hesitate to call back when I miss phone calls. For me it's really a bad habit and not associated with introversion not to pick someone's call deliberately.

100% agree with you

Windflower:

Actually it is not like introverted people don't like phone calls. It depends on three things; who is the person calling; what's my mood like; and what does the person have to say.
There are times I have ignored someone's call or had to chat them in return because they called at a time when I was having my alone time and didn't feel like talking. There are times I have also talked on the phone for hours with my close friends.

correct

Jobia:
who made you introvert police?

who made u introvert police too ? Or who made the person u are supporting introvert police . Hypocrites

jkuvira:



that's peculiar to just you. Introverts don't ignore calls or texts

thank you, like I still don’t understand why people associate not picking calls to introversion. Pretty silly. U don’t like picking calls, it’s not because u are an introvert. I only don’t pick if I feel it’s irrelevant, but that introverts generally ignore calls is very wrong. To me texting is more stressful. But I do both anyways.

Shugavee:
Because a guy is a little interested in you , don’t mean u should throw all ur cards out there , it’s speaks desperation and any commitment and affection a man doesn’t earn, he takes for granted. Don’t be too afraid to loose a suitor. That’s no assurance he’s sticking with you anyways


Happy weekend

From ur favorite feminist

nice

Zzor:
I like the part "don't be too afraid to loose a suitor" though I'm not a feminist.

this is not a feminist idea but a general correct philosophy of life.

Yasssss sis. If he’s not showing enough efforts I ain’t giving enough efforts .

Nazgul:

He needs her to pickup stipulated financial roles because he's planning on investing a reasonable amount of money on her. Or didn't you read that part?

If she wants to remain a housewife, then there's no need for him to spend such money on her. He can use it to expand his business then use the proceedings to take care of her and the family.

The reason he's investing so much on her is because he wants financial relief, someone that can help him absorb petite domestic responsibilities.

what’s 1.5 million? Lol is 1.5 million a reasonable amount of money to stabilize a business? That’s peanuts . That’s not enough reason to start asking unreasonable questions . When she hasn’t started making the so called money

NoToPile:
Loool I find it interesting that the same people shouting marriage is a partnership, she is supposed to have outlined financial roles etc etc are the same who won't remember that partner ship when it comes to women roles, they will never tolerate helping the woman in chores or anything.

They choose the traditional when it comes to the women chores/nuturing matter, then in cases like this they want an equal contributor.


All this story is based on just one major thing a husband is meant to do which is PROVIDE shikena, all this story na long thing. They dont want to take responsibility again. Fulfil your role she will naturally do somethings.

All these boys will be running away from their responsibility. A man should be able to provide in his own little capacity for his family.

Personally I think the OP is not mature to get married. Business man looking for ROI, The question was the wrongest of all moves, she too will be thinking about your motive for asking such.


Nairaland is full of comedy,

Nairaland is obviously the wrongest place to seek reasonable advise. If he’s mother’s advice isn’t enough for him . Then it’s safe to say this man is very immature.

Sydebel:


What if shes giving it to boyz and other unknown? Is she also helping.
You?

we are talking about a responsible family. No one goes into marriage automatically thinking he’s wife will cheat on him.

Michaelcas:
myself, i mostly ignore calls except it's something too important, most times i ignore all except you text me

that’s ur thing , not an introvert thing please.

What one Igbo man told me ,
Me - why are many Igbo men very selfless when spending for their wife even tho they hv their own business
Him - because an Igbo man understands that what ever she uses her own money for , is still helping him , cause she’s my responsibility and if she’s using her money to get more clothes , shoes , bags , catering for her family, she’s also helping me , if she using her money on her kids , which are also my kids , she’s also helping me . What ever she’s uses her money for is beneficial to me. A handsome young man from anambra state .

And what will telling Nairalanders u are a virgin do for you , how can we even verify this ? We obviously can’t , so what’s our concern ? Keep ur virginity it’s good. But can u leave the world off ur vagina

Dedetwo:


What an ignorant insinuation? There are many Nigerians who need to be expensed.

just like ur mother

gidgiddy:


What you are saying is a general thing. Thats how it is in all of Igbo land. There are many dialects such as Wawa of Enugu state, Ohuhu of Abia, Izzi of Ebonyi. In Delta state, they speak Igbo dialects such Enuani and Ika.

Asaba people have never denied being Igbo for one day. The King of Asaba, Obi Chike Edozien, is a proud Igbo man. Others like Ibusar, their actual name is 'Igbo -Uzo'. They dont deny being Igbo, their name even tells everyone they are Igbo. Much of Aniocha and Oshimili are proud Igbos. Late Obi of Ogwashiuku, and father Ngozi Okonjo Iweala, Professor Okonjo, was proud Igbo man. Another son of Ogwashiuku, Ralph Uwechue, was President General of Ohanaeze Ndigbo.

All of these people are proud Igbos from the Anioma area and are probably much older than you. It is an insult for people like you to now start telling them they are not Igbo

people older than u don’t Identify as Igbos also, I hate when people like to use individuals who do stuffs with a political inclined ideology to identify the entire delta Igbo. There are millions of anioma people who can give u a slap for forcefully identifying them as Igbos. Delta Igbo is not Igbo , language doesn’t make us the same. We are different is so many other areas.

Strongbest:
Oga abeg open the boarder and reduce fuel price. Thank you.

exactly, Nigerian rice is 120 a cup for what na?

Danny50:
Plan that is by the north and for the north for we all know it will start and end their.

I tell you

blinking001:
Buhari will always have the interest of the common man at heart.

yawns

Zooposki:


Please what of Ndokwa. Half of my grandparents and parents come from Ndokwa in Delta State. I asked her about Anioma, Ika, Ukwuani, Ndokwa etc and she said they are not Igbos, but they understand the Igbo language. She said there is slight variations in the languages and they have never been Igbo.

because we r actually not igbos . We speak the same language does not make us the same tribe , our languages r different in many ways , and our culture and way of life is different. Only language does not make up a tribe

omoharry:
Dont mind them .These are thesame people that have disdain toward their fellow Igbo bethren from another states .An Anambra man that will always look down on the Eboyin man .Each state always claming to be more superior than the other. For instance , an Anambra man will never allow a man from IMO to head him in any social gathering , becos they feel superior .So what kind of love do they have that they are pretending to show to the people of Anioma..? If not that the people of Anioma are in Delta state, they would have also be subjected to thier usual prejudice. At one point , they would be been told that they are not pure Igbos.
I know Delta state has thier own issues, but we do not have open hatred toward the Delta Igbos in Delta state .We intermarry without issues and we all vote for our favourite candidate in inrespective of tribes .The Delta Igbos have voted massively in the past for an Urhobo /Itsekiri governors, so has the Urhobo voted for Thier son (Okowa) when his time came..This is even when some selfish Urhobo leaders, made a declaration that no Urhobo sons & Daughter should vote for Okowa..they ignored them and still voted for him, becos they felt it is the time of the Delta Igbos to rule .
Secondly , there has never been any open comflict between other tribes and the Delta Igbos .So I don't know where this open online hatred is coming from . The only open conflict has always been among the Urhobo /Ijaws/Itsekiris .
Anyway the grass is always green at the other end . Delta state will always wish the Anioma people well, if they decide to join thier brothers in the East .

no body is joining any brothers in the east . We re good , Who can live with Igbo people? God forbid bad thing . We know them very well. We don’t want to join their superiority struggle. they are our brothers from afar. That’s how we like it .

TheHulk616:
you are very correct and right. But how do you expect me to talk to a therapist, when I am bad at talking?

you are not bad at talking , u just hvnt seen someone u are comfortable talking to . R there therapist in Nigeria self, meeting one can change a lot.

Michaelcas:
actually most intoverted peeps don't like calls, you can call and call, they won't pick up, you wanna talk, you better text

I don’t see a problem with it , if it’s with someone I care about. if I know it’s an irrelevant conversation, i won’t pick up, it’s not because I don’t like calls or can’t pick calls . It just has to be with the right person. Texting sometimes is stressful , I don’t even reply fast enough.

There is a big difference between introverts and people who hv mental disorder, the problem with this thread is that , they make introversion look like a mental illness, everything goes. Many people here r not really introverts but people who need therapy but because Nigeria is very backward, they need to live with their situation. Introverts talk to people , introvert hv talents (yes many can’t talk in crowded places just like myself ) but they hv friends , introvertion does means u r more intelligent or wiser than extroverts. If u are intelligent, u are intelligent whether introvert or not . I love my own company with books and my phone . I love talking on phone with the right friends, I don’t talk much but I listen . So that introverts don’t like making calls is bin material. U don’t like making calls is ur own problem not an introvert thing . I love dancing alone, introverts go out to parties , not just very often . Introverts are not sadist , that hate enjoyment or fun . We just don’t do it very often .
Introverts can stay home as much as they want but if they hv to go out there to get things done they will. Many Introverts love pets. One thing I hvnt seen in this thread. My favorites r cats . They are cute and calm. Less noise. Introverts chose to be alone , not that they can’t go wide , they just don’t wanna. Introverts r aware extrovert hv a lot of fun, they just like their own company regardless . I said what I said