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Let them know! They are just wasting their lives and nothing else. But they are happy living that way whoever says otherwise, they are gonna pour out their frustration to him/her.

They are broken, they are insane, they weren't raised by good parents, they engage in stuffs that won't let them think like a human but like an animal. Even worse than an animal.

No words can change their fu*ked up mentality. Just let them live however they like, their elderly version will be the one too tell how their life turned out, to be so messed up.
No kids, no achievements, no wife,cuz no one will wanna live with an animal. Abeg just let them be.

To them they are enjoying their life to the fullest right now. After all this, what await them is, disease that's what they will tend too till 💀.

Slaveman343:
It's a shame really. When I see them, I wonder if I'm living in the wrong century because these are not men. Men build and repair their societies not tear down. How would insulting women day and night make them change? It would even harden them and at some point they won't care anymore.

Women are part of our society, and our home makers. What do we gain from emotionally abusing them forever. It's just a matter of time. And I'll be here to remind them of their actions.

Just let them say whatever they want, "what goes around comes around". The wife most of them are gonna get married to, they are gonna regret it for the rest of their life.

@bolded. They aren't men, they are just a bunch of idiots, and sex starved fellows. That's the reason why, you will never see them talking about any other thing than, "how they slept with this", "how this is a virgin" , "how this is a slut", "how that is an evening news paper".

People like this that doesn't even value their women and you think they are men? Hell no!

Slaveman343:
Too many disrespectful Nigerian men on the internet space today. I see them insulting women on Fb, Instagram, Twitter, Nairaland. Let's wait for the consequences of these careless utterances in a while. You want women to submit to this level of vileness. Always counseling women yet you are the most immoral.

I wash my hand off the nemesis coming upon most of you. God should see that I'm not part of this.

Just let them keep dreaming... They can never get married too the woman they are dreaming about. Cuz no woman of such attributes, will get married to the man that has no moral whatsoever.
Always insulting women wherever they are, yet they are looking for a woman. Pathetic lots!

Well said! But they will never listen. cuz that's how they have been living, and will continue living that way.

LilMissFavvy:
What do you mean when you say that "her sisters are jealous of the marriage"?. You are not rich, and no one knows if you are even educated, yet you think her sisters are jealous of you .
What you are experiencing is called karma. After you have slept around as a single guy, you think you can marry a virgin and have peace?

Exactly! No peace for whoever took their youth for granted and sleeping around with several people, just for them too come here and be shouting "virgin" up and down. This will be their fate.

He is just looking for a hole to put his dick.

Kindly ignore him... And if he tend to be a disturbance, stop talking too him in general.

Samantha124:
In other words you're telling me that there's no cockroach infestation in any of the Nigerian households, the most populous country in Africa?😏😏😏😏

There is, But any infestation would be dealt with by, broom, fleeting, stomping of foot on the ground and so on

kkins25:
the way I'm feeling right now, I can actively partake in delivering jungle justice...

The man's lawyer even what the case out of court and settle behind closed doors. Like what!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

If that woman agrees, then they should burn her too!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

They shouldn't agree for any settlements, But ask for a very long sentence for the criminal.
But Nigeria who knows, the judge may say they should settle it, or the mother can say she don't want eyes on her daughter, and they would agree too settling it.

Nigeria is unpredictable.

Jeon:
The teens they are after is still not enough for them.



Exactly.
But I wonder the type of brain and heart they do have now .

After dating 13-19 years, they still wanna date toddlers.

@bolded. They are not in their right mind that's why. You know they are a lot of things that keep them far from being a real man.
Porn
Masturbation
Smoking
Sniffing pants.

Now tell me, how will they be a real person and not demons with all this?

This what happens, when the men's we have now says they can't resist "something new".

Can't believe the pain the kid would be feeling. It's just too sad....

lordnkem000:
The truth is what it is my dear..
Most men love their wives but can't resist the temptations of testing new things especially when it's right in their grasps, it's wrong but am being honest. A woman holds the marriage, not the man. If the woman stops giving her best efforts, marriage falls. Women are the brains behind every home. So a woman must fight for her marriage, fight for her home against intruders. The man duty is to protect the woman and the marriage. That's what i mean...
As for the favor thing, I mentioned many things and how they all favor women, but u just talked about childbirth, shape, etc. These things are no big deals to me. Does the woman take care of the man's family bills? No. But the man is expected to spend on the woman's parents, train or sponsor her siblings, etc together with his own responsibilities to his marriage. The woman has all to gain in marriage. If men refuse to marry today, women will have no happiness and they will never feel fulfilled. But the man will even prosper and have less responsibility. Why do u think our celebrities most of them prefer babymama to marriage? because of the lesser responsibility.
Most women will be loyal as a babymama today but become wild as a wife

That's why I said don't get married if you think it doesn't favors you. It's very simple.


And about the trying "something new", don't take it to heart when your wife also do the same. That's all I would say.

Samantha124:
Okay, at least I've learned something today.

Anyways, back to the topic... If those rats, flies, and cockroaches are thieves, then most people would be doing everything in their power to get rid of them, but for some it's as if they've accepted them in their houses and see them as part of the family.

Someone would see a large cockroach passing by in his or her living room and act like it's nothing.

That's doesn't happen here. If it's spotted, it must be dealt with immediately

Nigerian girls again?!

daylay7:
You can't compare the western live to here. Over there, sex in cheap and alot of children dont even know their fathers. Infact, that is the problem. Because we compare ourselves with the western world. Thats the reason why divorce is rampant today.

It is not usual for a woman to want to try something new while in a marriage. Once she start thinking of that, it means she has lost her love for her husband and the marriage. But this wasnot so in the olden days.

It's very simple. Just be a faithful husband and a loyal one. It's not that hard.
After going around and trying something new, and your wife sees that, she definitely also will try something new.
You aren't the only one who can try "something new" keep that in mind.

@bolded. Divorce is gonna be much, cuz you can't be trying to do your best, and the other party is going around trying "something new", It can't work out.
So it's better for both parties to go different ways, and everyone is gonna be free and happy with each other's "something new".
It's TIRING to be the only one putting in effort, and the other party isn't helping. Is that the kind of marriage you dreamed of having? If no, then it's best too put an end to it.

PoliteActivist:
Notice we are on romance section - made up mostly of people of a certain age. Well, "men" and "women" include all ages. Woman are by far the ones obsessed with relationship and social gossip, not men!

Says who? Men are the ones that gossip more.
And on Nl men are the most obsessed ones

lordnkem000:
That's exactly what am saying, many men think with their dicks instead of their heads, we recognize that flaws and I must tell u it's not right. This is why it's important we have a wife who's loyal and helps us to fight this temptations. Once a woman understands this, she will know how to make her marriage work. It's not easy. Remember, marriage favors the woman and men has no benefits in it. We pay the dowry, pay the bride price, protect the woman, pay rents, pay school fees, stretch hands to the woman's family too. Take care of the bills at home, etc. All these favors the woman. Am yet to see what favors the man. So the least we expect is a loyal woman who's submissive and know her role, not a rival who bleeps around. Am not saying men should cheat, am saying the woman should understand the life of a man is so hard and complicated

That's the kind of men I can never deal with. Since when we were young, we were thought to "think" and what do we use to think? We use our "brain". And since you doesn't think with your "brain" anymore, you prefer thinking with "something else" just stick with your thinking, and keep out.

2. A woman that's gonna understand and fight? Fight for who?
Marriage is for the both of you too do your best. And since you can't even do your best, just keep out.
Since the so called person you are trying to be with, can't seems to do the same for you and suddenly wanted to try "something new", you can as well move there completely and leave her life alone to someone who will choose her.


For the remaining words, am yet to understand Mens theory of, "marriage favors woman and doesn't favors man".
Here we get married to have kids and someone to love. But you guys talk like, the kids the wife have is hers alone..
She puts her life on line to have that kids, she may die in the process. Sometimes some woman have something like a little"mental issues" after giving birth. Your figure changes. You can't stay the same.
Marriage doesn't favor woman. It's just like a bond. Nothing else.
For doing all that, what the men can do is provide for the kids and the wife. And the woman is gonna be the one to watch after the kids. Just babysit a kid for a day, and you know women and men are going through the same thing.
And if you know marriage doesn't favors men, no need to get married. It's not a must. You can just do a contract with someone and take the child after he/she is born, and look after it yourself. There is absolutely no need to get married.
I don't know why you keep going into things that doesn't favors you. It's not a must.

lordnkem000:
Look around u today, girls are naked everywhere, on TikTok, Instagram, YouTube, Twitter, Facebook reels, etc. Men see all these things and it affects our psychology and it makes us want to have a taste, not because we don't love our wife or want to quit. Girls of nowadays have destroyed our society and made sex so cheap. This is different from men and how men think.
I love ur points, but I just think u re not being fair with today's reality.
It's almost impossible for a man to get married to one woman or be faithful to his wife in today's reality. U either re fighting to survive the bad government or fighting the moral decadence of todays girls on every platforms

The problem is men can't control themselves.
They wanna have s*x with any lady with a big booty, with a big breast.
An underage girl walking around in shorts, you wanna have a taste. Does that even sounds like an excuse?
Living in a white man land, they dress freely with any part of their body out. Cuz they don't cover their body the way you want, you wanna have a taste?
You gotta focus on what you wanna do, not be influenced by whatever you see. Even tho you know it's wrong, you still wanna have a taste,cuz you like what you see?
Until when are you gonna keep wanting to have a taste? Until there is no one you haven't have a taste of.
Men's talk like women don't have a feeling. Who said only men are influenced by what they see? Women are also influenced. But a woman won't wanna lose her face, she don't wanna bring shame to her children, by them being called " wayward kids".
A woman thinks all that, and try too keep her family dignity. But men, you don't even think like that. You go on like" I still love her, I just wanna have a taste of something new". Does that sounds realistic? After being married, you wanna try something new? That's a good way too put it.

PoliteActivist:
Actually this is only on NL and forums like it. In real life men rarely talk about women while women gossip about men, family, and relationships all day long

Actually are no difference. They rarely say it to their face, but comes here too say it behind their backs. Doesn't the men here live in real life?

Kipaji:
They are very Hot. They think about women because women can be a canal through which they can relieve their sexual energy. They have sex in their mind. And who do you have sex with? Exactly, women. So they think about women and their sex-related issues.
Men are not talking about women's involvement in politics, their impact on the economy, their academic contributions, or their views on various aspectsof the world. Instead, men talk about their bodies (because that's what you have sex with), marriage (because you have sex in marriages and most men marry for indoor pvssy), relationships and situationships (because they involve sex).
It's not about women, it's about sex/lust.
But it's a shame. Seeing that men's only have "sex" going on in their heads and nothing else.



You won't see them speaking about men but they sure do. Women are just smart enough to not expose themselves like men do (even though it is changing these days with social media).

Take passport bros, for example. Men made a lot of noise about it. However, women have been practicing it for as long as they have been able to. For as long as they have been able to, women went to specific countries/areas to get fvcked, women relocated to access "better" men. It is something that humans do. But men made it a whole "movement" while women kept it low.
I will give you an illustration. Some girls leave their neighborhood to hang out in "high places" such as luxury restaurants, with the hope of getting approached by a certain kind of man. Isn't that a form of micro passport sis move?
This for ladies that as nothing better too do.




It is important to distinguish appearance from reality. What somebody projects may not be what goes on internally.

But women does get over it. It may not be an immediate thing, but women does.
For example, even after men dated someone, they will still go on with the words like, "she is useless", "no one else should date her or I can't let someone I know date her, Cuz she is so cheap".
Isn't"dating" done by two people? What makes you any different? You are part of it.
Like it's disgusting seeing men talk trash about their "ex". What's in the past is in the past. That shouldn't make you stop other people from dating her. Women may date someone, and no one would even know they did. Except maybe her close people.
But men, everyone is gonna know they had something with someone. They are so pathetic.
Women wouldn't afford wasting their time, on someone that no longer has nothing to do with them. Women gotta keep looking ahead,not stuck in the past. While wasting your time on someone that's done with you, you are slimming your chances on seeing someone more suitable for you.

Persephone1:
Everybody settles
even men do too. Everyone gets old and ripe, it's natural. Only men carry the matter for head and one is left to wonder if these men are sore from past rejections or what?

Exactly! everyone dies at the end of the day.
But why is it that men nowadays don't think about anything more than women issues?
It may be past rejections who knows.
Women go through worse. And you won't see them, speaking about men all the time.
They forget about the past and try too look forward to what next. But it seems men lives in the past.

She shouldn't marry any of them, cuz they both played equal roles in saving her.
So it would be hard too choose one.
If she doesn't want a controversy, on who did best, she should look elsewhere for her spouse. And just repay their kindness.

daylay7:
Then that has defeated the purpose of marriage. They should be one but not two separate bodies. Any issues from both families should be handled together.

I said if it involves the both of you, then you have the right to know. But if it isn't involving both of you, then just keep out.
She may wanna talk about it with you if she feels like, but you don't go around wanting to find out what's going on, by invading her privacy.
If she talks about it, fine and if she doesn't, just let her handle it.

There is privacy. Just because you are married, doesn't mean you have to know all that's going on in her life.
You have your life to live, and she also as her's as well.
There are many things going on in one's life. Family issues, business issues.
Must you know all that's going own in your partner's life? Mustn't she have a say in her life?
As long as, you are both doing okay in your own family together, live her own personal issues.
There must be amount of privacy in one's relationship. Don't go around letting your partner know all that's going on with you.
It doesn't work like that.

Stephen2324:
"If you cheat on me, I will cheat on you back."

That's how modern women damage themselves further and think they're punishing a man.

I don't know about that, but the partner that breaks your trust first, don't deserve you. Just let them go. Don't think about second chance, cuz people don't change. Why would you go around sharing body fluid, with people that doesn't deserve it cuz you wanna make your partner regret it? He doesn't worth it. Instead of being influenced by bad people, just kick them out of your life. That's the right thing to do.

Anny69:
Seems we've dated in another realm.

I'm not sure
But everyone does has a perk or another, It all depends on who sees it.

Anny69:
Nothing at all.

There is

I treat you the way you treat me. I'm gonna reciprocate your love with all I've got.
When in a relationship with you, No other person is gonna be better than you to me.
All other parts like, honestly, commitment. It's covered.

But once you decide to Bleep up any of the rule, you are a goner. I don't give second chances.

Persephone1:
If I find out a guy i have interest in / dating is on Nl and frequent on romance section, I will break up with him and wipe him off my memory.

These guys are so immature

Cuz if you don't, just know all the things between both of you, are on Nl

Persephone1:
Good one!

Most of the complains from these guys their partners are not aware offline. They will come here to gossip and talk trash about their women while they play lovey dovey offline. Pathetic lots.

Exactly! Like they are unaware of it, And instead of pointing at it to their partner, they take pleasure too come here and bash ladies. Like who does that?! Nairaland men.
Always coming here and complain about ladies, no respect for their partner, no secrecy. Like it's between the both of you, outsiders don't need to know about it. But no, they think everyone must have say say in their relationship. It's pathetic.

lacasera14:
Threads are open daily to bash men why are you taking it personal, why don't you defend the men when they are bashed? Don't you have a father or brother? Why y'all acting like you don't beam with a smug when men are bashed. Taking this personal reeks of something fishy. Why do you feel attacked? And why should we bring innocent mothers into a Convo as these? Desist from bringing mother's, when you bash men we don't talk about fathers. But if you are willing to get dirty
in the sands of bashing mothers I'm game. I won't warn you again.

Show me how many thread were opened to bash men. You guys kinda take pleasure in bashing ladies. Always coming here everyday to talk about ladies. If there is something you wish to say to your partner, tell them personally. Coming here and bashing women, isn't the right call.

Anny69:
Abi o. Seems they're taking out the country's frustrations on women.

Like seriously! Talking about women, is what's relieving their frustration. So no need to take them seriously, just ignore them.