pharrel1539:
Bro please how long did it took after your bio before you got the rejection note?

Be positive while waiting for your visa....it took about 10/12 days

Ashirioluwa:
@Lizboh

With what this UK refusal letter says about your income and expenses, I don't think any country will grant your visa.

Monthly income: 333k
Monthly expenses: 300k

You only left with 33k at the end of the month, which is not even enough to plan a trip within Nigeria, not to talk of the UK.

Your expenses are damn too high.

Thanks......it was a mistake done when inputting the figures....I'm self employed and I just work and save my money, I didn't get the calculations well....how do I go about it next time I want to try pls ?

Jolene474:
I don’t think if you re-apply you would get any different reply to this refusal, if you check the letter and rule in which he refused your application, he doesn’t think you have the money to take care of that trip without sourcing from else where or working in the UK.
Remember, they want you to convince them otherwise, let’s assume he sees you as an intended worker, would your current situation warrant you to work in the UK, maybe Yes.
your monthly expenses take almost 97% of your monthly income as you wrote..
And maybe your bank statement did not give them a clear picture of your finances too. So I’m not sure if you apply again with this same financial profile would help.
Review your expenses and bank statement.
Going to the UK and Back in this period would take almost 2000GBP to say the least, and you make about 4000GBP yearly, how then could you spend about half of your finance on a 12 day trip? UK is extremely expensive to visit. Check am from an Immigration Officer eye. Just my candid opinion.

Thanks....the acct has about 5m+ and there is no lump sum at all....I use the acct for purchase of goods and deposit all I make and take from it to buy again. I just tire like this.....on the issue of not wanting to come back, there is no reason not to come back, my children,my husband and business are all here

NewBoyKhashoggi:


Hey !

I cooled down to read your rejection letter and this is my personal conclusion ;

1. If you reapply with the same documents you presented they will deny you again .

2. The bank statement you provided is the major (80%) cause of your visa rejection because the inflow and outflow ...deposits etc does not reflect the kind of money you claimed to be seeing as a self-employed individual.

3. Aside the bank statement, the Visa office are not satisfy with all the personal documents you submitted because they thinks there are discrepancies... Lies in your application .

I also want to think that the visa application you submitted was not done by you ...I think you employed the service of an expert and they should have submitted the bank statement in your company or personal name . IF THIS IS TRUE OR NOT ..

Don't rush to reapply because someone is coming to The UK from The US is not even a good story to them , they thinks if you have such money and reputation to process UK visa why not process US visa and visit your sister over those 10 years you guys have seen ?

BUT IF YOU STILL WANT TO GIVE IT A TRY GO AHEAD ...Nothing is impossible with prayer and good logics. 1. Present another bank statement , 2. Present supporting documents that will corroborate your storyline of visiting a friend , 3. Input old picture of you and the sister in Primary or secondary school or University if available . 4. Write a detailed emotional personal letter explaining your reason for going to see your sister . 5. Tell your sister to write an emotional informal letter to you via email ..PRINT OUT THE EMAIL and input everything in your new application. IF YOU HAVE THE MONEY THEN GO AHEAD AND REAPPLY. Nothing is impossible !

Thanks....the bank statements is true no lies or whatsoever anywhere , I got it straight from my banks myself and all the information filled are all true ...yes I'm not the one that did the registration, it's my son . I think he didn't grab the questions well. Thanks for your response, I really appreciate

Ipanema:

Thank you for your input, I did write a cover letter and stated the salary as monthly.

But I'll take your advise and point out even the most basic, obvious aspect

I was trying to be concise in my letter to address key items as I expected common sense to tell them if you can see 350k every single month, from the same company then perhaps crosscheck it with what the applicant put in the employment section

They could also see the 100k I take out monthly o...so I guess just grasping at straws to reject for the sake of it

I'll update on outcome of 2nd application, hopefully positive this time round.

I will say it's all my fault because I left everything totally to my son to do because he said he can do and I wanted to see his ability but I got breakfast at the end but we moveeee

I applied for Visit visa I was rejected, I don't understand what happened....I'm self employed. I need to know how soon I can apply again because I want to meet up with my sister that I've not seen for more than 10yrs, she is coming to the UK from America

giselle237:
for how much pls

Pls sisterly ooooo

giselle237:

https://www.gov.uk/apply-national-insurance-number

Pls check your mail....I need to ask some personal questions

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carsprayer:


The right side.

The Hospital is a Military Reference Hospital in Kaduna. I took him to a pediatrician and she said it was due to the stressing of hi head during delivery. His temperature was checked other check ups were carried out.

it's the right side of his head and very soft.

Good... My sister has a baby like that about 20yrs ago, the boy had a soft swelling like on his left side of his head/face and the doctor said it's due to stress on the baby during birth... A drug was prescribed for him and the swelling went down and became normal after some hours to a day. Don't worry your baby will be fine. Also oga pls leave madam for now

carsprayer:
Good evening everyone.

My wife has given birth to a baby boy weighted 4.1KG through Labor. I have been a silent follower of this thread.

but I have a little challenge.

1. My boy's head is a little bit swollen and the area is soft. The Doctor said it was due to the stress on him during delivery that it will go down since it's not painful.

2. How long does it take for me to start meeting my wife.

Thank you mother's !

No 2 is not important for now...the baby's head that is swollen, what part of the head? Is the hospital a general hospital ?, If not take that baby to the general hospital for full checkups

ImaIma1:


But a man that loves you would be more concerned about your well being and feelings and not just pound you everyday because he feels like it, and you are his wife.

I have been married for close to 6 years. My husband and I have been friends since we were teenagers. He is also someone with a very healthy libido but his major concern is always that I am fine. And he's not selfish and inconsiderate enough to just keep having sex even when I am sleeping or pretending to be asleep.

The fact that you condone it even makes it wrong because obviously you are not ok with it. And he doesn't care as long as he gets satisfaction. Does that describe a man that loves or cares genuinely about his wife?

Rather than advise the op to condone it like you have, let her and her husband come to a compromise for her physical and emotional wellbeing. It takes two to tango. Sex is not food and it should be enjoyed by both parties.

Read my post well, your being married for 6yrs is just a starting point. With time you will understand how this things work. Take care and understand that marriage is not about what you want all the time, concentrate more on your home and giving your husband happiness and stop following those feminist and that says and teach one thing and went behind close doors to do another thing.

WetSmoke:
I experienced a pain in my rectum today. It wasn't funny. As in the pain hooked me all the way inside, I couldn't even walk or talk for some minutes.
I went to the hospital and to my disappointment the doctor couldn't even tell me what could cause such pain. Anyone experienced this before?

Yes, I experienced it with one of my babies....it happened when I was 7months and a few days before my EDD. Had my baby without labour. I was later told that the rectum thingy was a labour sign that happens to some women

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You shall deliver like the Hebrew women in Jesus name]

Teewhyjo:
Pls mas is it possible to be having contraction without bloody show.

Very possible dear, never had show in all my pregnancies, even my water has never broken by itself. Just time the contractions and head to the hospital when it's consistent

IamGreen1:


See my baby twinnie

Mama's with experience pls help o. Baby want to suck but no breast milk yet abi I should give DH first to help her ni? Mother in law has been choking her with water and I read that water causes jaundice though mixed with glucose but I'm not too please with it

Sugarh
ToyosiR
Sweetlady4real and other experience mama pls help

Get a baby formula asap, you can stop the formula later after the milk start flowing if it's exclusive you want to do.

I don't know why you will want a female friend between 29 and above. That age range are probably married or newly married. We should be careful of husband snatcher. Its new method they use now. She want a friend to gossip and socialite with thereby entering them gradually. PLS LETS BE VERY CAREFUL .

[quote author=Rextizzle post=91173364]God forbid! not those smelling Nigerian girls pussy.[/quote



Men have different tastes when it comes to women

seanwilliam:
if you like use hypo to wash the place, I can never stoop so low to suck a WOMAN..lai lai..

Because you can't does not mean others are not doing it.

When I tell them to always give it to their man, they will say "won tun de". Be clean and neat down there and your man will forever want to eat your cookies

AkupeMBANO:

sorry to say. your husband is a mad dog. I don't want to say more than this because i might sound more aggressive. before you start judging i'm married too. No real man should turn his wife to a sex slave because you paid dowry. atimes Big boys look away because the mutual feeling isn't there. what nonsense? This your comment has spoilt my whole day. I will equally advice you to continue since you are already used to it.

You are a very stupid man for saying that trash about my husband. Idiot....whatever am facing is my problem and not yours Mr blocked and empty brain. Save your advise for your sisters and daughters.

ubcandid:

neither am I here to exchange banters. I just stated the obvious. you're exaggerating. For 20 years your husband's hormones are still raging at the frequency equivalent to what the OP is complaining of. Come on. I ask again, did you get married at 16 yrs?

Jeeezzz..you think its exaggeration ?, then am a very luck woman since my husband still see me good enough for sex 50+. When your wife is 40, pls cast her out. Age is in the head. I married my friend and age grade. Wish you good luck with your marriage, byeeee

ubcandid:
You mean your husband is still active on you for 20 yrs? Abeg take am easy. Na 16 yrs you marry.

I don't think I should reply you, I will only tell you that everything is not joke. Go to comedy section if you want to play around. This section is for matured mind

KomonSense:


Please share the strategies you developed with us as an experience...

You don't know who will be benefiting from this...


Pls it's very important

I just replied a mention now..read up pls

Miner13:
that strategy/ies /are what julietsim needs. sex everyday when there is work can't even think or imagine it

There is time for everything, she should create the time for it. She should not listen to those telling her its bad to always give in because am sure most of them are going through worst. If the husband is caring and takes good care of her, then she should take as his fault and help him. Another thing is attractiveness, am over 50 and getting dress in my husband's presence is war because he will sha want to do in. She should love her husband for who he.

WUdec:


This is rape. The sex was not fully consensual. Do not get used to it or it would damage the way you feel about your body and could damage your self esteem. It could also damage you psychologically.

You might not agree to this now but if he ever walks away or leaves, these would kick in. Hopefully that won't be your case

Who says its rape..because its not, I enjoyed 90% of it. Am used to it. My self esteem is intact . If he walk away or anything, I will be very fine. I don't know if you are married or married but we should all learn what works for us

GraGra247:





1. I learnt there are some herbs women put in the man's food to reduce his sex drive. Some women know about this. Ask around.

2. Start a business that will require you either come back late at night or a business that makes you travel to the next town for 2 or 3 days each week.

3. Offer him the option of BJ/mouth action without viginal penetration any time you're feeling virginal pains.


Thank me later.

Am a fanmilk agent....ask anyone that knows about being an agent for fanmilk. I work between 7am -11am, then go back to work around 6pm to get home by 12am. We should just leave the debate, she will adjust in time...she will get a suitable timetable for herself

zedegit:


You should communicate more on how he can please you and make you willing.

I get pleased whenever I want it. He pleases me

sassysure:

It's not advisable to live with that. At first ladies see this as form of showing affection and continue to enable it so to pull out is now problem.

I don't know about others and I don't lack self esteem bit I will never allow a man to pound me more than twice a week. We check out this before saying I do.
That's part of compatibility.
If we can't agree on that, all man go his way. Can't continue doing something I don't enjoyed men have high male sexual hormones. They should learn how to masturbate, get fulfilment from.mouth action or even bang sex doll and leave me alone. I didn't come to this world to rump everyday.

Its not about low self esteem..my husband is my best friend and I'm also his. We get well together. We've been together for 25yrs now and our fist child is 20yrs now. So its not moimoi. Giving in to his demands is tactical for me, I've developed strategies I use in dealing.

sassysure:

A friend is in this shit. More than 10yrs of marriage.
She cried out after like 6yrs of bondage. The worst thing is that if a situation calls for them being separate for some time, he will find relief elsewhere. Once she comes back from hospital after delivery, he will continue pounding her without mercy. When her mum visited for the first òmùgwò, she noticed and approached her but she was being a good wife and denied. Her biggest mistake and regret.

Her vaginal walls don't have feelings anymore. She is constantly dry. She don't have sexual feelings anymore.
Nothing entices her again as far as making love is concerned.

The only exception is during menses but not always.

Babe, talk to your people probably your mum. She is in the best position to protect and fight for u.
I honestly don't have a clue except this.

Pls what will her mother protect her from and who will the mother fight ?.

I don't think sex can make the wall of a vagina dry

skedman:
The best solution is to always delay his food . He will fight for food rather than sex
He has something in his belly that why is libido is high

My own oga prefers sex to food, so its not by food at all.

Julietsim:

I thought married women who have experienced this will advise me but it is clear that it is only unmarried guys who are talking. Maybe I wasted my time coming to ask here. I have discussed it with him severally. His reply is "would you prefer I get it outside?. I cannot allow my husband to cheat. Because it hurts alot

My sister, some of us are having the same experience. I've been married to my husband for the past 20yrs, and its sex sex everyday except on my period. We've had series of issues because of it but oga no gree change. Most times I start fights because I don't want to do but he will still come for it. What I've doing for more than 2yrs now is just to lay back and allow him do what he want without participating ( he no kuku dey mind again)..I also pretend to sleep when he is doing it. Most people here will not understand what you are going through, just learn to live with it. Thats my own advise