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tintingz: Because you and your friend had bad experience in a polygamous home doesn't apply to every polygamous home.

I'm raised in a polygamous home and we are the "happily polygamous family" type .

Hate, jealousy also occur in monogamous homes not only in poly homes.

iyaire: @Godsdivinefavour I admire your courage and I understand how difficult the decision will be, I also grew up in a polygamous home thou my mum and stepmum never lived together, fast forward dad died stepmum was busy making troubles over properties she met on ground guess she also died fighting. I just feel living together will make issues worst

richybanky: Polygamous family is a war on is own.. I also came out from a polygamous family, if I start narrating wat my eyes went tru from my fathers house walaii I won't finish it cus its a seasonal movie on its own.. My father married 7 wives tho I don't knw his first and second wife, dey both gave him 1'1 guys which I don't even knw dere wer about my mum was d 4th same like 2nd since 1st&2nd ar nt staying wit him
Many tins happenend tho I was still very young dat time, d 5th &6t wives ar nt staying wit us bt both of dem had 3 children for my dad, my popsy last wife seems very good den bt playing some games under d ground which is not clear to everybody... I was in JSS3 (1998) dats 16years ago wen my dad took my mum and my step mum(Iyanle) like d way Yoruba pple called it to court and divorced dem just bcus we refused to eat slide bread
D last wife traveled to Lagos and bought bread wen coming home bt because we ar still very young and we always listen to whatever our mums told us so we agree nt to eat anything she bought or gives to us..
Dat was how everything started
1. Dey said My mum and her Iyanle av already planned to eliminate dere husband (strange story)
2. My p.man took both of dem to court and divorced dem still funny to me up till now for divorcing someone u didn't even married legally.
3. Many tins many tins happened dat I can nt start mentioning bt Glory be to God for everything
4. My mum and her Iyanle ar still living single life up to dis moment (16 years ago) which I pity dem so very much cus dey can never remarry again.. Who is going to marry someone whose already had 4/5 children?
Since I finished sec skul, av bin praying to God dat anything dat will make me to have more dan 1 wife should not come my away cus I learnt so much from my father mistakes.. Polygamous family is a WAR!!

tintingz: You haven't explain to us what you mean by advance countries.

Polygamy is practiced in your so called advance countries.

e.g Akon is a polygamist.

Feminists are also protesting to legalize polygamy(whether polygyny, polyandry), since homosexualism is a already practice.

Legalize Polygamy! By Jillian Keenan A Feminist
https://www.nairaland.com/1345679/legalize-polygamy-jillian-keenan-feminist

Again what do you mean by your advance country?

BABE3: you want women to be free and have choices yet you're against polygamy. You're not only simple minded yourself, you're all what coogar says you are.

Marraige is what you make it. No one forces anyone to get married or stay married (under normal circumstances).





how is it your business how women choose to live their lives?? These women don't mind sharing. The women going into polygamy want to share. Don't you get it?

Some people, like coogar mentioned, don't even fancy the extensive emotional connection serenren. So they shouldn't have a choice?

Taxing? I've given a solution.

Sharing? The parties involved don't mind.

What else is the problem, logicboy?

BABE3: you want women to be free and have choices yet you're against polygamy. You're not only simple minded yourself, you're all what coogar says you are.

Marraige is what you make it. No one forces anyone to get married or stay married (under normal circumstances).





how is it your business how women choose to live their lives?? These women don't mind sharing. The women going into polygamy want to share. Don't you get it?

Some people, like coogar mentioned, don't even fancy the extensive emotional connection serenren. So they shouldn't have a choice?

Taxing? I've given a solution.

Sharing? The parties involved don't mind.

What else is the problem, logicboy?

coogar: coogar? romance section?
you must be high on cheap pawpaw leaves. you will not find any of my posts there in the last 3 years(at least).

coogar: you mean we have met before? where? when?

coogar: i doubt it!



oh!
i have been arguing with a godless simpleton?

coogar: you are a fool!
matter of fact, you are the biggest fool in this community of 1 million posters. marriage is difficult for people who wish it so.

if you were raised from a difficult marriage, some of us weren't. so stick your putrid opinion to yourself, you recto-cranially inverted leprechaun.

BABE3: logicboy so you're misogynistic? Comparing a slave to an adult woman? You're trying to say women have low IQ and can be bought? Or they can't take full responsibility for their actions and choices?

I don't understand this comparison, Mr. Logic.

BABE3: logicboy so you're misogynistic? Comparing a slave to an adult woman? You're trying to say women have low IQ and can be bought? Or they can't take full responsibility for their actions and choices?

I don't understand this comparison, Mr. Logic.



Those men failed to plan. That's why polygamy should be legalized. If there were laws concerning property sharing/divorce/death of polygamists, most of those struggles wouldnt be happening.


plus people generally overblow the bad side of polygamy. There are plenty of polygamy marriages that are working just fine. Are the marraige sob stories we read here from polygamists or monogamists?

if the man is capable and the wives are in love with each other, polygamy isn't a bad idea. Not as bad as gäy-ism that we all embrace now.

what causes strife in polygamy is the fact that the wife that's not comfortable with the idea of another wife has refused to leave the marraige. She stays and causes wahala.

tintingz: Prostitution? after she's with a child?

OK it led some into prostitution, are they not sleeping with married men and even have a lover among them?

Lol, mention what UAE lack.

What's advance and what's beautiful to you?


being a Muslim doesn't stop me from quoting reasonable words from people not of my religion.

Fela is not a Muslim I can quote is lyrics.

Aristotle is not a Muslim I can quote his words.

Pope Francis is not a Muslim I can quote his words.

I can quote Mandela words.

Islam commands Muslims to make use of
anything that helps them attain a better life and
not to feel hesitant to accept wisdom from other
people.

Did I post the quote because of a witch cartoon character?

Anyway I'm a fan of "The Addams Family"

so what as slavery got to do with polygamy?

coogar: never lost an argument since i was born. i am only laughing at the ground-zero level your intelligence seems to be.



none of those countries has any advancement you would find in UAE or singapore. you have to travel to these places and see things for yourself not the rubbish you are pulling out of your rectum.



you are a glorified simpleton!

research based on what? what were the indices of the criteria that the research were based on? whether a woman can wear miniskirt or whether a woman can be promiscuous?

if that's your advancement then the money spent on your education should have been used to prevent your conception. scientific research on how people should live their lives?
you are infinitely stüpid!

striktlymi: Guy stop trying too hard...

The New york times got it spot on. Nigeria is faced with increasing population not overpopulation. I am sure you wouldn't know the difference even if I try to explain.

Economist indeed!

Seun: I just misunderstood what they were saying. Nothing to see here.

Ayinba1: You have been outed. OR you only see what your eyes choose to see.
Someone murders an innocent being and says it is Islam. You go dig up Hadiths to support the murderers claim when the Quran is very clear about this crime. You are a preacher of violence and you will not succeed in your quest to mislead others

DOnly1: Never, what union has light got with darkness.

coogar: just like many american states practise capital punishments, cops openly shoot at innocent citizens and use stand your ground technicality. death is death!



you have the intelligence quotient of a pubic louse. what criteria were used to compile these stats. the west & the east are polar opposites. if the people of the east were to compile a list of what they consider what's best for their women, the list would churn out different countries.

it's a matter of opinion - it's not set in stone!



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rapë must definitely be a good advancement for the women.

BABE3: This boy is not serious. I actually thought you had a major problem with polygamy. So its taxing polygamists that's giving you concern ?


They will be taxed accordingly. Humans are smart; we've always found ways to solve problems as little as that.
You said who'll go through the wahala of reconciling public records? Well, the tax people's work load will increase thereby creating more jobs. Problem solved.


As per divorce and inheritance, it's common sense. Any woman going into polygamy will embrace sharing everything. If the man dies, his wealth will be shared accordingly. If the man wants to divorce one of his wives, she gets her share.

The law will be harder on the man. He won't be able to leave all his wives at once coz the consequences will be huge. So the main responsibility lies on him. Thereby making any man going into polygamy to think twice.

These things are easy.

coogar: based more on what my eyes have seen. literacy in what? people who can read & write in any language are literates. it doesn't have to be english. gender-equality is tied with culture, tradition & religion. what is okay in the west is a taboo in the east & vice versa.

on whose spectrum are you looking at it? western education? a fool like you trained by the west is saying western education is the best? do you know any better than what you see on CNN?



and yet these western expatriate engineers ignored ghettoes in all the US states & went to develop another man's country? you are a fool!



exactly why it should bother you that i am challenging your frail points. i know what i am speaking about, not the nonsense you are pulling out of your arsë

tintingz: So you are the one to make choices for these women?

tintingz: single motherhood is what led some women into polygamy marriage.

so it is an issue in these thread.

tintingz: UAE like coogar stated is an advanced society and they practice polygamy, are they not better than many countries in the west?

tintingz: https://33.media.tumblr.com/2c304755d28c11786a04ace76f3b87dc/tumblr_mma2kvKAE81rjwbefo1_500.jpg

tintingz: Polygamy is not the same as slavery.

The two doesn't go together.

tintingz: Like BABE3 said polygamy can't work if women don't accept the proposal.

coogar: abu dhabi is better than any city in the west.

coogar: UAE, kuwait, saudi arabia are infinitely better than any country i have been in the west. the most advanced countries? advanced has different meanings to different people.

if your "advanced" means kids going to school with kalashnikov to shoot their mates, where homosëxuality is legal, where teenage pregnancy is very high, where rapë statistics are high, where divorce rate is 50% then you lack moral values.

tintingz: Lol

coogar, nice posts there.

BABE3: and you know what?

The concept of polygamy cant work if the women themselves don't agree to it.

If the man brings home a second wife and the first wife leaves coz she's not comfortable, that's monogamy. If the man brings home a third wife and the second wife leaves, that's monogamy. And so on. The man will be forced to be monogamous if women don't like polygamy.

It's the women that have the final say, so why cry foul?
... please what's the problem here?

coogar: don't mind that troll who cannot tell his left hand from his right. the level of stüpidity some people exude is baffling!



you are a cretinous vermin!
biblical jewish tradition is barbaric by whose standards? what a sheep!



you are a rank idïot!
men are living with multiple wives in europe. it's the ceremony that is illegal, not the act. muslims in the UK have more than one wife in their homes & they practise their polygamy openly.



your propensity to stretch the borders of daftness is unrivalled. i said so - your lack of exposure is your biggest challenge, not polygamy. you have deludedly concluded the only reason any woman would marry an already married man is because of dependency.

the former wife of the london mayor(boris johnson) married an islamic polygamous man.
this was her reason - I realise that I am unlikely to conceive children [at my age] so we agreed that, so long as he chooses a good partner, then I am happy to live together in an extended family



if they aren't better, why are the western folks there? a chunky percentage of the people doing menial jobs over there are western folks. their health sector & oil sector are ridden with western folks. they are very rich, little or no drug problems & homelessness is almost nonexistent like you will find in many western countries today.



like i told you, it's the ceremony that is illegal in the UK. any man can marry 22 wives in nigeria & ship all the women to britain & leave with them till the day he dies.

Ukutsgp: that is what i'm saying. there are no true atheist in Nigeria. it is those confused christians that call themselves atheist including u.

BABE3: if all the parties agree to it, how is it your problem??

And if the first wife doesn't want to be a part of polygamy, who is preventing her from leaving the marraige (since marriage is not a lifetime contract)?

tintingz: So why do we find women accepting polygamy proposal?

Let start from Nigeria where single mothers are stigmatize.

are you the one to tell what's right and what's wrong?

tintingz: The ISIS enjoy the killing, the journalist they killed is from a nation they hate, their enemy.

...so it is a score to them.

choice is about possibilities.

To the ISIS killing their enemy is a score to them.

we are talking about what is beneficial to someone, to some women polygamy is not anti-woman because they benefit from it.