daveyjay: Good day NLers, please I need your take on this. I'm a student in one of Nigeria's prominent public universities.
A girl decided to vie for admission in my school via the predigree programme but she had no accommodation. Because of the relationship between my parents and hers, I offered to take her in from January till now
I offered a roof over her head.
The first night she came, she slept on the floor and I wasn't okay with that, the following night, I told her she could have the bed, I vacated my bed and relegated myself to sleeping on the floor, we can't share same bed since she's neither my babe nor sister. And this sleeping routine has continued ever since then. The floor is my new bed
I gave her my spare key, uncensored access to my kitchen and everything within my legal occupancy. Cut long story short, last week Tuesday she woke up, had her bath, ate then stepped out briefly, when she returned we were outta water. Tap water of course. She called my attention to it to which I remained calm. Meanwhile I hadn't eaten neither had I bathed. At noon, she came to me that she was hungry but couldn't cook due to unavailability of water, I then asked her if I am to fetch her water??!.
She said she was gonn take food stuff to her friend's place (upstairs) to cook. I replied by asking how many of her friends had lacked water and brought food stuff to cook here??!
She got angry and took some money and left
That same Tuesday, I went to see Chelsea game, when I returned, I asked her if she cooked but she didn't dignify me with her attention talk more of a response. I thought it was rude but considered it as one of the many tantrums of ladies
The following morning, she woke up, acted like I don't exist, couldn't greet... had her bathe and left. Returned, unlocked the door, walked in like I wasn't there, ate, left to her friend's place.
On Thursday she repeated the routine, I called her back when she was going out, I asked her if she considered me as her father, brother or boyfriend that she'd wake up and start throwing attitudes... I made her understand that I am her benefactor. Hardly did I finish before she left. She returned and continued in same path and that has continued till this very moment...
Last night she didn't sleep at home, when she returned in the morning, she unlocked the door with her spare, walked in, ate, brushed, dressed and walked out without a single word e come be like say I be ghost.
What I did, I changed the locks, took some stuff, sealed my door with strict instructions to the caretaker then moved to a friends place outside my lodge and I've been there ever since.
She has returned and has been calling my line but I've been ignoring...
Now, is my action too harsh or still in line??!
Most matured reaction I have seen and heard in a while. It will sink in her head!!!
Dr Ikea Bello’s divorce party was held last week and attended by her friends who wore red outfits.
Some of the party’s decoration had inscriptions which read “I do, I did, I’m done”, “Divorced at last”, “bye Felicia”
What a Shame, a sham and degradation!!! May God deliver us from these end time marriage crashes. It is a pity. God help preserve our homes, as we place you first, knowing that a 3 fold cord cannot be easily broken. Nobody forced u in the first place to say I Do....we did not know when you got married, it is now public because u divorced? Why major in the minor things. Heavenly Father, frustrate every home wrecker and put them all to shame. Amen.
So some mofo rather carry 400k on the head, instead of looking for money to start up a business and will still be jumping from one keke napep to another. SMH.
We love to major in the minor things/ stuff of very little value in this Nation. What brand is she representing or how has her coming reduced the price of stuff in the market. Wake up to reality, the welcome party is unnecessary.....
NuclearHead: Good day nairalanders, I have been wondering how to get rid of the black spots on my face ,it's not that much ...but it's still a black spot , how did you get rid of yours to get your perfect skin without any blemish ?
They can easily converge so fast to quell a peaceful demonstration but on the other hand fail to show up during the gruesome killings... Oh God, heal our land and rid off these perpetrators of evil.
UzorChinonso: Good day Nairalanders, I have been married for just a year now and it has not been easy here! My Husband wants to know every thing about my finance. He has disturbed me to know how much is my salary worth of.
I have always denied him of the fact, what I know is that I used my money to refurbish our flat, got some new things to change the outlook of the place....
But I am not really finding it funny any longer. As we speak, he collected my ATM card since last two weeks, said I must tell him the pin or I should forget having it back. I went to my bank, told them that I lost the card and they changed it for me last Friday and he collected it again said it's either I tell him the pin or he will do something funny ...
I don't know what funny thing he's gonna do but I am worried! Pls is this how marriage is? He claims to own me and own my salary! Is it fair? This marriage is too early instead I would have quit and I am pregnant at the moment! What do I do? I don't want anybody to know anything about my finances including him till I have my baby whom my spirit accepted that I should make my next of kin.
What do I do ?
You are married and hiding information about finances is not healthy.
You ought to have known the kind of person you are marrying during courtship but these days, couples use courtship to explore body compatibility rather than understanding one another. It is well.
If your husband is doing well for himself, your earnings should not be an issue, he is probably insecure and feels there is a competition going on. Just tell him how much you earn and I suggest you stop using cards. Accord him the necessary respect. God bless
After chad has done the necessary damage to BH, he has summoned courage to relocate. Such a pitiable move. God will expose them all. All innocent soldiers that have been sacrificed for their personal gains, God of vengeance will visit the instigators of this wickedness....
Nwunuken: Amdman you have derailed from your main topic of #1.2m cars to higher amount why no create two topic thanks
If you read from the beginning of this thread, you would notice that clearing was not included earlier. He does not need to open another thread, this serves it's purpose. Thanks
I am oliverjaid, a clearing and forwarding agent. i am not a new face and i have been on Nairaland since 2013. First i want to apoologise for my recent out bursts and ill mananered responses. it was unproffessional.
In business the customer is king, we hold all our dear clients in high regard and i want to tender an appology specifically to amdman.
Govt policies and shiping protocols have a major part to play in processing clearing of containers and cars in our various terminals. There are times when all systems will be in perfect sync and in 3-6 days the container or car is out, sadly there are times when they stay much longer.
Poor/timely comunication of sensitive documentation required for container processing is key. I will not be passing the blame to anyone but my self. i should have ensured i had all the tools required to clear the container before giving out an expected time. I own up to my faults and mistakes and promise to make amends going forward.
Your monies are safe, and container is not lost. current protocols require that the container steps down at the port, if not it will be moved to a bonded warehousing facility sadly i cannot influence or speed up that process even if we are to pay extra for it. i know there is a lot of apprehension in certain quaters due to the nature of the transactions, but i can assure you that Mr amdman is an upright business man and your products are safely on nigerian soil.
Kindly bear with me, as i will sort this out and by next week you will all be driving in your freshly imported cars while we put this phase behind us.
once again my appologies to the house, i have learned from my mistakes and i will do better, and serve you better.
This is rather unfortunate experience, we just have to follow this Oliver guy with patience, so that he can deliver soon enough. It is always good we do a background check on people before handing them contracts. The days are evil and so are people. I pray it all ends well. Dear Oliver, please and please, assist, deliver soonest, don't cause heart attack for people. The issue in Nigeria is already not a good one and adding this delays will just compound it all. God bless you Amdman, you shall overcome this trial.
The lady is scared of visiting you cos anything can happen which she is not prepared for. Relationship should not be about sex, she must have studied your conscience and understood she will be in for an experience if she visited you. Always take it one step at a time in relationship, be in the company of friends or go out to a public place, watch a movie.... Get her confidence first. She does not want to say no to hurt you too. She likes you but not your hidden intention. Cheers
Rekhina: Allah knows that DanIslamal'ic northern good peoples Can never agree to it , they want to subdue Islam but Allah shall conquer at last ,fulanis is of Piss and we own the southwestern savanna as written in da canstitution ,so we say no to Amotaku insha allahu
Anyway am not perturb about Amotaku because Fear is in their midst Fulanis shall conquer southwest Allah be pressed
The evil you plan or wish to others, will start from your household. What an uncontrolled and unbridled tongue. May God have mercy on ur ignorance.
miss00000: We met in school during my pre-degree and dated for 7 years before he proposed to me. Before the proposal, both our parents had been pestering us to get married and start having children.
We started trying 6months prior, and 6 months after proposing I got pregnant. Few months later we did our introduction and got married (registry) march this year.
About two years ago, he met a lady where he was supplying his goods. According to him, the lady has been doing everything in her power to push his business. Every time I suspect there was more to their friendship, he always assured me there was nothing, that she's just a friend. sometimes he would even travel with her to Abuja to sell his goods which I had to allow since it was helping his business.
8 months into my pregnancy I noticed a drastic change like coming home very late, he hardly eats at home, he barely talks to memos he's always on his phone. I knew something was wrong and every time I talk to him, he always assured me that everything was fine.
After the delivery and naming of my baby I expected things to go back to the way it was, but it became worse. he changes his phone password almost everyday and still hides his phones from me.
One day I cried and begged him to tell me what was going on, after hours of begging, the first question he asked me was "where was it written in the bible that marriage has to be between one man and one woman and not with different women", "why can't a man marry two or more wives if he has the resources to take care of them equally"(the lady is a muslim btw).
He confessed that he has been dating this lady for over two years and has no plan of leaving her, and theres a possibility he's going to marry her. I'm just 26yo with a one month old baby, I didn't sign up for this.
While growing up, my mum has always warned us against polygamy. although he's promised to be there for me and still wants our marriage to continue, but the thought of my husband being with someone else is killing me. I've tried to reason with him several times but I end up hurting even more. I've been praying but still no change. He's been trying to compensate with gifts and money but thats not what I want. he doesn't want me to tell anyone and I feel reporting him to his family will even worsen the case. We've always settled our issues ourselves without involving anyone. I've tried everything I can just to take my mind off it. I need someone to talk to, prolly a friend or a counsellor. I've been crying for days now, I've not been eating well and I have to breastfeed my child. I never knew my life would be this complicated. I don't know why he got married to me if he already had this in mind. I hate my life right now.
It is such a pity that people just rush into marriage and are not yet prepared to commit themselves to one partner. Marriage is an institution but most people take it as a course that will only last for a while.
I advice you to focus more on God, get closer to Him in prayers and take good care of yourself and your baby.
You cannot change the attitude of your husband as, his mind is already focused on something else. Only God that has the hearts of kings in His hands can change him. We fail so much in marriage by refusing to forsake all others and cling to our spouse. Please dear sister, take it easy and eat well. With time he will come around.
Jaynom: Quality Education? Yes! WORLD CLASS? No! If you see WORLD CLASS EDUCATION You go Run! Visit ANY of the TOP 500 UNIVERSITIES in the World and your Jaw will disconnect from your Skull in AWE!
Friend Covenant is 636 as at DEC 2018, no 1 in Nigeria, it is only a matter of time.
2018-12-29 3 Nigerian higher institutions ranked among top universities in the world Tell your friends
Covenant University ranks 636 in the world and going by the ranking, it is now the best university in Nigeria.
Three Nigerian Universities have been rated by The Times Higher Education World University Rankings among the top tertiary institutions in the world in its 2019 ranking.
The institutions are; the University of Ibadan, Covenant University and the University of Nigeria.
The ranking was released on Wednesday at Times Higher Education’s World Academic Summit at the National University of Singapore.
Covenant University rated 636 in the ranking while the first university in Nigeria, the University of Ibadan, ranked 677 on the list
I so much worry for we so called Christians are the ones complaining. The Muslims that are going there are not complaining. SMH. Go there, focus and get a world class education. Period!!!
Valleys: This is the luxury he had in Madrid. The best midfield in the world, one of the best defence in the world. And now to an aging juve team that has little or no competition in their league. They should hire guardiola to try his luck.