Princess zoe: Is this the organisation? Do we have an organisation that treats this type of case? I never knew.

Project Alert: Violence Against women deals with cases of abuse, etc. One could probably get some valuable piece of advice from their consultants. They have an office in Ikeja, Lagos.

It's a BIG NO! Its just a crazy thing to do. Body no be firewood! So wat? So body no even get control ke? Its not an impossible thing to avoid cos even in marriage some people's spouses have to travel for 3 months, 6months even up to a year. So they should start sleeping around cos body no be firewood? Rubbish! Every human being has d power to control his/her body and these sexual hormones especially are not 'haywire' like growth hormone and odas dat we don't have control over their production. They are responsive to ur senses. If u love him or her abeg wait! When u marry u can enjoy whatever u wanna enjoy cos restraint is also needed in marriage in case u don't know.

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It's all lies. There is no pain or anything like that. I'm a virgin and i have a normal life and a normal menstrual flow(not even painful). There's no disadvantage in being a virgin if that's what you are looking for. I have no regrets.

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Good morning Nairalanders. Please could anyone help me with a mini laptop model that doesn't run with the intel atom processor(i heard its not so durable). I want a laptop dat wouldn't make me miss my 'maxi' laptop yet very small and portable. My maxi had an AMD processor and gave lots of troubles so i think AMD is also out of it. Any suggestions please?
Thanks.

Are you a serious person? Are you a serious person? Warristhis? Just there abeg. Go advertise ur commodity elsewhere. Mtsheew!(All these self conscious guys sef)

Thank yo for this very blunt post. You just hit the nail on the head. How can a lady just be in a relationship without having a hint on where it is headed? Dats stupidity. If u guys are dating then u should be closer dan normal friends and should be able to talk about everything including d aim for d 'dating' or watever u call it. Some ladies just want to be surprised when d guy asks her to marry him. Wat kinda nonsense is dat? So u waste 3yrs waiting to be surprised in one day? God help us all! Ladies, Be wiser!

Miss Ope:

What then is/ are the difference(s) btw d the law nd d era of grace?

In this new era, we are saved by faith not by our works. Read Deuteronomy 28 and see how God dealt with the israelites according to what they did and what they didn't do. But now, Jesus has died for us and He is our mediator seated at d right hand of God and interceeding on our behalf. It's not about what we do, it's believing that Jesus is our Lord and Saviour and in Him we have our sufficiency not in our 'living right'. Galatians 2 v 16. We are justified by faith not by our 'fleshly righteousness' our righteousness is in Christ Jesus. This is why Jesus had to come. If the law was enough to make us holy and righteous before God, then He wouldn't have needed to send His Son. Galatians 2v21. We have now been baptized into Jesus and adopted as God's sons and have received the HolySpirit who is now our Guide. Just read through the new testament and you'll receive more light.

I think the problem with most christians is that we are still trying so hard to justify ourselves by our own righteousness which is gotten by obeying the law. So since the law says 'do not commit adultery' not 'do not kiss' then we feel justified to do the things which were not clearly stated. This was why God had to send Jesus to die for us because He saw that the Law could not make us holy. We are now in the new covenant which is written in our hearts by the blood of Jesus. We are now Baptized into Jesus and the Holyspirit dwells within us. 2nd Corinthians 3v6
If you are kissing, your mind can't be clean in the process. It's not just about whether it is right or wrong but about what it does to you. It stirs up lustful wishes and that is not healthy for either of you as christians. This is why Romans 12v2 says we should continuously renew our minds because what we think has a great effect on what we do. So many christians claim to be virgins but that is just physically, in their minds, they've done and undone all manner of sexual acts. This is why Jesus didn't just say 'don't commit adultery' but 'don't even think about it' because if you habour such thoughts, you are as guilty as the person who actually did it. Let your conscience be your judge.

DailyNews: Every good lady who desires to marry will definitely find a suitable husband. Yes, you are right when u said that the search for Mr. Right might be an endless one cos most Mr. Right might have given up their search before getting to their Miss Right, so Miss Right should as well reach out to Mr. Right.

And now, what I don't always understand is this usual single ladies' statement- That time would be better invested in your future. Know your worth! You're too precious for child's play. Face your career, face your studies, face your this and that...and sometimes they add- and forget about men cos they don't worth it, really I do wonder when I hear all those.

Dangote is the richest man in Nigeria, he is married, I guess happily married. Adenuga is the second, also happily married. Now to stars, Tuface is the most popular musician in Nigeria of today and he is happily married too, and he is very famous too. All these men were able to mind their businesses, investments, careers, etc and still showed true concern towards women. Why must black women always think that they need to see men as evil to mind their career and to be happy? And if u research well, u will discover that its always after they had wasted their years chasing wind that they start using this derogatory phrase, why?

Can't a lady be successful financially, career-wise and still be humble enough to respect men and not cross the line? Is it so difficult to do? It seems we need UAE, Dubai's approach in Nigeria whereby women will be sent back to stay at home and watch films and do house chores while we fetch the money and give them so they can come back to their original creation- humble, submissive and responsible lovely creatures. These western exposure, chasing money and career of a thing seem to be doing our women more harm than good from all indications

I'm not saying that relationships are not vital. I'm just stressing on wasting ur energy on a 'make-do' relationship which you obviously know is headed no where. That time and energy is better invested in activities that would be worth the while. C'est finit!

[color=#770077][/color] this is a very interesting thread and i'd not pass without contributing.
These days, it seems like a lady is incomplete if she isn't married or in a relationship. Infact, recently i started feeling that way, my single friends all got hooked up and just yesterday, d last of them just found a girlfriend. I saw myself asking some questions but in the long run i realised that it's not just about being in a relationship but the quality of the relationship. I encouraged myself and now i do encourage the single ladies here: Be whole in yourself first! I'd rather be single than be in an abusive relationship or in one in which the guy makes me feel like crap or doesn't have any regards for me. It's life draining and i'm made for much more than that. I'd rather be my best while charting my future than dribbling my destiny in the hands of so many guys just in d endless search for Mr. Right. There should be no space in your heart for 'make-do' relationships. No! That time would be better invested in your future. Know your worth! You're too precious for child's play.

@Poster, seriously? When did you become God to judge him? I don't know what's wrong with most Nigerians. Y'all criticise and complain forgetting d rubbish you do in your own closets. Even Jesus said He came for d Lost not for those who are 'self righteous'. Remove the Log of wood in your eyes first before u talk about the speck of dust in another's eye.
Make Adeboye pause church convention and start talking political matter! Nawa o!

Mtsheeeew! Whatever happened to your 'will power'? Rubbish!

Hahahaha! See his face like ikwurigba! Chai! After all d creativity,he was still busted. Pele o?

Duxe:


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haha!

Ewooo! Uchu gbakwa ha! Pesin papa!

I hope it's not directed 2 colleges of medicine across Nigeria cos it wil b really bad. So many medical dropouts and increase in suicide rate o!

@poster,You are right,
Though your concluding statements make me wonder why you pride in dating so many women(i hope u're nt lying). If you know all dat u've stated in ur article,why havnt u been able 2 stick to one lady. Is d long list of women u've dated part of ur C.V or wat? Mtsheeew!

Thanks Guys!!

Hello Everyone! Please i need some help with a few information.
I want to go for second degree course In a Nigerian University, precisely University of Benin. I want to know if i need Youth service as a qualification to enter with direct entry and start from second year. I don't stay around there so i don't have access to the school. Please Information.
Thanks,

You just have to learn to love her. don't even think of divorce because it is not an option at all!!! if you despise her,how do you expect your marriage to work. you just have to focus on her strenghts. she is not totally bad. no woman is. she could make a good wife if you give her the chance. just make your marriage work. it would not be easy but just try your best and it will pay!!!!

Many ladies go into relationships without knowing what they want, eventually most of them end up heartbroken. Many relationships fail because of lack of vision. Vision is very important in relationships. If you know where you are going, you will know the kind of guy to date. If you know you want to be successful, why date a guy that has no prospects for his life? He is only going to bring you down. If you know what you want, you've got to make the right decisions. Do not go on hoping that you will change him because there are many things you can't change about him, few you can change, some others will change and some you may never change.
You make decisions using your mind and not your emotions. that is the problem with many of us. Do not let your Emotions rule over you, you should be in control of your emotions. your mind helps you to be rational and unbiased while your emotions make you take decisions based on your present state. Do not let the fact that you love a guy blind you to his faults because love is not the only thing that makes a relationship work. There should be understanding, tolerance, communication, acceptance, appreciation etc.
We all want to be great so let's not go around throwing ourselves at guys that don't love us. We have our self esteem and dignity to protect. A guy that does not appreciate you does not deserve you.
Keep your heads up high and keep your dreams and visions alive. Never jeopardise your aspirations and future for a guy. He is just not worth it!!

LONDYC,

thank God he is back. but i wont take that kind of thrash from any man. the fact that he is under stress should make him to confide in his loving wife. that's what u are there for. Anyway, congratulations. Hope u guys live happily everafter!