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[size=14pt]i just dont know what to say to u....just 1 year....as in 12 months?? sincerely i cant even tell in 12 months if i love a gal enuf to spend d rest of ma life with her....am i weird or something?[/size]

GraceBestowed: In courtship, anything more than a year is something else, abeg! If dude cannot make it official after then (by proposing), my dear sisters, walk away!

It's not about being in a fifteen year relationship, with two children, calling some guy 'partner', instead of 'hubby'. I reject nonsense!

Temi 23: Nice write up. I don't like long courtship anyway.

bukatyne: What do you call long courtship?

There is no blanket for all cases.

I meant my fiancé when we were in 100L,

Whether we like it or not, we must date for at least 5yrs (4yrs in school and 1yr NYSC)

let's say we are extremely lucky and we get jobs the day we get our NYSC discharge certificate. Then, we would work at least for a year b/4 we can get married... that's 6yrs. (If there is a delay for one or more year b/4 getting jobs, it increases our courtship years more.)

We were lucky and got jobs 1year after service... We are currently in year 7 and will get married in year 8 by God's grace.

There are however some obvious time wasters especially when both or the man has started working before they meet.

Galaxy.Note.II:


But at what age? What would a 19-22 years old girl be doing with a marriage proposal ?

Jisola Mar:

IMO, what you described above is not entirely courtship. Which 100L guy proposes to a lady? It is actually dating which then progressed into courtship.
Courtship starts when a marraiage proposal is made and accepted. Then, you begin to plan your futures together and generally prepare for the wedding ceremony(ies?). Anything before then will just be friendship (as i would rather call it), dating, boyfriend-girlfriend relationship, etc.

bharseeth: Blah blah blah, people be talking like all fingers are equal. The duration of a relation is dependent on a lot of things; which includes majorly finance and education. Whether long or short. A shoe size can't fit all. Abeg, do as the situation warrants. Gbam! As for me, I would marry if and only if am able to stand on ma feet; without support. Shikena!

bigfat08: [size=15pt]i courted for 10yrs really didn't worth it ...[/size]

GraceBestowed:

Whenever a women feels she's ready, then she should act accordingly!

I know that some people can meet each other in secondary school (for example), and be together for a long time; however, when a woman is ready to get married, and the man in her life is stalling, rather than hanging about like a sitting duck, she should walk, and not spend more than a year 'hoping'.

YoungSalute: The Funke must be a real big fool. So I should hurry and end up with disgrace ?.

Ladies that are rushing to get hooked also get hurry to pack their things.

If a lady can't wait, it means; she's hiding some thing and probably scared of the news breaking out.

Why would a young man that is still gathering rush to alter of disaster and continuous fighting for reasons like, you don't bring money and etc.

Galaxy.Note.II:


I get your point. So it doesn't really depend on the length of the courtship, but when they're both ready then.

YoungSalute: The Funke must be a real big fool. So I should hurry and end up with disgrace ?.

Ladies that are rushing to get hooked also get hurry to pack their things.

If a lady can't wait, it means; she's hiding some thing and probably scared of the news breaking out.

Why would a young man that is still gathering rush to alter of disaster and continuous fighting for reasons like, you don't bring money and etc.

Cherechy: It baffles me when I hear guys say they are trying to put one or two things together before getting married. In d case of those still in school or studying it's understandable but in d case of a grown ass man, working and lives on his own I don't get.
This in my opinion is jst a useless excuse to buy time. A guy that is ready for marriage will get married, regardless of financial status. After all, shoemakers and okada pple marry everyday.
Like my sis will always say, no story has ever been told of a couple dt got married and now died of hunger. Once there's life, there's hope.
The money u spend on Mr Biggs chicken can buy one pampers, the money you use to hang out with ur buddies over d weekend, can make soup and stew, its all a matter of priority.
Some guys are working, their girlfriends too, yet they'll see they are not ready to settle down. I wonder the mansion they want to acquire or the car they want to buy!
Start small and move on from there. U want to write ICAN, who says marriage will inhibit you? What pple don't know is that there's a blessing that comes with marriage. U get married and all of a sudden, things start falling into place.
Please and please this long courtship of a thing should not be encouraged.
*drops mic

Habiolar: @ op , 9ce write up,but to my opinion, wht works 4 u might nt work 4 some1 else. I had a neighbor dt he&his wife court 4 9yrs b4 getting married & up till nw, dey are happily married with kids. Me&my Gf is nw going to 5yrs relationship nw yet we still luv eachoda dearly & I still hv to 2-3yrs b4 settling down, because I hv to put tinz in place. Mind u, if I make money 2day,I'll marry her months after.
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onyeahams: How long can one knw his or her spouse bfor marriage?even in marriage couple stil get to knw eachoda. My mum describes marriage as a wrapped gift,you dnt knw whts inside until its opened. Its wise to always Pray to God for one who s compatible and understanding. There s no exact duration for courtship other than from 6mnths to 1yr.And if its a case where the man isnt financially buoyant but loves her,other little things can stil be done, like introduction and all....to give d lady's parents assurance that there 's plan for marriage. Marriage is a holy institution,we dnt choose who we marry but ask God for direction. And for those ladies doing 'Ekaetteism' in a man's house every weekend had beta av a retink. Washing his clothes,cooking, cleaning n stil warming his bed s no assurance that marriage is certain,rather he will say 'Y buy the cow wen he can av d milk for free'.