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What are the odds of a great marriage experience if one gets married to a broken piece like the person is?

Here's the scenario: both partners have similar growing up experiences, which involves physical and mental abuses, neglect and disappointments. Physical restriction and what look like 'enslavement' in disguise of avuncular care. Like both lived with uncles because of their own immediate families' inability to provide and because of some limitations, e.g both parents deaths which led to being moved to an uncle.

While in this 'enslavement' and servitude, they witnessed their uncles' children being given utmost care while they are being subjected to domestic services.

Both have grown up now with bitterness filled up their hearts. Hatred for the families they grew up in. They badly want freedom. Because of many years of servitudes, they seem to have both lost self confidence, self worth, have no capacity to make personal decisions and fears lock down in their heads— fears of not being enough.

They both 'managed' literally to have university degrees but jobs ain't forthcoming for both...making them to continue to live under such conditions. The courses they both studied ain't such that are on high demand.

Both are of age for marriage. M: 35, F: 27. The guy is out trying to secure a room apartment while the lady still staying with the uncle but looks desperately to leave.

They both seem to want to be with eachother; But the similarities in their stories is big concern for the guy—for the fear of what the 'similarity' in growing up patterns could mean in marriage.

What would be an idea advice for each of them..and perhaps both?

This is a little thing that matters the most.

Dear sister, I'm sorry it turned out this way.

Next time, I will do better.

Yours,
Your brother.

Ehya

Very true. Support 💯

No lies. Making it look like the decent or non-yahoo income earners are lazy...and unproductive.

It's frustrating.

Pre-EndSARS, it wasn't like this!

rxmusa:
The Nassarawa this deposed emir went to is a Local Government Area of Kano (Kano has 44 LGAs and Nassarawa is among them). The Nasarawa emir Sunusi went to is a state of it's own.
It's not the same, even in spelling

Thank you. It's better understood now.

HNICEARTH:
The awe in nasarawa state that Sanusi retired to is different from this particular palace at nasarawa LGA.

This palace is located at nasaraw LGA in kano. The palace is a stone throw from the kano government house.

2 different places. One in nasarawa state, one in nasarawa LGA in kano

Thank you for this. I clearly understand it now.

Lorayne:
You did not read the post, did you?

It clearly said nasarawa LGA. Nasarawa is a local government in Kano.

Now I understand. Thank you.

Seems Nasarawa is an extension of Kano. Or better put, a retired home for any deposed Hausa monarch. Recall Sanusi's first point of relocation was to Awe in Nasarawa that year.

Or is it just a coincidence?

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America is controlled by Israel. Yes, i didn't mean it other way round!

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Mr President, may you be as fine as you intend Nigeria to be.

Cab someone explain this in a more relatable language?

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After all this has been said and done
We may, unashamed, move on
as though this never happened
nor anyone ever spoke of it.

That's how they suspended over 350 mostly finalists students in 2021 or so...just because they bypassed school system to view their results. Unilorin is very strict with some laws.

Is there going to be inter-party contest after this?

RIP

Op, you can do better. Come back with a more tribal-inclusive list.

Okay congratulations 🎉

There's more to this publicity

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i naturally treat women fairly

Legend!

Interesting

Maa sha'Allāh.

I will wait

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Show us Buhari picture there. He probably might've absconded into King Charles' Edinburgh Royal Infirmary.

When Adesua, Banky W's wife cried out at the early period of the elections, she must have been privy to the likely voting pattern which had shown considerably not in her family's favour. She let out a big distress shout to alert Nigerians to watch out for a possible tribal-coloured outcome of the election. In her words, "if you’re tribalistic in this day and age, there is something fundamentally wrong with you." At the time, the indomitable gengs couldn't comprehend why her outcry; they thought it was APC she was throwing the shades at so they cheered her up and tagged her a democratic hero.

However, when the verdict came out, two things also became clear: One, she herself and of course, her frenzy and politician husband now understood the dynamics of politics — that you find yourself in the same camp as others doesn't necessarily mean you have anything in common with them. A situation might have led everyone into that same camp albeit different dimensions and on different grounds. Imagine a community overrun by tsunami and everyone scampering for safety. It is not uncommon to see people from diverse backgrounds in the same coven— a situation has lumped them up under the same roof. The case of Banky W and the betrayal suffered from the pro-Obi camp is a case of, my friend's enemy is my enemy, and vice versa. However, not minding that in some situations, if one is not careful, an inherited friend might as well turn out to be your own worse enemy, same as an inherited enemy might be more of a friend to you. So this is a summary narrative of Banky W's fate — He had been in a toxic friendship cycle with supposed friends, and it turned out to be a one way traffic kind of relationship, unbeknownst.

Second lesson is that, it now become clear that the said movement is rather a pro-Obi/Igbo and not in anyway an all-encompassed anti-establishment movement. Giving the demographic pattern of votes, especially in places with metropolitan status, it's crystal clear that the interest of Obidient movement isn't actually a unifying one—there are other conspiracies and clandestine inspirations to it, and perhaps as the situation has subtly brought to fore, is to end a long standing deprivation of leadership right!

This is where I blame and I also salute the Yorubas. Although, sometimes, they choose not only to be hypocritical, they also sometimes shed water on their gullibility. Apologies to dissent voice.

What more this election has revealed is that, Hausa has yet again maintained their long enduring ideological leniency with the Yorubas, and have also clearly maintained their long enduring misgivings about the Igbos. Simply put, they stayed through for Yorubas. And in the likes manners, to an equal extent, Yorubas too reciprocated — check the votes patterns! Yorubas give as many votes as they get from the Hausas. But sadly, same cannot be said of Igbos Versus Hausa or Igbo Versus Yoruba.

Although, out of the Yorubas long standing flexible political ideology, i.e the ideology that rather prioritises unity, peace and harmony, cultural alignment and merit above religion and sectionalism, they often swayed their political strength accordingly.

In doing this, in this election, two things happened: one, it solidifies Yoruba long standing symbiotic relationship with the North, and sadly also reawaken them to more-like parasitic tendency of their major votes beneficiary, the Igbos. The outcome of this presidential elections have rapidly sketched out the all-the-while hidden parasitic inter-ethnic relationships amongst the three major divisions of the country.


#I-Come-In-Peace🤞

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