Vinnie2000:


What I see in this Thread is Men who FORCEFULLY married their Wives without any love/feelings beforehand
Trying to Bully or Intimidate the OP with their View points.

I Repeat, No Lady should never marry a Man out of Pity!

You dey mind them.
Trying to guilt-trip her about the money spent.
Yet some of them have a sugar momma they wouldn't commit to even with a gun pressed to their temples.

Or maybe they missed the part where she noted that he's still sticking around after she has been rude to him.
I get that people will paint themselves in a good light when narrating, but when a woman says she's been rude, best believe she's already pulled several esteem-destroying moves to get him to untangle with some of his dignity intact. But Chairman no 1 gree. Dude is like, "Is that all you've got?"

I really hope she can get him to loosen his grip without cranking up the humiliation dial to 11.
Women are not renowned for their tact.

-Lord

The day we fix this country, we'd inadvertently be throwing conventionally unattractive men under the bus.
This already happens in richer countries. If you got the genetic short end of the stick, you're invisible.

I can empathize with the man.
He sees himself in the mirror and does not want to pass that misery on to their progeny.
If you no fine, try knock up who fine, mk your pikin no resemble masquerade.

I'm pretty certain this is not the man's first rodeo.
He is defo accustomed to being treated horribly by women and needing lots of money to get a foot in the door.
That isn't ever going to change.
At least in Nigeria, sink enough money and you'd likely get the cooch. Overseas, even some prostitutes will turn him down.
Sucks to be him I guess, but he should chin up and keep trying. The supernatural power that did it for Oshiomole will do it for him.

The lady is beyond reproach in this situation.
I am picky. So I can't begrudge a woman who's literally fending off propositions for having minimum phenotypical standards.
In fact, I sympathize with her.

-Lord

SalamRushdie:


Dont mind Nigerians , applauding what might be brazen corruption... where did a House of rep member get all this money from? Is he a ministry ?

Et tu, Rushdie?
Or is my sarcasm detector broken?

-Lord

247man:


This is not fair….

Truly, it is not fair.

But there are several things that majority of people interpret as black marks or a stain on your person.
Like a middle aged man still living with his parents.
Or in this case a single mother.

It's why I'm pro choice.
A woman will be guilt-tripped into keeping a pregnancy then be ostracized by the same society after doing the "right thing".

Nigerian men have dropped a lot of the standards they demand of women.
Meanwhile women keep raising the bar.
I'm all for single motherhood being a disqualifying metric. We have to make a stand at some point.

-Lord

Zonefree:

Same scenario played out during my time. Make e no be say na the same banny o.

That one na normal village/township girl format.
From time to time, e go get one Mr wen she go set her sights on for one set.
Mk e for fall in love enter trap and upgrade her by moving her out of the environment.

It's the closest you'll ever get to the Holy Grail of true love from that gender.
Because you're better than all her backup options.
Dem go use excellent food, WAP, and affection reformat your brain.
It's the ultimate self-esteem boost.

Serving in the city is great for career opportunities.
But serving in the hinterlands will expose you to experiences you'd never have lived through otherwise.
For a few months you'd be treated like you're a g.

How God take pack all the beautiful and caring babes put for that Isele Uku is a sign that God loves Delta state.

Delta North takes the cake in the state on beauty.

-Lord

erniok:
Who noticed a touch of Bini in the picture of the obi of Iselle and ubulu?

As expected.
The Nubian kings in present-day Sudan also adopted "a touch of" Egyptian culture; before and after they ruled Egypt.
From the pyramids to their garbs.

Monarchies in close proximity to a grander kingdom often adopt/borrows elements of the latter.
You see it in the curved roof architecture in much of East Asia and South East Asia borrowed from the Han Dynasties in China.

Lends credence to the maxim, 'Imitation is the sincerest form of flattery'.

-Lord

flokii:
Lovely.. where una dey see all these fine half caste women carry?

Show us way.

Dem full ground.
But no b just moni you need, you need status.

No let anybody bobo you, members of Nigerian aristocratic families dey enjoy life scara.
Layla na wife. Concubines still dey wen fine pass am. Within and outside the shores.

In Destalker's voice, "Hustle o..."

-Lord

hedonido:


You're yapping a ton of crap.

To cut the long story, have you bothered to ask whether the policemen in protective duty in the motorcades of governors travel in armoured vehicles? The prados and hiluxes carrying policemen in the convoys of governors, ministers and other government officials, are these vehicles armoured?

No, the transports for protective details are not armored.

Only the motorcades of flag officers sometimes have armored vehicles with turrets for the security detail.

If they're not, then what's your point really?

My point is that it should become standard practice for all PEPs and VIPs to armor every vehicle that'll transport any member of their protective team.

Force men on protective duty are providing an invaluable service. It is a job that pays the bills for their families.
They don't have multiple lives. Accordingly, they should be given all requisite tools to ensure a high survival rate and second-strike capability when they engage assailants.
An armored transport is crucial to this dual objective. Especially since they'll almost always start off on the backfoot in an ambush.

-Lord

hedonido:


Don't be ridiculous. The policemen are armed with guns and it is their duty to ward off threats/attacks, not to snooze under armoured protection. They're not supposed to be fancy accompaniments or tag alongs.

There is no civil way to respond to this so I'll take a rain check on typing a pointed rejoinder.

You're trying to make the case that security operatives should be sent into highly volatile conditions with nothing more than the shirts on their backs and a tin-can transport because they're given guns.

Tell you what, I'm unbelievably tempted to respond with a torrent of expletives because anyone who can display such wanton disregard for the safety of another human is a consummate a$$hole. No ifs and buts.

-Lord

aylipple:
Nigeria's entire security architecture is a huge joke & those heading them are a bunch of clowns.

Any PEP or high networth individual in need of police escort should be made to transport their escorts in bulletproof vehicles as well instead of exposing them to die like chickens; this madness has got to stop!

Period.

You'll have a Rolls Royce Phantom sitting in your driveway and own a home overseas but let your security detail travel in a $25K basic Hilux through hostile territory. It's preposterous.

The IGP has to advocate for better operational and safety standards for his men. These PEPs can afford to armor their entire convoy and should be compelled to. After all the funds they'll use is ultimately coming out of the treasury.

-Lord

uvie66:
Are these people ignorant or what, the girl have declared her age to you, but you still went ahead to exposed your genitals to her, the problem with UK is that Olosho is expensive.

Entry-level sex workers are cheap in Nigeria. Hasn't hobbled the miscreants.
The actual problem is that ephebophilia is fair game in most parts of the world, Nigeria inclusive.
However, the West (and more accurately, the Anglos) are ferociously insistent on the 18 year cut off.

Still, there are loopholes. Teen marriages are still a thing in the West.
Sadly, these id*ots caught with their hands in the cookie jar only want to dip a wick.
I wish the punishments were harsher.

Even if you emigrate to a place and they demand females under 21 are off the table, f*cking respect it.
Can't deal; pick a different country.
If you're ignorant, then well, that ignorance should cost you.

-Lord

stano2:
Lol… nobody send you this work.
The ladies i know into such marriages are not really complaining. Money flows in steadily, and they are aware of the man’s other family over there.

Na who dem marry overseas no get idea say another family dey Naija.

It is their enduring victim complex.
If you're not interested anymore, you can leave.

I can empathize because it's the lil day-to-day interactions that make a marriage wholesome.
Even if you have a lover, he's not a like-for-like replacement.
But as far as trade offs go, this is far from horrifying.

-Lord

Kobicove:


So single father children don't also have some deficiency?

https://medium.com/the-knowledge-of-freedom/single-father-households-do-vastly-better-than-single-mother-heres-the-real-reason-why-8a7fd7c5611d

The data is out and the verdict is resoundingly cut and dry.
Single fathers beat single mothers at parenting by some distance.

-Lord

Prospertochu:



Thank you

Relocate them so you can give the kids a better education and provide invaluable fatherly affection.

Ignore the noise from the usual suspects.

-Lord

mana123:


Not likely. She have been Ambassador to Ghana and Ambassador to Spain before.

She'll be given another appointment or asked to recommend someone.
Nigeria takes excellent care of her blue bloods.

-Lord

SMARTMOTORS:
Una way dey call him Simp.... remember that lady was his WIFE! not a girlfriend or side chick!...you can never understand the emotional damage untill you experience what he passed through.. some men ended up with Stroke, others with heart attack. He was just a victim of demonic depression. Seeing your wife getting Raped by another man is hell not to talk of seeing her several times ontop another man's Dick!

Shey he and the wife na Siamese twins?

BTW, how do you stay and watch your wife cheat multiple times?
We're not talking about the sessions she had in secret.
Dude caught her in the act more than once.

You can't keep "forgiving" a repeat cheater and expect him/her to stop.
What would you call a man who after witnessing all this opts to go into a committed, exclusive relationship with this woman?
Will you pity him when she cheats on him?

If you can't demand exclusivity from a sex worker, why stay married to a woman who has 5 kids from 3 different men and you know actively seeks out flings while being married.
If you're in a "relationship" and you're repeatedly forgiving a cheating SO under the guise of "working things out"; just accept you're a cuckold and stock up on PrEP. Any other explanation is shalaye.

-Lord

KIDfurniture:
Nothing new! Many wives in Nigeria dey into this fucking around .

In Nigeria they cheat codedly.
Outside the shores they become hotwives.

Bfast wen dem dey serve for the West dey extra spicy.
Grown men enduring the humiliation of knowing their wives cheat and doing nada because of pali or how it'll truncate plans that are already in motion.

-Lord

emmaodet:




Bro, I don't get you oo.
I go collect or no collect?

No collect.

Na nija I dey oo with my nija pali

Where there's a will, there's a way.

-Lord

emmaodet:


Bros, am even tired of arguing about japa no japa again because they will just see you as hater.
Many people are doing fine here in Nigeria and won't think about japaing yet the noise about japa on nairaland is way above the roof.
Some of them say that you can't get a visitor's visa to Europe or Canada with nija passport and when I enter the plane while coming back home last month, 90% of the people are using Nigerian passport because most of us queued and cleared through the Nigerians Only route while like 10% in the foreign passport route.
So who are these Nigerians getting visas everyday?
Who are these Nigerians filling up Ethiopia airlines like 8 a day to Nigeria with other airlines?
Most of these flights are virtually filled up either while traveling out or coming back.
People are traveling out en mass everyday and coming in and most use the Nigerians only immigration route.
So who are these Nigerians getting visas? Every God damn days.
Where are they all getting visas for different countries when the japa crew nairaland version claim Nigeria passport is useless and can't go anywhere?
By now, I expect planes to just be 15 or 20% partially filled since Nigerian passport holders have been shadow-banned as they usually say it

If after all this talk you no collect second passport, I go vex for you. Mark am somewhere!

-Lord

AntiWailer:


Why are you shouting jor.

Username checks out.

The uncle just collect him pink slip.

Let him wail abeg.

😂😂😂


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qMLfnkobX-U

I dedicate this song to him.

-Lord

Iamblessed85:


Why are they always hell bent on convincing their spouse to japa? Even the ones with good paying jobs

1. Potentially better income.
2. Gynocentric laws. Consequences for most of the sh*t men get away with here.
3. Better quality of life.
4. Bragging points.
5. The man is most likely paying the lion share of the relocation expense.

For the woman in the OP, emigrating will tilt the relationship dynamics firmly in her favor.
It's the perfect insurance plan that covers all her bases.

-Lord

Jewessgratitud3:
If she cheats on you don't complain. Someone who rejected you for five years does not only dislike you but detest your whole existence. Maybe now because the man she was praying so hard to pop the question didn't come through with it and age is no longer on her side, she decided to settle for the available. There's no true love here.

As far as I'm concerned, he is asking for it.
He deserves whatever f*cked up sh*t she does to him.

Marry him.
Continue riding the c*ck carousel.
Convince him to Japa.
Congratulations, you've won at life.

-Lord

God1000:
I'm looking at the negative image this will give Africa, especially if it turns out bad for them, there are other sectors Africans can do well, why farming?

Remember the kind of treatment some Africans still get in Israel today, I don't hate Israel oo

Don't blow this out of proportion.
Citizens from low-income countries emigrate to work as farmhands in high-income countries.
From Israel in the Middle East to Netherlands in Europe to the US in North America.
In 2022, the US issued 298,000 H-2A visas. In comparison, H1B visas are capped at 65,000 (+ 20,00) per year.
If Latinos and Asians can do it; why can't Africans?

-Lord

Bookie.

Big fan of Sebastian Maniscalco's standup. Show doesn't disappoint.

-Lord

Davido will not be at the top forever.

Early this month, Wizkid revealed he's going on a hiatus. It wasn't long ago that this thread surmised that OBO wasn't as 🔥 as he used to be.

The Adelekes have a sprawling business empire. When Davido is through with this phase, Israel can be slotted into any high-powered position he remotely qualifies for. He could go get an MBA if he has a first degree. If he wants to go his own way, all he has to do is bring an idea. Raising the capital will not be arduous.

Interestingly, dude is balling. He is not brownnosing without dividends, nor is he getting dividends and frittering it away. He owns real estate, he owns cars, apparently he has side gigs. He is your quintessential responsible Nigerian man who tried to make a honest woman out of a 21 yr old.

I'm not sure what his crime is.

There's a time for everything. Time to sow. Time to reap. Time to take a break. He is paying his dues now. And he couldn't have picked a better aristocratic family to serve. Every blue blood in this country has bag holders. Every single one. These bag holders are usually well compensated. They have their own families. It's been this way since the dawn of time.

Sheila is your average woman who lacks foresight. There is nothing surprising about her actions.

Both parties will be fine. Sheila will get her fill of white-collar professional, jakparian, royal, politician, and business magnate c*ck. If she's lucky, a clown will attempt to monopolize her wh*re holes later on. That will end poorly as well. Israel definitely has her replacement lined up. He is only going through the 5 stages of grief, which is understandable when you treat women as an investment class 🤦‍♂️.

-Lord

WriterNiiig:
⚡Biden says the U.S. is prepared to impose sanctions on Israeli settlers who are involved in attacks against Palestinians in the West Bank.

Waiting for the antisemitism accusations.

-Lord

bukatyne:


I hope he really prepared for the lean years ahead.

I hope so too.

I'm not worried about him tho'.
He'll be fine.
He married into money.
He played at and established valuable contacts at the highest levels.
As long as he does not spend like he still earns 6 figures per week, he's golden.

All of that said, it's got to sting going from 6 figures per week to zero in your mid 30s.
Bloody hell!

-Lord

grandstar:

If I earned half of what Mikel Obi was earning, I'll set up at least 20 of my relations. If any still fail, at least I know I did my best.

Mikel Obi did set up a number of his relations.

Furthermore, of all professionals, black tax impact athletes the most.
Their income does not last a lifetime.
You get stupendously paid for a decade, if that, of your life.

Notice the candor and distress in his statement.
He is not a corporate grunt who would earn more as he gets older.
He is not an accomplished entertainer receiving million-dollar royalty paychecks every month.

His best earning years are behind him.
And it is excruciatingly painful that the money he spent on his family including investments failed to yield fruits.

Financial discipline is essential, especially at the start.
Let them call you stingy. If you don't send money for naming ceremony, you can still pay for college tuition.
That 15 year interval is crucial. Between when you start having spare change and when good money start rolling in from various sources.
Billing no dey finish.
In fact, it is your responsibility to appropriate manage when to give and when to snake them.
That's why Lady Luck chose you.

Lastly, this all depends on family.
For every Mikel Obi and regular professional complaining about Black Tax, there are hundreds of families where most family members are industrious and have good heads on their shoulders.
A bad family is like a bad wife. They'd wreck you.
Whatever you expend will be like watering a stone.
You employ them, problem. You open a business for them, problem. You foot bills, problem.
When you're not Elon Musk.

We don't choose family like we don't choose our genes.
So you study your family and figure out how best to deal with them.
If they're assets, good for you. If they're liabilities, work out how to address the challenge.
If there are families where literally everyone in the immediate nuclear family is a white-collar professional, and yours isn't, common sense dictates that you acknowledge you're handicapped and act accordingly.

Other families dey do winter retreat for Northern Europe or a lake house in North America, you dey dodge bill for school fees or rent. And you still 1 do pass yourself. On top 69 years life expectancy. Continue. Na billing go kee you.

-Lord

raumdeuter:


Does AJaero have that power?

Yes.

Worst case they will break NLC into factions.

That has been their end game.
Whatever they do next, the bottom line is that there was a tat for the initial tit.

People in some states are already saying there is no strike in their location.

In our current charged, sectarian polity, this was inevitable regardless of the impetus for the strike.

If you want to fight a personal vendetta and you get your nose bruised in addition to already flouting a court case

He has no case at the end he fuccked around in politicss and got found

The beaten cannot be undone, The only thing Ajaero will do is to waste the fish wey my guy blueray don plan to chop for 2 weeks

In this country, Buratai killed more than a 1000 Shiites when a procession blocked his convoy.
Ajaero can waste BRD's fish.

-Lord

raumdeuter:


Was he on official duty when he was slapped? Abi which part of NLC involves joining political campaigns?
You went on a personal trip, you got assaulted by thugs (Not govt) but you want people in Zamfara and Ekiti to suffer for it

If a military general goes to a beer parlour or goes to fight over his personal land in Ibeju and was slapped, will he shut down the entire country too?

You go explain tire.
If the military general had the means, he too would shut down the entire country.
This country, in fact, the entire planet currently operates on the eternally apt FAFO principle.
Hamas is getting bodied right now.
Hope, backed by the FG, f*cked around. It's time to find out.

How can you rough up the NLC President, the defacto leader of Nigeria's 60m workers, and then try to excuse it away because of the circumstances? We play too much in this country.

Ajaero is not the equivalent of a military general. He is equivalent to the Chief of Defense Staff.
If thugs on the orders of a governor beat up the Chief of Defense Staff, the Governor will be confined to his residence for starters.
Then all the thugs will be sent to their makers.
After which everyone who was in the chain of command that relayed the order from the Governor to the thugs will receive disproportional punishment. Even the owner of the land where the beating occurred will go on exile.

Since the NLC does not have the means to directly exact retribution on the perpetrators, they would (and must) use the weapon at their disposal.
NLC should have shut down the country for 2 good weeks immediately after that incident.
Beating up Ajaero was a dare. This is the consequence.

Whenever you're in a position of power, you must establish and reinforce deterrence.
Doubly so in a lawless country like Nigeria.

-Lord

GloriousGbola:


Obi and Atiku are two sides of the same coin.

BAT built apc from Lagos. And slowly built it into a regional party. He built alliances and friendships. You do not become a political force overnight.

Peter obi rather than do the same with APGA jumped ship to pdp and burnt his bridges. He joined The party that denied him his mandate in the first place. Then jumped ship again when it was clear he was not the nominee.

As for Atiku he has been jumping ship for the past 20 years. If he somehow loses pdp ticket he will jump ship again. He dealt pdp a mortal blow in 2015. His actions directly led to the G5 and the fault lines within pdp.

Spot on.

In any case, it does appear LP is Obi's final stop.
Perhaps his biggest contribution to our democracy will be fashioning an enduring third force.
It may not make him the President, but it may be the perfect platform for a more politically deft candidate in the future.

-Lord

Itsrm:


And it does not seem like he learnt any lesson. He wants to go again in 2027 as a third force.

Dude wants to out-Atiku Atiku!
Heck, even Atiku had the good sense to not go it alone in 2015 although he was more qualified than the party nominee.

I believe Obi's political fatuity is a major black mark on his capabilities.
Tinubu stooped low to conquer. Not Obi though. I'm eager to see how he'll pull the impossible.

-Lord