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mariahAngel:
If you don’t mind me asking; are your stories only negative?
Have you ever had any positively happy experience?

My friend
I am glad that you asked, and I am very honest when I say to you that, I have never know peace in my life. God has called me to live a life of battles and my life has truly been nothing but battles.

My positive experience would be that God has promised that, He will give to me a life of perpetua peace and joy.

I am not valued until I am tested; Gold is not valued until it is tested by fire

See the story - the mistake of my brother

https://www.nairaland.com/6624727/what-happened-brother

Many people will not understand why I share the messages I share on nairaland. I have had so much in life and I have seen so much in life.

May God help me and restore me

Adamgeneral12:
You get lucky o lostchild , no be once or twice I see this kind things dey happen for young men and there sisters o
One dey wey be say na car painter( I won't mention where he use to work because na popular place) that how his elder sister come dey give the guy format o, na so guy carry all the money wey him dey see for work give him so called sister ( the money na to buy land)
After guy come see no land na so guy come tell him sister say as she no buy the land that she should give him the money back, katakata come start between him and his sister.
In short the sister come go do the guy juju na so the guy come turn mad o.
Dey come carry the guy come my prophet place because is close to his work shop, but the sister still dey scatter the family member with juju so that they will not see solution for the guy, as prophet say the family member no serious about the guy matter na him he just ask them to come carry there pikin
Make I no lie una the guy I still dey see him on the street he don become ogbonge mad man just because of he San his own money back

Thank you for narrating this your experience. For the last two years I keep warning every young men to stay away from family afairs iif they desire to move upward in life.

My own sisters nearly destroyed me. What happened to me was so bad that I nearly curse God and die because my sisters nearly used me as sacrifice for the survival of their children.

My elder brother warn me many times but I refuse to listen, but I knew now that, he was very right.

Adam; keep learning from the mistake of others. This world is not kind to good men.

In 1994 I saw my mother dancing.

She was jubilating
She was celebrating
She was extremely very happy
She was so full of joy to the point where I have no choice but to asked her, mama, why are you this happy?

She happily told me her brother who traveled abroad in the 70/80s is back home. Her brother who traveled to London for many years has come back home, and he came with his western wife and children.

My mother kept dancing as she was preparing to travel to the village to go and spend time with her lost and found brother.

Three days later, I saw my mother rolling on the floor crying. She was crying, calling the name of her brother. I asked, why is mama crying ?

The uncle who just came back from London to Nigeria, has died. Just within three days of living back home, he slept and never wake up. The western wife was in shocked as she carried her children and fled back to London

At that time I was a young pre-teen boy, but my instinct still tells me that village people has used this man as suya.

I have seen this many times, again and again, where people travels abroad and come back home and died. It has been happening since the 90's and I first saw this happened to my mother.

This can still tell how fast the devils call kill a person in this land of suffering and tears

FINAL WORDS

Watch out for yourself; the less you think you stand, the less you fall.

It is better to be a coward in the western world than being dead here - for a lifetime...

Nigeria is an evil place.

☆ itumafriday

1. She is using pregnancy to trap you

2. You are making the same mistake my brother made. His life was destroyed

Acidosis:
First, let me clarify o. I didn't give any advice. Only read the thread and moved on.

To those who advised her to divorce, well I can't speak for them but my point is still clear, the need to eat good food should never be a reason to tolerate nonsense sha.

It all depends on how you see yourself btw. A woman that makes decisions that best satisfy her stomach rather than her esteem, will obviously tolerate a husband with 5 baby mamas and kids here and there.

My brother
I know a man who caught his wife with amother man. He forgive and welcome the woman back to his life. When people asked him why he didn't divorce the woman over her cheat.

The man said, he accepted the woman back because of his little children.

Marriage is not boyfriend and girlfriend.

You are in Nigeria O, just think about the well being of the kids.

The reason I shared my own story is that, the same people who gave me advice that made me homeless, also where the same people who betrayed and drove me way..

Na only uno go, now know.

Acidosis:
Your ordeal is actually unrelated to that thread tbh. It is true that divorce is not be an immediate answer to every marital problem. At the same time, the need to eat good food should never be a motivation to tolerate a senseless marriage.

Before you give advice, you should look at the journeys of the person. You should also look at the consequences that will arise

The man was not physically abusive to his wife. Many of you who are giving advice for divorce, asking the woman to leave her home even though the man never drove the woman away.

Can you or will you provide financial help to the woman ?

★ 2ndtimeuncle

I decide to bring this to the public because loveymom faultfind the advice I gave you. Many nairalanders previously advice you over your sister to divorce her husband because of infidelity. I assure you, If you take their advice, you and your sister are on your own peril.

Tomorrow, if you come to nairaland to seek financial help over your sister, many of them will call you a scammer. If your own sister come to nairaland to seek financial help, those same nairalanders who advice her to leave her husband, will be the one to call her a scammer.

Many of them who are advicing and encourage you are even married, some are single or divorce mom who are doing well financially and yet they advice your sister to divorce without looking at the journey.


MY EXPERIENCED
Before my mother pass away, she cried over me when she saw that betrayals has made me homeless. In 2018 I was going through the most difficult moment of my life. I decide and struggle to raise some money to move to a new place. I have two sisters that are very close to me, I share all my plans and secret with them. These sisters of mine, they used my mother health to play me and scattered the money I manage to raised. I scream and shout when I found out both of them played me but decide to forgive and move on. For the purpose of rectification, I listen to them once more, in fact, with their advice, I became homeless just by taking more advice from this two sisters of mine.

I began to move from town to town and manage to raised another money again through the help of someone. After raising money, I move to one of my sister place hoping to live there for just two weeks for the purpose of me renting a new place. When my sister saw that, I have money with me, she gave me an idea to her selfish intention. I listen to my elder sister advice once more, and I find myself in another troubles of more prolong homelessness that cause me more financially loss.

I normally have two Samsung tv's, so I sold onenof my tv just to raise more money for the apartment I plan to rent during the lockdown period, immediately I told my sister once more I had money, she gave me series of new format and collected every dime from me in the name of sustaning her children after the lockdown. Her husband works offshore and she promised to pay me back when her hubby received their monthly pay.

When it was time for them to pay what they own me, my sister told me they haven't paid her hubby salary because of the effect of the covid-19 lockdown. Months upon months my sister keep telling me the same story. I was in her apartment, waiting for her to repay all my money for me move on but she keep giving me different formath.

She will tell me she wanted to go and collect food stuff on credit on different church members, why she will codedly gave her daughter their ATM card to go and withdraw money, she did this months upon months while I keep waiting for her hubby to receive salary.

How can a person who works offshore, two weeks on / off not receive salary for 7 months ?

While waiting for them to repay me, I slept outside for 5 months while my sister keep deceiving me. Her husband will tell her that, she need to be careful so that I won't find out they have paid them just to put me on hold - As I keep sympathizing and waiting on them, my health deteriorated, and I develops stomach ulcer because I was homeless and I was not able to cook and eat what I want.

My sister had lied to the point where it was now very difficult for her to keep up with her lies, they were constantly giving me new formath because it was difficult for them to repay my money because the money was much as I sold some of my properties just to boost the fund.


On day, she gave me a formath that she wanted to go and buy food stuff on credit - I caught her red handed when she was collecting lot of money from her bag - and I felt betrayed. I asked her, why did you do this to me ? She told me it was her husband that told her to keep lieing to me.

Three times I raised money, this my sister scattered all my money. She would give me format anytime I told her I have money with me. I remember how my elder brother warn me many times to stay away from these my two sisters and called them a devil.

I told my sister, that if you can betrayed your own brother who had many times sacrifice for you so much, then you are a wicked sister.

When I started battling them to repay to me my money, she became angry and decided to attack my personel. She went ahead and invite some group of mountain of fire pastors , she told them I might poison them before I leave. I never did thought of such a thing in my life- they came with their so called prayer warriors as she told them she fear I might poison her children before leaving.

These foolish men who called themselves pastors started praying against me that I wanted to poison the children of my sister even though I was only asking them to repay me the money they own me so that I can leave and move on with my life.

I was so full of many years of regret why I helped this woman. I began to remember all I have ever did for her because of her children. I wanted to retaliate but I decided to swallow her betrayal.

I called and sat her husband down and I spoke to him, man to man. I told him I am fully aware of what you and your wife did. I told him that those pastors that came to pray against the none devil in me are not sent by God. If truly they are sent by God, then God will reveal to them what your wife did, her lies and betrayals.

I raised money, I sold my properties to help my life - I gave your wife all my money to sustain your children over the effect of the lockdown, you and your wife refuse to pay my money and yet your wife still convince you and went ahead to lie to this fake pastors that I wanted to poison your children? I asked him, me and your wife, who would receive God judgment?

My sister was there listening to our conversation and couldn't say a word. I told my sister in the present of her husband - you are a wicked sister and a chronic liar.

The man began to tell me about forgiveness and that I should forgive his wife. I told the man that, a snake, however it changes its skin, remain nothing but a snake.

I vow that, she will never see me again till death remove me from this earth. I collected all my money and move to another town to be with my other sister. I told my other sister that, I will sleep in their two bedroom flat parlour for a month while I urgently look for a place and move.

She agreed but my other sister started giving me format again. At first I didnt understand that she was giving me some tactic so that I can give her some money. Within 9 days of living with her, she ask me to pack my things and leave her apartment. She told me she want an to save her marriage.

She did that when she saw that I refuse to give her some part of my money for her up-coming business.

Within 10 days, I search endlessly for a place and move to where I currently live. I have come to terms that, my sisters no longer exist.

loveymom:
Good suggestions has been given to him here.

Good suggestion to divorce her husband right?

loveymom:
Good suggestions has been given to him here.

Marriage of today is fake.
Marriage is for better and not for worse

As they gave advice her to leave her husband, those people who suggest that should also be willing to finance her.

I know what I am talking about

AutoChick4U:
I am no stranger to Naira land and their ways so I ain't surprised.

How can a child you show love betray you?

You can invest on a human all their life, and they can end up betraying you.

My own sister betrayed my mother.

I have had many betrayals in life and I havr learn to always expect the worst from humans

I learn many lessons and learn to trust only God.

loveymom:
This advice breeds resentment. Have you witness a marriage where the wife resent the husband? Go check it out.

So what do you suggest ?

MightySparrow:
The topic would rather be: How Muslims Makes People to Hate Islam.

Unlike the position of MaxInDHouse, though we are living in the time of end - time prophecies. There are so many religions like Hinduism, Buddhism, Baha'i, Confucianism etc that do not give people that don't believe their doctrines headache.

I don't believe that Muslims are giving the sole responsibility of religious body to dispense end - time violence and killings.

Islam is simply a bad religion.

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MaxInDHouse:
This is a global phenomenon!

People will continue to hate and kill one another, Satan will continue to give people more than a thousand and one reason why they have to pick up weapons against their fellowman!

Will you like to know WHY and HOW this will happen?
It has all been prophesied in the Bible!

Redomi

The cause is greed

Women women women

Jolomenas

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Ruke1989

1.The man dey do your babe

2. Your babe dey use your head.

She dey fv'ck the man

bodybuilder

Stay away from all drugs unless you hate your mental peace.

AutoChick4U:
Lmfao. Mental health is a serious issue in Nigeria indeed. Seek help pls

I told you, many of them are heartless, that is why I will leave this forum so soon and focus on quora

AutoChick4U:
You are mean and heartless. Tufiaaaa

That person Exkandayee is a pure evil.

Exkandayee:
Mumu man

Go and hang yourself and die

InfernoNig:
My people will say

"The cow in a hurry to go to America will come back as corned beef". Fear women.

Any cow wey go american and come back is an idiot

As for me, I can't die because of these vagina people

I have cross my heart.

Sonnobax15:

My three months visit to the north,I no one day chop their soup . The only food wey I constantly chop na the one wey one Delta woman dey sell close to the area wey I dey...

You know that their green soup ?. My first time to see green soup, fear catch me

InfernoNig:
You will just die early.

Na only run I go run.

If she trouble me too much

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