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djon78:
You guys will be saying it as if it's easier

Do you know the trauma that woman is going through ?

It's something you don't wish on your worst enemy

She should just find ways to improve her earnings first
And then find her levels

This is a warning to women
Make sure you have a good earning capacity before marriage

Because honestly many men nowadays are just mean

People; women can only only learn from their mistake

ElprimaHomes:
I don't know how the Japanese did it but their society operates on a very high spiritual frequency.

They may not be christian/muslim but they are one with nature and that is the peak of spirituality.

My hypothesis about the Japanese is that they are extremely disciplined and this has expressed itself in how they interact with humans and nature. The more disciplined you are, the more likely you are to be an exemplary individual.

In contrast, Nigerians are highly indulgent and lack self discipline, and if you cannot govern yourself you cannot govern others. We have a massive indiscipline problem in Nigeria, hence our many troubles.
Someone, comes into the bank and they want to be attended to immediately despite finding others on a queue waiting their turn; it is a fruit of indiscipline. Indiscipline breeds impatience, impatience breeds other vices like selfishness and greed amongst other ills.

I agreed 100%

Perfectsouth

I am late corner yo this your story but I will tell you that; you nor wise. Some of the things you over look can kill you or save you.

All the times I rise and fall, a woman is involve

Adamgeneral12:
Thank you my man.



I'm learning how to kick some ass out of my way.

It is good.

・This world is not for the nice guys!

・Life is too short to spend it with assholes

・Choose your close associates carefully

・When your gut tells you something is wrong, trust it.

Zhunnurayn:
Lostchild.
Thank you Soo much for sharing this, I'm upcoming but seem to be in exact same shoes, but sharing your story here got me out of a deadly pit before I actually fell in. Don't mind nairalanders bashing you here, your stories are of immense importance to us.
One day, someday, someway, somewhere, I will meet you. Beep me once you're back on WhatsApp.
We're henceforth friends

Thank you.

I will.

frozen70:
Apology accepted

It's time for you to use your past suffering and experience to better your future
It's good to help people but helping people without building yourself is like

A situation where you used concrete to build a bridge for people's comfort to walk

And use mud sand to build your own bridge

Of course, yours will collapse and it will collapse when your weight rests on it while walking

Plan for your future so that your future will plan how to sustain you when you are weak

I have learnt a lot and I am still in the learning curve. I must not forget the lessons from my past, so that my past will not repeay Itself.

If i failed to used the lessons I learn from my past, the future will easily destroy me.

I am more wiser and I have more diplomacy now

Thank you for the advice.

Imalmal1
Kindly accept my apology as I was harden and uneasy with you previously.

The question you previously asked me is not a bad question but a nice one, although I didn't answer you the way I should.

In answer to your question, I will tell you that, most of my unhappiness come from two ways, (1) what I have lost (2) what I currently endure. I think about everything I have lost and the type of life I was suppose to be living, this is my major pain and grief. I don't have sad countenance but I am always in a quiet mood and constantly in meditation.

As a person who is full of life experience with so much betrayal, you just don't easily allow people into your life. I observe the attitude of people around me and will instantly and acurately know who they are, base from my past experience. I can relate with a person but not on daily basis.

The problems comes when women in particular wants me to give them myself in friendship or as a chat buddy's, this is what I can not give them because I have been there before and done with that and it doesn't always end well for me. If I allow you to be my friend, you will become part of my soul and I will love you with all my heart and soul, This is what I can't give to just about anyone.

The devils may have brought me down to live around them, that doesn't mean I should operate in their level. I constantly feel down and tired when I constantly experience my past circles of event in my present.

I will will create few thread and move on. I am expossing and and droping down my past troubles on nairaland because it makes me feel more weightless and free the more I share.

I can open some of the most finest thread and have the most intellectual conversation, but that is not why I created this account. I am not here to teach but to share my life as a totally different person who love being totally different.

Just imagine, you suffered many heartbreak, betrayal and abused, someone new comes into your life. He wanted you to love him by all means and you are still trying to heal from your past injuries.

Frozen70 / Imalmal1, I hope you dig me?

HRHQueenPhil:
I apologise sir..no vex

You just melt my heart.

Give me a Kiss

Abetterperson

Islam is a Babylonia religion.
Islam is of the devil. Take it or leave it.

I repeat: Allah is not God and islam is of the ancient babylonia spirit

HRHQueenPhil:
My ignorance is not heavy and the write up was not only about u but for everyone, I know how many have private chatted me to list more soups for them and give them d food timetable. I wish I cld send u another type of garri ..organic to try to see if it will work for u

You hurriedly quote me a liar without fully read my write.

HRHQueenPhil:
amala is excellent and d best swallow to me...oat eba is also good and very filling

Oat eba
Well Noted

livingchrist

Open a thread about the mystery or what is behind islam

Please NOTE; this write up is long because it is about a blow that taught me a painful lesson and the art of saving money. In this experience I lost 3 Million naira and more because at first I did not understand this tactics of the devils.

I am not writing for the crowd but for 1 or 2 persons who is open to learning, so if you are the type who likes quickie quickie, who can not patiently read long text, then this long write up is not for you.

Everything I wrote here is 100% true. It involve God and how the devils used the wife of another man to create a loop hole to attack my finance. At first I wanted to shorten the write but decide to write what happen and how it happen and why it happened.

In year 2010, I dated a girl who drain me and plunder me into a life of poverty and suffering. Before I met this girl, I was doing well financially but I did not know how to save money. I didn't save any money because I never knew the art of saving and selfishness.

Because of this girl I went through so much pain and suffering that, when I walk on the road, people who do not know me will think I was a mental person walking on the road.

I became tired and decided to deal with the root cause of my troubles. I lock myself up and began to pray to God my helper. I prayed for many hours, days, weeks, months, infact I violently prayed everyday for 2 years before God opened a financial door for me just to clean me up because I had look so bad in appearance. In answer to my prayers, God, brought money to me in six digit (000000).

I was happy but I made a mistake by not using the money for what God wanted me to use it for. The money was meant for me to clean myself, buy food, pay my rent and take care of my self but I started spending money on people who are unworthy. I started giving all my money away. I give and give and give and I keep giving, for me I see the giving and helping as my fun center. I am not a smoker or a drinker or a partyer but giving and helping was the only thing I do for fun.

I began to understand why people enjoy drinking and partying because of the happiness I feel when I give and solve the financial problems of others. I became drunk with giving that I needed more money to use and solve the problems of others and most of the people I spend for are women, people around me who are not even related to me.

I have a soft sport for women struggling with children as I do not understand selfishness or why a person will value money than priceless human beings. I believe that we humans should live to love and love to help.

I didnt know I was making a mistake as I was spending all my money on others. I contact my family members as I charter rickshaw (keke) and load and sent food / goods to them. They were so full of joy as I keep telling them more is coming.

I went to the boutique and collected some of the finest set of clothing's and the seller gave me a price that seem fair, but I told him the cloths were too expensive as I left his shop. I took the money home and I saw a person who need money to pay rent. I said to myself, this person has problem and needed the money than me. I added trice the amount and gave it to the person.

I remember a woman with children that was struglling and I went to meet her and gave her bags of rice and gooddies. I said, O that babe that wanted to go to school, yes I went to my bank account and collected half the money in my account and gave it to her. Instead of me to think of how to fv'ck her, I was thinking of how to help her life.

I started praying more, asking God to give me more money so that I can spend more money on people with financial problem. I never knew the devils were planning to attack my finance.

All the devils in my family and the devils in the life of these people I was helping has a grand plan as they saw me as a big problem that need to be remove from their path. I didn't know that the enemies are targetting my finance.

The devils needed to attack my finance but the money came to me through prayers. My violent prayers has blinded them and they are not able to see where the money was coming from.

To attack my finance, the devils needed a loop hole to see the source of where my money was coming from and the only way to see the root of where my money comes from, is to subject me to fall into ANGER. The devils need someone new that will tempt me to fall into ANGER and that is where a woman, someone wife must be used to tempt me

I am a person that is very difficult to get provoke physically, no matter who you are or what you do to me, I will ignore you or walk away but I fall into the trap because I have tolerated this evil woman for some years and I was tired of tolerating her. The enemy has previously used many people to try to provoke me to anger but as a meek person I didnt retaliate or fall to their trap

All they need to do to attack my finance is ANGER. The devils needed someone that will distract me from prayer, they wanted me to get angry because anger is a perfect instrument of the devils.

When this woman started to manipulate heavily, at first I was even confused because she began to do things she doesn't do. I tolerated her for days and became tired because she has done so much in the past and I over look and endure her. I responded to her and qaurrel with her over her bad attitude, that was another mistake I made. Because she is another man wife I was not be able to lay hands on her, so I went to the police station and the police was ready to arrest her. I was compassionate and felt pitty and I withdrew as I never intend to hurt her. My finance was attacked and I lost a business deal of 3 million naira. I cried and cried and plead with God to help me. The attack of the devils was so brutal that I lost lot of money and became broke as I previously did not save any money.

I became so broke that I did not have even a plate of food to eat and went back to my suffering mode. I only bought one shirt of N1000 and that shirt I wear it every day for 1 year and 11 months (701) days. Everyone I spend money and helped, heavily close their heart against me, in fact my eye come clear. I began to beg for food just to stay alive.

On Christmas day was the hardest. I saw one of them holding two chicken and I was happy that at least I have someone, she will remember me and give to me just a plate of rice, the watch night to Christmas day, I stayed in hunger as I slept in hunger and the pain of hunger almost killed me. On Christmas day I was looking at my ceiling wondering whom to meet for a plate of food. I started to pray, Father God, let this woman I gave bags of rice three months ago remember me and give me a plate of rice, the more I prayed, the more my hunger increase.

12pm no food, 2:00 pm no one knock my door just to give me a plate of rice. I began to remember back in the days, where free christmass rice will be given to a person in many fold. All those I spent money on, none of them remember to give to me a plate of rice. When the hunger became extreme I lock my door and went out if not I will die of hunger.

By 5:00pm on christmas eve, I was lucky to receive 3 cups of raw rice from the people I never gave anything when I had money, while those I spent my life for, close their heart on me. I learn a bitter lesson.

THE PURPOSE OF THIS MESSAGE

As a man, you must never never fall into anger, never gossip or engage in quarreling. The first and last time I quarrel inside compound (yard). I lost 3 million and more

Giving in to anger is a perfect instrument of the devils. I have even seen men whom the devils uses their wife to provoke them to fall into anger

Women are easy instrument of the devil, so the kind of woman you marry will destroy you or promote you.

Gossip is for people that are not doing important things and have nothing important to offer. Why would you want someone like that?

LESSON LEARNED

After the devils succeeded in attacking my finance in 2015, it took me another six years for me to see money again but in the lowest level. I heavily suffered for those six wasted years but I learn a bitter lesson. I have more wisdom when it comes to dealing with humans and I learn more on how to use money wisely. I am more humble and more wiser than before. I have more diplomacy now.

★I learn the art of financial savings, I even opened a new bank account for the purpose of savings.

★I learn that I must love myself first before loving anyone.

★ I learn that I must love myself more than anyone

★I learn that I must make myself happy before sharing my happiness.

★I must not sacrifice my life for anyone. Yes, I must not suffer for anyone..

FINALS WORDS

Right now, I am advising people to have savings, to prepare for the storms of life.

2ndtimeuncle

1. People do not listen or take advice, they can only learn from their mistake.

2. Remind your sister that she is in Nigeria and not in america.

3. Tell your sister not to leave her home for now, she should learn to kill her anger in this and use wisdom, and not forget that she has children.

4. If she leave her home, she is likely to suffer and loss the battle.

5. She should stay and focus on her chikdren, and believe she has a half husband already.

Live to fight another day

Your dream does not have any meaning. From experience I can only interprete repetition circle of dream; a dream that keep repeating itself

naijaboy756:
1. Saw a friend's husband and we were together in a room. He was wearing boxers and i was saying he isnt fully endowed. Then all of a suddent, it looked like i was wearing boxers myself and lying down with face front. So dragging my boxers up, bees started coming out from my boxer. I was worried about them stinging but they didnt sting.

2. 2ndly, some called this morning to say that he had a dream about me. It was like in a river with 2 people struggling or dragging something. I went in to separate them and in the process i sank into sand without coming out. Then relations gathered and were saying i was no more.

I have prayed especially the 2nd dream

Because women are naturally selfish

Ayobamigiven:
If this cyanide level in garri is that high to be toxic, then I should be dead already, there was a time that my addiction to garri was apex, I took it daily for more than 5years, even after taking pounded yam or rice as dinner.
You have what I can describe as allergy, garri isn't the issue, na you get health issue.

So I get health issue since age 10 abi?

Nigerians with their ignorance .

usagee36:
I want to meet Nigerians.

After toronto, I so much love Calgary.

heniford2:
Go to japan naw stop making hell noise here

If my noise dey disturb your peace, just go and hang and die.

I am not married too. Can't we traveled together?

Why you want run leave me for nigeria na

stoyadewayawaya:
Good day all,

Until recently, I have been calm about traveling abroad. I have a Law degree, 6 years practice experience and will be 30 in December. I am not married and I hope to meet someone on my journey who is willing to travel as well or is there already �.

Now my question:
Apart from Canada, Australia, UK and US Which Country will you suggest I work on to migrate to. I would not mind going to their school over there or taking teaching jobs or paralegal jobs until I qualify to practice there. Help, your candid advice will be appreciated.
Warm regards everyone,

What I Saw About Japan

For some time now I have been following up with Japanese culture through NHK. With what I saw and what I keep seeing, Japanese are just too mellow and unselfish. Japanese are selfless people. Every one cares about everyone well being, they care so much about everything. I could not detect greed in the life of Japanese people. This is the kind of society I desire to leave in, unlike Nigeria where everyone is so greedy and want more than they can shew.

I was astonished about Japan because I was born in a country whose people are so greedy. I have marvel for years why a people are so greedy and hungry for more.

It is not about our hunger and poverty, but our greed. Nigerians are just too greedy for my liking. Every one in Nigeria want to be rich and want to drive cars. I saw in Japan everyone seem to cares about everyone and not about materialism.

Many japanese people do not crave for wealth but seem content. Many things in Japan are made by hands, and everyone is humble and wants to do what they love. A craft man or a clay potter is proud of his work and wants his son to continue his legacy.

I saw that, Japanese people don't do things for money, they do things they love. No matter the humble and lowly work they do, they seem very happy to pass their humble skill to their next generation. In Nigeria people will look down on you base on what you do for a living.

I can speak Japanese even though I don't understand the language or know what I am saying.

Dammnnn: I fancy Japanese woman too and will like to doke one.

mbak
Sorry about your plight but how come garri is affecting the health of your children?

I thought Nigerians says Garri is a healthy food and cannot effect a person?

mbak:
Dear NairaLander. Please spare a few seconds to read my post, its (12.am) now. I beg you in the name of God please.
I am sincerely appealing and i am on my knees pleading to your kind heart, please do not ignore. I know things are hard but I beg you in the name of God, please from the little you have, please help with no matter how small I am father of four. We have been going through alot of hardship. Things have not been going smoothly for me this time from my menial jobs. We have been starving for days now. My kids have been drinking garri and its now affecting their health. Please help us to buy food and kerosene. Please i am kneeling before you pleadings. Please help me, We are hungry we have not been able to afford real food for days now. Please brothers and sisters just a little token. I pray God bless in abundance anyone that gives me anything. 08 07344 826 Acess bnk.

The5DME:
You mean the same garri I've been eating all my life? The same garri I just ate not too long ago? Oga you get kidney related disease abeg, no be garri dey cause your problem. Go do a proper check-up in a standard hospital, not a pharmacy store.

Cassava has been affecting me since I was 10.

Garri can instantly sour my mouth within an hour.

Four months ago, I went somewhere and I was given free akpu to eat. When I got home, I roll on the floor and cried because the cyanide made me feel as if my head wants to explode.

bigtt76:
Sour taste not bitter taste. I get you ...you must be allergic to it. Try other swallows and see

I have started craving for western dishes.

mrsteel:
@ Lost child
It is a two way thing, marriage will favour some, while single hood will favour some, it all narrows down to one's nature. If one is an introvert, u can manage single hood, but I doubt if an extrovert can ever remain single for life. But majority will go with getting married. As u grow older, it becomes extremely difficult living alone once u cross the age of 40. But the peace of mind that comes with being single is second to none & u can never find it in marriage!

I totally agree with you.

od501:
Baba...I have spent over 20 years of live experimenting this, so I'm in a position to tell you what works and what doesn’t. What you said is very possible, but any preservant washes away after each per boiling.

Again, I don't even eat foreign rice that much, we have a local dealer that sources it directly from the farm, so we buy from there. Even when I travel outside the country, we buy directly from farmer's market cos it is cheaper there. So you see, your point is not entirely valid, though it makes sense.

Baba
It is good you know that it is affecting you and should stop it as I do to garri

bigtt76:
Sour taste not bitter taste. I get you ...you must be allergic to it. Try other swallows and see

Thanks

streetzdreamz:
lol, I'm yet to see a man whose cause of death states "consumption of garri"

Yes, I have seen it in 1997. A hungry woman cook cassava root for 6 of her children, they all died.

od501:
Unlike you bro, I experience these things when I eat rice. But you can still eat semolina shaa...it is made from rice. I believe it will serve you. Goodluck.

Apart from breast milk, rice was the first food I eat and I have been eating rice all my life and will do so till I leave this world.

Rice will hardly affect you. I believe that, the problem you have in rice is as a result of the chemicals the rice companies uses in preserving it for the purpose of export. That chemicals is what is over reacting inside your body I guess.

I am very careful of imported rice because the rice companies sprays it with chemicals that is toxic to our body.

Rice is very, very healthy and will hardly affect the body of a person. Be careful of imported rice because they use chemicals on it to preserve it.

Eat local process rice

TechNana:
At bolded, what you looking for inside the sun?

You wanna become the next Elon musk?



Don't mind me, I'm only joking...

I dont need to look straight at the sun. The deadly chemicals in cassava always swell my eye lens. Even mare looking at light become uncomfortable for me

The cassava is dangerous to me.

Lollittaa:
[color=teal]wheat
Semovita
Amala
You can make swallow from any of these [/color]

Semovita
Wheat
I Note them. Thanks