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yellowgarri2:
bless a guy too, stop allowing only females to steal from you. I still need the urgent 2k

I go give you more than the 2k but only if you go feet wait make I pack from where I dey stay.

ahnie:
I think this guy have mental disorder.its in its early stage

Even the man that gave birth to you will bow to my feet.

Na too much fu;'ck make you no get sense again.

ImaIma1:
You are a small minded person. You really need exposure, you need to get out of your zone and see life outside. You think the sun rises and sets in your compound alone.

Please don't mention me in your ramblings.

Believe me, I laugh at you.

Nigeria women are gold diggers and you have shallow mentality as you failed to understand that life is in stages. Did I tell you I am comfortable where I currently live?

As I am now, there is nothing in this country I have not seen. There is nothing out there as far as it is Nigeria. When the time comes, God will take me to so many exotic places that are filled with experienced many people can only imagine. I am just going through the preparation for a life changing experience.

mrblessed:
Just to keep to record straight, you wrote in the main text that a female neighbour broken into your house and stole your phone in 2011, but in this post, you wrote 2010. Is 2010 a typographical error? Or, is it that given your nature, married female neighbours steal your phone on yearly basis?

The 2011 I wrote there was a typo error. It was a guy that did sneak into my crib in 2010. After that event, I stop sharing my food with him, then I saw his true nature.

yellowgarri2:
Can I come and take Urgent 2k from you?

Lol

There is the porpular quote that says, givers never lack but in reality "Givers Lack' because Satan always attack true givers.

Yes, you will give all your life for people but you will not find anyone to help you when you need help. Why? because people are selfish

Do not fear humans because your life is in the hands of your God, so no one can use your money to destroy you. Even if they try it, God will justify you because good is stronger than evil.

Help when you can and give when you have. Heaven does nothing until good men do something

Adamgeneral12:
I'm afraid,because na everyday if I comot I dey see people that beg me for help,some I dey look dem like say dem dey okay than me,yet dem go stop me among many people wet dey waka for road and be demanding for help
I dey give dem o,but I come notice say me wey they help I no dey see someone to help me.
I don't know who be those people, may be na one person dey change to different people,I don't know
Na wetin dey scared me be that

If I tell you my own experience with pastors or god of men, you will see that, what you yourself have seen or experience is true.

A yahoo boy or an unbeliever will easily help you financially than a pastor. Yes, I say this because pastors are the most stingiest set of people I have seen in my life. They will preach sowing and reaping but they them self will never sow to your life.

Before they will give you anything, they have heavily used in the name of God to benefit their purpose.

Please, do not stop helping people, but help strangers. Go and help those beggars out there, they will pray for you and speak blessings from their heart to your life.

Adam. What you feel is %100 true

Adamgeneral12:
May be my problem is from too much helping of people,
So I need to stop helping, I help,no one to help me.
I have noticing this stinginess in life of so many men of God I come across, they only take the little I have from me,if I don't have something to give they most to find work that I will do for them for free,and the end of the day what I will get out of my giving out and the hard labour is " GOD BLESS YOU"

I now know why they are using me instead of helping me.

elonmuskbaby:
like I said earlier,God will never allow such men to be attracted to me, neither will I see them

You made me laugh.

This is not about God, it is about you answering my question

Only a person that has the sentient understanding about the things of God will say what you just said. I m glad because your write up here only makes the thread more unique.

Thanks


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Ninejaywon:
What did you do about the situation?
You are just ranting. Why not confront her? Or more still report to your landlord? Or go the traditional way of Ogun?

Did you see me rant? Didnt you read the whole write up?

Who is Ogun?

greenie77:
Such a man cannot even be bold enough to go report to the police that he was beaten up by his brothers in-law as a retaliation for beating their sister.

If he thinks he is Anthony Joshua around his wife, why should the wife protect him from her brothers who are his fellow men when he is not a baby...bullies fear and hate being served what they serve others.

You didnt answer my question.

When you call your hubby a mental person and he give you a hot slap you.

Will you call your brothers to come and beat him up?

ImaIma1:
Didn't bother to read this your long story. Keep typing .

I didn't insult you, just read, you will see that I am the actor in all my post.

In the past I use to so much cherish and pet babes like you but not anymore. I will be kind only to those who deserve my tenderness.

There was a time when I complain to a friend that my help keep working against me, and that people keep abusing my help. He told me that, It is good I give help but I am over doing it. He said, I am not God that I will be doing everything people want from me. He told me to watch people very well before I give help to them. I heavily disagree with him that day, but it took me few years to see beyond his words and act on them.

With the continous abuse, I began to see the need for me to adjust and work on the way I handle humans. I began to see that, I need to watch and observe the character of every one around me, before giving them help or access to my life. I began to see that, not everyone deserve my help and I don't need to be kind to everyone. I now understood that, I should treat people according to who they are.

I heavily work on myself and made many adjustment and changes.

● I learn to save money
● It was difficult for me to learn to control my giving
● I stop being mr nice guui
● I stop being over-caring
● I stop giving excessively like (ATM)
● I learn to keep things to myself
● I stop giving to people around me
● I stop being kind to people around.
● I became the first priority in my life except my elderly (mother)

And with this changes, I began to love myself more. I began to see the need for me to enjoy my life without giving.

Despite all the changes I made to better myself, I was still having problem with women around me because they don't like the new me, they so much love the old me and want me to be their close buddy.

I currently cannot give them that friendship they want

RightToReject

If your hubby slap you, will you allow or call your brothers to come and beat him up?

elonmuskbaby:
good person indeed.good person that that doesn't know how to keep his hands to himself.

For a very long time they sold the ridiculous idea to African women that if you provoke your husband, he Will loose his self control and go violent on you but the same man will exercise enormous amount of self control and restraint when being provoked by a Nigerian police or military man.

What about all the sugar papa, carrying teenage girls ?

I am happy for the young man

Free Visa from Hell (Africa) to Heaven (America)

ImaIma1:
Silence is the best answer for you. And you know what you are

Silence is your only respond when the right answer is given, Of course I know who I am.

I am sweet - natured, kind, caring, hospitable, unassuming and humble (harmless) guy who tend to put the needs of others first.

Do you have anything to say?

Nahhhhhh

Bossose:
Agreed

My brother
You don't need the crowd in your life. You just need one good person that will change or beautify your life.

He does much who loves much. He does much who does a thing well. He does well who serves the common good rather than his own interests.

greenie77:
The wrong started from the man beating his wife, there will be conflicts in a marriage as we do also have conflicts with our siblings but going physical like beating a spouse has never helped strengthened marital relationships.

If a man sees nothing wrong in beating up his wife, why should anyone find it offensive when that same man is been beaten irrespective of who did the beating?

I still disagree with you.

You will not do that unless you open the door for the devils to used your brothers to end the marriage.

The brothers did wrong, even I, myself will not encourage my own brothers to do that.

A nairaland female question me: You have so many sob stories. How do your friends cope with you and all this sadness around you? I am responding by writing

Why Some People Need To Leave Your Life.

I once encounter a prophetic service where a man received a prophecy about his act of giving and charity. This man was giving help to some certain persons but yet he was not receiving any financial reward from God as the scripture says that he would. In his life, he began to wonder why he was not receiving financial reward from God. One day he encounter a prophet of God and God began to speak to the man why he was not receiving any financial help from Him.

Through the prophet, God told the man that the reason why he refuse to give to him financial favor in return over his good act of charity is because he was giving to the wrong set of people. He was giving help to some certain people in his life and those people God wants to deal with them and his giving to these set of people is preventing God from dealing with them.

THE MESSAGE

There are certain type of people that will (must) leave your life before God will channel you or bless you. In most cases, these category and set of people in your life are friends and family that God's will (must) remove them out from your life so that He can personally work on you and channel you to greatness.

God must remove them from your life, so that He can personally deal with them.

In most cases, if God bless you and these set of people are still in your life, they will become more of a trouble to your peace and well being.

MY EXPERIENCE

God has called me into the ministry of help and charity and I have been doing it for 17 years without expecting any reward. Whenever I tried harder to carry some people along so that I can share my life joy with them, some how and some way, something must happen. Something that is beyond the natural will always happen that will disconnect (us) or me out from their life.

I discovered that, I am free to help outsiders but only those who God wants, are the only ones that will be in my life. No matter how hard I endure or tried to graft them to my life, there must seperation. It is mainly the devils in their life or God Himself, that will remove me from their life.

Over the years I have come to acknowledge, It is only those God permit that will be in my life. This is why I no longer make friends with people or desire close friendship

FINAL WORDS

I was taught that we all must pray and allow the Holy Spirit to help us find the people whom we are to take care of, share Christs love and disciple them. God will lead others to find us and take care of us; He has assigned angels to take care of all of us and He will assign the exact people to nurture us for each phase of our lives..

I highly disagree with you because I know the man I wrote about here. He is a good person and not a woman fighter. It was a demonic attack against the man.

Its good you pray not to meet a woman beater and you should also not provoke your hubby

elonmuskbaby:
I will not marry an animal with lack of self control in the 1st place in Jesus name.they won't see me and I won't know such men in Jesus name

However there's a yoruba addage that says enitoba ni kilaleshey,oun la'n shey han.some people need to be taught a lesson that the mere fact that they're silent or respecting them doesn't mean they are the only ones that have monopoly of violence and I'm sure this is not his 1st time.it must have overdone it to the point where he pushed the girls family to the wall.ordinarily men will not go and fight for their sister using violence but when they have been pushed to their limits,they do such

ImaIma1:
You are a small minded person. You really need exposure, you need to get out of your zone and see life outside. You think the sun rises and sets in your compound alone.

Please don't mention me in your ramblings.

I keep mentioning you because stupid. Next time stay away from my affairs.

Ninejaywon:
What did you do about the situation?
You are just ranting. Why not confront her? Or more still report to your landlord? Or go the traditional way of Ogun?

I am meal person and will never retaliate the evil done to me. The worst or best I can do is to pray for that person or against the demon in that person.

When I came home, she just watch and observe, I guess she keep wondering why I never complain or announce or show any sign about my stolen items.

I react in the same way I did in the past when someone sneak into my apartment and stolen my phone in 2010.

elonmuskbaby:
what's not true? That such type of gist will be hidden forever and 1 day the new husband will not get to hear of it by omission or commission?

Even women that get pregnant with another man and now pushes it on the husband, the husband while minding his buisness gets to hear of it most times accidentally how much more something as huge as domestic violence

I still stand my ground and will still say that the brothers did wrong.

If you have a fight with your hubby, will you call or allow your brothers to come and beat up your hubby?

Pacesetter2021:
you have spoken like a true narcissist.
Well done

You are welcome.

Narcissist?
I laughhhhhhhhhhhhh because what you say about me is useless.

1. I have stop being nice to women, Yes I can show kindness to them but not nice to them.

2. I am only concern on one thing. What God says about me is the most important.

elonmuskbaby:
whatever rocks everyone's boat

Even the new husband will have heard the gist and know how to comport himself.if he has issues with the wife,there are 1001 ways to deal with her and one of them is not violence,thank you!

You know it is not true.

99% of women hide their past when in a new relationship. You are very wrong because you feel that many women have the same level of understanding as you are.

I see that you are the type that talk out frustration but many women are not that type. I dated one in the past, it was impossible for me to discuss issues with her, I later realize that she fears brutal men.

I let her go to save my peace.

Why should I quit posting and stop sharing myself? Are you the one that ask me to keep posting at first?

I will not be hard on you just because you tried to correct me through your own ignorance about me. As you know it, everyone have stories to tell, You don't have to feel pained when I share my own story which is very unique and special.

Some people came here to gossip, and I ain't a gossiper and if I do is about me and me me and me and me me because I am an actor and my opinion about myself is more important because it is about me.

Your intention is to attack my person but you should have ask me why I keep sharing what I share about me. Each time I share my past history, I m not only sharing, I am removing the past event from my heavy heart.

When I post anything here I feel more lighter because I am removing my past from me and ready to move on. And if I marry, my wife must know my past, so that she will not repeat my past.

Please advoid any Lost-child thread since it irritate you.

ImaIma1:
Fortunately or unfortunately, NL is a public forum and I can enter any thread I want to, and give my opinion.

If my opinion or criticism doesn't go well with you, that's your problem. Not everyone will come and say "ehya" and "awww". If you can't deal with all kinds of reactions, then quit posting.

elonmuskbaby:
this is not a function of gender or family background, this is an issue of dehumanization.at least a normal adult should understand that in every relationship there will be conflict but using violence doesn't resolve conflict, period!

If someone attacks me and I know I have people to fight for me ,instically I will invite those people.it happens in animal kingdom too.if you bully a dog,he will run and call the rest of his friends and family and they'll start barking at you and some can even attack you

Violence is not supposed to be found in any type of relationship how much more marriage,that is low.if she's unreasonable there are many ways to put her in her place or make her fall in line and a reasonable and functional man who has a mother and knows the value of motherhood will know that violence is not the best way to deal with marital situations.moreso if you beat her,what values do you expect a broken/damaged and resentful woman to give your kids.no wonder you hear women scolding their kids with sentences like " that your useless father, you're as stupiid as your father" etc

I understand and agree with you.

I guess that, in her next marriage, she will still go and call her brother to fight her husband.

esthel:
you better leave that fellow and his baggages alone, someone said he is lost and you are still responding.

I am glad you reminded me as the Lost child.

I share what I like to share because I am removing past event from my heart and drop them on nairaland. Each time I post event of my past, it makes me lighter. There are people inside this forum that avoid my thread because I am not writing for them. I told Imalmal1 to avoid my thread just to avoid HBP.

If both of you continue to view my post, it is both your shame.

Monogamy RightToReject

There are many things i didn't want to share here. There are many things I must and will let go and look forward to the future.

But within my heart, I see them as more of bad than good. Even their good is rooted in selfishness.

I have learn a lot.

MrBrownJay1:
A) be careful of which women you choose to help
B) be very careful of what type of help you give these needy women
C) if you decide to help ALL women with whatever "they" desire from you, then the problem is closer to home.

Your advice is well noted.

Thanks

I am not currently in any form of sexual relationship with a woman, although I didn't shared more light on the write up above.

I was wondering if I will ever give a Godly help to a woman unlike before I give so much arms to women with children.

Monogamy RightToReject

Why would my wife be under the influence of demon if she question me about our affairs? Is she a purpet that she cannot question me?

I don't like to comment on post and thread like this because they are useless.

Jesusjnr. In your judgment, you are 100% correct.



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