₦airaland Forum

What is your reason for not wanting to pay back?
Why would you borrow and decide not to pay back? You are even saying it with confidence.

These loan sharks have their excesses though but that doesn't justify what you are trying to do.

DiarisGodoo:
Gina that has filed for divorce

What type of divorce?
Did they do court marriage?
Do they do divorce for traditional marriage? No be to pack her things commot and her people will return the bride price

Funny people

There are plumbers out there. Hire one.
What other advice are you expecting.

I agree

Kobojunkie:
I would ask you for a stat to prove this claim, which you make here, suggesting that most divorced women go on to become sidechicks. Where is the backing for this claim?

There is nothing Juju about it at all. If you reason it without biases coloring your view, you would see it yourself. Anyways, as for one of the reasons why some divorced women go on to become sidechicks, well, there are several reasons.

➜ Society claims it is wrong to commit adultery, but then, rather than penalize the man and sidechick, lets them off, and in some cases, Society turns the blame on the wife for not being wifely enough or not having the prowess to protect her marriage from the other woman. All this is pressure placed on the wife, who now finds herself fighting depression, rejection, and also having to continue her wifely duties, all while the man and his sidechick continue to enjoy their lives as though nothing ever went wrong. Imagine a situation where even the man's family members receive gifts and entertain the sidechick behind the wife's back as though to say that they approve of the relationship, even as they continue to insist their son's wife continue to serve him judiciously in the home.
➜ Most Nigerian men treat their sidechicks so many times better than they treat their own wives. I mean, this ain't a hidden secret at all, as even very poor men are known to go out of their way to ensure their sidechicks are well fed before even their own children, talk less of their wives. The position of sidechick in Nigeria is so many times better than that of the wife, who, in many cases, is no more than a provider of free labor in the marriage.
➜ A sidechick has more opportunities for growth than a typical wife would have access to. A sidechick has greater control over her time and freedom than the average wife does, and for an ambitious woman, that is a benefit that is of great importance. Having the man while holding on to her independence is a valuable place to be in.
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Yes, there are lots of benefits to being a sidechick than a wife to a Nigerian man, that is why I believe a wife trading places with a sidechick is a sort of promotion, not a demotion, for a divorced woman.🥱🥱🥱

So her purpose of resigning from wifehood is not particularly because she detests philandering but because she wants to take from the juicier end.

She would rather be a side chick than be the wife of a man that has a side chick.

Interesting.

EvilMerodack:
Not the best, but its a great one

A lady marrying at 24+ with her virginity still intact signifies a whole lot of positives, especially when you realize s-e-x isnt too hard for women to get

I would choose a virgin with a pleasant character over a Non-virgin with a pleasant character

So the constant in this equation is pleasant character.

I don't know other gifts you people are talking about.

Leave revenge alone. It doesn't benefit anybody.
Try to find a way to heal from your trauma.
Then resolve to be a better parent who your children will grow up to be proud of.

Lionnation:
is there any car that is not duely registered

Please tell them. Can't we incorporate tint permit in vehicle registration or even their much touted CMR.
Why proliferate these data bases just for the purpose of ripping people off

Let me bookmark this

When you date someone young enough to be your son

AntiChristian:
May Allah give our kids good mum!

May Allah bless our mums and forgive them!

It's good to have a good mum!

I wanted to say amen before I saw your name.
Now, get out!

ExudeLoveToAll:
Stay with elder sister for what exactly? To go and put pressure on the pocket of another man? Everyone has their issues.

As younger sister no work out, let him try elder sister naa.
If that one too no work, he can try uncles and aunts.
Which other advice do you want me to give as he no gree humble himself and hustle

Sonnobax15:

Bro,that should be your source of motivation for you to step up and hustle like you've never done bb bbefore....

Some of us,we lived with our fathers and step mothers....I can tell you for free it wasn't easy at all.....But whenever I look back and think of how life was,in my father's house,I simply convert my aggression into buckling up and hustling..

Las las, nobody's coming to your rescue bro.....Na only you go sit your assss down and strategize on how to better your life,so as to avoid see-finish.

He's inviting us to his pity party

Mrdealer4all:
This is the worst mistake I made by staying with my foolish younger sister and her husband in search of greener pasture because they have money.
Her husband treated me like slave and house boy.
The husband senior me with just 7 months will be talking to me like a child because life favour him...
Throughout my stay with them , they never treat me like in law or family member.
I was indoor throughout my stay with them..
Imagine staying with your in law for the first time after getting married to your younger sister for years and being treated like trash or nobody.
It is well.
Who go help you no go stress you.

Next time, stay with your elder sister.

Kobojunkie:
My guess is the reason you give him this sort of advice is because you have yourself never done any of what you advise or been a child in such a situation.

I also want to know if you have been in such situation, either as a kid or parent, that made you feel your advice/opinion is superior to other people's own.

Kobojunkie:
Which part of the husband and wife living together like literal enemies do you imagine implies them spending time with kids? What aspect of remaining in an unhappy/toxic marriage do you construe as spending time with kids? Explain this reasoning you have.

Young lady, this is the advice someone dropped and you quickly countered it:

Your immediate solution now is to be completely independent.
Cook your food, get a private transportation for your children, sleep in a different room from her and always spend your spare time with your children and friends or yourself only, try as much as possible to limit your conversations with her,
She will reset ASAP to wife status

Now tell me, if you ain't already biased towards your gender, how this advice translates to what you are asserting?

Dude doesn't want to vacate the house for the woman. Why are you so irked about that?

Kobojunkie:
You refer to fostering even more friction in a home already uncomfortable for the kids as spending time with the children? Wow...😩😩😩

You mean spending time with kids equates to friction?
Friction with who or what?

dbabs500:
I have no property yet. I have few evidences of the domestic abuse.

What is the family history of this lady?
Are her parents living peacefully? Did she come from a broken home?
The way your mother-in-law treats/treated your father-in-law will likely turn out to be the way your wife will treat you - on the long run.
I used to think this is not true but I've seen it play out several times. There are only very few exceptions.
As it stands, prepare yourself for whatever comes up. Never ever allow her trick you into resorting to domestic violence. Get your emotions under control. Think with clarity.
Start preparing yourself for life without her. If you ever depended on her for anything, start working towards breaking that dependency.
Don't feel bad or bitter. Stop confronting her.
Start doing things that make you happy without involving her. Cheers bro!

Kobojunkie:
. You mean he should continue inflicting trauma on his kids' futures? He should make a solid decision on whether to leave the marriage or endure, like our elders in Nigeria typically advise women to do.

How will spending time with his kids translate to continue inflicting trauma on his kids' futures

Trust Chinese products at your own peril.
They are going to produce flying coffins

Very loquacious, insensitive and arrogant governor.
For the first time, the good people of Anambra are considering voting APC in the guber to teach Soludo a lesson.

You are analysing a mad man's statement and expect it to make sense.

Meanwhile, politicians already know that the easiest way to distract and deceive Nigerians is by inciting tribes against each other so that the masses will focus on fighting each other instead of fighting the real enemy.

Jokers

Not enough original content
Please take a moment to write a quality post with at least 40 characters.
This will make the forum more interesting for everyone.

This man is funnier than most standup comedians.
My man.

Funny people.

APC propaganda.

Kobojunkie:
You clearly hate these submissive women for you to give such advice to this one whose husband literally flaunts his disloyalty towards her! 😶😶😶😶

Has it occurred to you that the man would actually have sold the car to the said lady. What evidence do you have that the he gave out the car as gift?

Have you asked if the man has enough resources to maintain 2 cars?

If the man had left the car for the wife, would the wife be able to keep the car running without dumping additional burden on the man?

Why is it difficult to tell your own gender to work towards buying her own car or is it a taboo?

Why do you find it difficult to reason intelligently?

helinues:
We have other players who can replace him. Arokodare has been on fire whenever he's introduced.

Desser was a bit lazy with his marking yesterday though

The guy that paired with Bassey yesterday was good. Infact we played back 3 which was solid to some extent

You sound more sensible when you are not talking politics.

I strongly believe this guy's main offence is that he started off production without obtaining NAFDAC licence.
His products might be wholesome and effective but not having NAFDAC licence already makes the whole thing illegal.
He's definitely not the only person guilty of this. Let the upcoming entrepreneurs read this and receive sense.

Beautiful