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uchkochi:
Domestic violence versus verbal abuse.

Everybody is hung up on domestic abuse by men against women. Nobody spares a moment to find solutions to the equally devastating verbal abuse men suffer in the hands of their wives. It is worse because men can't discuss what their wives do to them for fear of scorn and derision. They suffer in silence. Timebomb.

Unfortunately, the Nigerian society has little or no support systems for this kind of situation. Little or no counselling services. It's been mostly left to the church to deal with. What happens when the man doesn't go to church? What happens when the woman doesn't believe in spiritual intervention? These women are raising daughters. Their daughters are hearing and seeing how they speak to and treat their husband. What kind of wives will they grow up to become? Those that treat their husbands as kings or those that believe husbands are nothing but verbal punching bags?

We've all agreed and rightfully so that a man has no business hitting his wife. So how then do you stop a wife raining verbal missiles at you? Leave the house? Okay. But you'll return and it will continue. What next? Leave again? For how long?

Recently, I visited a senior friend, an important man in the society and while we were downstairs gisting, the voice of his wife could be heard upstairs. She was spewing unimaginable bile against the man. She called him all sorts of unprintable names. Impotent, wretched fool, miserable man that was nothing when she married him, etc. This is a well respected man. A father of 4 children. She tore at his very core and mocked everything society respected him for. She said he'd soon crash and she'll be there to laugh at him.

I was so uncomfortable as I beheld the man. He was shrunken before me. He was deflated. He tried to gamefully continue the gist to distract me but it was not working. The woman's vitriol was a ceaseless torrent. Uncomfortable silence ensued. I excused myself and left his house.

I was really sad.

You want to know the truth? This is what most men go through in their houses. They labour and toil and build respect but when they return home, the one who ought to speak to the king in them tears them to shreds and tries to deflate their self-esteem. When they are outside, they try to act cheerful and happy but back home, they are shrivelled because the person they live with makes it a point of duty to verbally assault them.

A sad story comes to mind. There was recently a Nigerian Ambassador who was recalled because his wife released a story to the press that he beat her. She also released pictures showing fresh injuries on her body ostensibly inflicted by the man.

In a dramatic twist, their children came out to debunk the stories and said their mother faked the injuries to embarrass their dad. Grown up children.

A particular sentence by the 1st son saddened me. He said it was as if their mum woke up every morning with one mission in life: how to make their dad miserable. They said they were witnesses to how their mum constantly harassed and abused their dad and wanted the whole world to know that their dad was not who their mum was painting him to be.

Yes, opinion shifted on the scandal but the damage had been done. The Ambassador was recalled and nobody heard from him again.

A family is currently at odds with the widow of their son and brother. The wife was constantly verbally assaulting him. Nobody wanted to visit them because each time they were around, it was always quarrel and the wife would call him unprintable names. Even in their presence. When they try to interfere, she will give them their own. The man died recently of heart-attack caused by high blood pressure. He was in his late 40s. The family insists his wife sent him to his early grave with her verbal torments.

Our bars are filled with men who are afraid to go home to their wives for fear of what verbal torment they will go through. Men are finding every excuse to travel because they'll rather be anywhere than in their own homes.

Everybody is focusing on men as culprits in domestic abuse.

Copied from Sam Hart.

Very touching.

Alaigbo:
Even if it take over a trillion millenium Palestine will be free.

We all know the criminal state of Isreal was created by England just 1948 n not any God you delude your soul with.

Soon rather than later Palestine will be free.
And that is coming from a Christian.
In case you desire to wail.

Who cares if you are a Christian or not.
It is gross stúpiɗitƴ to think that the war between Israel and Hamas is a religious war.
There are Israeli Muslims and some of them are in the IDF fighting Hamas.
Israel is fighting for survival.
The Arabs don't want Israel living among them but they don't have any choice.
The more they try to wipe out Israel, the more Israel puts red hot pepper in their eyes.

You have evidence that someone is a fraudster. You don't want to report him.
You tell the fraudster to sue you first so you can report him.
Aren't you the joke of the century.

If this Peter Obi truly has criminal records, I'm very certain this APC government would not hesitate to use it against him.

Stop sounding like a joke. Reno has tried and given up. Adeyanju now wants to try and he's sounding stupid while at it.

Some people are busy attacking Atiku's personality instead of logically countering his points.
State reasons why you think he's wrong

Probably why he doesn't usually give his best at the national team because of how physical African football can be.
Dude might be afraid of picking more damaging injuries

I totally agree

Seems like the men at the glasshouse are afraid of Peter Obi's coalition with the North. They want to seduce him back to Labour Party.

Ask the hungry masses

helinues:
Because they see it as honour to play for their country.

They are more devoted and dedicated. Imagine what the Super Eagles B played yesterday. Those guys should refund all the money spent on them for this CHAN competition. They are a disgrace

You obviously don't know anything about football. Our home based eagles losing so scandalously wasn't because of lack of motivation. They lost because they were not good enough. It's that simple.

Edimakan:
I think hippo is your bets bet as it's not a carnivorous animal and on land you've got a better chance of survival

You have no idea what you are saying.
A hypo will attack you for the flimsiest reason. That dude is very hot tempered and it can kill you in one bite.
It looks bulky but you can't outrun a hypo that is on full charge except you have a decent headstart

Both he and the guys that took him to the shrine ended up leaving PDP and joining APC. Birds of a feather.

Meanwhile, Ngige endeared himself to the masses during his short tenure as governor. It took massive performance from Peter Obi to make Anambra indigenes forget Ngige.

I started respecting my landlord when I started the journey of building my own house.
That thing is not child's play.
If you think landlords are cashing out, go and build your own and cash out too.

Same question I asked 18 years ago when I was rounding off my youth service.
I started with teaching and serious job hunting. Met a couple of disappointments.
Job applications without invites. Job applications and tests without invitation to oral interview. Tests and oral interviews without job offer. I was only focussing on high profile jobs and I didn't have any godfather or rich and connected uncles.
I finally ended up with bank job. I've been there since then.

TouchNfollow:
https://www.premiumtimesng.com/news/headlines/811795-soludo-peter-obi-resume-war-of-words-over-2027-election.html

Soludo has never supported Peter Obi's presidential bid.
He has in the past made statements to undermine Obi's popularity and acceptance.
Whatever reasons he has for doing this, only him knows. It's likely he's jealous of Obi or he's working for another political party against Obi.

Nevertheless, South East will still vote Obi massively if he contests. Soludo is wasting his time

FIRDAUS3:
You wan blow, now you don explode💥

Savage.
You no get joy bro

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I don't want to shout Karma but that policeman should search his heart to know if he has caused tears and grief to innocent people in the past

helinues:
Unfortunately, it's the culprits that have been making themselves victims in this case

Who are the victims? Me and you. All of us.
Probably, your mind can't grasp it now but mature and intelligent minds have already seen the direction things are going.

Imagine.



I pity people that swallow social media content hook line and sinker.


The guy that started this false narrative should be arrested and prosecuted to teach others a lesson but this won't happen because our politicians are the biggest culprits. They mobilize their e-warriors to go online and dish out both true and untrue stories to tarnish their opponents' image

femi4:
Pk overruled hopefully

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LAW 29: Plan All the Way to the End

itsmisterdavid:
What has Anambara got to do with Abuja? please take your tribalistic reasoning away from here.

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Please take a moment to write a quality post with at least 40 characters.
This will make the forum more interesting for everyone.

If she's open to the offer, meaning that she's not loyal, I will be most willing to accept the offer and let her go.

NgeneUkwenu:
Lets see how many seats, Atiku's Demonic Coalition will win next month.

Talk about what your APC will win in Anambra.


Please take a moment to write a quality post with at least 40 characters.
This will make the forum more interesting for everyone.

You are right.
Show care but don't show obsession or desperation.

But why collect money and refuse to deliver the work?
That doesn't justify killing the artisan but some of them can be devil incarnates.
The guy I paid to construct and install alumaco windows ate my money and did only half of the work. He never completed the work or refunded me. I had to hire another person to finish the work.
I truly don't have any pity for this POP man.