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why is this a problem.We are all humans we can date whomever we want

thanks

nigerian men tend to be a little too aggressive.

Snowwy: Science really needs to know where to draw the line.
In Genesis 1:28, God created man in his own image...and God commanded us to be fruitful and multiply and replenish the earth and subdue THE EARTH.

He gave us dominion over every living thing that moves on the earth except ourselves.

It is plainly obvious, we can 'toy' with any other thing except ourselves. Man does not have the right to have dominion over any other being as they are sacred.

The manipulation of the human egg/sperm to create a SUPER human is gross disrespect to God in my opinion and its attendant consequences will be painful.

Imagine it being a sin to be ugly or fat or have any slight difference from the 'beautiful people of the world'. Imagine a world full or strictly blond or blue-haired girls and masculine mitchelin-like men due to these vain procedures to create designer babies...

God is really patient sha

ppl have been customizing babies for years ,women eat certain foods to get smarter babies.

didn't know guys pmsed too.

biolabee: not sure wat u mean but i meant that marriage will be A thing of the past

Oooo ok ,you are right about that

biolabee: it will be... it will be

just a mata of time

So men are going to start dying in droves again?
if so ,there will still be no use for polygamy marriage , cause there are many ways to make babies,and support yourself.

coogar: why should i?
chaircover stays in the west. if she's a 5th wife in medina, would she be writing the same?



all the women on this thread lean towards western education, the opinion is bound to be the same. what about women in the northern africa or the middle east? the women on this thread do not speak for other women in the world!




why won't they?
they believe love is sharing, isn't it? if there's no fuss about their husband marrying multiple wives, why should there be any problem in group sex?

your right

that's what i mean they gotta either be bisexual/gay/stupid/desperate/or forced to be in a polygamy marriage.

biolabee: We need to know where we come from before we know where we are going

'Monogamic marriage' as you call it a union of one man n woman may be a thing of the past in another 100 years itself

Anyone that still says humans are not a function of their environment is at best propounding a laughable theory
If this were yemeniland the ladies here will be opening classifieds to find the next wife for their harem as it too boring living alone

and homo marriage/no marriage/poly marriage can also be a thing of the future. but Today is monogamy . Polygamy is not necessary,men do not go out to war in large numbers anymore and women are not so dependent anymore.

Women work and go to school now.Polygamy is not necessary for this time and day .so stop bringing up the past.

The only time i would like to be in a polygamous marriage is if i were bisexual.Other than that i find it disgusting to the core.you fuk one wife ,and fuk another the next hour or day. He Also kisses one women and comes to kiss me next.

noooo

no matter what i will never go into a polygamy "marriage" it is way too intimate.

I struggled and work dam hard ,to get my education. I will not waste my hard work on being a house wife for someone.something better come out from my sweat and tears.

ekwah: All I did was just state the fact the way it is. Who am I to play God?
A = Being a single mum
b = Being close to God
A and B => abstinence from sex unless one is re-married - a thing that's obviously almost impossible!!


OP's suggestion of they 'being close to God' doesn't sound practical to me at all for very obvious reasons. You didn't answer my question.

Shout out to all them single mums though, dem strong.

They can always repent

ileobatojo: Unless their situation is very dire or unless the woman deliberately and deviously went against an agreement they had before the man deserves a solid knock on the head for that nonsense. Even if they are dirt poor and can't afford to feed themselves, he can't just dictate to her to get an abortion, it's a decision they have to come to together.

If she deliberately poked holes in the condom, then he's just acting out his justifiable anger at this point. Hopefully for her, he will eventually calm down, if not she's on her own with that one.

If it was an honest mistake that she got pregnant, then he needs to suck it up and prepare to be a daddy.

If they had no plans to keep from getting pregnant and he didn't take any precautions, then I hope she has smacked him down as decisively as possible. Nonsense.

i always love your post

dayokanu: Why is he not ready yet.

The guy might be making sense depending on his reason

financial probably.

but the bottom line is if your having sex ,its possible to have a child.

yellowpawpaw: Lovelydoll,is this ur "friend" u?. Jusk asking anyway.
And d story get as e bi for my eye.
Maybe u will ask this ur "friend" to tell u the truth.we can start from there.
A married man rejecting his first pregnancy,in naija(abi r they westerners)?
Osanubua!

yessss they are western ,thw wife is nigerian and the husband is african american.

slimyem: You don't have the full gist of the matter.

your right i need to ask her more questions ,but abortion is not an option

ekwah: I mean I get your point...but the statement in red is very irrelevant to what I said earlier.
Except a woman plans to remarry or practice abstinence , how can she be a single mum and BE CLOSE TO GOD as OP suggested?

Again you are not God to tell someone they cannot be close to God because they are a SINGLE mother.

the other stuff is up to them.

Chinwem: Have the baby

i agree

slimyem: Have you asked you friend what the initial agreement between them both was?
Maybe they had both agreed to no kids for a certain length of time after marriage and she decided to play her own tricks..
Anyway, she should do whatever she can to dissuade him from insisting. It would be harder if she decided to get pregnant without his consent though..

Strangely they are a strong christian couple.This has come as a shock to me

7. ignore ,and avoid ,ignorant men who cannot take care of their own children

8.Ignore those who cannot mind their own business ,and are always gossiping

9. know that you are a strong lady and you should have confidence ,so that you won't run into any mans arms.

10. children should always be your first priority , that boyfrd you have can be an ex boyfrd,but your kids will always be your kid.

ekwah: 1.Maintain a relationship with God.
Whatever your religious inclination, talking to your God through prayers and reading your Holy Bible, Quran etc will only require a few minutes or hour of your time in the day. Doing this will refresh your soul, give you inner peace and renewal, hope, especially if you are facing different challenges.


How can you be a single mum and be close to God? As in konji no go hold the woman at all wetin she go come do then? no be to commit sin?

you should ask the samething when you fornicate.

also who are you to tell a person they cannot be close to God.are you God himself . most are single because of drunkard ,useless ,abusive men ,who just don't care and end up walking away.

Hello ,my friend is married and just found out she was pregnant.Most people who are married find this to be a joyful moment,but not for my friend's husband.The thing is my friend told me that her husband told her to get an abortion soon because ,he is not yet ready to have a kid. My friend is completely against it ,but is afraid that he will neglect the baby when it's born. What should she do to convince her husband ,that abortion is not an option?

I would not be hurt,or do anything at at all.If he likes men... he likes men and there is nothing i can do about it.Other than that i know he dumped me solely on my gender which is not my fault.

my phone

The solution here is this guy has to wait for her to grow. weather you like it or not.She is in a different point in her life,she is 19,and still discovering herself.she should even go to school and focus on her books.If this guy loved her he would wait until she graduates from school and matures a little more to understand things.

30 and 40 doesn't sound bad but 19 and 29 sounds bad.