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Do u really reside in the village?, its nice to know u available!

if u try to look carefully you will find in your wife those things you see in your girlfriend. somethings are hard to explain but all a thing of the mind.
make your wife look more sexy if your gf does look that way and you fall for it. transform your wife to that gf's look and company and you will find a reason to dump your gf the next minute.

@poster
with your friend's resolve on how to tackle the issue at hand, i wonder in what way she did manage to keep her home before the husband started to cheat. being attractive as she may be does not make her a better lover though not an excuse for a cheating husband. i don't believe violence is the best way to resolve this either.
at times like this, one should sit to go through the past weeks over and over again and see where it went wrong with a heart resolved to forgive and amend the home.

for 8K below you can get so many around Nyannyan Area "B".
i know one called DUBY SUITE for example and about 5 more hotels/motels of good comfortable interiors you can lookout for!

have fun!!

i have heard of times without number when women say their doctors advice them to have sex regularly with their spouse since it helps a great deal for some reasons of childbirth.
some women even force their their hubby to have sex with them even till their EDD.
so i believe sex is safe for all time of the pregnancy except for positions applied during sex. one could think of cheating as an option in this case when your spouse is on strike for some reasons but i do believe a counselling from a medical expert could help. try visiting the clinic with your wife on the days she goes for prenatal and get the best advice and pep talks to resolve the issue.

its also a lesson for the upcoming mums in the house to keep track of the feelings or sexual urge of their spouse during pregnancy stage.

rather than crucify @poster its wise to place yourself at that spot and imagine the mental torture you may go through!!!

i use to think its love that matters most in a relationship. if you could go all the way till he proposed then why the scary part of naija men, juju and so on?
juju or whatever you may call it in your country exist everywhere even in Zimbabwe, shouldn't our Nigerian man in question be scared about your country too?

if you so scared and insecure please go marry from your country and stop blaming naija movies and juju!
naija men are good to go and besides most culture are alike, respect is the keyword!

for the asking, what has telling the sister about her past with the guy got to do with it?
please we should not miss out the motive here!
she is hurt about her past with this same guy, but she is a good relationship now.
is this same guy a threat to her sister or her, he wants to marry her for Christ sake!
at 23yrs,i believe she knows what she is doing and can handle it, she loves him as well and willing to marry him.

like my fellow poster said they broke up mutually, sooooooo? why killing the joy of the little sister if nothing real bad ever
happened when they were together.
lets forget sentiments and let love be. she had her chance and she didn't make good of it.

ok! after telling the kid sister then what? she is happy and they are battling to keep it together?

plssssssssssss!

she should let sleeping dog lie and if she so care about her sister she should talk it over with him to
express her fears!

for those that love good advert, this may not be the best of it all but in the 9jillion promo scenes;

1. at the beer bar--won't drink again
2. new couple---change my name to my wife's
3. market woma----dancing excitement
4. hausa ram seller---dancing excitement
5. salon--won't shower for a whole year!
6. Danfo driver!--i go put my moto for reverse, take my back go reach Ghana!

for me, i will choose the DANFO DRIVER anytime, he is very real and hilarious eventhough a million dollar could make us do many more crazy tins!!!

i give it to him.

whats your best part?

i remember! i remember!! i remember!!!

didn't they say "ALL MEN ARE DOGS?"

so how can a dog be better than a dog, its the same tin!

so we possess all those qualities @sexy
hope we qualify for all the affection

LMAO!!!

some things are better experienced when the mood is right. if your mood contradicts then wait till it is the perfect one. maybe the right date is not around the corner yet and who knows, it maybe be!
when the right kind of man and feeling comes along you wont need to ask for ask for opinion!

Why would a client be prepared to pay more for the services of an architect that cannot prove him./herself better
than a cheaper draughtsman?

in this sense i totally disagree with @Mahal.
it is not the architects that have refused to proof themselves better than a draughtsman but the client that have refused to see the architect beyond the principle of just drawing lines!
just like doctors who will examine and prescribe for patients, how can you tell a doctor is 100% sure of the diagnosis, but people would rather see a doctor no matter the charge cos its a matter of life and death-NO REPLACEMENT!!!
but a client can choose to engage or disengage the services of an architect whether he sells his design/himself well or not. In Nigeria, we follow the cheapest fee when it comes to construction from inception to finish. Do not forget, we have FG approved professional scale of fees and how many of the said client or draughtsmen have an idea? how many can afford these fees? how many are willing to take professional advise?

most client will take your brilliant idea (cos if it wasn't why will they steal it?) to a draughtman, tell him their ideas added to that and BRAVO! a design is finished without your knowledge and what they tell you--WHEN WE ARE READY TO GO FURTHER WE WILL CALL YOU!

very simple, the more we respect our diverse professions the more we build a safe circle, the more they are regulations from all professional bodies the more our individual/collective success!

we are only surviving, not ignorant or dumb!

@Tudor
oh yes! you are right on this one, not everyone is that lucky but we everyone can explore all possibilities and i bet one decent legal one will work.

for instance during my first degree, my course was very expensive to sustain and since my other siblings were there to take care of by my mum i had to teach private home lessons and help the higher levels finish up their course works for a fee! and believe me most of my friends didn't know.

we all can do something to overcome our challenges, something no one will frown at.

thats my message!!!

@tudor
better ways

i was 15yrs when i lost my dad, 6th child out of seven kids. the 1st son who is the second child was just doing his OND at the polytechnic. my daddy was in the police force, he died an officer.
regardless of all these my mum only had a standard six education, we were broke, couldn't feed, just nothing. mum decided to do business, got in touch with an old standard six class mate, gets stocks from her on credit, sells, keep the profit and return the capital.
this she did till she got established, built 2 houses, bought a car, sent everyone of us to school for a degree. i got lucky with a second degree. the last of us finished NYSC 18months ago and with oceanic!

what will u call mum? literate? illiterate?
she had kids-7! responsibility! i can vouch she never had anything to do with any man since i was part of this business till i finished my first degree and was with her all time!!!

and these street prostitutes? mostly educated, please lets be real and forget sentiments.

there are better ways! better ideas! it may take sacrifice, a lot of but we will get there!!!

they can learn from that!

they are human i agree but we need to disuade them by fighting it anyhow we can!

When you're jobless and have no education prostitution is the obvious route. .
For the self righteous bigots condemning them what'd you expect them to do. . .? Photosynthesize? [color=#000099][/color]

@Tudor

there is nothing like being self righteous and prostitution is not an obvious route because there are better ways.
what is wrong is wrong and if you say it should be supported then think twice!

maybe there are no Fine Anambra/Ihiala/Azia Guys, make your coast wider so that pple from
the far north like me can drop my CV!!!

even if the govt provide jobs for them they won't stop. some are just too engrossed and addicted to the trade.
come to think it NA GOVT BORN THEM or NA GOVT GIVE U & ME JOB? because it has nothing to with being literate since most of them are!!!

Going for master degree in Australia in six months!
Getting a ring from you girlfriend!!

, believe me, you know the answer to that; girlfriend wants to be secured.
u aint ready? tell her!

@ifyalways
no heart feelings but there is no such thing as BIGGER BABES when it comes to this.
babe is babe!!!
what the difference is maybe the gift or amount in question!

Don't want to believe its just my thinking but 80% of gals i have met online and a few at social functions
always announce their birthday almost a week after and demand for gift items or cash to get the day rolling.
Is it a trend and must it always be BIRTHDAYS, MONEY & RECHARGE CARDS?!

with that rage of sorting my mum out the man on my wife will not be there when i finally get into my house, so there will be no man to kill or maim.
my wife will be lucky since i won't know. another for my wife and the lucky man but today i rescue my mum.

i could without anything but MONEY!!!
it does a lot of MAGIC,

maybe its that quality you posses they are coming back for, maybe they are desperate to settle down so soon, maybe maybe maybe,
who says second chances are no good?! you can be surprised what you may experince with a second chance. though in your case it maybe different but i disagree to a complete impossibility of that generally.
i believe you know these men well enough, you know which of them you agree much with, if you love any of them that much irrespective of the circumstance you have time to think it over.
besides you spoke much about them having a good job and ready to settle down but didn't mention much about you. are you also ready? can you support yourself also, are you self confidence to agree to their proposal?
it all lies with you.

i believe your wife is not the very first date you ever had. if not, then you could start by calling names of females you ever dated/slept with and recount your experience to her. be detailed about every session you ever had with your past sex life and watch her reaction.
tell her if she was that good she could take the lead and teach you those stuff that her past jide or james or eze or segun ever did and she will see if you don't have a newer version.
on your own part, if you lack what it takes then seek advice to measure up, read magazines, watch movies, learn some tricks on how to get the heat on while the flame burns.
i had an experience in my past relationship, i was still feeble and new to sex. my woman just lie there and i get up when am done but she never complains. the very day i had her twice in a row with so much strenght because she was to leave for a whole 3 weeks, she asked me how come it was so different today. i knew i just started living up to it and i took it upon myself to explore this sex tin. today, its a different story, no woman ever complain, sometimes i get off them cos they cum multiple and am yet to start.

in my own experience dating in the same office is never a good idea, it is like spending your whole life together with no breathing space. thats why as harsh as it may seem most organizations will not allow couples to work for them as married people or family or a policy that forbibs that.
i think you have a choice to make, your relationship or the office? if u must choose your relationship then you must change job.
but come to think of it, must you avoid other people to satisfy you man? i sincerely believe it is not right as long as you don't ask him to do same. afterall he must also converse with other females in the name of work or office gist. if he can't trust you in a little circle called an office how then will he trust you when you are together for life and he is faraway from home. he may not be worth this emotional stress and cage you are in now!!!

hmmmn!!!
reading the treads from the beginning and the comments from our ladies, it's kind of interesting to know females agree with double dating when it is a woman playing with the hearts of men. what if it was the other way round, i bet the curses will come.
for me i think you may loose on both sides soon, men can take the heat for a while and then freak out. WATCH IT!!!

in as nuch as u have realised ur mistakes i must say retracing ur steps would do. to start with how old are u? u have a relative or close ones you can stay with till ur sister gets back?
being away from ur sister's husband will do u good, especially not under same roof. and if u have a boyfriend divert ur physical and emotional attention to him, if its the sex tin with ur sister's husbanb and u consider him good to love and be with then u will be surprised they are better lovers out there with better sex to go with. its a tin u can be stronger than. or talk to someone confidential. pple will criticise u, but u got to outlive it.
cheers,