₦airaland Forum

Persephone1:
May we not marry a boy man

Dear Op, my people have an adage it is: Aiki lo kabo ile ejo , ka tun sore. It means we don't come back from court to become friends. Arresting your husband may be right or wrong but what happens when he is released?
If you were arrested as a wife, will you be happy with your husband and let everything go back to normal when you are released?
Especially in this part of the world.

If you still want a happy marriage after a dispute, police station should not be an option. In the sight of the law, you are right but culturally you are not.

Get elders to speak to him, I hope he listens. May God help you. This matter deep i can't think straight self : D

With time, he will get over it. Even he himself will do introspection and realise that he deserved the treatment. Beating, destroying and talking trash. And if he doesn't get over it, it will still be his loss, majorly.

PastorFire4Fire:
Much as i condemn what the man did but she was totally way way wrong. She could have reported to an elder.
Let me tell you, there was a time i was thrown into police cell overnight only because i was arguing with a police man in his police station. He slapped me and i promptly returned the slap very heavily wey be say the man confuse for like 30 seconds. His colleagues then said i assaulted an officer in his office.
Throughout that night in cell, alot of thoughts ran through my mind how i will deal with that officer once i go out. I took his service number but i later abandon my journey to implicate him.
You see dat cell ba, the place don reset her husband head and the man don arrange how em go dey relate with his wife for life. All he will ever tell his friends is... "My wife throw me inside cell" and he will never forget or forgive that.

That's exactly what he needed

Focusmind:
You didn't do anything wrong. Don't feel guilty or allow yourself to be blackmailed. He is just being unappreciative. Beating you for what?? Sad that some men are here, defending the man. As a man, when you fall, you pick up the pieces and work towards getting your feet back. Here, he saw an ATM machine in you and relaxed.....this is the reason why most women hardly reveal their earnings to their husband.... The quality of men these days is becoming terribly low.

Lol. We could say the same thing for women

Verokeena:
Nb: even while he was there I was still taking food to him

This part got me laughing.
I know that men could be insecure when wives are the ones providing for the family. But losing job shouldn't make him become useless for himself, his kids and you. That shouldn't make him become irritable, violent, destructive. He's being childish. He's lucky to have a wife that could rise to the occasion and willing to do just that as long as it takes.
Ignore him, his sense will come back in due time

Pierocash:
This guy called Reno is doing over busy body in matters that are clearly known , but lacks logic in most of his articles because he writes to please some people


The issue here is not about translations of names. Isa is Arabic recognized by Islam , not Christ or Jesus Christ. You dare not mention Jesus Christ in any mosque in Sokoto or any northern part of Nigeria mosque even though Isa is mentioned in Quran. You will get killed instantly if you dare it. You dare not mention Jesus Christ even in Muslim gathering in the north, not to talk of inscribing "Mary the mother of Jesus Christ" on the roof top of any mosque in the north and watch what happens.

Even though the name Isa is same as Jesus Christ, northern Muslims don't see it that way. If Reno wants to test this assertion, let him go to any northern part of Nigeria and go shout Jesus Christ , or Mary the mother of Jesus in Muslim gathering or mosque and let's check something. Oponu

You spoke like there are no Christians in the North. Whereas, your brothers are there living and doing business there permanently. They're equally practising their religion without fear or hindrance.
Muslims, be it southern or northern part of the country can't attack you for shouting Jesus unless you do it in a way that suggest provocation. Just don't insult prophet mohammad.

waynetee:
Issa is used by Muslims, while Jesus is used by Christians. Thats the difference.
Nigeria Muslims will never name their mosque Jesus , they will rather name it Issa

Lol. And which church has been named Mohammad by Nigeria Christians?

Jewessgratitud3:
Now I know where the problem is coming from. Parents!!!!!... Allow us breath!!!!

You claim summer lessons are not important or beneficial now but tomorrow you'll go and start complaining to the schools that your wards are not doing well in their studies and threaten to withdraw them meanwhile you're here discouraging what will help the school to help your wards excel academically

Solsix:
When you born, you can decide on how to train them. Allow people who wants to send thiers for holiday lessons do.

ChiefOloye:
Anyone who doesn't agree with this no get sense

ThiefnubuBandit:
Greedy private school owners always find ways to deceive parents during long holidays. What is summer lesson? Do we experience summer in Nigeria? Na mugu dey send pikin go holiday lesson.

Oduok:
Sending kids to holiday lessons makes no sense.

We allow our kids to flex at home throughout holidays, like they're currently enjoying their third term holiday at the moment. Holiday periods are the only periods we subscribe to cable TV. During the holidays, No lesson, no Arabic class too. But they can decide on their own to read or study in the house.

Alpharey:
Shut up already. Those criminals are in no way representing the Igbos as nobody send them message. They also torture Igbo people and as far as they are concerned, they are CRIMINALS and must be dealt with if caught by security agencies. So if you do anyhow as to retaliate on an innocent Igbo man, do you think you are not going to attract more reprisals from Igbo people

So, only your people have monopoly of violence? You can kidnap a Yoruba man, torture and kill him, record it on the camera and release it for public consumption and not expect the some people to retaliate for the fact that Nigeria police could be useless in tracking down the perpetrators?

mycar:
He should have involved a security agency, how could you be tracking a vehicle stolen by some armed criminals without any security back up plan and foolish people changed everything to igbos vs Yorubas.

And you didn't see it that the criminals themselves have made it igbos vs Yoruba in their speech?

Whose car was stolen?
Alo of unanswered questions

Go and ask your criminal brothers now.

Curious346:
Just a Yoruba man?

What about the thousands of Yoruba killed daily in the bush by Fulani heredmen In Yoruba land ..


Ipob is a baby to herdsmen.

Allow them be .let the Yoruba call oduduwa to save him

I hope you will not later begin to call on UN and ICC

IyaTola:
I see people who ask these questions as irresponsible fellas , it like to the fact that the day your wife misses her period she has given you 9 months notice to prepare. Same thing goes for your rent, the day you rent the house start making provision for your next month rent either by setting a specific amount every month into a fund that will be yielding interest

For instance, if you rent is 60k, 500 naira a day would amount to 3000 a month and so 72k per year.

Not really irresponsible. Just that they're not wise to think that far.

Caspry5:
How landlady wan take understand say i nor join vote this bad govt

Laughing. You should have snapped your ballot paper that day, it is allowed.

meum:
When it’s time to get it right we allow sentiments becloud our judgement. Just save up & pay. You need a roof over you & your family before anything else. Landlord too has to survive in this bad economy.

You are right. Few months ago, I calculated the number of days remaining to my next house rent payments, divided the amount by number days and I began to drop N1100 every night. I still have three and half months to go as at today, thanks to Opay which makes automatic deductions possible.
Now, I don't even think I'm going to need that money for house rent again.

Desusi:
How did his brother know his opay account and other accounts? I think,he should be thinking about his security rather than his balance in the bank.

Opay is your phone number, simple.
Concerning other accounts, you mean your family members don't know the bank you are using even if they don't know your account numbers?

These people are bastards. They first cleared all his bank balances before contacting his family to demand for ransom? Greedy bastards

Lol. This same economy that's heading towards recession?

Penguin2:
Your Tinubu took power before them, what magic has he performed?

U be Olodo confirmed! Tinubu didn't take power, authority was given to him the majority of voters to govern them. Coupists are the ones who took power, and that's why they are under the heat from every angle

Taylor90:
Has your first class Chicago graduate performed any magic

Consolation of a failed principal supporter

SpartaOfLagos:
Nigerians are going through hell under Tinubu government , that's something you should be worried about and not Niger republic.

Tinubu is a failure

Lol. Evasive responses.

Taylor90:
Says a Nigerian that’s suffering from all round of poverty induced mental illnesses


Is Nigeria not the worst country on earth?

Try Afghanistan first, then Somali, then Syria, etc

darkmarky:
oh chim, someone died and its not that sad to you. Humans though

Everyone knows that death is the end of all living things. Now, you're saying something else. Human beings!

Ikennaford:
Some guys are really pussies,,, wtf you typing...

Sonnobax15:

Wahala...

You go dey trust banny during NYSC? When you never know wetin Nigerian labour market get in stock for you?

luminouz:
Oga even added links to her FB and WhatsApp, hunting for birthday wishes from unknown people online. WTF

IconicR:
You both are on the same level, she's not smart to be dating you.
A smart lady should always date someone above her so as to balance the equation

Nairaland guys, I would be disappointed if I didn't see twists like these ones.

Praktikals:
Women sha. So she went to see a sick man and was crucifying him by telling him you did this in year 1905, you did that in year 1915. I fear who no fear women.

Lol. Look at how she was blaming the man she called police on, chased out of his own house, fenced him out from seeing his kids, and so on! Wicked somebody now preaching fake gospel

Originalsly:
Hmmm .... she's preaching for the family to stick to together and not let outsiders get involved because they can break the family apart. This is based on the involvement of his family members but she doesn't realize that she started the feud by involving the Police. As I see it ... she called the Police for whatever reason ... he was put out of the house and most likely given a restraining order.... the reason they couldn't see each other for 3 years. He had to find somewhere else to live .... be paying child support for 3 children and manage himself with what was left. No doubt she and the children had to be suffering since she didn't figure out that the child support money wouldn't be enough to manage her ... the children and the house. I also believe he was ready to go and asked the hospital to call her.... one last meeting to make peace before he leaves. I don't see this as she making peace with him... but he making peace with her.
A lesson for men and their wives or fiancee moving abroad .... know your spouse very well ..... abroad no be Najja ...one phone call and you can be out .... no time for explanations and justifications .

You will not be unfortunate in life

ecolime:
He has different types of concoctions sent to him from nigeria by his families that he's been taking, which led to his kidney damage.


Lesson to those who take Agbo 247

May be his kidneys were the problem of his health but were not damaged by concoctions. You know she didn't mention his ailment that led him taking concoctions.

darkmarky:
such a sad ending. Family is everything.

Not that sad, more like not fairly happy ending.

Ogene001:
You understand the game. It's a shame that Ebola supporters lack the power of rational reasoning. They think everything is about Igbo

Ogene001:
Even the three years they announced will be extended indefinitely. Ebola people made all the noise with NADECO yet Abacha continued ruling for six years

Talking of confusion, lol.
You know the right thing but hatred wouldn't let you be sensible

Cantonese:
Hopefully they should fix their country within the time frame.

You are naive for trusting the military to "fix the country". As long as they remain in power, they will be under international sanctions and their economy will be getting worse. The citizens will be getting poorer and there won't be any form of assistance from anywhere.
Who says these military can't be more corrupt than the democratic president they toppled? And from all indications so far, these coupists are not planning to leave the power anytime soon, they're just looking for a way to escape military action. ECOWAS will be naive not to see through their deception

Ogene001:
Exactly what we have been telling Ebola supporters. The junta can only fix any year for new election and Bazoum will not contest. All international pressure should be geared towards making the junta bring election date closer.

You are too slow to see that they're playing game. No be only international pressure, u should use international heat join am

Againstallodds:
Dialogue is the answer. Talk to them more and they will probably reduce the time to about a year and six months.

Ten years after, he will still be there

Three years!! Hahahaha! Bastardss! Liars!! These ones are desperate to hold on to power and refused to listen to anyone. 30 years, they will still be in power. Lol