₦airaland Forum

sweetkev:
Is Nigeria a country to be proud of ?

jaxxy:
She said the objective truth whether it was received well or not/u like it or not. She did her job which is to protect the British people and economy.

jaxxy:
People who tell the blunt truth are not usually liked.

correctguy101:
Not up to half brother. 46%.

The other percentage dey in her favor.

And even if dem no want her, why you come dey rejoice? She offend you personally?

If no be our leaders wey no geh sense, that small land suppose dey dictate for a land filled with black gods?

Smh

sammiewrite:
"Social ills"? Like, seriously? Did anything I wrote, which you quoted, translate to gun/gang violence, substance abuse endemic, poverty or unequal economic opportunities? Or has the meaning of "social ills" changed overnight?

I mean, what is the big deal in pointing out that the Nigerian state and her governments is not only aiding and abetting wrongdoers and law breakers, but that it is also rewarding them, which has lead to impunity and ultimately the current sorry state of the country?

Anyway, "we’ve only just begun" from your reply tells me this is personal and that you understand my point perfectly. I understand every country has its own challenges and in the case of Nigeria, what would qualify as a "real challenge," will be something like her inability to be able to generate enough revenue to sustain its 250 million population. This is not the same as giving oil contracts to militants as a reward for taking up arms against the state. Or releasing terrorists back into the society all in the name of repentance. Or granting pardon to killers who should at the very least serve life. Or (repeatedly) ignoring gross incompetence like the state's airforce wanting to bomb "bandits" but bombing hundreds of innocent Nigerians instead.

I know you get my point but you just want to deflect, and that is OK.

sammiewrite:
Your only issue with Kemi is that she exposes Nigeria for what it is. What has she said that isn't the truth. Did Nigeria not employ and protect killer policemen? How many of the erring SARS operatives were removed from the force even with the bloody 2020 protest? Even some of them that are retired like Nwafor of Anambra, did the state went after them?

Just yesterday, a clergy in Pleateau raised alarm that Fulani militias were planning attacks on his community. What did the army do? They quickly debunk the report, accusing the man of raising false alarm. Less than 24 hours, the attack happened as feared. Did heads rolled in the army? Should I also chime in the case of the Nigerian athlete that switch allegiance to Turkey whom some people within the sports federation intentionally denied her participation rights in two major competitions? The people responsible for this, were any of them summoned or sacked? Or should I talk about the case of Prof. Ishiaq Oloyede of Jamb with that show of shame were the future of young Nigerian were derailed with some having committed suicide? Yet, no inquiry was setup, and Prof. Oloyede wasn't invited for questioning. Just sobbing on live TV was enough.

These are the issues that Kemi often highlights in her speeches--that the Nigerian state is protecting and rewarding wrongdoers and mediocrity. Rather than look into these issues, you and your likes are more concerned about how to cover it up or shut the messenger down by shouting on top of your lungs that she is denigrating Nigeria.

DoctorStanley:
The correct thing to say is "Why am I NOT surprised"

DoctorStanley:
Yeah, she went a bit too far. A quick way to lose white folks as a black person is to make them seem racist by aligning with you. But she can still become PM and Nigerians will be very proud and she knows it - she assumes that will compensate for anything she might have said to get there

BadBradley:
seems you went shopping for kemi news.

Desperate find.

DoctorStanley:
I'd admit she went a bit too far - that's her mistake. But you KNOW nobody in a foreign country hates their fatherland that much - and the Brits know it too! Even persecuted German Jews or South Africans who left Germany/SA still had Germany/SA in their hearts as their fatherland

DoctorStanley:
Burn what bridges? Do Nigerians vote in UK elections. She's doing what she needs to do to become PM and she just might succeed despite the huge odds against her. She's suspect as an immigrant whose heart might still be with Nigeria (which I have no doubt it is - never mind all the exaggerated distancing.) It's all politics - how do you convince Brits you love their land more than your own fatherland you grew up in?? Not easy at all, because it is not true!

DoctorStanley:
It is only a POLL! Likely a manipulated poll at that. Polls also found Trump losing to Kamala by a wide margin. Polls and the Press in general tend to be quite liberal

Half of Tory members want Kemi Badenoch removed as party leader ahead of next general election

Half of all Conservative Party members do not want to see Kemi Badenoch leading the Tories into the next General Election, according to a bombshell new poll.

The poll by YouGov found 46 per cent think the current Tory leader should stay in place when the country next goes to the polls, while 50 per cent say she should not.

When asked who they would prefer as leader of the Conservative Party, 46 per cent of Tory members said they would rather have Shadow Justice Secretary, Robert Jenrick leading.

In another blow for Ms Badenoch, just under half of Tory members would support a full blown merger with Reform UK, against 48 per cent who would oppose a merger.

The poll finds 64 per cent support an electoral pact with Nigel Farage's party, meaning the two parties agree to not field candidates in seats where the other is more likely to win, while 31 per cent do not.

Meanwhile, 73 per cent would welcome a coalition with Reform UK in a hung parliament, with 25 per cent against, with two per cent unsure.

Polling for Sky News consisted of 652 Conservative members between September 26 and October 2.

Lithiumite:
All the former govs in Enugu are APC,a former senate president is apc and you still call that desperation.....the problem with you obidients is your stoic mentality of delusional grandeur......self inflicted !!

Mbah and Enugu has made a huge statement and has brought SE bigger stake at the table.....now the SE can claim and demand what they want and also make very valid and cogent claim for vp come 31,now no one can ignore them......a handshake between SW and SE is long overdue and a huge statement that the entire south are united in changing the course if this nation and tired of the conservative and backward politics of the north.

Sooroptimist:
This is a very dumb post full of pain and sorrow. So you think all the people moving into APC are dunderheads who can't decipher between good and bad hence are deciding to go for what they think is bad for them politically

So people who are JAPAing abroad are going to a worse off environment according to people like you

Gerrard59:
Thank you! Every day, I lament that I did not take mathematics seriously. It is my biggest regret that I should have spent at least a year honing my math skills. I have even prayed and plan to set up a thorough math academy hinged on East Asian methods in my locality in the country to prep young children on mathematics.

Math/Quant skills lead to more lucrative jobs than any other field. Our young ones should be grounded in hard-core mathematics regardless of their future paths.

jetson06:
Bros you don too read book. I hope all the book wey you don read is commensurate to your bank account. I know people with math skills that are begging left, right and centre. Leave all this your big English for one corner.

dipset01:
I honestly feel very frustrated and just need to get this off my chest. I now understand what people mean when they say, “Don’t marry the wrong spouse.” Brethren, I think I may have gotten this one wrong.

My wife and I have been married for seven years. I was 28 when we got married, and she was 22. In the beginning, things were fine, but along the line, the marriage became increasingly challenging. From early on, intimacy was an issue. She often refused sex, saying she was tired. To reduce tension, I limited my request to once a week — usually Saturday mornings — even though I would have liked more.
She also didn’t cook regularly. I complained several times, especially since I covered about 95% of food and household expenses. Eventually, I got tired of complaining. When we moved to lagos from portharcourt, She once told me she didn’t feel loved and wanted me to do more house chores and take her out more. I tried to adjust — suggested she hired a maid, helped around the house, and made an effort to take her out when possible. Lagos life can be very busy, but I did what I could. Every year for the past four years, I made sure we lodged in a 4- or 5-star hotel for a few days as a couple. She went on vacation to dubai 2 years ago. But she often said I was doing it “for the family (children), not for her.” That she wants her own treatment.


At one point, after a serious conflict, I took her to her father’s house and told him that we didn’t love each other anymore. During the mediation, she played the victim at first, crying. But when her father tried to correct her, she suddenly became defensive and started yelling — even at him. Her father was shocked and had to calm the situation. He later told us something that stuck with me: “You two talk, but you don’t communicate.” Since then, I’ve tried to improve our communication, but it feels like my wife has given up on the marriage.

In the past year, things have gotten worse. Any small thing I say seems to anger her. She interprets normal conversations as arguments and shuts down. I have become conscious of it and tell her not to raise her voice and try to match her voice tone. She’s not open to resolving conflicts. I honestly believe she no longer loves me — she resents me. She gets angry easily, often over nothing. We barely talk deeply anymore. Most of our conversations are shallow. I try to initiate discussions, but she’s either uninterested, on her phone, or just cold.

She no longer sleeps in the same bed with me, claiming back and neck pain. I’ve offered to buy a new mattress or switch beds, but she’s not interested. As a result, our sex life has deteriorated — we’re down to about once in three weeks, and even that comes with tension. Even to approach her now comes with alot of hesitation and fear of rejection. Recently, when I tried to be intimate, she got angry, accused me of hurting her breast, even though she was the one preventing me, she then walked away. That led to another quarrel. It’s extremely frustrating to feel rejected repeatedly, especially after weeks of restraint.

Even minor things turn into big arguments. For example, I once told her not to pour water into the griller after cooking because it could cause rust. Her reaction was explosive — she shouted that she’d never wash the oven again and that I should do it myself, going forward. I felt asked was she was yelling. I tried to calmly explain, but she kept escalating, I must wash it, if she cooks the food, i must wash the burner. It dawned on me that she no longer sees or appreciates what I do in the house. Despite being the main provider, I still handle more than 50% of household chores — I wash dishes, vacuum, clean toilets, take the boys to school, iron everyone cloth etc. She mainly cooks, bathes the kids, and does laundry. I told her I do as much chores and she is in no position to dictate to me, no big deal in washing the burner but she needs to be polite. And she should not take me doing chores for granted, I am just supporting her. We both work from home so there is no stress of commuting to work etc

She acts like she’s disgusted by me. She avoids sitting near me, doesn’t want me to touch her, and even turns her face away when I try to kiss her. If she is sitting on a chair, if i come sit on that chair she will use style and go to the room. It is either my mouth smells or my tummy is big. I am relative fit, not a 6 packs man o. I go just swallow these things. Nothing wrong in feedback, but the way and manner she gives it is not fine. Never ever body shamed her. One day she told me, sabi I was almost calling of the marriage while we were engaged, why did I marry her? I was shocked. It was something I didnt remember doing. It just shocks me to know how unforgiving a woman can be, and what goes through their mind.

When I try to talk things through, she ignores me or gives cold replies. I’ve even sent messages on WhatsApp just to get through to her — she either ignores them or replies with things like, “You win.” We don’t walk together anymore — she either walks ahead or rushes off.

One day I even begged her to forgive and forget whatever I might have done, even if I didn’t know what it was. But things only seem to get worse. We relocated to the UK last year, and I thank God I have a good job that helps me support the home. Honestly, I feel that’s the only reason she’s still around. My spirit tells me that if I ever lose this job, I might lose my home too. Or she is just waiting for the kids to be of age.

I’ve tried to make things better — bought her gifts (including a Samsung S24 for her birthday), taken her and the kids to the cinema, arcade, amusement park, and more. She enjoys these things, but there’s no real change. Even told her to tell me what she wants. The only area I think I need to still work on is the pray more with the family. She says she wants me to pray more with her and the children. I admit it an area I need to work on.

No one is perfect, neither am I or expecting my wife to be. I know I’m a good husband and a great father, But it feels like she’s emotionally checked out. Divorce is never in my mind because I come from a Christian home, and I care deeply about my kids and even her. I still believe any marriage can work if both partners are willing to try. But right now, I’m just tired. It’s painful when you want to communicate, but the other person refuses. She’s grown cold, distant, and resentful. When she cooks, I can see the resentment in her eyes, she is not happy doing it. It is like she went into the marriage with certain expectation and it doesnt look like I am meeting them. I have tried to ask, what can i do, teach me to love you. Tell me what you wants, for where? she will just lock up.

She has good qualities — she’s spiritual, beautiful, ambitious, serious-minded, she takes good care of the kids, she has introduced my children to God and prays with them. But emotionally, it feels like she’s no longer in the marriage. I’m just frustrated and honestly don’t know what else to do. I’m not perfect, but I’ve been faithful, responsible, and patient.

At this point, I just needed to vent. Maybe someone out there has gone through something similar and found a way forward.

Kushites:
People like you love to sound bombastic in ignorance.

Do you even know what forum this was being discussed?

Was it a press conference? NO!

Just a summit where a guy made a keynote address, and you are demanding he reveal full details of the investment to the summit!!!!

If you REALLY want to know the small print and fine details on any issue, USE CHATGPT like your mates.