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jetson06:
Bros you don too read book. I hope all the book wey you don read is commensurate to your bank account. I know people with math skills that are begging left, right and centre. Leave all this your big English for one corner.

dipset01:
I honestly feel very frustrated and just need to get this off my chest. I now understand what people mean when they say, “Don’t marry the wrong spouse.” Brethren, I think I may have gotten this one wrong.

My wife and I have been married for seven years. I was 28 when we got married, and she was 22. In the beginning, things were fine, but along the line, the marriage became increasingly challenging. From early on, intimacy was an issue. She often refused sex, saying she was tired. To reduce tension, I limited my request to once a week — usually Saturday mornings — even though I would have liked more.
She also didn’t cook regularly. I complained several times, especially since I covered about 95% of food and household expenses. Eventually, I got tired of complaining. When we moved to lagos from portharcourt, She once told me she didn’t feel loved and wanted me to do more house chores and take her out more. I tried to adjust — suggested she hired a maid, helped around the house, and made an effort to take her out when possible. Lagos life can be very busy, but I did what I could. Every year for the past four years, I made sure we lodged in a 4- or 5-star hotel for a few days as a couple. She went on vacation to dubai 2 years ago. But she often said I was doing it “for the family (children), not for her.” That she wants her own treatment.


At one point, after a serious conflict, I took her to her father’s house and told him that we didn’t love each other anymore. During the mediation, she played the victim at first, crying. But when her father tried to correct her, she suddenly became defensive and started yelling — even at him. Her father was shocked and had to calm the situation. He later told us something that stuck with me: “You two talk, but you don’t communicate.” Since then, I’ve tried to improve our communication, but it feels like my wife has given up on the marriage.

In the past year, things have gotten worse. Any small thing I say seems to anger her. She interprets normal conversations as arguments and shuts down. I have become conscious of it and tell her not to raise her voice and try to match her voice tone. She’s not open to resolving conflicts. I honestly believe she no longer loves me — she resents me. She gets angry easily, often over nothing. We barely talk deeply anymore. Most of our conversations are shallow. I try to initiate discussions, but she’s either uninterested, on her phone, or just cold.

She no longer sleeps in the same bed with me, claiming back and neck pain. I’ve offered to buy a new mattress or switch beds, but she’s not interested. As a result, our sex life has deteriorated — we’re down to about once in three weeks, and even that comes with tension. Even to approach her now comes with alot of hesitation and fear of rejection. Recently, when I tried to be intimate, she got angry, accused me of hurting her breast, even though she was the one preventing me, she then walked away. That led to another quarrel. It’s extremely frustrating to feel rejected repeatedly, especially after weeks of restraint.

Even minor things turn into big arguments. For example, I once told her not to pour water into the griller after cooking because it could cause rust. Her reaction was explosive — she shouted that she’d never wash the oven again and that I should do it myself, going forward. I felt asked was she was yelling. I tried to calmly explain, but she kept escalating, I must wash it, if she cooks the food, i must wash the burner. It dawned on me that she no longer sees or appreciates what I do in the house. Despite being the main provider, I still handle more than 50% of household chores — I wash dishes, vacuum, clean toilets, take the boys to school, iron everyone cloth etc. She mainly cooks, bathes the kids, and does laundry. I told her I do as much chores and she is in no position to dictate to me, no big deal in washing the burner but she needs to be polite. And she should not take me doing chores for granted, I am just supporting her. We both work from home so there is no stress of commuting to work etc

She acts like she’s disgusted by me. She avoids sitting near me, doesn’t want me to touch her, and even turns her face away when I try to kiss her. If she is sitting on a chair, if i come sit on that chair she will use style and go to the room. It is either my mouth smells or my tummy is big. I am relative fit, not a 6 packs man o. I go just swallow these things. Nothing wrong in feedback, but the way and manner she gives it is not fine. Never ever body shamed her. One day she told me, sabi I was almost calling of the marriage while we were engaged, why did I marry her? I was shocked. It was something I didnt remember doing. It just shocks me to know how unforgiving a woman can be, and what goes through their mind.

When I try to talk things through, she ignores me or gives cold replies. I’ve even sent messages on WhatsApp just to get through to her — she either ignores them or replies with things like, “You win.” We don’t walk together anymore — she either walks ahead or rushes off.

One day I even begged her to forgive and forget whatever I might have done, even if I didn’t know what it was. But things only seem to get worse. We relocated to the UK last year, and I thank God I have a good job that helps me support the home. Honestly, I feel that’s the only reason she’s still around. My spirit tells me that if I ever lose this job, I might lose my home too. Or she is just waiting for the kids to be of age.

I’ve tried to make things better — bought her gifts (including a Samsung S24 for her birthday), taken her and the kids to the cinema, arcade, amusement park, and more. She enjoys these things, but there’s no real change. Even told her to tell me what she wants. The only area I think I need to still work on is the pray more with the family. She says she wants me to pray more with her and the children. I admit it an area I need to work on.

No one is perfect, neither am I or expecting my wife to be. I know I’m a good husband and a great father, But it feels like she’s emotionally checked out. Divorce is never in my mind because I come from a Christian home, and I care deeply about my kids and even her. I still believe any marriage can work if both partners are willing to try. But right now, I’m just tired. It’s painful when you want to communicate, but the other person refuses. She’s grown cold, distant, and resentful. When she cooks, I can see the resentment in her eyes, she is not happy doing it. It is like she went into the marriage with certain expectation and it doesnt look like I am meeting them. I have tried to ask, what can i do, teach me to love you. Tell me what you wants, for where? she will just lock up.

She has good qualities — she’s spiritual, beautiful, ambitious, serious-minded, she takes good care of the kids, she has introduced my children to God and prays with them. But emotionally, it feels like she’s no longer in the marriage. I’m just frustrated and honestly don’t know what else to do. I’m not perfect, but I’ve been faithful, responsible, and patient.

At this point, I just needed to vent. Maybe someone out there has gone through something similar and found a way forward.

Kushites:
People like you love to sound bombastic in ignorance.

Do you even know what forum this was being discussed?

Was it a press conference? NO!

Just a summit where a guy made a keynote address, and you are demanding he reveal full details of the investment to the summit!!!!

If you REALLY want to know the small print and fine details on any issue, USE CHATGPT like your mates.

TenQ:
When unintelligent people lead then educational sector of a Nation.

Then average scores in Mathematics will nose-dive because all those Art students who used to "try before" have no incentive again.

Will they also say that science and engineering students don't need to also pass English language too?

It would have been okay today that the pass mark for Art students in Mathematics shouldn't be more than D7.

cyberbro:
As expected, you don't understand what you're talking about. No understanding whatsoever.

Thanks for confirming my previous assertion.

You are welcome.

cyberbro:
The mere fact that you included economics, shows that you really don't know what you're talking about. Everyone knows economics is a social science, with a lot of its core calculation based on statistics, which is a branch of mathematics. That should never have been included no matter the point you're trying to make...

Ofemannnu:
Doesn't mean that they are dumping Mathematics.It means.....Arts and Humanities students ...... do not need a credit.If they have a pass,all good.
Mathematics is not mandatory for admission to arts and humanities courses in the UK too, but a GCSE pass in mathematics is a general requirement for most students to enter university post-16 education. The specific entry requirements vary by course and university.For some arts degrees, especially those without a strong numerical component, a pass in GCSE mathematics may not be necessary for admission itself, but it could be a general prerequisite for the A-levels or equivalent qualification required for university entry.

cyberbro:
You're a traditional thinker with a fixed mindset and this mentality of yours is really harmful. Kindly tell me the practicality of having a C in mathematics for arts discipline... Please don't talk about the use of arithmetic in daily lives, every primary school leaver can handle basic arithmetic, but at university level, should those who have a D or E at math be prevented from moving forward with their study despite the fact that it has nothing to do with mathematics?
If they need real-life mathematical skills, anyone can get that outside the 4 walls of the university, but it shouldn't be a prerequisite for a degree when the curriculum has nothing to do with mathematics.
Once again, shed your traditional thinking- education doesn't end in the 4 walls of the university and anyone can learn virtually anything at any point of their lives. If anyone needs analytical skills, they don't need a credit in WAEC for that as you put it. It has only remained a prerequisite for admissions cos the older generation deemed it fit.

Ttalk:
With this your long epistle when you asked t present your WAEC result na D7 we go get for Mathematics

Okoroawusa:
Bro take a chill pill. Senior students in Art or Humanities will sit for mathematics in their exams but a credit in it will not be compulsory for them to get university admissions.

I think it's fair enough. That's how it used to be. I got into the university for a science course that doesn't require a credit in mathematics. A pass was okay.
In the days when the JAMB brochure used to come with one big printed document. Some universities will take Physics in place of Mathematics. A P7 in Mathematics could get you some courses in the Natural Sciences like Zoology, Biochemistry, Botany, Microbiology, Industrial Chemistry, and so on.
I think it was Obasanjo's civilian government that later abolished it and made English and Mathematics compulsory for all university admissions.

Nigerian senior secondary school students in arts and humanities will no longer be required to present a credit in mathematics in their Senior School Certificate Examination, organised by the West African Examination Council and National Examination Council, as a condition for admission to universities and polytechnics, the Federal Ministry of Education said on Tuesday.

For years, admission seekers in arts and humanities, like their contemporaries in sciences and social sciences, have been mandated to have five credits, including mathematics and English language, to secure admission into higher institutions.

“The revised National Guidelines for Entry Requirements into Nigerian Tertiary Institutions are designed to remove barriers while maintaining academic standards.

“The new framework applies to universities, polytechnics, colleges of education, and Innovation Enterprise Academies across the country as follows:

“Universities: Minimum of five (5) credit passes in relevant subjects, including English Language, obtained in not more than two sittings. Mathematics is mandatory for Science, Technology, and Social Science courses.

“Polytechnics (ND Level): Minimum of four (4) credit passes in relevant subjects, including English Language for non-science courses and Mathematics for science-related programs.

“Polytechnics (HND Level): Minimum of five (5) credit passes in relevant subjects, including English Language and Mathematics.

“Colleges of Education (NCE Level): Minimum of four (4) credit passes in relevant subjects, with English Language mandatory for Arts and Social Science courses, and Mathematics required for Science, Vocational, and Technical programs,” a statement by the FME’s spokesperson, Folasade Boriowo, said.

An education analyst, Ayodamola Oluwatoyin, who spoke to our correspondent in Abuja, hailed the reform.

“This is a brilliant reform, which we hope will open the doors and improve the ease of admissions into tertiary institutions for more seekers.”

The Minister of Education, Dr Tunji Alausa, described the reform as a deliberate effort to expand access to tertiary education.

The ministry also approved a comprehensive reform of admission entry requirements into all tertiary institutions across the country, increasing the average annual intake from about 700,000 to one million students.

According to the government, the new policy aims to expand access to higher education and create opportunities for an additional 250,000 to 300,000 admissions each year.

The minister explained that the reform became necessary after years of limited access, which left many qualified candidates unable to secure admission despite meeting the required standards.

“Every year, over two million candidates sit for the Unified Tertiary Matriculation Examination (UTME), yet only about 700,000 gain admission. This imbalance is not due to lack of ability but outdated and overly stringent entry requirements that must give way to fairness and opportunity.

“The reform is a deliberate effort to expand access to tertiary education, creating opportunities for an additional 250,000 to 300,000 students each year. It reflects our commitment to ensuring that every Nigerian youth has a fair chance to learn, grow, and succeed—putting the Renewed Hope Agenda into action,’’ he said.

The revised National Guidelines for Entry Requirements into Nigerian Tertiary Institutions are designed to remove barriers while maintaining academic standards.

grandstar:
The government has actually been quite prudent by eliminating fuel subsidies which were gulping about 2% of GDP. By floating the Naira, this magnified government revenue. Imagine at $1-N440, a monthly allocation of $1bn is N440M, but at N1,500, It is N1.5Tr. UIn addition, government has also worked hard at improving revenue collection.

The debt is more sustainable than before.

The truth is that government borrowing will still be quite high as 97% of government revenue was going towards debt servicing when he assumed office. It is now below 50%, but it needs to get down to 20% or less.

Some of the present borrowing I must admit is questionable.

FarahAideed:
It must have been a lazy journalist at work , I am very sure they meant 300 million dollars ..Qatars GDP is a paltry 218 billion dollars , they would need that 300 billion dollars investment themselves 😂😂😂

Anishinaabe:
In the video I watched, it's $300m not $300bn. It's posters like this that make me conclude that many Nigerians are numerically illiterate. You just think the there's no difference between both numbers. They are not synonyms.

Dokitto001:
GDP measures economic activity per year. So yes they can invest 300b Usd over decades