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Appalling to say the least! what is our country turning into? must we imbibe ALL Western culture? now a child is playing with fire and we are asking what the parents should do!!!!!!! isnt there a bit of sense in the parents' head?

[quote author=~Sissy~ link=topic=249630.msg6734659#msg6734659 date=1284194686]have you laughed/smiled today? if not no worries! here is a little [b]LOL [/b]for y'all



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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7yHejN1korE[/flash][/quote]Hey sissy, that was splendid and you really made ME smile with that! I was even squirming and sucking my tongue with the tart sour taste of lemons, but did u notice the ones that tried to grapple for more! way to go, when life throws you lemons, make lemonades. Thanks Sissy!

Maybe you should tell us how ur brother-inlaw coped? did he faint or what? how is the baby and mom by the way? why did she wait till the baby had to come in the car(if it was in the car? .

Anyway, me I shall escape from any such scene because I know nada about deliveries. I cant even bear to watch it on TV sef.

Dirty old man, after making out with his gran daughter's agemate's mum, he switches to the young woman and gets her pregnant. Outrageous!

mutter:
well I certainly hope I don`t go having kids in my fifties
I now have 10 and that is more than a handfull

Hey no kidding! Shocked 10?!!! now that is what I call spectacular. Could you pls encourage some mothers-to-be here and let 'em know you are a real true to life case? here:

http://www.nigerianparentsforum.com/index.php/board,13.0.html

mutter:
well I certainly hope I don`t go having kids in my fifties
I now have 10 and that is more than a handfull

Hey no kidding! 10?!!! now that is what I call spectacular. Could you pls encourage some mothers-to-be here and let 'em know you are a real true to life case? here:

http://www.nigerianparentsforum.com/index.php/board,13.0.html

wow mutter, bet you are a real African woman! I have an uncle who is a year older than me.And my mom isnt my granny's 1st child o! my other cousins are alot older than my uncle. We just are fertile lot and I believe our diet and lifestyle has alot to do with it. Remember Abacha's wife had her last baby in her 50s too

Confilass:
Is the boy going to Cambridge?

My sister relax.
But as a parent, I would recommend this site www.childcarebay..com for more information about child reading habits, writing skills and lots more.

This is a wonderful site that ppl cares. Thx, after the 1st advise I was relax. When I read more it makes me laugh and smile the more. LUV U ALL

Glad to hear you found the rest of mind we all recommended. Parenting is a very important job and should be taken with all seriousness too. We must equip ourselves and not just rely on the default position of just flowing along with the tide. Study what it means to be a successful parent. The child will succeed us and whatever we plant in them, we reap in the future. What we write on them is indelible and so we cant afford to be careless with our 'scripting' on their little precious lives.

I checked out the forum www.nigerianparentsforum.com and it was really insightful too.

Take care.

[quote author=seasoned_mom link=topic=466428.msg6261154#msg6261154 date=1277205478]Way to go peacettw! just the correct attitude! they will all learn how to talk, walk and read eventually anyway and there is no record keeping of how early you did this or that at the end of the race so all this pressure and stress parents give themselves and transfer to their kids is so totally needless. Most important is if your kid is a normal and happy,healthy and well balanced one.

Current space ship builders watch out for burnt out syndrome o!lol [/quote]Indeed, there is the real issue of getting kids to do what they should do at the right time, push them before the right time and when they should really be studious, they balk because they have become bored with the whole thing. That explains why most of the 'overachievers' I have come across, child prodigies revert to childhood antics when they are supposed to be responsible.
Parents beware of this danger when trying to live up to the Joneses.

boy1:
^^ U got some sense. .submission is a good thing.

Yeah am sure you will agree with the submission idea. Suits you the guys well. Hope you also agree with the taking the lead and all responsibility part too?

[quote author=~Sissy~ link=topic=249630.msg6252737#msg6252737 date=1277088336]Lol. yes some parents do try but i'd say a high% dont even bother. you can imagine those who thinks teaching their kids their native language automatically means they will have 'accents' which they(parents) dont want however, for some reasons when this kids are grown the same parents will be looking for every tom and harry to teach their kids their language and their cultures and some will even be willing to pay

thats good!getting the best of both worlds. the most important imo, is the university edu

yes i would(?) buthavent gotten the last stamp on it though [/quote]I always wonder the Nigerians even back home here would not bother to teach their kids their indigenous languages? A carryover of colonial mentality I dare say? terrible but the way it stands now, we can hardly impart our cultural values without the vehicle;our local languages. Its shameful to say the least.

Its all about peer pressure even for us as parents, we tend to succumb to what others are saying abt their own kids but really we DO need to learn abt being parents. Pls see www.nigerianparentsforum.com for more info

Is the child old enough to speak out for himself if he is abused? I recently read in a related forum about the ill that befalls a child when parents separate and the kid lives away from either of the parents. Its appalling and to protect the interest of the child, when parents decide they can no longer live together, the welfare of the child should be mutually agreed upon by the parents before separating. This is better done before bitterness sets in and the kid is used as a weapon of punishment from one parent to another.

check out this abuse story in this link under 'Stories About Children From the World's Most Popular Media' in http://www.nigerianparentsforum.com
It is shocking and outrageous!

For goodness sake, he is NOT old enough to write yet not to talk of entering nursery 1, That explains why he is not willing to write yet, in most good schools, he is only qualified to be in play school where they are only encouraged to scribble IF they wish too with fat crayons because their age possess the psycho motor skills for only that.

Please dont stress the smart boy and confuse him. Let him write when he wants or is ready to.

Hi parents in the house, do you have any jokes or funny things narrated to you by your lovable kid of recent? I recognise that as they grow older and out of home, memories of their cute mannerism are all we have left. Make someone smile today as you share your jokes.

@naijababe, kpele o! I understand, had all the minuses of preggie too but still have 4. Its still a bit too early for you to make your mind about packing your maternity stuff for good. January pains definitely will still be too fresh to 4get but take heart in the fact some mothers CAN have it easy by choice yes by choice, I keep harping and sharing this story in this link to encourage mothers and mothers-to-be, go to the childbearing part:
http://www.nigerianparentsforum.com

Good contributions I must say.

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Especially if the mother gives enough time spacing to allow her surgery 'wound' or scar heal properly before taking in again.
@Obama01, you got that right! kudos to mothers! aint easy at all. We are special!

Captured, your story reminds me of one I read up in another forum by one very lucky mom. Check it out, she called it her \Miracle delivery\ The baby just popped out without any pain yep.

http://www.nigerianparentsforum.com

Am shocked that Nigerians think its funny and money grasping for the traumatized parents to sue for the careless actions of the hospital staff. This story had pictures of the scar on the poor baby. The scar alone is enough reason for the sue if am asked. To think that the writer finds the issue funny is appalling to say the least. Have we become so dead in our brains to know when we have been wronged and to seek redress?

http://www.nigerianparentsforum.com

Consultant, just coming into this thread and its splendid. Very real and candid. Also balanced. Was in stitches when I cam to the hubby reading your mind. Wise man!

Induced labour certainly is no piece of cake but it does make the birth faster and safer. 2 of my 4 deliveries were 'assisted' by hormonal induction. My 2nd delivery was virtually a whizz, practically PAIN-FREE yes I mean I delivered him without any pain, I did not 'labour' he just popped out 5 minutes after I arrived in the hospital.

Would love for you to share your in this link pls:http://www.nigerianparentsforum.com

@Ronelle,my first pregnancy good up until the last 3 months. i was just getting bigger and bigger, i could hardly move. drank about 8 bottles oh big Eva bottled water, use the toilet every 20 minutes etc. i was later diagnosed of gestational diabetes, was admitted for about 2 weeks and was on insulin Thur out. it was really hell. eventually had a c.s at 8 months and my baby weight 4.7kg.
i really hope the second wont be like that. My baby is now 7 months and she is the most adorable thing you have ever seen.
C.S is not as bad as people make it sound. i am thankful i had it cos i don't think i would be able to go Thur the stress of labour and all. yes there is pain after all but with strong pain killers, i was up and about by the next day.and as for the scar. its not even visible.

The were careless at the health place you were using because by 24 weeks they should have suspected gestational diabetes and made you take the glucose test. This could have prevented a CS.

Thank God for safe delivery anyway.

Check out this for more info on this topic:http://www.nigerianparentsforum.com

Hey you can have home birth jare AND without any pain killers too. Dont mind all these ayinbo talk of epidurals. How did our grannies do it? I have had 4 kids without epidurals and survived it well too. Though if its a 1st, you may need a stitch or 2 for the expected episiotomy. If you can have an attending midwife with you at home, go ahead and have your baby at home.

sorry but he still has some 3 or so years b4 he stops running to your bed between you and your wife hehehehe! smart kid(trying to stop any other person impeaching him from his kingship position of 'lastborn')

The best thing to do about tv monitoring is to provide them with enough interesting distractions like reading exciting stuff in good goods geared towards their age. I zap my kids with loads of great books and comics and they dont remember the cable tv is there.

Wish you the best!


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Hmm, to be on the safe side, I think you should follow Labella's advice. ADHD isnt so strange if you read about children and problems in behavior. It is unwise to just shrug it off that boys are boys and allow your son and all the people around him suffer needlessly. Attention Deficiency is a real problem and should be treated as malaria is treated.

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