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donlet:
Just wondering how much is required for one to have a good life in Nigeria.

Why most of our youths are migrating abroad is because of the unfair advantage of being paid more even doing odd jobs abroad.

So how much can one earn in Nigeria as a salary to be comfortable?

Also I know this might be location dependent.

As people living in lagos, porthacourt and Abuja might have more living expenses.

Also what are other ways to earn if the salaries of available jobs are not enough?

Let's share ideas

Veqtor:
Hahaha. Abeg na sarcasm I dey o.

lordally:
Thanks for the timely response. All you said won't be taken for granted. Secondly the part I said she takes little things people say to heart is for instance she couldn't go to church last week because all her clothes couldn't enter her cos she has added! So her dad drove off with others now she called me feeling bad that her dad would get home and start saying bad things to her about how she doesn't wants to go to church without trying To understand she that's it's because of the fact she has outgrown her recently sown clothes! Last last , the man came back and didn't even say anything!

More like she gets worried over little things. That's the only issue I've noticed she has.

Secondly, she's the Calm type and even if I cheat she wouldn't know cos she has this 100% trust that I don't cheat( I'm also 95% faithful ) so she doesn't go through my chats like, she has never done that .

Omo abeg I need to call you on the phone , it would be a one time call only it's a promise

bodybuilder:
It's not like everyone that went to football academy turned out to be a rich pro footballer, or went to acting school became a Hollywood star, or attended a fashion academy became the new Virgil Abloh. So, why do you think you must make it big because you attended university, thereby calling school 'scam'. For every Wizkid there are hundreds of thousands possibly millions of aspiring musicians that never turned millionaires through their music. For every Marcus Rashford there are millions of young footballers that won't make it pro. Y'all making look like you can have it easier in other fields. For me going to university is the easiest legal way to earn a living. You have better chances of being rich as engineer,doctor, etc. than a musician or footballer.

By the world need academics to solve real problems. The world needs engineering, medicine etc. No matter how rich you become through any other field, we need engineers to build roads, bridges, airplanes, electronics. etc.
We need chemists, physicists, etc.

I can bodly tell you that there are more wealthy engineers than musicians in Nigeria.

The country my brother, na the country dey cause this mentality so. Too many graduate out there with no or little job. Even the ones wey still struggle learn skill acquisition are not likely having it green because of little or no capital to establish something. The ones wey manage start up something their business is struggling to the core because of harsh economy. The ones wey come manage start well government one use wicked tax finish them and cost of running the business is challenging. So your reason am

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Veqtor:
DSS and bubu have big hairy balloons.
They should not release the Israelis.

Nigeria will teach Israel a lesson for supporting ipob with their filmmaking.

Afterall bubu jus acquired 6 tucano fighter jets. In honor of his Palestine Muslim brothers, He will treat Israel in the language they understand...

lordally:
Please educate me!! What are the necessary things to make a marriage work?

I'm asking this question because you said for 4 years you dated your wife she never showed any anger issues while people say we would always see red flags during courtship!

I have a Girl I've been dating for 4yrs now! We do have little misunderstandings once in a while and settle. The thing for now about her I don't like is that she lets little things get to her. For instance you would run to my girl now and complain of how hunger wants to kill you and this my girl fit carry all her money give you! Now since she's always the business type and at the same time waiting for Nysc she spends most of her time making research about possible businesses she can do then one day her brother came in and told her she's always wasting her time every now and then. Next thing she called me feeling bad telling me what the younger brother said soni just have to constantly tell her that whatever anybody does in life there are people who would always talk! The issue now is could there be any other bad side she might have that might spring up after marriage?? Omo I don dey fear this marriage thing!

PLEASE I NEED YOIR ANSWERS!! I DONT MIND CALLING YOU ON PHONE! I have always craved for a successful marriage all my life. I grew up in a loving home where my mum and dad lived a happy life then my mum died and my dad had to remarry Omo my step mum is an amazing woman and supportive but she has anger issues!! And that character almost broke the marriage. Well they've been married since 2005 and I must say my dad patience has been the reason they're still married although truthfully she has reduced her madness but I don't wanna go into that kind of marriage!

akinade28:
I totally agree with you

TOTOnigga:
Hello guys.... I don't just know.. Is it just me or is there anything I don't understand......my parents are rich people especially my dad, I know that for sure... someone paying #950,000 naira per year as school fees for me aside other expenses, plus multiple houses and lands I can't even keep count of....

How come they are this stingy? There is no time I would ask them for money for my own personal well being or any of my personal needs that they would like to assist me. I once ask mum for #12,000 naira just to buy a fairly used android phone (when I know they can even afford me an iPhone x) but she told me I should wait till months end before she gives me saying there is no money on ground... it's five months now and still nothing (not waiting for it though)...

Then I ask my dad, he told me I don't need an android phone... telling me that phone makes people unserious and other types of bulls*it( a 19 year old student for that matter)

Any expenses that is not book or academic related is not important...my parents would rather buy clothes for me than give me money to buy clothes... sometimes I end up not wearing some of them..

The funniest part is that, anytime I take any urgent lie(Asin scam) about any payment in school...they wouldn't Waits a second to send it to me... This has got me telling all sorts of lies just to get what I know can be gotten honestly.. It has even gotten to the point that any money that enters my hand now, I use it to play sports betting to see if I can get enough money for what I need, but I end up loosing the money...I am just frustrated.. someone time I wish I didn't even have rich parents cos what's the point...

akinade28:
I get you now. But people believe so called "Love" should encompass all the things you listed. I mean if you love someone one you should respect them, give them peace of mind, be understanding etc. Except when you mentioned love earlier you meant "emotional feelings" or "butterflies in the stomach" or "infatuation"

akinade28:
So what other things will make marriage work? If love, sex and money isn't enough. I really wish to know, reading stories like this makes marriage scary for me oo

crossfire47:
its a good thing you found a temporary solution to her madness. my late aunt used to advise us then that the best way to handle a woman when they get nasty is just to walk out of the house and go cool off outside. but there are some that have evolved and now go the extra mile to either cease your car keys or prevent you from leaving the house when they start their wahala, only very few men can tolerate this.

pansophist:
Does she acknowledges her anger issues and seeking the work on it? If yes, then there is hope.

UDUJ:
Lol

I have a colleague that did the exact same thing. He left his house he built with millions of naira to go stay in a short let apartment at Lekki- for peace of mind. He left the wife and kids in the house and makes sure they lack nothing financially.

Him leaving the house was better to avoid him committing murder or something of the sort. The dudes work output in the office fell drastically, he was emaciated and seriously depressed before making that decision. Now she is begging him to come back to the house

I value my peace of mind over anything.

pansophist:
Reflect on this. There are women out there that will push you beyond your integrity to release the monster chained inside of you before she can submit to you, this set of women are usually the street types, that have seen so many weak men that when they come across a strong man, they doubt and assume he is faking strength.

If it ever comes to this, understand that letting her go is far better than making her a victim of your ferocity. You don't win a battle to lose the main war. What's the point of making a damaged woman respect you manually when you can get a good one that will do it automatically? You can't change her. From the street she cometh, and whence, she shall return.

Pecoleee345:
Why does the society see men hitting women as bad thing but women cursing and abusive as normal.

A woman who curses and abuses you will still have the nerve to ask you for money.

Am not a perfect man..... I have my flaws but I am careful with words because I know what bad words can do to people.

Should a man be forced to stay with a woman who curses, abuses and threatens to get him arrested if he touch her despite you have never lay a finger on her in 3yrs of marriage.

People are telling me she is doing it due to anger that she doesn't mean it......am told to avoid making her angry and is that possible.
She gets me angry most times but I just leave the house and go cool off...
I have tried to teach her the act of keeping quiet in moment of anger but she never learns

She is permitted to rain curses and abuses on me because she is a woman and am expected not to react because that's how most women behave.

At this junction have made up my mind to divorce her.....I never wished for this but I can't take this ...... many people see this character of most women as normal (am told there power is in the mouth) but I can't.

Lastly men please avoid women raised by single mother they come with venom and naturally demage psychological...they will take revenge on you for their father's sins.

pansophist:
If you will be honest with yourself, you will admit that you are responsible for the situation that you are in. There is possibly no way she didn't show these behaviours before marriage, but you ignored and ringed her fingers. So why the shock? Marrying her was you implicitly acknowledging that her behaviours were acceptable. But there is a solution, and it is to divorce her. It is even easier since you do not have a child together.

Women from an existential perspective are weaker vessels, and the characteristic of the weak is exploitation, which she is doing perfectly well. Tolerating, ignoring, and leaving the house, etc won't make her stop her disgusting behaviours, instead, she would double up to determine the extent of the abuse she can get away with, while assured that you will tolerate it from her. It also seems that she does not have any fear of losing you, which is a problem in itself. For example, my spouse may decide that she would torment my life henceforth, but she knows I won't accept it, and that would instantly end our relationship. The fear of losing me is enough deterrent to keep her in check. And for a woman to fear losing you, she needs to see the value you hold.

The battle is usually won before the war, and if you lay your mat right, you won't be passing through these problems at all, since it's a foundational problem by nature. You know your situation better, so go and iron it out. You need to look at things honestly and be sure you want real changes. If there are any bad behaviours that you do to her, and you know to be genuinely wrong, stop it. You can not point fingers at her, while immune yourself from your wrong deeds. And do not relent in those qualities that made you attractive to her, that is what will bring respect, keep her in check, and makes you infinitely attractive. Stay strong.

Lamanii22:
Wow! Imagine spending millions of naira to escape Nigeria then flood now swept you away lol....

Jones4190:
This is the type of people Mandela die for.

Odewaleadesoye:
And there is a certain president that his sickness is unknown from day 1 and which usually run to abroad for check-up not even treatment.

Well, I don't know his name I would have mentioned it.

hisgrace090:
Your type is mostly needed in todays nigeria.

hisgrace090:
Black will remain black!