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Maybe death observed half-time in her family...she should beware of 2019-2023

This is one of the reasons why one should do proper investigations before marrying anyone...Imagine an unfortunate fellow marrying into this family and unwittingly sharing and making his kids share in their death harvest

Marriage isn't all about fine face, big bumbum, riches and cute wedding pics...make sure you don't marry into a family whose generational curses will negatively affect you and your kids....it's perfectly allright if the family has a generational curse of extreme wealth like the Dangote Family tho .... That kind of Generational curse is manageable

I once had this girlfriend who was always going for family burials.....like every 3 months at most....i didn't need any prophet to tell me to run away from her as fast as my legs could carry me....Girl died last year


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When you get into a relationship, you should have it at the back of your mind that there will always be ups and downs from time to time especially after the ‘honeymoon’ phase is over, that is when you will begin to see things clearly and you will be more realistic about the relationship. A relationship is not always going to be rosy. No matter how sweet or smooth your relationship is, there will be times when things may not be so smooth. Most relationships go through rough phases especially long relationships, because you have been with this person for a long time and the sparks in the relationship will no longer be there. This does not mean that the relationship has to end or that your partner does not love you any more or that they want to leave you for someone else. It is a phase that every relationship goes through and you need to take action so that it does not lead to the end of the relationship.

ACCEPT IT: First of all, you have to accept the fact that this phase is inevitable. The phase when you guys are not just feeling the relationship and it looks likes there is no more love and it is going to come to an end. Just accept the fact that every relationship goes through this phase and if you leave your partner because of this, it will happen in your next relationship. You would not want to be jumping from one person to another, so when you experience this phase, try to make things better instead of leaving.

2. Remember the Beginning

You have to cast your mind back to the beginning. Remember the little things about your partner that you love, remember the honeymoon phase and why you even got into the relationship in the first place. Think of why you chose to be with them out of all the other people, the things that they did that touched your heart and made you fall in love with them. How they were the only ones who understood you and saw you differently, how amazing they were, how loving, caring, romantic they were etc. Think of these things and look at them through those eyes. Check old pictures and remember how happy you guys were in the beginning. Remember that the person who was so amazing is still inside of them and you just need to remind them of it. It is when you think about these things that you will realize how crazily in love you guys were and that there is still hope for your relationship and that you guys can get through the difficult times.

3. Talk to Each Other

When a relationship has lost its spark, it starts with communication. You stopped talking to your partner about the little things like how your day went, what happened in the office, something funny that happened on your way from work etc. The conversations do not need to be serious. Just talk over dinner, on the phone, just talk. The way you were unconsciously eager to tell your partner about every little thing that happened to you before, bring it back by being conscious about it.

You do not have to see the need to or see a reason to talk to them. Call them up to check up on them, talk about the little things, the big things, just talk. Even if your partner has stopped telling you everything, they will notice that you are talking as often as you can and it will make them start talking to you too. It may be consciously at first, but with time it will go back to being effortless.

4.Go on Romantic Dates with your Partner

Treat your partner to romantic dates. Take them to a nice restaurant, it may not feel like it will have much effect on your relationship but if it is something you guys have not done in a long time, it will help your partner to see things differently for a change. And if you are not financially okay for that, you do not have to spend so much money to have a romantic date with your partner; you could cook, get wine and just do something romantic in the house for them. Imagine your partner coming from work and meeting this unexpected nice gesture, it will definitely touch them especially because of the timing, because things have not been so good between you guys, the gesture will be more appreciated.

Apart from the dates, spend quality time with your partner; find time out of your busy job or school schedule to spend a lot of time with your partner. Spending time with your partner will go a long way because it can help to fill the gap, you guys will realize how different things are now and it will make you guys want to fix things.

5. Be the Change You are Expecting

When you are worried about the state of your relationship, take the action. If you desperately want your partner to change, how about you also change instead of waiting for them to change. This is what kills many relationships. People will wait for their partners to take the step and change before they change. You do not need to wait forfor your partner to take the step, you could also take the step and when they notice, they will definitely meet you halfway. It will also show how much you want the relationship.

6. Don’t lose hope

This is like the most difficult aspect. It is really not easy holding on to someone who does not recognize and appreciate your efforts. If after trying all these things and your partner does not acknowledge them or they do not try to change too, do not lose hope, give your partner time to come around. It can be frustrating because you will feel like your efforts are wasted but do not lose hope.

But if after a while it does not look like they are still interested in the relationship, talk to them about it and consider moving on. A relationship is mutual and if the other person does not want to be in it anymore, you have to find a way to let go. You deserve to be with someone who wants to be with you as well and not someone that is managing you, so reach a mutual conclusion and move on if need be.


https://www.healthlifestylehub.com/effective-ways-handling-crisis-relationship/


Lalasticlala
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Oesophagus cancer is now the leading killer in Kenya, overtaking cervix, breast, stomach and prostate cancers, according to recent data from World Health Organisation.

This was attributed to late diagnosis, with experts saying most of the cases are normally diagnosed in their late stages. Food pipe cancer could also be linked to volcanic soils, alcohol and tobacco chewing or smoking.

According to the data, there will be 33, 978 cancer deaths in Kenya by the end of this year.

The data released on Tuesday by Dr Anne, head of the National Cancer Control Programme, revealed that in 2018, there were 4,351 deaths resulting from oesophagus cancer, accounting for 13.5 per cent.

This was followed by cervix uteri cancer at 3,286 (10 per cent), breast cancer came third at 2,553 (7.7 per cent), stomach (2,068), prostrate (1,663), colorectum (1,463) and liver cancer (1,331) in 2018.

Oesophagus and stomach cancer patients have trouble swallowing, experience upper stomach pain, heartburns, bloating and fast loss of weight.

Last year, breast cancer was leading followed by cervical, prostrate and oesophagus cancer.

However, in Africa cancer of the cervix uteri is the leading killer, with 81,687 deaths reported in 2018, followed by breast cancer (74,072).

Liver cancer came third at 63,562 with prostate cancer in fourth position with about 43,298 deaths. There were no deaths recorded from oesophagus cancer in Africa.

The International Agency for Research on cancer, 2018 data shows that the disease will claim 18,772 women compared with 14,215 men yearly.

The research also estimated that there will be 47,887 new cancer cases in all cancer types, in both sexes and all ages by the end of 2018.

Women also lead in new cancer cases, with 28,688 getting the disease and breast cancer leading at 5,985, followed by cervix uteri at 5,250 new cases compared to 19,199 men, representing 56 per cent of the total new cases.

In men, prostate cancer came first, recording 2,864 new cases followed by oesophagus cancer at 2,384; colorectum came third with 1,134 cases.

In children aged between zero and 19 years, leukaemia is leading at 16 per cent, followed by lymphoma at 15 per cent, kidney 6.4 per cent ad others at 44 per cent

The two main types of esophagus cancer are adenocarcinoma and squamous cell carcinoma.

Risk factors for both types include age 65 or older, male sex, smoking, excessive alcohol use, a diet poor in fruits and vegetables, obesity, and acid reflux (GERD) with associated transition to Barrett's esophagus.

Common symptoms of esophageal cancer include difficulty swallowing with food getting stuck, chest and/or back pain, heartburn, weight loss, persistent cough, hoarseness, weakness, and bleeding.

Diagnosis is made by endoscopy (esophagoscopy), and tissue biopsy, the definitive test where the presence of cancer cells is confirmed by a pathologist using a microscope.

There are five stages of esophageal cancer (stages 0 to IV), with 0 being the least invasive and IV the most aggressive with spread to distant organs.

Cancer treatment is individually based on the patient's health and cancer stage; the options vary from surgery, chemotherapy, radiation, or a combination of these options.

Surgery for this cancer may involve removal (resection) of all or part of the esophagus or other structures (part of the stomach, lymph nodes, or other parts of affected organs may be removed).

Radiation therapy uses high-energy rays focused to kill cancer cells; it is often used together with chemotherapy.
Chemotherapy uses drugs to destroy cancer cells; it is often used together with radiation and/or surgery and often requires cycles or repeated doses of drugs.
Radiation therapy and chemotherapy are used to shrink the tumor and usually occur before surgery.

Side effects of treatment for esophageal cancer may occur. Supportive care may be required to control pain, manage infections such as pneumonia, minimize difficulty in swallowing, control nausea, and vomiting, and minimize weight loss and malnutrition. Depression and grief are commonly seen in cancer patients.

After surgery, patients may require help with nutrition, including vitamin and mineral supplementation. A feeding tube may be necessary, especially if the esophagus is completely removed or if there is significant residual scarring and narrowing after surgery.


https://www.healthlifestylehub.com/cancer-food-pipe-now-leading-killer-kenya-overtaking-breast-lung-stomach-cancers/


Lalasticlala
Mynd44
OAM4J

Congrats sis

May God continue to protect us all

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Many people are caught up in the web of choosing between their family and their lovers. They tend to hang on both parties which unknowingly might not favour one of the parties. Your partner or spouse is very important, so also are your blood relatives. You basically spend more than half of your life time with your spouse but you cannot disregard those who gave birth to you, gave you the foundation of life and through which you got socialized. You would not have the love of your life if not for your mother. At the same time, it is your family members that will push you out to survive, have a partner and they are the one to bestow marital blessings unto you. When married, your partner will assume the responsibilities of your parents and relatives.

Both parties are equally important. Equal respect, obedience, attention and audience should be given to them. As an adult, you should know when to draw the line between the relationships and in cases of interference. The holy books command us to obey and respect our parents and at the same time to love, cherish and respect our spouse. This depicts that the Holy Book has laid down the principle of equality between the family and partners.

The first issue that always brings confusion in handling the relationship between parents and partners is in the aspect of partner selection. Some parents can so much dictate, interfere and influence in the choice of their child’s life partner. They give rules as to who they want as in-laws. They tell their child the tribe, educational level, religion and social status they want him/her to marry. These parents kick against marriage plans if a child acts against their wish. Some even go to the extent of arranging spouses for their children so as to strengthen friendship and business bonds. Wisdom and caution should be applied in such cases like this.

You should not ALWAYS accept nor reject your parents’ opinion, especially in the choice of future partner. Do not be forced into marrying someone you cannot be happy with or someone you cannot guarantee a bright future with. Parents can be right some times because they have the experience of which we do not have. If your parent kicks against your partner and they give you cogent and reasonable reasons for their actions, you should try and reason with them to an extent. If you are not loved by your potential in-laws, find your way into their hearts by going through their child, which is your partner. Their love can also be bought with prayers. Do not be stingy to your future in-laws. If you think bribing them will open ways for you, go ahead with it. If you find it hard to make them love you or if they are very adamant in their decision against your union despite the steps taken, it is advisable to leave the child because things will not be easy as they may frustrate you and make you regret the relationship. There must be mutual love between you and your in-laws because they serve as the bridge between you and your partner in the relationship. They settle disputes and you can make your partner do what you want through them.

Problems can arise when mothers or in-laws are living in the same house with you. It is advisable to not allow any family members (except in cases of children given birth to in or outside the relationship) live with you for the first few months or years of your marriage. Allowing parents and relatives to move in with you at the early stage of your marriage can be unhealthy for your relationship. This is because the early stage of marriage is known to be turbulent period where patience, love and perseverance are being tested. It is a time to know each other and to cope with various differences. Having a relative around can make the problems bigger. Wrong advice can be given to both partners these can make the marriage crumble if care is not taken.

In situations where you cannot avoid housing a relative member, a balance should be made. Equal attention and care should be given to everybody in the house. Do not allow your mothers to enter the kitchen if your wife is hale and healthy. Do not [/b]make your relatives your confidant when your partner is there for you. The wife should make her in-laws visits memorable and at the same time short. Am not saying you should drive them out with actions or with your words. But, make sure they do not stay for a long period of time if there is no need to do so. Let there be a gap for the sake of mutual respect. Master bedroom should not be turned to visitor’s room where people go in and out. There should be privacy in the house. All these should be discussed and agreement to terms should be made before marriage.

[b]Present your spouse well in the presence of your family members. On the other hand, respect your parents and other relatives in the presence of your spouse. If you are rude to your partner, other people will do more to them and vice versa. Do not report discouraging words to both your partner and relatives. Settle any form of strain or disagreement and find a way, by all means to encourage consensus. Stand up for your spouse always and when you are with your parents. Let them know his or her worth. Do not allow your siblings or young relatives treat your partner anyhow and vice versa. Let there be a smooth relationship and create a family-like relationship between both parties.

Do not run to your family when you have issues you can handle. Avoid making reportsof how you do things or run the affairs in the house. Try not to tell them the gifts you buy for your partner or how you handle your finances. When you have a running mouth or when you keep telling your family members every detail, they might want to poison your mind or make you leave the marriage, especially if they never for once liked your partner. Do your things in private. They do not need to know many things.

Appreciate your parents and family members. Do not abandon your parents because you are married. You and your partner should always reach out to your family members with cash, gifts and words of encouragement. Frequent visitation should be made to your family house with and without your kids. Let them know you love them the way you do love your partner.

If you find yourself dating a momma’s boy or girl, tell them what you want and what they should drop for things should work out in the relationship. Things should not be left unsaid till the future. Respect their parents and do not be rude to those they cherish.


Source: https://www.healthlifestylehub.com/steps-striking-balance-spouse-relatives/

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