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Op... I hope u see this..
The girl likes u that's why she tells u... As a man it's expected u are or should be smarter and more matured than her... So if she saying this you ask her the reasons her brother isn't down with it... And seek to be close to the her brother and figure what it can be ....
Bt if go no go.... Turn back o... Family is important in marriage

See op, this ur situation is very scary...
My advice is this leave him... My reason is
- U have spoken to him bt he gives u some space and he request it again, when he marries u, he wouldn't care ur boundaries would not be respected he would have owned u after-all he is now legally married ...that exactly is the most difficult time to leave...

Op, u are trying ur best please don't relent, just do ur best and leave the rest, ur parents life is in God's hands not your elder sister's .... If not talking to her will make u sane, please take that step and give her space Nigeria is hard enough, ( I will only advice don't cut her off)
I wonder why pple keep saying it might be difficult for her over there.... I don't think the OP is mad ... If there is any chance it's difficult for her there this OP with what he said will know or else she should communicate it. .. Nobody will kill her .... In 2021 I was borrowing a friend in Germany 250k for three fu*king months to add to whatever the siblings raised for their dads chemotherapy in Lagos.... He didn't have it he was still a student ... Bt that's sacrifice....
Then again OP u can judge also by her attitude before she left the country there are some sibling who don't give a hoot about their parents or mayb she has be frugal all along then this wouldn't surprise u.....

Hello stargaul20, I hope u get to read this, I will say u are smart and wise to already anticipate what can come next when u are finally done with school from ur parents and environment, people usually underestimate these things, hence when the reality comes on them they crumble under pressure. So its a wise out look for urself.
To be honest with u leaving home isn't the best especially for a lady in this Nigeria of today except if u are properly employed. Emphasis on 'properly', I don't mean any job that would just keep body and soul together, it's harder to maintain ur self as a woman when compared to men.
So I would advice this, begin to prepare urself for what u would want to do after NYSC, furthering education, learning a skill or getting a certification that can aid in becoming gainfully employed or self sufficient... The pressure from them would most likely come bt if u have sth u are really occupied with it would be easy to deflect u would also work on building a thick skin for it....
I like ur outlook for a man u seem more keen on the personality of the person than material possession the man might posses,I would say I hope u also understand u have to position ur self too for u to meet such man...I pray God grants u ur heart desires.

I don't understand why pple are criticizing you, if pple don't speak out they all complain, when pple speak out, the person spoken to becomes the judged one.
Sir, i guess she is a decent lady and feels u are decent enough for her to spill her frustration to you probably also for advice.
Be careful not to swing so much to her side so that she doesn't begin to despise her husband and think other marriages are issues free. I think the husband is incentive but dialogue is the only way I know, let her keep discussing it with him, he might not change in one day but surely with time and if situation doesn't change then she will then think of another way but with her heads high knowing she has tried.
I am always of the opinion of helping pple when they ask if it's possible for you. I will only say thread carefully so that u don't get emotionally entangled. Women always look for where its easy to rest on emotionally (that's usually where it starts from) don't carry another man's own problem.

Bro.. I hope u get to read this, ur situation is terrible and I pity u the more cos u clearly are now learning from ur mistakes but unfortunately u have dug too dip into this kind of life, and there would be no easy way out that's if u ever make it out (and I mean no punt)...
First things first what u are going thru is ripping the fruits u planted in ur earlier years I always tell pple, if by ur 18th year birthday u don't know ur basic left from right u will mostly be doomed clearly u didn't and this is the result. There is nothing much u can do now than to man up and face life head on... Once there is a will there is a way.
Your 13 year old daughter stop beating her, she clearly has started towing ur line, u need to keep talking to her ...I mean keep talking don't ever stop (if she does good encourage her if it's not good encourage and talk to her) next is to make her learn a handwork so should Incase she engages in a rubbish life afterwards she has sth to survive on when she realizes herself. Do these for any of your children who have attained the age of learning a trade....

As for u, there is one thing u have to do tie ur d*CK for the foreseeable future don't add unnecessary pressure to ur family and sef again till u have less pressure from ur family or more sources of income, u are still a young man...

As for ur latest wife get her to learn a trade or become resourceful so she can add some income into ur family that way ur burden will ease up a bit ....
These things wouldn't be easy I tell u bro bt u have to try to do it
Also note there would be days of frustration days ur children would insult u, u have to take them in stride (cos u brought it on ur self) and keep going.

Bro I beg with God, please don't quit your job.... This same pple will eat u up when this job isn't there, I was in your shoes last year....guess what, I lost both the job and the girl I haven't recovered till this very moment.
She is still only your girlfriend and I must say u are very lucky she is voicing out... Meaning she is communicating. A lot these ladies don't and they would Bleep u over.
If u really want to marry her, u need truly to figure a plan and share it with her and ur mum please and please don't manage words but find a way to communicate it so they understand clearly especially ur gf. You see the thing with many of the our jobless babes is they don't know how tough it is out there ....they know nothing.
Ones again its good she is voicing out, make a plan and share with them on how u want to move career.
Don't worry, it's going to work out.

I really like ur approach to handling him, I mean not wasting ur energy advising him till he sort for it himself (atleast appeared to have sort for it).
As for your question i firmly blv, u would get the clue of what u can advice him to do from him, my point is this different things work for different pple, he has to align with his passion and especially since he is coming for a very bad place ( I mean state of mind and all) what will keep him off the streets would be what interests him, if not he would get bored and quit again
So I would say interact with him more and see what catches his fancy from there u would get a clue what he can do.

Good evening MOG, my mom had a dream recently, where she was heading to our church and on approaching the church she met a particular parishioner who told her hurriedly " madam please do u still have Turkeys for sale don't sell them yet, they would increase in price very soon to which my mom replied someone was about to buy bt she doesn't know if her children had sold it, so she hurried back home immediately with even entering the church and on getting home she was relieved that we the children had not sold them and she woke u.... NB : my mom doesn't even deal in turkey nor has she sold turkey before..


Please what can this dream mean

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try uk... I can add u to a nairaland group where u can get direct information on how you can do UK STUDY ROUTE on your own (MSC).... Most of the guys there did it themselves.. I backed down cos i dont have enough

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aremso:
Anyway, it depends on how you looked at it the same stock market where i loose my first million an hard earned money for that matter also made me millions i used for TB and will make me my first $ 1m with patience i grow the money yearly. I went back to my drawing board do my own serious research and reading then change my investment strategy and also i dont allow broker to tell me stock to buy again i trade online myself so am in control of my portfolio. i have tabulated my target on an excel in my laptop and this guide my investment objective and the strategies i can use to achieve my target. there is still plenty of monies to be made in the economy and the most important thing for me is that the money must be working for me from january to december. I love risk taking and i will never leave stock exchange no matter the mago mago they do there. Know your entry period and exit time very important.

Bro please be my mentor....
I want to understand that stock exchange thing!!

Hello people, Plss I need serious advice before get my self hooked...who has heard of "custodian life assurance" an insurance company I suppose, they are offering what they called "LIFE TIME HARVEST" one of their many they offers but the above(bolded) was what was introduced to me, which I av to pay a premium amount for 9 years minimum and will b getting 2% interest of the total sum assured after every three years....
My issues are the duration is too long plus I barely know the company though av done some research abt them bt still not satisfied. This promo was advertised to me by one of their agents through a friend.. I haven't seen any serious advert from them anywhere...
Plss experience heads I need ur advice.

MizyB:
The bank I use or just any bank?

Madam, I suppose u av read some pages of this thread, if u av u would av read the most commonly mentioned ones here... Am sure they are commonly mentioned around here cos it's reliable.... Bt don't just go and put ur money TAKE TIME and understand what u are going into.........Good luck!!!

I really feel for this guy ,,he is still hurting inside ,,and the worst past the so called lady might just be leaving her life as happy as ever,,na wa to dey drink Panadol untop another person headache let her be...

Kia ,, see face like white baboon

HarunaWest:
N*gga your a blaady fool....she isn't married to yah she doesn't owe you any loyalty..she has a right to sleep about,if you decided not to,ain't her fault.....I hate when some guys come here to say a girlfriend cheated on them, like they were married to her,...mtscheeeeeew

Lool, badt guy.... I like Ur unique response
It's true he stop that cry shit.....and face his reality

If I were him , I will forgive the girl then decide wat to do with her, after I must have asked her what she really wants with me

IgboSubmarine:
Keep making stupid warnings until it snowballs into something else

When Buhari made hate speech against Jonathan, did we kill Hausa Fulani people.? No


When Buhari threatened the peace of Nigeria during Jonathan's presidency, did we kill Hausa Fulani people.? No


When Buhari divided the country into 97% and 5% did we kill Hausa Fulani people .? No



When Buhari said baboon and dogs will be soaked in blood, did we kill Hausa Fulani people.? No


When Fulani herdsmen killed our people in their farms, did we launch an all out killing of Hausa Fulani people.? No


When Buhari favoured you guys in appointments & infrastructures, did we kill Hausa Fulani people.? No



Let me tell you Buhari's supporters the truth
Buhari has placed this country on the path of war


Any further denial of Igbo rights to federal appointments and infrastructures, will only make the brilliant Igbos who are yet to massively give their brains to IPOB, join Kanu


Now the intelligent Igbos will join the struggle and ensure that the injustice against the Igbos come to an end



Remember the German Scientists of the 3rd Reich were products of Anti German policies of post first world war.



Go and pray that God settles this matter because if God don't calm the Biafrans, the end won't be palatable.



From today, the hatred in the hearts of the Biafrans against Hausa Fulani people will keep rising.



You know that hatred leads to ethnic riots.



Ethnic riots filled with intense hatred leads to ingenious war products for mass killings.



Buhari has ignited an ethno-religious war


Buhari the brainless fool has set Nigeria on fire



@ dayo2me keep deceiving yourself

Abeggi Go rest!!!, While some of the things u av said is true, why don't dose same wise brains join politics and fight for the east
Was there war Wen awolowo used his influence to bring education to the west?
And naw that the northerner at in power, was it by war or causing trouble the achieved it?
My brother if u Pple want anything plan Ur ways wisely u will surely get it...... Bt unfortunately d truth is that Ur own Ause cannot even stand together!!!!

Hmmmm... Front page plss

Well, am not Suprised.. it happens in every sector of our economy in Nigeria, every body wants more, fuel attendants, mechanics, drivers, even in civil service Pple inflate price of projects just for there personal gain...den when u challenge d situation dey see u as being too stingy to part with ur token or too holy to let tins slide... In truth dis past year I av learnt from my work place dat nobody survives on dere basic salary bt from all dese fraudulent acts...av seen Pple resign jst becos dere is no form of "chua chua" (as they call it) in dere wrk place... Dis is exactly d corruption we ar fighting in Nigeria.....tell me how dese Pple won't b worse in public office!!!

I pity d coming generation!!!

I seriously dont kno wat form of advice u need again.....its glaring already// bt I think luv is making ur reasoning to fade away.....


Naw seriously.... gerrout of dat bondage u call relationship, that lady is not ready for wat u ar preparing toward

And I pray u find a better meat before she comes bac as a carcass to press ur mumu botton again

God b with u

Its not only in warri , its a common sight naw to see women doing these jobs.... I feel its an honest way of living// its beta dan begging and aristo-ing....... baba God bless our huzzle

Na wah o.... // naija ppl deciving demselves since BC

She should av just said she was a prostitute before // and cut d long story short ..

My inner mind says dis is fabu....

OohMpa:
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plss how do u dress bac there as a teacher....

coolxpat:
U can laminate the edges without sticking the paper. U can remove or change the laminating film anytime if u don't need it.

Is it possible to remove it after wen its fully laminated

All dis rapists sef....// upon d cheapness of prostitutes, na wah o

Seriously there should b stiffer punishment for all dis pple ...

Worwor. looking for cheap popularity

If trully she is a virgin and she knows u are...... I think its sth worth talking out her, I mean the both of u

As for those ur friends all I will tell u is be careful with dem

Ethereal0110:
I think thers more 2 dis story....

Yea there are still dome tins u ain't saying, he wouldnt jst do dat out of the blues

efficiencie:
Oh yes, we should probably say: God is only concerned about the heart... why not wear bikini to church and shout a loud halleluyah!

Funny Christians! First they admonish people to [b] read and apply the scriptures next they tell you some parts of scripture can be overruled and that disobeying them doesn't make you unholy

1Corinthians 11:5-6,10

But every woman that prayeth or prophesieth with her head uncovered dishonoureth her head: for that is even all one as if she were shaven. For if the woman be not covered, let her also be shorn: but if it be a shame for a woman to be shorn or shaven, let her be covered... For this cause ought the woman to have power on her head because of the angels.

Abi dis wan no be bible too...dem go begin argue am now!

Broda...... ur head is dere
@irene.. i dont think u need an advice wat u will do is already in u.......how do i kno? By ur comments
I blv dis bro jst spoke right

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Am so so dumbfounded out being overjoyed wen i found dis thread (jst today)..... I have already ran tru it and it made so much sense // am a graduate of geology, finished wit a second class lower.... I want to kno if it's possible to still get a job related to dis career..... need ur advise plss

Once again thnk you for dis thread