fubbyy: This thread is for people who have felt this way before

Have you ever felt that you are becoming useless?

*Done everything that you could but nothing happened

*you know that you are intelligent and smart but couldn't use it to achieve anything

*all your life you have never made 1 naira while you struggle more than people who make millions

*people run to you, you write job application letter for them and they came back rejoicing that they got the job while you have written over 100 of your own but nothing happened

*you prayed and fasted nothing happened

*you entered 3 days dry fasting, the day you finished it,police came and arrested you with one allegation of theft

*you trek up and down the town wishing something will happen but came back with nothing

*the only person who thought that the storm will be over someday and encourages you never to give up, died on your arms

*your family thinks you are liability




Have you ever felt useless? If yes what did you do?

OP I have been there before. Its just a phase . It will pass. Cheer up.

ihedinobi2: So there's this thing I'd like us to discuss. It may seem a little bit frivolous but it's a major paradigm considering that it affects the very foundation of human society - marriage itself.

At a meeting I attended last Sunday, I heard it described for the first time as closeting. That's another word for the perhaps more popular friendzoning.

Among us Christians, we do have a phenomenon that corresponds to the friendzoning thing. Back in the uni in those fellowship days, you'd find people pairing off in such a way that you assumed that there was something romantic in it. Sometimes there was, sometimes there wasn't. Whichever the case was, it resulted in any other potential mate deciding to keep their distance because, well, the brother or sister was considered taken which sometimes was not the case at all. This is often costly for some people. And perhaps sometimes a savior?

What do we think about it? How should relationship across genders be for us Christians? What do you think the Bible says about it? Is this one of those things that the Bible says nothing on?

How did it become costly for some people?

As long as either parties have not declared or expressed romantic interest, treat all with brotherly love and respect.

woky: hello Maryini

Hi woky

This thread is so funny

Money problems are not peculiar to our menfolk only.
Women generally would prefer their partners earn more than they do. Most of my female friends broke off their relationships when they found out they earn more than their partners.

Nomski0:

Whoa! . That's so COOL What do you do?

I hope to make mine at 24.....if things go as planned.

You can make it dear! #Hugs

I am a project engineer in an oil & gas company.

breezy047:


Was "the man" a naija politician?

What is this world turning into that a female cannot make a million naira without being called a prostitute.

Made my first 1 mil and over with my salary this year. Girl Power!

justwise:

Is the trip job related or part of your company's program?

its for my graduation.

but the people i am inviting do not have visas or money in their accounts and would b sponsored by my dad's company

hello people,

Is it possible to get a vistor's visa when ur trip is to be sponsored by a company?

Also pls can anyone help me with a draft of what a letter of sponsorship from a company should look like? specifically showing reasons why the company's fund should be spent on a private trip...

thanks in advance

@OP, You have spoken the REAL truth.

1000000 likes.

@OP, Never lower your standards for any one. As regards your comment on Nigerian men, I have noticed all of the things you have complained about 100%.

But I can confidently say that there are some who are exceptions and to meet your ideal guy you'll need to search real hard and pray.

Nice writing style.

I am a fan of Jenny and the cabal too. At some point it became stalkerish

Vikin:

In terms of the job, if you are out in the field, dress smart. If given a technical task, don't try and look for the guys to help you do it etc

lol...who does that?

Vikin:

Don't worry! They treat you nice if you know your stuff.

You have to see yourself as a man and do the job you are supposed to do. As a project engineer, you will be trained to the required task!

All the best! Remember, if they can do it, you can too.

Thank you....

Think of myself as a guy ...in terms of what?

hi ladies,

I am a chemical engineer about to start work as a project engineer. your comments on the discrimination female engineers face are disheartening. Is this what i hope to meet when i start?

Your fiance is very stingy.

At least a small contribution would have quelled all this.

When you people now marry, to collect money for household items would become wahala.

Four years of relationship is not beans and he is still insensitive

You must really love him because I can see from your posts whenever you seem to want to end the relationship you keep holding on hoping he'll change.

I can't make the decision for you but from the little you've said about him things are not looking too good. I'ld advice you to go with your instinct as I've come to realise over time it is usually right.

Hope you've been able to resolve your fees issue?

Hi ms.anon. Sorry to derail.

Is this the same guy that offered to pay your school fees? Did he eventually pay?

akae47us, tidygirl and house, God bless u for this thread! I have learnt so much..

I have a structured and psychological interview with Total E&P coming up and I'ld like to know from u guys what the process entails, any questions u wer asked and so on...

thanks for your reply!

hello house(tunbosun01,onezaki, BBDelta peanutbuta and all)

i am about to write a total e&p mou selection aptitude test and i was wondering if it would be accompanied by a skills test. please did the email sent to you guys inform you that you would be writing a skills test along side an aptitude test or if you were told aptitude test and then wrote both skills and aptitude together.

naijababe:

Hmmm..........not sure my interview would work for you as I was an experienced hire having worked for Exxon for some years.Nevertheless, here it goes:

The first one was soft skills based - the usual drill like communication skills, working in teams, handling conflict and divergent views etc. I explained what each competency meant to me and gave practical/specific examples for each question.

The second was a technical one which was quite in-depth in my opinion, they went as far as asking me to describe how I'd model a well in Prosper from scratch.

I hope this helps, happy to help if you have more questions.

Thank you so much...did you have both interviews on the same day? If possible I'ld like to get in contact with you if you don't mind, as I have a slew of questions. I have sent you a mail...

naijababe:


I have no idea as I worked in Subsurface throughout my stint with Chevron, but I'll see what I can find out for you if it's not too late.

Naijababe...thank you for your reply...pls how did your chevron interview go at d time you did it. I have one coming up and I am in need of tips and hints on what I am expected to know.

My Sister bikonu...GO and LOOK for a JOB or start a trade!!! Don't say nobody warned you...cause when your hubby's eyes opens and he start resenting you for draining his financial resources and making no contribution to your family welfare we will hear another story. Your conscience is already giving you warning signals. Ignore at your peril.

Please Debosky, tanimola22, naijababe, jaybee and all....do you have any information or an inkling of what a chevron skills test for process/chemical engineers would cover?

i dont do PDAs...especially the overtly in your face ones...suprisingly i read lots of romance novels but am definitely opposed to mushy stuffs in real life.

davidylan:

Dont worry, the story of women trapped in loveless marriages abound here. Hopefully you wont be adding to it a few yrs from now.

LOOL! God forbid!

The kind of love I am refering to in that statement is one which comes from sharing your life with a good person. It is bond between two people that have gone through life's ups and downs together. Not the fiery passionate ones we see in movies that causes people to behave crazily and cools down with time.

I simply cannot understand why most posters are saying the OP is immature. Please when did it become immature to know what you want and what u can't stand in a man. So it is bettter to act irrationally as those in love do?

Please Michelin carry on...I am a staunch follower of your method of handling men. Its just that I have resigned myself to expect not to fall in love before marriage. Once I meet a guy that has 90% of what I regard neccessary in a husband I will marry knowing that I would definitely love him someday.

A possible solution to your problem would be reducing the flaws u don't like to only the important ones like character flaws.

lol...the ending is damn funny!

*subscribing*

Did y'all have a checklist of your spouse must haves during courship? What was d grade u needed, to know if ur spouse was marriageable out of say 10 things? My Aunt keeps saying any guy am considering must have 9 out of the ten things I need or I would be unhappy. Seems way too high for me.